Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri 2010

To all muslims around the globe,

~~Wishing you Happy Eid Mubarak~~

Visit to Singapore Parliament

Today my school has made arrangements for our batch to visit Singapore parliament. Quite an educational session. We actually went in where the parliament chamber was. But too bad there were anything going on in the chamber. So it was basically visit an empty building.

The most interesting piece of information that I gathered was that there was an area called the ‘Strangers’ Gallery’ where anyone who are not the MP can go in and view the Parliament Session. The only condition is you have to dress smartly.

Market Exchange

As a note to myself, I want to explore more simplistic ways of explaining economic.

Base on my personal understanding, microeconomics is about how people behave and respond to their surrounding while trying to ensure that their welfare/ interest are kept at forefront of all considerations. On the other hand, economics also looks at how the behaviour and response of these individuals on other players within the economy.

Let’s see if I can explain this better…

Individual – will make choices base on which will give them the greatest satisfaction, limited by what they can really afford (income).

Firms – the other entity who are willing to produce what the individual desires, in return for profits.

When there two meet, then they have a ‘market exchange’… something like a barter but for monetary gain on the part of the firm.

Anyone wish to improve this explanation for me?

Back to Econs

Sitting in an economics class is something that I haven’t done in such long time. If memory served me right, I have never been that enthusiastic about the discipline. My economics lectures were partly to blame for this. We all know economics is not an exciting subject, and with lectures who add to that dullness can really traumatise someone like me.

However, today it was quite a pleasant surprise. I enjoyed the economics class very much. Although it was just an introduction on the discipline, yet I found myself quite focus on what the Professor was saying the whole time. Somehow, in a quite bizarre way, this one session has rekindled my love for economics. A shocker indeed.

I’m looking forward for more of such pleasant experiences. I have selected two modules that focus purely on economics and I hope the Prof. for the other module will be as capable in unleashing my passion for the subject.

Friday the 13th

For some people Friday the 13th is not a favourite day. Base on some superstition, it is a day filled with bad lucks. But if you look at movies, it’s a day of great horror.

I don’t personally know or understanding where that superstition came from, but from my own culture, Friday, regardless of the date, is the head of all days and it is deemed as the most blessed day.

It’s funny how different cultures deem Friday the 13th in quite opposite context.

So to my readers, what is your perspective on Friday the 13th?

Defining the word

Since going back to school, I notice that there are always some favourite jargons or words that people like to refer to. In studying about public policy, the words that frequently pop up are like economics, politics, globalisation, management, leadership and many more.

The easiet way of finding the definition of each of these words would be to just to use a dictionary. But dictionaries have a way of making things so abstract, so for those of us who are not familiar on the context where such word might exist or fully utilised, understanding it could be an issue.

For me, I like to keep things simple. Simple allows me to remember and understand things quickly and easily. Simplicity also make that piece of information memorable, so I will less likely to forget about it.

Here I want to share my own intrepretation on the few words or jargons that I’ve just mentioned:

Economics, I simply define as how people behave with their money and how our decision have an impact on our ‘neighbours’.

Politics, is about people’s behaviour with other people and how our own interest prevails at the end.

Globalisation, is merely having the technologies to take advantage of opportunities in other parts of the world.

Management, is about doing things differently from what you’re used to and considering the various variables and impact of your action.

Leadership, is basically about being the ‘human’ and better you in the presence of yourself and others :)

So to all my readers out there, do u agree or disagree with my definition?

Happy Bday Singapore!!

Wishing the most wonderful celebration

commemorating Singapore National Day today!!!

Moving Around Singapore

Being mobile in Singapore demands lots of $$$. But there are ways to cut down on the cost. Simply by either walking or using the bus :p

Now to make things even more convenient, you have to get yourself and Ez-Link card. You can top it up at any 7-Eleven, MRT stations or any POSB/DBS atm machines. The Ez-Link card serve as an alternative for money for usage on any busses or MRT. It’s totally hassle free and you don’t have to worry about having enough change to pay for your transport fares. The fare fees are charged by distance.

Another useful tip, get yourself the Mighty Minds books on Bus Guide & Bus Stop Directory as well as the Street Directory. You can plan ahead your movement by referring to these two publications. It lists all the bus no. and bus stop locations as well as the relevant maps to go with it.

Hope you will be able to travel in Singapore with greater confidence now

Maybank

If your bank is Maybank, these are the locations in Singapore:

MAYBANK ATMs BRANCHES IN SINGAPORE

2 Battery Road Maybank Tower Singapore 049907	Block 210 #01-699 New Upper Changi Road Singapore 460210	114/116 Upper Bukit Timah Road Singapore 588172
400 Balestier Road #01-13 Balestier Plaza Singapore 329802	62 Changi Road #01-01 Singapore 419713	Block 303 Choa Chu Kang Avenue 4 #01-723 Singapore 680303
101 Upper Cross Street #01-22 People’s Park Centre Singapore 058357	Block 87 Marine Parade Central #01-502 Singapore 440087	247 Holland Avenue Singapore 278979
304 Orchard Road Lucky Plaza Basement 1 Singapore 238863	707 East Coast Road Singapore 459063	2 Jurong East Street 21 #01-C12 IMM Building SIngapore 609601 (Near Burger King)
420 North Bridge Road #01-36/02-36 North Bridge Shopping Centre Singapore 188727	Block 139 Tampines Street 11 #01-44/46/48 Singapore 521139	Block 131 Jurong East Street 13 #01-249 Singapore 600131
68 Orchard Road #B2-K3, Plaza Singapura Singapore 238839 (Near North-East Line MRT Station entrance at Basement 2)	20 , Tampines Central 1 Singapore 529538 (Near Cheers Convenience Store)	63 Jurong West Central 3 Jurong Point Shopping Centre #B1-01/02 Singapore 64
16 Raffles Quay #01-04 Hong Leong Building Singapore 048581	Block 710A Ang Mo Kio Avenue 8 #01-2627 Singapore 561710	1 Queensway #01-56 Queensway Shopping Centre Singapore 149053
200 Jalan Sultan #01-02 Textile Centre Singapore 199018	Block 480 Toa Payoh Lorong 6 #01-11 HDB Hub Singapore 310480
26 Sentosa Gateway B1 Forum Singapore 098138	996 Upper Serangoon Road Singapore 534736
	Block 888 Woodlands Drive 50 #02-731 888 Plaza Singapore 730888
	930 Yishun Avenue 2 #01-18/19 Northpoint Singapore 769098

We Are The Champions!

I made it back!! And I survived Outward Bound Singapore (OBS) at Pulau Ubin with all my new found friends

Honestly I was quite apprehensive about going to OBS because of all the stories I’ve heard. Not bad stories, just things that indicated taking me completely out of my comfort zone. What are these things you may ask.. for one thing OBS basically means going back to basic. This meant, sleeping on bunker beds with no curtains on the windows, no hot showers, toilet sharing, scheduled meals and scheduled activities (non-stop!!). To summerise all of this, we were told to expect the unexpected!

I certainly do not like the idea of being shocked with something so very unexpected. I prefer to have clarity on everything. But the moment I set foot on OBS, clarity the one thing they deprived us. And this really tested everyone’s patience and innovation in handling what was given.

Our trip to OBS was planned for two days, 30-31 Jul (Fri-Sat). We departed from College Green on two huge busses around 8am. We reached Punggol Jetty nearly 9am because the morning traffic was quite heavy. Then we got on a boat to go to OBS, this took about 10 minutes.

My first impression of OBS was that it looked pretty decent. Surprisingly OBS had concrete (as in bricks :p ) infrastructure. We also saw some tall wooden structures that were probably used for climbing challenges. On our arrival, we were ushered to go to the Main Hall for our briefings. There we were divided into 4 big groups. There were 60 of us, so each team had around 15-16 members.

“We are the Champions” was my group. In this group there were 6 ladies and 10 guys, whose nationals included Bhutan (Tashi), Brunei (Me), China (Emily), India (Anup, Shirish, and Vinod), Japan (Daisuke), Maldives (Alim), Pakistan (Ishaq), Philippines (Harvey), Singapore (Darryl, Elaine, Ming), Sri Lanka (Charuni) and USA (Jon, and Mauricio).

Prior to all these we were tasked to come up with a set of rules for the team and we came up with: Direction, Strategise, Communication and Team Spirit.

The days’ event basically focused on challenging our leadership tools and understanding. The activities included the Plank-Blocks Motion, “Blind” Square Forming, Dark Tunnel Expedition and Rock Climbing.

The platform activity was totally chaotic. We were all asked to get on this platform and once everyone were onboard, we were to move the blocks and planks to help us move forward to the finishing line. The rules were we have to be connected physically at all times; the planks cannot touch the floor or it will be removed; anybody touching the bare ground will be blind folded and returned to the team, adding to the challenge. The funny thing about this exercise was that, we had to hold on to everyone. It was like giving a gigantic bear hug! But in that moment, it was the only way we could  do to keep everyone off the ground! We performed quite badly because we were so disoriented by the idea of having to work in such confined spaces, with very little chance of manouvering the planks and blocks below our feet. But somehow we did it, eventhough we finished last among the other teams.

For me the biggest challenge was the tunnel exercise. I didn’t go in because I have fears of  small spaces and pitch-dark places. So knowing my limitation, I sat it out. My friend Elaine also share this fear and she too sat it out. My other most challenging exercise was the rock climbing event. Being voluptuous, I have always lacked the confidence to climb the rock wall for fear of not being able to lift my self up. I have small feet and the arm/ finger strength are not adequate. But with the encouragement from my friends, I relented. Initially, I targeted to just climb to the red line (3m high).. but somehow, I managed to climb myself up to 7m high!! I only had 3m left to climb, but because of the pressure on the tip of my feet and my laborious breathing rhythm, I conceded and asked to be let down. Despite “chickening out” when I could have finished to the top of the wall, I did pretty good. I finally climbed the rock wall.. and I wasn’t afraid of the height

I’m the one in red shirt

On the second and final day, we were given the ultimate challenge that involved Alpine Rescue and Kayaking and on the sideline Nature Sighting and Check Points. We were given 4 hours and among the equipments we had to carry and use were: instruction papers, map of Pulau Ubin, compass, individual whistle, climbing harness and helmets, life jacket, sets of clothes for dry and wet activities, 1/2 liter of water, poncho and a backpack. We had a lot to carry. But we were all so gracious and kind with one another that everyone carried the heavy loads collectively and contributively.

For me, the final challenge was the most testing. It tested me physically more than mentally. The distance was far, the activities very strenuous… but somehow, I finished till the end without fainting our of exhaustion!! Although my friends told me I look so pale and tired, but deep down inside I’m glad I was able to finish the challenge with my team.

Everyone gathered back at OBS around 1330hrs. We were sweaty, exhausted and totally drained. But that wasn’t the end of it. Once back at OBS, we had to rush for our lunch, freshening up and gather back again to reflect on challenge. The closing of our OBS exercise was the revealing of the winner for the final challenge. My team suspected that we lost because we didn’t finish all of the required activities, there was just not enough time to do everything. But as the OBS facilitator revealed the score, “We are the Champions” was true to our name. We are indeed the CHAMPIONS!! We scored 280 points. We were shocked, ecstatic and confused all at once!! We were all jumping and greeting our other winning friends, still not believing that we could actually win! It was such a super feeling

In the two days that I’ve been at OBS, I’ve observed a few things (that people should be prepared for) such as:

• There were loads of Mosquitoes!!! So remember to bring mosquito patches and repellent.
• There were meals 4 times a day. This was really exhausting.
• The dorms consist of bunker beds (very thin mattress, one pillow and think blank), light, fan (absolutely no air-conditioning), common toilets and showers (with no heater). It was really back to basics! and the bunker beds were very dusty.
• All the activities at OBS were challenging both physically and mentally. So it’s real when they say ‘expect the unexpected’!
• Bring enough clothes and shoes!! Minimum 4 sets of clothes and enough plastic bags for our laundry afterwards.
• Don’t forget your toiletries and snacks!!
• Because of the unpredictable weather, bring your ponchos, caps/hats and sunblock, and water bottle!
• You need 3 pairs of footwear: track shoes, wet shoes and sandals/ slippers.
• For the girls, bring your hair-dryers and crunches!!

As a reflection on the OBS programmes, they’re very sneaky and good at what they do. They’re really there to mess up your sanity but yet keep you safe from anything dangerous. The facilitators knew what to do to cause havoc among the team members. But so far, our team always seem to come out of it as a team. This was the most important product.

The few crucial lessons that I learnt while at OBS were:

• In any decision making, we have to always remember 3 things: People, Process and Product. There is no one way of doing this. It must all be considered.
• As a leader, always allow yourself a local and strategic views on situation. Don’t just stay in the box. Go out and see the bigger picture as well.
• Don’t just listen to the majority. Make it a point to listen to EVERYONE and consider all of the feedback constructively and earnestly.
• There will always be ambiguity. So expect the unexpected and adapt! Don’t be rigid, be flexible! Don’t ponder, just move forward!

I truly enjoyed myself at OBS. Although it was strenuous, both mentally and physically, it was however quite an enlightening experience. I will never forget this.

Thank you OBS! Thank you LKY SPP

Sushi Time

My weekend usually revolves around trying to find the best eatery place to satisfy my picky palate. This time I crave Japanese delicacies, specifically raw salmon. Being in the serusop area, my hubby and I decided to have our late lunch at the recently opened Japanese restaurant ‘Excapade Shokudo’. Although the placed can accommodate only up to 30 people, but the opening hours starts from 10am until 11pm in the evening. This is quite a rarity, especially when all of the restaurant that serves sushi dishes only opens at specific hours and at intervals.

Anyway, because of the limited seats we had to wait in line. So there we were, sitting on the sideline while waiting for the early-bird customers to finish up and take their leave. Luckily we didn’t have to wait long.. probably about 8-10minutes, when some seats were vacated and we could see the waitresses promptly clearing the tables.

But little did we know, as we confidently waited to be called to take our seats, two other late-comers popped through the door and just ignorantly took our seats without event asking the front desk to be seated. This display of selfishness was coming from two young ladies of ages between early 20s. It is just so sad how some people forget the virtue of courtesy. And such behaviour will not be as tolerated by other people. Lucky for those two, my huby was keeping his composure. He’s quite a temperamental man when he wants to be. And double whammy, another table was vacated and we were seated in a matter of seconds.

Despite the slight ‘annoying episode’ of the uncaring patrons, the dishes served at the restaurant were definitely satisfying. And I wouldn’t mind visiting the restaurant again. Hopefully, this time, we will not bump into those two ignorant patrons.

Salmon Don

Black Pepper Salmon

Tuna

Ebi

Wasabi..

Outsource

By definition from Wikipedia: “Outsourcing is subcontracting a process, such as product design or manufacturing, to a third-party company. The decision to outsource is often made in the interest of lowering firm or making better use of time and energy costs, redirecting or conserving energy directed at the competencies of a particular business, or to make more efficient use of land, labor, capital, (information) technology and resources. Outsourcing became part of the business lexicon during the 1980s.”

This particular process is one that I’m trying to familiarise myself with, especially in my line of work. For me, the process promises cost-savings and potentially contributive to the national aspiration of helping small and medium enterprises to flourish. I’m basically looking at business partnership that will provide me high quality commodities. Of course, financial aspect is a sensitive issue and one that I seek to reduce or even divert away from my own purse.

I’ve just learnt that, when planning to make a purchase, there are several means on how that can be made. Of course the traditional way is to just make the purchase and pay from your own purse. The alternative is to hire for purchase. This means, we select and contract a business company that is able to produce the product and my organisation will just provide them the endorsement to use our corporate logo. The sales of these products will have a specific target, ensuring that the company will reel in the estimated profits. My organisation will then help to facilitate the sales of the product e.g. by promoting the product during visits or big events organised by my organisation. So this becomes a win-win situation. On my side, I will be able to promote my organisation through the products at no cost, while the contracted company will be guaranteed a sale of their product along with the targeted profits.

Of course, on paper it seems a pretty simple process. But in reality, I’m sure the task will experience its own share of challenges. Despite that, I’m still driven to try it out. And hopefully, I will get the support that I need from the top management to actually execute this new process. Once that is attained, then I will be supplied with quality and desirable products , readily available to be purchased by interested patrons. The next question is, where should the sales outlet be. Now that’s another area for discussion.

New Dashboard Design

It was only about two days ago that I last visited my website at wordpress. And today it was as if I’ve entered a completely different wordpress. The site has undergone a sudden facelift. For me it looks pretty complex at first glance. I was still learning and familiarising with the previous design layout. And now I have to go through the whole process of familiarising the new layout. Luckily I’m on my leave already. Then I have time to explore this new layout.

So to friends out there.. do keep on surfing my website. And I promise to keep it as updated as possible. Cheers!!

Weaved

I get unexplained thrill from taking close-up photos. This time I took snap-shots of this weaved item. I know this moon-shaped basket is usually found around construction area, but I just can’t help be awed by how the intricate layering is captured through the camera lens.

Bloggers’ World

Almost everybody and anybody have their own blogs nowadays. Each showcasing and bringing their own ‘thang’ to grab the attention or even merely to share with family, friends, peers and passing web surfers. Most of the time a blogger would be catering updated information, whether in the form of brief summary of events/ issues or even in pictoral layout. Others, more serious bloggers, would have almost essay like write-ups on specific issues that concerns respective interests. The more fun-seeking bloggers would be, on the other hand, showing more entertaining stories, jokes, puns, funny pictures and many more. So whatever bloggers wish to share with their patrons, it’s up to the individual to design, arrange and structure their blogs to suit their own interests and palate. The main thing  for a blogger is that, it is out there, published, and to be shared with their ‘targeted’ or non-targeted surfers.

I’ve only started blogging about two years ago (2006). Starting off with a blog about myself and my passion for chinese astrology and zodiac signs. In my excitedment, I opened up more blogs, one showcasing my interest in Work Management and the other more specific interest in Human Behaviour Pattern. But these blogs were never made known to any of my friends or peers. I somehow felt it lacked something. I didn’t think the blogs were catchy or even interesting enough. And I also thought, the information which I have posted may be unacceptable to some people. Because of these considerations, my earlier blogs remain anonymous and only known to myself and to a handful of very close friends.

But of course my blogging interest is not short-lived. I still love blogging and wish to continue doing it. It wasn’t until recently that I thought up a fantastic blog name, along with a niche of its own. APANYANGKU BRUNEI is my debut blog and one that I wish to share with everyone.

As a blogger I fully understand the responsilities that I have to shoulder. Everything that I say and show via pics in my blog must be carefully considered before being published. Things like this cannot be taken lightly. Any ‘unprofessional’ or ‘discrimatory’ inclination is to be avoided at all cost. Blogging for me is a personal interest. But for those who know me, whatever I have posted in my blog will be judged based on people’s knowledge on my background. My main profession is as a civil servant. And my blog in more ways than none is hoped to mould positive image of my profession through sharing of experiences, lessons learnt and views. At the same time, my blog is also showcasing my new-found love for photography. But above all, my blog is about sharing.

I’m sure at times, for some, having self restrain on writing whatever you feel like regardless of the consequences can be difficult. The blogging world is about having the freedom to say whatever you want. It is afterall  a hub for infinite information, whether good of bad. Of course, such statement is correct and there is nothing to prevent bloggers from doing what they want. But for fellows like myself, self-restrain is and remain crucial.

So to my fellow Bruneian bloggers, continue with your fantastic work and efforts in your respective blogs. But just remember, do it with a conscience, courtesy and balance that will bring everyone together in harmony.

Dusk Sky

The dusk sky can be quite a hypnotising sight.With colours of the rainbow in its most subtle mode painted overhead. Its moment like this, I’m glad I’m able to see and capture it on my lens.

Spring colours in the dusk sky

Looks like tides of clouds coming to shore..

Public Relations

Public Relations is what I do in my line of work now. But I didn’t start off from there. Initially I was in research and policy formulation. And by some good fortune, I was promoted to a completely different post.

Despite the total change in my career path, I treat it with renewed enthusiasm and determination. I love the thrills of a new adventure. And that is exactly what PR has for me.

In PR, I get to do all my favourite activities. I get to meet new people all the time, adding my circle of friends. I get to do public speaking through presentations and seminars. But best of all, I get to head a photography section. Totally my kind of work.

Aside from the perks, there are of course some visible challenges. In PR, there are a lot of spontanity, last minute requirements/ changes, and dealing with media matters. All these promising quite stressful moments. But it is something I expected and learnt to adapt myself to.

But what I’ve learnt, after being in the field for about a year, no matter what task is being given, I just have to remain calm and receive things positively. I know some may say it’s easier said than done. But I promise, it will be easier once you accept and embrace the positive mindset.

New Journey 2009

Another year has passed and a new journey is yet to be explored.

2008 was such a hectic year for me. It was a time of new transition in my career life, confronting tasks as an untrained leader. But without a doubt, it was an experience I will cherish and remember for the rest of my life.

I sincerely hope 2009 will be an even better year. I look forward to the new challenges, rather than dreading them. Without such challenges, my job will not be as exciting!

But this new year will certainly be another handful. I have a new superior to report to. But the same workload to handle. I just hope things will ease off a bit. And everyone will be able to function and deliver their tasks in a satisfying as well as competent way. And I’m sure everyone will try their best to do so.

As for myself, I’m eagerly looking forward to tidying up my career and life so as to achieve that level of standard and satisfaction which I aspire for. It may seem to be a long shot, but nothing is impossible if we put our mind to it.

So to all my friends and patrons, hope you have a fantastic new year. And may we face it with renewed enthusiasm, determnation and motivation! Happy New Year 2009!

And to my muslim friends and patrons, Happy New Year Hijrah 1430!!

God bless us all. Amin.

Flu Bug

The new year 2009 started off pretty slow for me. And I apologise to my readers for delaying to update my blog. Unfortunately, I’ve caught the flu bug and has been under the weather for nearly a month. Like the new year, my recovery is taking its sweet time. The worst thing is, my whole family got the flu. And they too are all too eager to recover from it.

Almost everyone that I know have got the flu. The sign that you might have it too is you will start to feel headached, body aches. And this will escalate into swollen or inflammed tonsils, making it hard for you to swallow. This is then followed by coughing, continuous and very dry coughs. And for some, running nose. The worst is the dry coughs. I’ve had uncomfortable and sleepless nights because of it. But once you get passed that stage, then sleep is back again.

To get better. I have to make sure I take my antibiotics. I can’t help but notice that everytime I take antibiotics, it seems that all my senses especially my taste buds and sense of smell just malfunction. My food would taste bland and anything that usually have an aroma, my nose just can’t seem to detect it. So that’s the downside of medicine.

To get rid of the coughing, dequadin is the key. Just take it as often as you feel necessary. I even swallow it when I sleep!!! Just to make sure I even get some sleep!! And of course, for my cold, it has to be actifed. That is the saviour.

Today, I feel almost my normal self, despite the occasional coughing. But I just hope I will regain my normal health so I can get on to doing my thang. So to all of you out there, drink lots of water and take lots of fruits!! You wouldn’t want to get the flu that I got!

New Year’s Resolution

Some people have the habit of making a kind of a resolution or promise at the turn of a new year. This ranges from making minimal, average to over-the-top promises, which in most cases never really materialise as they wanted. I guess some people are just not as resolute in their pursuit or it was just not meant to be.

As for myself, I used to fall into that category. I used to always look forward to making my new year’s resolution. And like always, even when the new year barely even begun, I forgot what I promised to do for that year!! I can honestly say, my intent in making the resolution was due to peer pressure rather than identifying truly what I want to achieve for myself.

Nowadays, I’ve grown out of making a new year’s resolution. But what I do pursue, is an ultimate goal. My goal is basically to be a better person each day than what I was yesterday. I know that still sounds like a pretty tall order. But I don’t think it’s impossible. It is a challenge though. But not impossible.

This particular goal, will take my whole life time to achieve. And I sincerely hope that I will preservere in fulfilling it. And for those of you out there, it doesn’t really matter whether you have a new year’s resolution or not. The main thing is you know where you want to be and you’re willing to do everything in your power to achieve it. Do it because you believe in it, not because of what people tell you to believe in.

Once again Happy New Year everyone!!! May we achieve the best in life and be happy with what it has given us!!

Sunday = Weddings

It’s quite a rarity for sundays to be a day to just unwind and relax doing absolutely nothing at all. And today is no exception. I had at least 3 wedding receptions to attend. And all were close relatives. But alas I can only attend one at a time. So I had to split attend my uncle’s wedding reception at the ICJ, kiulap, while my husband went off to attend his niece’s wedding at the Chancellor Hall, UBD. We had to miss the wedding reception of our nephew at the Rizqun Hotel today. Such a hard choice.

But as you noticed, nowadays more and more people are opting to have their wedding events at a commecial facility rather than the traditional venue, which is the bride’s or groom’s residence. I guess people have become more attentive in ensuring that their guests are treated and welcomed in a more comfortable, no-parking-hassle, and air-conditioned event. Although there is nothing wrong with the traditional way, which some people still prefer or even have the advantage to preserve such practice.

My own wedding of course took place at my parent’s house. The same with my brothers’ weddings. We have ample space for parking and for the canopy. So no hassle there. And my dad has his own collection of industrial fans to ensure that our guests will be seated with breezes of cool air filling the area. As for catering, my own wedding had 2 different caterers’s. This was as a precaution in case one should fail to turn up. But fortunately, everything went well.

I still have 2 younger siblings, who will one day have to plan their own wedding receptions. And my parents are already ahead of them, scouting around for a suitable and resonably priced facility to host their weddings. I guess they just want to try something new. And of course, reduce the burden of having to arrange everything themselves when it can be outsourced.

But whatever wedding reception is planned, the outcome will be hugely influenced by how it is prepared, managed and of course the available budget. So to the newly weds, may you be blessed with a wonderful marriage and harmonious partnership!! But above all, may the romance last for eternity…

The Cool Rain

Today is my favourite day. Simply because it rained the whole day.

As I woke up in the morning, I was awakened to the pitter patter of raindrops on the roof top. I love that sound. It’s so relaxing and serene.

And as I walked to my car with a mug of hot mocha in one hand, the wonderful coolness of the rainy weather seems to have cooled and calmed my senses this morning. I was simply in such a delightful and pleasant mood. Even driving to work was a sensational delight. It was as if the rainy weather seems to have brought back memories as to what it was like many years ago when I was in the UK. Similar weather, but different surrounding.

As you can see, I absolutely love the rain. Even when I was a toddler, my parents could not stop me from playing in the rain. Because of that, I have quite a few collection of raincoats, compliments of my parents. Everytime when it rained, I would wear my bright yellow rain coat along with my tiny umbrella. I love playing in the rain with that yellow rain coat. *sigh*

And today, as I walked from my garage to my office, sheltered by my oversized camouflage parasol, I truly took my time to reach my office. I didn’t even care when the raindrops splashed onto my silk attire. It was too a good day to be spoiled thinking about materialistic things.

The whole day, as I worked at my desk, I could not resist occassionally walking over to the glass door to glance at the constant and unstopping raindrops washing the outside vicinity of my Ministry. What a wonderful day it was..  and I hope it rains again tomorrow

I Love Babies

Today is a wonderful day for the whole family. At the crack of dawn, we welcomed another addition to the family. A baby boy was born to my bro and sis-in law. He weighs 3.9kg and he’s soooooooo cute!!

His name is Mohammad Ahlami Syafiq, not sure about the spelling though Welcome little nephew!!

Babyface

I just couldn’t resist putting up a photo of my lil’ boy. This was taken during our attempt to teach him how to walk. As you can see, he was not happy with it. But how could I resist that cute expression on his face. Luckily, I managed to capture that priceless moment. And I would smile every single time I look at the picture.

Wonders and Horrors of I.T.

As I look back at my younger years, I.T. was not something that is familiar to me or to people around me. Back then, it was still fine and normal to go out and roam around without having a handphone in your handbag or even a laptop doning the coffee table when you ‘lepak’ with your friends. During the yester-years, people were technology free, merely spending time like the olden days, merely enjoying the pleasure of those around you.

But today everything has changed. Nowadays, people would feel awkward without a handphone, or two, in their presence, wherever they go. Even laptop is a must when one go out of the house nowadays. These two technologies are examples of the things that today’s generation regard as life essention, wherever they may be. Without it, they would be lost.

This new lifestyle, which is dependency on technology, does have its good side as well as the bad side. The good side is techology such as laptops + broadbands, handphones allow us to constantly be informed and aware of what goes on around us. Whether it’s about world news, the stock market, friends whereabout, whatever the issue, we have the technology and facility to keep us connected 24/7.

However, the downside of it is that with technologies giving us the luxury of continuous connection with friends, business partners and world events, it somehow takes away the luxury of personal contact. Most of us are either so hung up talking endlessly on their mobile phones or faced down as if mesmerized by the power of computers and broadbands! People spend lesser time to actually enjoy life as they should, by having first hand experience as opposed to just browsing it through the internet. Even the process of making friends are now done through networks like msn live messenger, facebook, friendsters, tagged and many more. Just at the click of a button, we can add new friends and get to know them through that process. We don’t necessarily have to go out of the house to do that!

One way of looking at things, I.T. has brought about a deterioration or even minimise face-to-face human contact. We have become ‘lone-rangers’, to some extent, engulfed in the comfort of our soft sofa / bed, with eyes only for the laptop and what broadband / espeed allow us to have access to.

Personally, I’m amongst these technology-dependent generation. I cannot and will not leave my home without the comfort of knowing that I have my mobile phones, hard disk, ipod and laptop (depending on where I’m going) within my person. And this is one of the reason why my handbag seems to get bigger and bigger over time, just to accommodate all my ‘essential’ gadgets. But there were times when I wish I could make do without all these contraptions. At least I can travel light. Unfortunately, I’m too addicted already. And there’s no turning back.

BMI

Back at work, 90 percent or even more of my colleagues are those who maintain to their BMI (Body Mass Index). As for me, I’m simple obese if based on the BMI. But in my world, I consider myself merely curvacious or voluptuous

I’ve been trying to lose weight since the start of the millenium. It wasn’t until I came back from Hawaii that I was so geared up to really pursue my weight loss ambition. That was back in 2006 until 2007. I was successful where I lost about 15kg!!

My friends and colleagues were constant asking me what I ATE to lose that much weight. Eating is what I did less. I did alot of exercise, making sure I spent about 1hr per day. But I started off slow. The 15kg only came off after 1year effort. How did I begin?

I started off by walking around the Budiman track at the stadium, spending a minum of 30mins x 3 days a week. This went on for about 3 months. Once the body was comfortable with the pace and duration, I slowly increased my duration timing 45mins to 1hrs walk, still 3 times a week. On my 5th month exercising, I joined fitness zone. Since membership there was quite a pinch on my purse, I made sure I joined the exercise programme almost every day. I would go to FZ about 4-5times a week, spending 1-2hrs doing aerobics.

I love the aerobic session at FZ. My ultimate favourite was the body combat, hip hop dance, salsa, latino aero. I really into the dance aerobics. And because I enjoyed myself so much, 2hrs can easily pass by just like that.

Now, along with my committed exercise regime, I made sure my food intake was balanced. I manage to curb my cravings merely by keeping only a minimal, not removing completely, my indulgence. My favourite food are my morning Mocha and chocolate. I still consume them, but sparingly and at a minimal. What I did increase in consumption is food group comprising leafy vegetables and fruits. I reduced eating carb such as white bread, junk food and fast food. I also reduced my soft drinks intake by just taking cola light whenever I have cravings.

But above all, I would not have been able to lose 15kg if it wasn’t for my motivation to do so. What I aspired for myself was better health and ability to be physically fit to spend time with my family. My motive was not to be skinny. My ideal BMI was to be at 60kg. For that that is pretty much on the thin side. I prefer to retain some of my curves. So my target is to get my weight down to 70kg.

Unfortunately, since the birth of my youngest son, I regained almost all of the weight which I have lost. And to get back on track is proving to be difficult. But I will certainly keep on trying, until I regain the strength and motivation to gain my target weight back and more!

Mojo

It’s almost as important as breathing. Every single morning, it is a must that I have my ultimate favourite drink to not only energise my day but equally important to keep me awake throughout the day.

The aromatic hot Mocha luxuriated with fresh milk and brown sugar is my thang at the start of every single day. It’s my Mojo. And I always have it in my funky golden yellow coffee mug. This is the life!!

Finally Complete

It’s another wonderful day today. At last the final touch up to the exterior of my house infrastructure is finally done.  The next phase is to fill up the interior and do garden landscaping. But that will take quite some time, and I will work on it slowly to ensure perfect outcome. Of course, the finale is when my whole family moves into our own new home sweet home. It won’t be long though. In the next few weeks, my whole family will be deployed for the cleaning campaign, followed by moving all our stuff in and of course the official moving in ceremony which is usually marked by a ‘doa selamat’ (prayer).

Everyone is looking forward to the move. Even my other relatives are just as excited with it. Probably it’s because my house design is a unique one. I can proudly say, I’m not bragging at all, that my house design of 3-storey level is one of its kind, especially under the “Perpindahan Skim”. Because of it, our architecture and contractor are being sought by several prospective home-owners, all wanting to have their own 3-storey house under that scheme.

Towards that end, I can also say that it’s happy ending for everyone!!

Fruit Alert

In a few days time we will all be celebrating Chinese New Year. And as we all know, during this time of year oranges will be filling all supermarkets. And I for one just love eating oranges, all the ranges. My ultimate favourite is the tiny oranges, almost like the tangerine type.

I bought some of the tangerine oranges recently. And as I was peeling and gulping the succulent and juicy oranges, my parents told me there’s this rumour going on where someone found worms in these oranges!!! Yuck!! I didn’t know what to think. I kept questioning where did this rumour came from. Apparently, there was an email circulated with attchments of pictures showing the alledged tiny and translucent worm peeking out of the tangerine oranges!! Double yuck!!

Since that news, I simply lost my appetite. But I still want to see for myself  this email. Because this rumour  has really dampened my confidence in eating any more oranges. So if any of you out there who happened to have that email still in your inbox, please do tell me. I will gladly give you my email so that you can save me from my orange dilemma.

The New Age

Tuesday, 20th Jan 2009, is a day that will be remembered by all. It’s a marked day for the Americans who welcomed their new President, Barack Husein Obama.

A Moment of silence engulfed the surrounding spectators at the inauguration as President Obama delivered his  address. And here, I want to share with my readers the text of the speech. The speech carried in-depth meaning, which I believe non-Americans too can benefit and be mindful of.

Obama taking the Presidency Oath

OBAMA’S INAUGURAL ADDRESS TEXT

My fellow citizens: I stand here today humbled by the task before us, grateful for the trust you have bestowed, mindful of the sacrifices borne by our ancestors. I thank President Bush for his service to our nation, as well as the generosity and cooperation he has shown throughout this transition.

Forty-four Americans have now taken the presidential oath. The words have been spoken during rising tides of prosperity and the still waters of peace. Yet, every so often the oath is taken amidst gathering clouds and raging storms. At these moments, America has carried on not simply because of the skill or vision of those in high office, but because We the People have remained faithful to the ideals of our forbearers, and true to our founding documents.

So it has been. So it must be with this generation of Americans.

That we are in the midst of crisis is now well understood. Our nation is at war, against a far-reaching network of violence and hatred. Our economy is badly weakened, a consequence of greed and irresponsibility on the part of some, but also our collective failure to make hard choices and prepare the nation for a new age. Homes have been lost; jobs shed; businesses shuttered. Our health care is too costly; our schools fail too many; and each day brings further evidence that the ways we use energy strengthen our adversaries and threaten our planet.

These are the indicators of crisis, subject to data and statistics. Less measurable but no less profound is a sapping of confidence across our land – a nagging fear that America’s decline is inevitable, and that the next generation must lower its sights.

Today I say to you that the challenges we face are real. They are serious and they are many. They will not be met easily or in a short span of time. But know this, America – they will be met.

On this day, we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.

On this day, we come to proclaim an end to the petty grievances and false promises, the recriminations and worn out dogmas, that for far too long have strangled our politics.

We remain a young nation, but in the words of Scripture, the time has come to set aside childish things. The time has come to reaffirm our enduring spirit; to choose our better history; to carry forward that precious gift, that noble idea, passed on from generation to generation: the God-given promise that all are equal, all are free, and all deserve a chance to pursue their full measure of happiness.

In reaffirming the greatness of our nation, we understand that greatness is never a given. It must be earned. Our journey has never been one of short-cuts or settling for less. It has not been the path for the faint-hearted – for those who prefer leisure over work, or seek only the pleasures of riches and fame. Rather, it has been the risk-takers, the doers, the makers of things – some celebrated but more often men and women obscure in their labour, who have carried us up the long, rugged path towards prosperity and freedom.

For us, they packed up their few worldly possessions and travelled across oceans in search of a new life.

For us, they toiled in sweatshops and settled the West; endured the lash of the whip and plowed the hard earth.

For us, they fought and died, in places like Concord and Gettysburg; Normandy and Khe Sahn.

Time and again these men and women struggled and sacrificed and worked till their hands were raw so that we might live a better life. They saw America as bigger than the sum of our individual ambitions; greater than all the differences of birth or wealth or faction.

This is the journey we continue today. We remain the most prosperous, powerful nation on Earth. Our workers are no less productive than when this crisis began. Our minds are no less inventive, our goods and services no less needed than they were last week or last month or last year. Our capacity remains undiminished. But our time of standing pat, of protecting narrow interests and putting off unpleasant decisions – that time has surely passed. Starting today, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and begin again the work of remaking America.

For everywhere we look, there is work to be done. The state of the economy calls for action, bold and swift, and we will act – not only to create new jobs, but to lay a new foundation for growth. We will build the roads and bridges, the electric grids and digital lines that feed our commerce and bind us together. We will restore science to its rightful place, and wield technology’s wonders to raise health care’s quality and lower its cost. We will harness the sun and the winds and the soil to fuel our cars and run our factories. And we will transform our schools and colleges and universities to meet the demands of a new age. All this we can do. And all this we will do.

Now, there are some who question the scale of our ambitions – who suggest that our system cannot tolerate too many big plans. Their memories are short. For they have forgotten what this country has already done; what free men and women can achieve when imagination is joined to common purpose, and necessity to courage.

What the cynics fail to understand is that the ground has shifted beneath them – that the stale political arguments that have consumed us for so long no longer apply. The question we ask today is not whether our government is too big or too small, but whether it works – whether it helps families find jobs at a decent wage, care they can afford, a retirement that is dignified. Where the answer is yes, we intend to move forward. Where the answer is no, programs will end. And those of us who manage the public’s dollars will be held to account – to spend wisely, reform bad habits, and do our business in the light of day – because only then can we restore the vital trust between a people and their government.

Nor is the question before us whether the market is a force for good or ill. Its power to generate wealth and expand freedom is unmatched, but this crisis has reminded us that without a watchful eye, the market can spin out of control – and that a nation cannot prosper long when it favours only the prosperous. The success of our economy has always depended not just on the size of our Gross Domestic Product, but on the reach of our prosperity; on our ability to extend opportunity to every willing heart – not out of charity, but because it is the surest route to our common good.

As for our common defence, we reject as false the choice between our safety and our ideals. Our Founding Fathers, faced with perils we can scarcely imagine, drafted a charter to assure the rule of law and the rights of man, a charter expanded by the blood of generations. Those ideals still light the world, and we will not give them up for expedience’s sake. And so to all other peoples and governments who are watching today, from the grandest capitals to the small village where my father was born: know that America is a friend of each nation and every man, woman, and child who seeks a future of peace and dignity, and that we are ready to lead once more.

Recall that earlier generations faced down fascism and communism not just with missiles and tanks, but with sturdy alliances and enduring convictions. They understood that our power alone cannot protect us, nor does it entitle us to do as we please. Instead, they knew that our power grows through its prudent use; our security emanates from the justness of our cause, the force of our example, the tempering qualities of humility and restraint.

We are the keepers of this legacy. Guided by these principles once more, we can meet those new threats that demand even greater effort – even greater cooperation and understanding between nations. We will begin to responsibly leave Iraq to its people, and forge a hard-earned peace in Afghanistan. With old friends and former foes, we will work tirelessly to lessen the nuclear threat, and roll back the spectre of a warming planet. We will not apologize for our way of life, nor will we waver in its defence, and for those who seek to advance their aims by inducing terror and slaughtering innocents, we say to you now that our spirit is stronger and cannot be broken; you cannot outlast us, and we will defeat you.

For we know that our patchwork heritage is a strength, not a weakness. We are a nation of Christians and Muslims, Jews and Hindus – and non-believers. We are shaped by every language and culture, drawn from every end of this Earth; and because we have tasted the bitter swill of civil war and segregation, and emerged from that dark chapter stronger and more united, we cannot help but believe that the old hatreds shall someday pass; that the lines of tribe shall soon dissolve; that as the world grows smaller, our common humanity shall reveal itself; and that America must play its role in ushering in a new era of peace.

To the Muslim world, we seek a new way forward, based on mutual interest and mutual respect. To those leaders around the globe who seek to sow conflict, or blame their society’s ills on the West – know that your people will judge you on what you can build, not what you destroy. To those who cling to power through corruption and deceit and the silencing of dissent, know that you are on the wrong side of history; but that we will extend a hand if you are willing to unclench your fist.

To the people of poor nations, we pledge to work alongside you to make your farms flourish and let clean waters flow; to nourish starved bodies and feed hungry minds. And to those nations like ours that enjoy relative plenty, we say we can no longer afford indifference to suffering outside our borders; nor can we consume the world’s resources without regard to effect. For the world has changed, and we must change with it.

As we consider the road that unfolds before us, we remember with humble gratitude those brave Americans who, at this very hour, patrol far-off deserts and distant mountains. They have something to tell us today, just as the fallen heroes who lie in Arlington whisper through the ages. We honour them not only because they are guardians of our liberty, but because they embody the spirit of service; a willingness to find meaning in something greater than themselves. And yet, at this moment – a moment that will define a generation – it is precisely this spirit that must inhabit us all.

For as much as government can do and must do, it is ultimately the faith and determination of the American people upon which this nation relies. It is the kindness to take in a stranger when the levees break, the selflessness of workers who would rather cut their hours than see a friend lose their job which sees us through our darkest hours. It is the firefighter’s courage to storm a stairway filled with smoke, but also a parent’s willingness to nurture a child, that finally decides our fate.

Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends – hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism – these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths. What is required of us now is a new era of responsibility – a recognition, on the part of every American, that we have duties to ourselves, our nation, and the world, duties that we do not grudgingly accept but rather seize gladly, firm in the knowledge that there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task.

This is the price and the promise of citizenship.

This is the source of our confidence – the knowledge that God calls on us to shape an uncertain destiny.

This is the meaning of our liberty and our creed – why men and women and children of every race and every faith can join in celebration across this magnificent mall, and why a man whose father less than sixty years ago might not have been served at a local restaurant can now stand before you to take a most sacred oath.

So let us mark this day with remembrance, of who we are and how far we have travelled. In the year of America’s birth, in the coldest of months, a small band of patriots huddled by dying campfires on the shores of an icy river. The capital was abandoned. The enemy was advancing. The snow was stained with blood. At a moment when the outcome of our revolution was most in doubt, the father of our nation ordered these words be read to the people:

“Let it be told to the future world…that in the depth of winter, when nothing but hope and virtue could survive…that the city and the country, alarmed at one common danger, came forth to meet [it].”

America. In the face of our common dangers, in this winter of our hardship, let us remember these timeless words. With hope and virtue, let us brave once more the icy currents, and endure what storms may come. Let it be said by our children’s children that when we were tested we refused to let this journey end, that we did not turn back nor did we falter; and with eyes fixed on the horizon and God’s grace upon us, we carried forth that great gift of freedom and delivered it safely to future generations.

From Floods to Blackouts

Since the beginning of the new year 2009, we have been experiencing numerous wet weather. Personally, I love the rain. And I always look forward whenever the weather promises rain. But somehow, recently I saw that the rain can carry catastrophic outcome. On Tuesday night, 20th Jan 2009, terrible floods filled most of the main roads, government and commercial areas in the country which not only immobilised motorists but also put out the electricity supply.

Below are photos extracted from www.bruneimotors.com that captured the nights’ terror.

Overhead view of Kiarong underpass

Side view of Kiarong underpass

Traffic Junction in front of Riverview Hotel

In the vicinity of Borneo Clinic in Gadong before Menglait

The River canal behind the Mall Gadong

Junction 4 in front of Gadong Power Station

Early this week, we had rainy days from day till night and even till the next day. The worst was on Tuesday. It began since Monday night, and it continued the next day and till night. On Tuesday night, approximately 15-10 minutes before mid night, the area where my parents reside and its vicinity experienced a blackout. It was sleepless night for everyone. I was unable to sleep because I was so worried my baby boy might get too hot with no electricity supply. Luckily, my dad has his own generator to counter situation like this. So we could still light up our home and enjoy a reasonable breeze from the standing mechanical fans. The night was not as hot as thought. Probably because it was still raining outside.

The next day, it was still raining and the electricity was still out. As I drove to work, I noticed some of the traffic lights were not functional. And as I was driving into my garage at work, I noticed there were not many cars around. It was already 7:45am, and only a handful of cars were parked in the area. This was very strange indeed. I just assumed people were late because of probable flood.

As the day went by, bad news seems to arises everywhere as a consequent of the non-stop rain. It seems everywhere were flooded. Many homes were intruded by rain waters. And there were even casualties, as a result. A 19 year old gal was gushed away by the rain floods out of no where as the girl was trying to walk across to her home. A 49 year old lady was another casualty, but cause by a landslide which crashed into her home. Condolences to the family of the victims.

I also discovered from a fellow colleague that the electricity outage was due to the power station at gadong being flooded by the overflowed river in the vicinity. This has never happened before. Even the barrack there, experienced flood levels up to their ears!! The power station itself had the flood level reach waist high. Even the power room were invaded by knee high floods. Water was everywhere. And this caused a huge problem for the whole country.

My family and I were pretty lucky because we had our own generator to sustain us for a while during the blackout. But that was not sufficient to save our fresh foods like chicken, meat and fish. The generator was not strong enough to power all our necessity. We were deprived of electricity for about 44hrs and 45mins.

Exactly 2045hrs brunei time, 22 Jan 2009, electricity was restored. We were all relieved. But it is certainly an experience that will not cease in the future. Immediate attention needs to be focused in ensuring such incident to not repeat itself. The diligence and mindful attitude is paramount in countering future incidents. I hope the relevant parties will work together to overcome this once and for all.

But during the last few days, I saw effective deployment of personnel in ensuring things don’t get worst. I would like to take this opportunity to convey the highest appreciation and gratitude to the Royal Brunei Police Force for their roles in countering the malfunctioning of traffic lights. The flow of traffic was as smooth, of course with the assistance of RBPF. In helping the victims of floods and landslide, a hearty tanx to Fire Service Dept and the Medical Team for their support. I would also like to thank my fellow PRO from the electrical department, for taking the time and showing me pictoral evidance of the incident that cause the blackout. His prompt address of my queries is greatly appreciated. Keep it up!!

Road between McDonald building and the Mall Gadong

Road leading to the komunis shops

The bridge behind the Mall

Gadong roads overflowed

A Flooded Home

I would like to thank my friends for taking the time to foward me pictures of the flood incident which occurred on 20th Jan 2009. Below are more photos of the aftermath, a home affected by the flood. I sincerely hope something is done to help those in need. A home destroyed by the flood will no longer feel like a home. So please, take the time to lend a helping hand to those affected. I hope that the owner of this home along with the many others affected will be compensated for their losses.

Year of the Ox

On this auspicious occassion, I would like to take this opportunity to convey my heartiest greetings of the Happiest Chinese New Year to all my friends and readers!!

For me, every new year in the Chinese calender holds many excitement, especially when looking at it from the chinese astrology signs and predictions.

This year, the year of the Ox, is a pretty ok year for me. But for others it open up a window of potential wealth and even love. But whatever it is, it is truly up to the individual to make the best of what is held before them.

My celebration of the new year is usually very calm. But I’m just as excited seeing the neighbourhood filled with festivity, as if it was hari raya. Evern during the eve of the celebration, our surrounding was booming with fireworks, all welcoming the start of the new year.

Today, traffic congestion seemed to have eased quite visibly. Even in gadong area, the hustle and bustle was not like usual. Many of the shops were also closed for the day, probably all celebrating the new year. It is at this time of the year, when it becomes so obvious that the gadong area is mainly populated by our chinese bruneians. And hence, it is only during this time of the year, they would take leave of their shop and go off to spend it in the company of they family and love ones.

Festivity does not end there of course. As I was passing by the Manggis Mall, I saw that there were long queues of cars parked just outside the residence of a well known entrepreneur in brunei, who else if not Pehin Lau Ah Kok. Every year, people from all races and religious would flock to his home to wish the family a happy new year. You can say the atmosphere was almost like during hari raya near the Istana.

But whatever occassion it is, it is always a wonderful opportunity to meet up with old friends and get to know new ones. So to those of you out there, have an enjoyable Chinese New Year!! Gong Xi Gong Xi Ne!!

Orange Alert

As a follow up to my previous article on Fruit alert, below are the pictures of the alleged oranges being infested with the translucent white worm.For those with a weak stomach, viewers discretion is advised. The picture may be too gruesome for some.

I was forwarded an email containing these pictures. In the email, caution was requested when buying Chinese oranges. It was highlighted that the worms are very similar to the texture of the orange and therefore can only be observed if you look carefully, also mentioned was that long sighted person may not notice these worms at first glance.

The email also assured that the Chinese government had made efforts to destroy  hundreds of tons of these oranges and compensate the farmers for these. But however some culprit may still sell it illegally. That’s why we need to be careful. Whether the worms are harmful to the human body or not is still questionable. But generally if small quantities are consumed it should not cause any major harm according to doctors. However, it is  advisable  to be careful about it.

My next question on this issue is, do all our oranges come from China? And have anyone actually come across these worms?? If our oranges were also affected, I believe the Ministry of Health would have issued a health warning about it. At the same time MIPR would be making sure that we do not compromise the quality of food being imported into the country. So can anyone please verify whether this rumour of worms in oranges are true here in Brunei??

Personally, I’m not totally convinced that the oranges in Brunei are affected. But my parents are  totally and absolutely convinced. And as a result I get to hear them lecturing me NOT to eat oranges. Nowadays, I have completely lost my appetite where oranges are implicated. So I hope the relevant authorities will investigate this matter and give it the attention that is so deserve. Please someone help me to tell my parents what’s true and what’s not.

Canned Products Alert

Just a precaution, I wish to share with my readers a recent email I received about  a case in Malaysia concerning certain canned fruits containing pig’s fat. It was claimed that JAKIM issued letters to all retailers to remove the halal labels on the affected products. “Narcissus” is an established and well known brand associated with high quality China canned food and seasoning such as whole mushrooms, asparagus spears, lychees, spiced pork cubes, stewed pork chops etc. The range of “Narcissus” food products, which are in high demands in many parts of the world, include : Canned Meat, Canned Seafood, Canned Fruits, Canned Vegetables Seasonings.

Again, my next question is, is this claim authentic?

I believe that the relevant authorities in Brunei WILL NOT be complacent. They will certainly be on the look out, at all times, for any products like these. So again, like the case of the oranges, it will truly be appreciated if this matter is investigated immediately.

Hot Moto

When it comes to innovation, Japan is top of the chart. Check out these funky customised vehicles, for sure you will never seen these paraded on Brunei roads. They are just so outrageously over the top, especially the spoilers. Even the bodykits look exaggerated. You can say this is like Pimping My Ride, the extreme way! But other than that, I wouldn’t mind owning one of these. I would be the talk of the town!!

Ricky Martin & Twins

Ricky is a daddy!!! Via surrogate, Ricky is now the daddy to 4-month old twin boys. Who would have thought…

Playing with the twins… awwwwwww

Valentino and Matteo.. don’t ask me which is which..

Day out with the twins

Heidi Critics-Magnet

Heidi Klum is the last celeb that one would expect to be stamped as a terrible dresser. And that’s exactly how she was posted as at the 80th Annual Academy Awards last year.

Personally, I didn’t think this hot red flowy dress was that bad. She looked quite elegant and dramatically effective for the function she’s attending. I’m really wondering, who are the doing the best and worst dress labellings. I think their eyeballs might have popped out that they can’t even tell who are the best dress and who are actually not such a good dresser.

If Heidi kept being labelled as a not-so-good dresser, what does that say about her credibility as a Judge in Project Runway reality show? And to think that show is already in its 5th Season! Well, if people appreciate her presence and opinion as a judge in that tv programme, I’m sure her credibility will still exude through her fashion choices, somehow. Think about it…

Jolie Reverse

Once in a while I like to have diversions. In my blog, my diversion is talking about my fav celebs. Today I want to talk about Angelina Jolie, one of my ultimate favourite hollywood star.

As you probably know, last Sunday (25th Jan) was the Screen Actors Guild Awards. And guess who walked on the red carpet?!? Of course, Angelina Jolie was one of them, and she was wearing Max Azria cornflower blue gown. I love the dress and I love how it further accentuated the beauty of the star. But somehow, not everyone will agree with my statement. Apparently, Angie was wearing the dress the wrong way, backwards as a matter of fact. The critics said the way Angie wore the dress (that is backward) made it bland on their palate. And had she worn it the right way, she would have shown more skin rather than her disturbing tattoos!!

I’m sure we have all heard the all-rounder criticism about Angie’s tattoos. But hey, it’s her thang so let it be. As for the gown being worn reversed, well, either way Angie would still look great. It was just a matter of choice anyway,  that is whether to show her cleavages or back muscles!

But at the end of the day, it’s not the dress that made the actress beautiful. Angie is Angie. I’m sure there are many galz out there who would do anything to look like Angelina Jolie, even on her bad days!! I certainly would! But that is something that will never happen. For there is only one Angie. And trillion others of non-Angie. Well, at least we have an idol to look up to. Think about it…

What is Love?

I found this fantastic article about a child’s definition of love. You would never have guessed their answers, children are more observant than adults are. I found this article from www.rogerknapp.com. Hope you like it as much as I did!

Child’s Definition of LOVE.

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, “What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.  See what you think:

“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.  So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too.  That’s love.” Rebecca – age 8

When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.  You know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy – age 4

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri – age 4

Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” Danny – age 7

“Love is when you kiss all the time.  Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.  My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss” Emily – age 8

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen,” Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)

“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,” Nikka – age 6

“There are two kinds of love.  Our love.  God’s love. But God makes both kinds of them.” Jenny – age 8

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6

“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared.  I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.  He was the only one doing that.  I wasn’t scared anymore,” Cindy – age 8

“My mommy loves me more than anybody.  You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” Clare – age 6

“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” Elaine -age 5

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” Chris -     age 7

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” Mary Ann – age 4

“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” Lauren – age 4

“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.” Mark – age 6

“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it.  But if you mean it, you should say it a lot.  People forget,” Jessica – age 8

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge.  The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.  The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.  Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, “Nothing, I just helped him cry.”

Seasonal Fever

The new year 2009 is really putting it’s toll on my personal health. I seem to be getting sick, then recover, then sick again, and now recovering again. My body seems to be vulnerable to the recent wet weather, I get feverish so suddenly. My whole body felt scorching hot and aching all over. It was only 2 days ago when I was down with the fever. But fortunately, after taking my medication, I’m well again today.

I know there are several others of my colleagues who are also down with the fever. My advise is, to drink lots and lots of water + fruits. And if the fever persist, take panadol or go see a doctor immediately! But above all, avoid going to work, so you don’t infect your other working colleagues.

When I get sick, my only concern is for my little boy. I do not wish to infect him. But whether I’m sick or not, he still sleeps with me because he gets cranky when he’s not with me during bedtime. So I made sure I supplement him with enought vitamins, so his immune system is at its best.

Single Ladies Tops!

Again, I can’t stop talking about my fav celebs. Today, I want to talk about Beyonce Knowles. As you all know already, Beyonce has just released another new song, “Single Ladies”. It’s the second single from her “I am Sasha Fierce”  album. I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee this new song. So I manage to download the lyrics. and I’m sharing it here  in my blog, so that you will all remember and memorise the song!

BEYONCE – “SINGLE LADIES” LYRICS

All the single ladies (7x)
Now put your hands up
Up in the club, just broke up
I’m doing my own little thing
Decided to dip but now you wanna trip
Cuz another brother noticed me
I’m up on him, he up on me
Don’t pay him any attention
Cried my tears, three good years
Ya can’t be mad at me

[Chorus]
Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it

(Chorus)
I put gloss on my lips, a man on my hips
Hold me tighter than my Dereon jeans
Acting up, drink in my cup
I could care less what you think
I need no permission, did I mention
Don’t pay him any attention
Cuz you had your turn
But now you gonna learn
What it really feels to miss me

(Chorus)

Don’t treat me like things of this world
I’m not that kind of girl
Your love is what I prefer, what I deserve
He’s a man that makes me and takes me
And delivers me to a destiny, to infinity and beyond
Pull me into your arms
Say I’m not the one you own
If you don’t, you’ll be alone
And like a ghost, I’ll be gone

All the single ladies (7x)
Now put your hands up

(Chorus)

Kilanas Flooded

Here are more pics of the flash flood that had hit Brunei last week. These pics were taken around the Kilanas area. Thanks to friends for forwarding the photos. Truly appreciate it.

Something must be done to fix our drains. Apparently they’re inadequate to cope with heavy downpour! And most of the time the drains are filled with creeping plants!! Just look at the consequences of our own negligence…

Wet Saturday

As usual on Saturday, the weather was promising more rain. The whole day the sky was covered with grey overcasts. But we didn’t want to let the weather get us down. Today, we had plans to go swimming. And it was a debut for my little boy. His first dip into the giant baby pool.

I wanted to go to the not-so-new-anymore swimming facility near the NTC. But apparently there were problems with the pool, mechanical I think. Probably something wrong with the filter. Anyhow, our alternative was the old Anggerek Desa Swimming Facility. It has been ages since I last set foot there. I think the last time was when I was a mere toddler! So you can imagine that place is practically a museum for me!

Entrance fee is B$1 for adults and for my little boy (10mths) FOC. As I walked into the facilty, with my eldest daughter, my PA and my siblings, I could see the place hasn’t changed much. Apart from the touch-up paint, the sitting stands around the pool area, everyting else was as I had left it many decades ago.

My baby boy was quite excited. I could see his eyes roaming all over the place. As we reached the baby pool, he was still quiet, but his eyes were as big as golf balls still looking at this strange new surrounding. He didn’t argue at all when I sat him on the pool stair. His eyebrow raised a bit, probably an initial shock to the slight current and coldness of the water. But other than that, he settled in pretty well. I got my son his own floats. So he could explore the pool with me. It took him a while though to enjoy the swim, as he was mainly distracted by the other little kiddies jumping and diving in the pool. But as my siblings and his sister joined briefly in the baby pool, my son got super excited and began shouting and screaming and laughing with joy. He was a happy little baby. I’m glad he enjoyed his swimming experience.

After an hour of hardly-coaching my son how to paddle, I decided to head home. But first we needed to shower  any unimaginable residue from the poll water from my baby’s skin. So off we went to the toilet/ shower area. As I had expected, the toilet was as old as I remembered it. I can’t deny that it was kept clean. Well, they tried to keep it clean. But because of the falling off / missing doors on the shower/toilet cubicles, missing toilet seats, missing faucets and shower heads, it was a pretty defective toilet. I could feel goose bumps going up my spine, signalling my disgust at the place. Even when showering my baby, the water was so cold. I could see his little lips trembling. Poor baby. But I had to give him the shower to wash away all the dirty things/ germs from the pool.

A day at the swimming pool was great for everyone. But the most dreaded moment, I think, was when we had to use the unkempt toilets. I just hope something is done to fix and refurbish the facility. The way it’s looking right now is not going to impress anyone. Especially when the facility is located near local residences and a few commercial hotels. Is this the standard we want for our fellow Bruneians? Is this the image we wish to project to our foreign visitors? And this goes to the other facilities in the area as well. Think about it…

Test for Idiocy

I was emailed this test. I took it and I’m found out I’m not so smart!!! hahahahah… have a try… if you think you up to the challenge!

For those who think they are SMART, You can SKIP this, if you want.…. that is if you’re afraid to try!!!!

But if you want to have a go, by all means!…just make sure you tell me your answers and I will tell you mine… hahahaha…

Test for Idiocy
Below are four (4 ) questions and a bonus question. You have to answer them instantly. You can’t take your time, answer all of them immediately . OK?

Let’s find out just how clever you really are….

Ready? GO!!!

First Question:

You are participating in a race. You overtake the second person. What position are you in?

Answer:
If you answered that you are first, then you are absolutely wrong! If you overtake the second per! son, you take his place, so you are second!

Try not to mess up next time.
Now answer the second question, but don’t take as much time as you took for the first one, OK ?

Second Question:

If you overtake the last person, then you are…?

Answer:
If you answered that you are second to last, then you are wrong again.
Tell me, how can you overtake the LAST Person?

You’re not very good at this, are you?

Third Question:

Very tricky arithmetic! Note: This must be done in your head only.
Do NOT use paper and pencil or a calculator. Try it.

Take 1000 and add 40 to it.. Now add another 1000 . Now add 30 .
Add ano! ther 1000 . Now add 20 . Now add another 1000
Now add 10 . What is the total?

Answer:
Did you get 5000?

The correct answer is actually 4100.

If you don’! t believ e it, check it with a calculator!
Today is definitely not your day, is it?
Maybe you’ll get the last question right……..Maybe.

Fourth Question:

Mary’s father has five daughters: 1.. Nana, 2. Nene, 3. Nini, 4. Nono.
What is the name of the fifth daughter?

Answer:
Did you Answer Nunu?
NO! Of course it isn’t !
Her name is Mary. Read the question again!

Okay, now the BONUS ROUND QUESTION:

A mute person goes into a shop and wants to buy a toothbrush. By imitating the action of brushing his teeth he successfully expresses himself to the shopkeeper and the purchase is done.

Next, a blind man comes into the shop who wants to buy a pair of sunglasses; how does HE indicate what he wants?

Answer:
He just has to open his mouth and ask…
It’s really very simple…. Like you!

HAHAHAHAHAHA….!!

Seria Flooded

The wet weather continued unabatted today. Many cases of flash floods and landslides continued to fill the last few days. And government agencies were/are all at work wondering what can be done to help the victims. Since I always believe in using photos to add emphasis to my story, I received more photos of the flash floods incident. These photos were taken in Seria. Tanx again to my friends for forwarding me the photos.

Landslides

Pasar Ria Seria

Strokes

Recently I received an email providing pointers on how to identify strokes. Want to know how?

Here it goes….

A neurologist says that if a stroke victim was given care within 3 hours the effects of the stroke can be totally reversed. The trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.

RECOGNIZING A STROKE

The key is to remember the ’3′ steps, STR . Read and Learn!

Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.

Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:

S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e. It is sunny out today.)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARM S.

If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.

New Sign of a Stroke: From the Tongue

Another ‘sign’ of a stroke is to ask the person to ‘stick’ out his/her tongue. If the tongue is ‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.

So I hope we learnt something today. For me, anything to do with my health, the rules to follow is to basically to eat healthily and live healthily, remember to exercise!

Yummy Rice

I found these photos in one of my emails. The most creative meals I’ve ever laid my eyes on. I’m sure with these innovative meals, problems in making children eat their vegetables will cease to haunt parents. All you need is creativity and innovation!

Rice teddy

Packed lunch anime style

lounging rice puppy

Foxy rice

Pinnochio Lunch

Cuddly Lamb.. sleepy

Peeking Penguins

Kg Tanjong Maya Flooded

Just bringing more photo news on the flash flood that inundated most areas in Brunei Darussalam late January 2009. This time, I bring you photos of the situation at Kampong Tanjong Maya. I sincerely hope the flood victims are well compensated for their losses.

23 Feb 2009 Silver Jublee

It was an event that only comes along once in your life. 25 years of independence is truly a feat to be proud of. And I’m even more proud that it happened during my lifetime. The Silver Jublee celebration took place at the National Stadium in Berakas. Participants were seen committed and dedicated to making it a successful events. For almost a whole month before the 23rd of March, people from all walks of life were seen practising and practising with their marches as well as field performances.

Under the scorching heat, participants still preservere with their respective rehearsals. And the many days of rehearsal left visible markings on our skin, making us all look more tanned day by day. But despite that, the excitement in the air seemed to have evaporated all feellings of tiredness and aches. In its place were sheer determination of every individual involved in the marches and field performances to showcase the very best and memorable experience.

And I was very proud to be there as a member of the march past.

Maulud Procession

One celebration after another. 09 March was a very important day in Brunei, it marked the day of celebration to commemorate the birthday anniversary of Prophet Muhammad S.A.W (Peace be upon him). This year the celebration took place in and around the Taman SOAS in Bandar Seri Begawan.

I was amongst the invitees and I had a fantastic view from where I sat, which was on the right side of the Royal dais. I had such a clear view of the Royal Monarch. And even when His Majesty completed the Maulud procession, he was passing right in front of my stand!! It was so exciting.

Venice of d’East

The water village is indeed a rare sight. But in Brunei, it’s one of the most valued local heritage whose tradition and beauty intrigue any incoming tourists. Today my colleague and I had the pleasure to visit  one of the well known tourist s’destination. We took the trip there via the water taxi that cost BND$1 per person. And here are my ‘captured’ moments there. The beautiful sights from Kampong Tamoi Ujung water village.

The inner sight

Neighbourhood watch

Near the jetty

Entering the Water Village

The ride home

Serasa Shores

While on duty, I couldn’t resist snapping a few shots of the breath-taking sights at serasa beach. The facility where I was at, had this resort-like wood/fibre bridge stretching several meters out. It was so dreamy and peaceful  when walking along the bridge.

Watermanship Training Centre RBAF

Serasa sea view

Dengue’s Remedy

I recently received this email on the discovery of a remedy for dengue. Hope you will all spend a few minutes of your time to have a read through the story below.

PASS THIS INFORMATION TO AS MANY AS YOU CAN, IT MAY SAVE LIVES.

The discovery was made by the father of a recovered dengue-fever patient. Apparently, his son was in the critical stage at the ICU when his blood platelet count drops to 15 after 15 liters of blood transfusion.

His father was so worried that he sought another friend’s recommendation and his son was saved. He confessed that he gave his son raw juice of the papaya leaves From a platelet count of 45 after 20 liters of blood transfusion, and after drinking the raw papaya leaf juice, his platelet count jumps instantly to 135. Even the doctors and nurses were surprised. After the second day he was discharged.

Accordingly, the remedy contained raw papaya leaves, 2 pieces, cleaned and pounded and squeezed with filter cloth. This will produce about one tablespoon per leaf. So two tablespoon per serving, once a day is required.  Refrain from attempting to boil or cook or rinse with hot water. This will cause the leaves to loose its strength. Only the leafy part and no stem or sap will work the remedy. This has a very bitter taste but it works. It is a natural cure for dengue fever.

As dengue fever is rampant now, It is good to share this with all.

Another lesson-learnt story. There was a lady who had dengue last year. It was a very serious situation for her as her platelet count had dropped to 28,000 after 3 days in hospital and water has started to fill up her lung. She had difficulty in breathing. She was only 32-year old. Doctor says there’s no cure for dengue. The family just had to wait for her body immune system to build up resistance against dengue and fight its own battle. She already had 2 blood transfusion and everyone were praying very hard as her platelet continued to drop since the first day she was admitted.

Fortunately her mother-in-law heard that papaya juice would help to reduce the fever and got some papaya leaves, pounded them and squeeze the juice out for her. The next day, her platelet count started to increase, her fever subsided. The family continued to feed her with papaya juice and she recovered after 3 days!!!

Amazing but it’s true. It’s believed one’s body would be overheated when one is down with dengue and that also caused the patient to have fever. Papaya juice has cooling effect and this helps to reduce the level of heat in one’s body. Thus the fever will go away. It was also found that it’s also good when one is having sore throat or suffering from heat.

Please spread the news about this as lately there are many dengue cases.. It’s great if such natural cure could help to ease the sufferings of dengue patients. Furthermore it’s so easily available. Blend them and squeeze the juice! It’s simple and miraculously effective!!

LEGCO Opens Today

Today, Thursday 12 March 2009, His Majesty the Sultan and Yang Di-Pertuan of Brunei Darussalam consented to officially open the Legislative Council session at the council’s brand-new venue at Jalan Kebangsaan.  This is the 5th time session of the council since its reconvening in 2004.

The Council consisted of its speaker; ex-officio members (prime minister and ministers); titled persons; persons who have achieved distinction; district representatives; and, clerk to the Council.

Historically, Brunei’s 1959 Constitution provided for a 33-seat Legislative Council, or Majlis Mesyuarat Negeri, with 16 directly-elected members. The body was disbanded in 1962 by His Majesty’s father, Almarhum Haji Omar ‘Ali Saifuddin Sa’adul Khairi Waddien, following a state of emergency, which saw the banning of the left-wing Parti Rakyat Brunei (PRB) or Brunei People’s Party.

In 1970 the Council was replaced by an appointed body by a decree of His Majesty. An elected Legislative Council is being considered a part of constitutional reforms. His Majesty abolished the parliament in 1984 after Brunei gained full independence from Britain. On September 24, 2004, His Majesty revived the State Legislative Council.Its predecessor, the Brunei State Council, known as Majlis Mesyuarat Negeri, functioned for little more than half a century from 1907 until the promulgation of the Brunei Constitution on September 29, 1959.

Everyone’s eager what will be derived in the discussions ahead. And this year, fellow colleagues in my profession have been given access to sit in on the council’s deliberation. I hope to be joining and listening in soon.

Limbang’s Fate Finally Sealed

Probably marked as an important landmark in Brunei history, on Monday 16 2009, the fate of Limbang was finally sealed with it’s handover to Malaysia through exchange of letters.

Below is the article on the event covered by Brunei Times. Do have a read through.

Brunei, M’sia settle land and maritime boundary issues via letters of exchange

Brunei has dropped all territorial claims over Limbang, thus ceding the district to the state of Sarawak and recognising it as Malaysian territory, Prime Minister Dato’ Seri Abdullah Hj Ahmad Badawi was reported to have told Malaysian media yesterday.

This was among the boundary issues resolved under the Letters of Exchange (LoE), which included the establishment of a “Commercial Arrangement Area” (CAA) and the right of passage for Malaysian vessels across Bruneian waters.

His Majesty the Sultan and Yang Di-Pertuan of Brunei Darussalam and Malaysian Prime Minister signed the documents at the Istana Nurul Iman.

According to Malaysian news publication The Star, Dato’ Seri Abdullah said that the Sultanate had agreed to drop the “Limbang issue” as a result of the two nations resolving their land and maritime disputes.

“With this resolution, there are no more issues to haunt the close relationship between Brunei and Malaysia,” the prime minister was quoted to have said at a press conference at the Malaysian High Commission here which was restricted to only registered Malaysian media due to “security” concerns.

In a joint statement, leaders of both nations noted the agreement of their respective governments on the key elements contained in the LoE, particularly the “final delimitation of maritime boundaries” between the two countries and the establishment of CAA, which resolves the dispute over oil and gas reserves located in the overlapping areas of the Exclusive Economic Zones of Brunei and Malaysia.

In 2003, arguments arose over four deep underwater blocks in the South China Sea after both countries awarded oil exploration contracts to foreign companies to the same area. Under the agreement, oil and gas revenues in the disputed area will be shared between the two nations. However, the ratio of how it will be shared was not disclosed.

The LoE also grants “unsuspendable rights of maritime access” for Malaysians travelling across Brunei’s maritime zones to and from Sarawak, given that they observe the Sultanate’s laws and regulations.

“The two countries would be able to enforce their rules and regulations and embark on new developments in their respective maritime zones,” the joint statement said.

The modalities of the final demarcation of land boundaries were also included in the LoE, for which a joint technical committee will be tasked to sort out the final formalities. It will be resolved on the basis of five existing historical agreements between the governments of Brunei and Sarawak, and where appropriate, on the watershed principle.

His Majesty and the Malaysian Prime Minister believes that the signing of the LoE will “pave the way for the development of strategic partnership and closer collaboration between the two countries in all fields,” according to the statement.

Earlier yesterday, His Majesty, Her Majesty Raja Isteri Pengiran Anak Hajah Saleha and Her Royal Highness Pengiran Isteri Azrinaz Mazhar received in audience Dato’ Seri Abdullah and Datin Seri Jeanne Abdullah.

After that, a meeting between the two leaders was then held, followed by the signing of the LoE.

A luncheon was also hosted for the Malaysian premier and his spouse as well as the Malaysian delegation, which included Malaysian Foreign Minister Dato’ Seri Utama Dr Rais Yatim, the Chief Ministers of Sabah and Sarawak and other senior Malaysian officials.

Also present yesterday was HRH Prince Haji Al-Muhtadee Billah, the Crown Prince and Senior Minister at the Prime Minister’s Office, HRH Prince Mohamed Bolkiah, the Minister of Foreign Affairs and Trade, HRH Pengiran Anak Isteri Pengiran Hajah Zariah, HRH Princess Hajah Rashidah Sa’adatul Bolkiah, HRH Princess Hajah Masna, the Ambassador-At-Large at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Trade, as well as other members of the Royal Family.

$4.98b Approved

On Monday, LegCo had approved the national budget of $4.98b for the fiscal year 2009/2010.  Below is the extracted article of the announcement covered by BT.

LegCo Passes $4.98b budget for 2009/2010

The State Legislative Council yesterday approved a proposed national budget of $4,985,785,600 for fiscal year 2009/2010, targeting increased efforts in poverty eradication and ensuring food security in the medium and long term.

The budget also aims to ensure a strong and competitive fiscal position, increase government revenues (which stood at $475.8 million in March 2008), revise rates for government services “without affecting lower income groups” and intensify competition within the country’s investment environment to attract more foreign direct investment, the Minister of Finance II said.

About 18.8 per cent ($1,060,900,000) of the budget will go to human resource development and capacity building, said Finance Minister II Pehin Orang Kaya Laila Setia Dato Paduka Hj Abdul Rahman Hj Ibrahim. This is meant to increase research and development activities to assist in economic diversification efforts.

The budget for this fiscal year, which saw an increase of $200 million from the previous fiscal year, will be spent on four other areas: defence and homeland security, social harmony and poverty eradication, national food security, and the expansion and strengthening of the private sector.

The defence and security sector will receive 18.5 per cent ($1,046,000,000) of the budget this year, and an additional $10 million contingency fund has also been allocated to cover “unexpected expenses”, said Pehin Dato Hj Abdul Rahman.

In response to His Majesty the Sultan and Yang Di-Pertuan of Brunei Darussalam’s titah during the opening of the legislative council last Thursday, another $30 million has been allocated to speed up repair, maintenance and improvement works for infrastructure and public facilities, such as drainage systems, water and electric supply and communication systems, he said.

Yesterday’s Legislative Council meeting announced the establishment of two national committees to tackle poverty and social issues in the country the Special Committee for Poverty Issues and the National Committee for Tackling Social Problems. The government has a budget of $10 million to address poverty.

It allocated $270.3 million for socio-economic and public welfare. This is expected to result in an increase in job positions in the Community Development Department under the Ministry of Culture, Youth and Sports.

It allocated $340.5 million for the improvement of the standards of medical and health services in the country, and $680.73 million for the construction sector and public facilities.

The government is aiming to achieve “cost-effective” targets for self-sufficiency in food, the minister said, noting a budget of $30 million for support strategies and plans.

It allocated $178.17 million for government agencies implementing plans and programmes to expand and strengthen the private sector. To achieve this, the minister said the government will provide basic infrastructure for business start-ups as well as skills training facilities and identify government services that can be outsourced to the private sector.

Corporate tax for fiscal year 2010 and the following years will also be reduced by two per cent to 23.5 per cent. To encourage the hiring of local workers, the amount that employers contribute to the Employees’ Trust Fund (TAP) will be increased by another 100 per cent, Pehin Dato Hj Abdul Rahman said.

The Department of Economic Planning and Development has forecasted a 1.2 to 3.1 per cent growth for Brunei’s gross domestic product this year.

The minister said the economic growth will be spurred on by increased manpower in the civil service, implementation of projects under the National Development Plan, and business spin-off businesses from the methanol plant.

The Brunei Times

Limbang’s Status Still Vague

Article today in Brunei Times stated that limbang claim issue were never discussed in the agreement signed Monday.

According to the statement by the Second Minister of MoFaT, the documents included the “final delimitation of maritime boundaries” between Brunei Darussalam and Malaysia, the establishment of the Commercial Arrangement Area in oil and gas, the modalities for the final demarcation of the land boundaries between the two countries and the “unsuspendable rights of maritime access” for nationals and residents of Malaysia crossing Brunei maritime zones to and from Sarawak, provided that Brunei’s laws and regulations are observed.

Quoting the joint statement, Pehin Dato Lim said that the demarcation of land boundaries would be resolved on the basis of five existing historical agreements between the governments of Brunei and Sarawak, and where appropriate, the watershed principle.

This is indeed a shocker. When will the limbang issue ever be resolved? I guess it’s still history in the making. Let’s just hope for the best.

Fast Cure for Coughs

How to stop cough in 5 minutes!!!

This is a must try….

We have all been kept awake by our own or someone else’s cough. Try this and pass it on. The tip and not the cough. ANYTHING is better than antibiotics. Even babies could benefit from this and the parents wouldn’t worry about the safety of their child. And of course, it is harmless and free from any type of side-effects.

READ IT ALL. It works 100 percent of the time, although the scientists at the Canada Research council (who discovered it) aren’t sure why.

Treatment:
To stop night time coughing in a child (or an adult, as! we found out personally), put Vicks Vapor Rub generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime and then cover with socks.

Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about five minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. This works 100 percent of the time, and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly. It claimed that the head of the Canada Research Council describe these findings on the part of their scientists when they were investigating the effectiveness and usage of prescription cough medicines in children, as compared to alternative therapies like acupressure. There was this parent who happened to tune in to a.m. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs, so he listened. It was a surprising finding and found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, and in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly.

His wife tried it on herself when she had a very deep constant and persistent cough a few weeks ago, and it worked 100 percent! She said it felt like a warm blanket had enveloped her. The coughing stopped in a few minutes, and believe it this was a deep (incredibly annoying!) every few seconds, uncontrollable cough and she slept cough-free for hours every night she used it.

If you have children or grandchildren, pass it on. If you end up sick, try it yourself and you will be absolutely amazed.

Transparent Creature

Amongst my forwarded emails, I received an interesting information about a very unique fish. It is so unique that I think you too will be quite doubtful about the authenticity of this news. Well, I’ve posted it up for you guys to have a look. Whether you believe it or not, it’s up to you. But it’s such an awesome discovery.

With a head like a fighter-plane cockpit, a Pacific barreleye fish shows off its highly sensitive, barrel-like eyes–topped by green, orblike lenses. The very existence of this unique creature was captured in 2004 but only recently, on 23 Feb 2009 the photo was finally released to the public.

The fish, discovered alive in the deep water off California’s central coast by the Monterey Bay Aquarium Research Institute (MBARI), is the first specimen of its kind to be found with its soft transparent dome intact.

The 6-inch (15-centimeter) barreleye (Macropinna microstoma) had been known since 1939–but only from mangled specimens dragged to the surface by nets.

The beady bits on the front of the Pacific barreleye fish in this picture released February 23, 2009, aren’t eyes but smell organs.

The grayish, barrel-like eyes are beneath the green domes, which may filter light. In this picture the eyes are pointing upward–the better to see prey above in the darkness of the barreleye’s deep-sea home.

The barreleye lives more than 2,000 feet (600 meters) beneath the ocean’s surface, where the water is almost inky.

The transparent-headed fish spends much of its time motionless, eyes upward, MBARI scientists discovered while watching the barreleye fish from a remotely operated vehicle.

Pavement Artist

I came across these wonderful photos of chalk drawings, which seem to come to life. But these drawings are not your typical piece of art that you see at the museum. These type of drawings are only seen on pavements!! Yep, on pavements. And the 3D effect of it is just so mind boggling. I was  so interested to see who the artist was behind these creative and life-like drawings. And believe it or not he can be searched through wikipedia

The artist’s name is Julian Beever. He is an English, Belgium-based chalk artist who has been creating trompe-l’œil chalk drawings on pavement surfaces since the mid-1990s. His works are created using a projection called anamorphosis, and create the illusion of three dimensions when viewed from the correct angle.

Beever works as a freelance artist and creates murals for companies. He has worked in the UK, Belgium, France, The Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Denmark, Spain, the U.S., Australia, Mexico, Brazil and Argentina.

Besides this pavement art, Beever also paints murals with acrylic paints and replicas of the works of masters and oil paintings, and creates collages. Amongst his other work are wood panelled drawings, usually themed around music, measuring 7 metres long by 1.5 metres high.

And right below are some of his work of art. Have a look…

That’s a long way down

Passer-by are actually going around the ‘hole’

How did he do that?

I feel like reaching out to that guy

The water rush look so real.. so does the alligator! yikes!

This is a real thirst quencher

Don’t fall Batman & Robin!!

Tips for Fresh Food

We have all experienced rotten veg and fruits stinking up the refrigerator, especially when we forget we bought all those stuff and haven’t been looking in the fridge for quite sometimes. But those days are long gone. There are some ingenious ways on how to preserve these veggies and fruitties.

One way is by wrapping up veg in newspapers. There has been claims that the newspaper will keep the veg fresh longer than if left in plastic bags. It is said that the print on the newspaper prevents evaporation and the paper content keeps the veg moist (as the fridge removes moisture).  I heard that the groceries from wetmarkets in Hong Kong used to arrive in newspapers and SEAWEED used as strings. But of course this was before there were those pink or blue or green plastic bags which are now an envioronmental nightmare.

Another tip I’ve come across in preserving fruits and veggies is by using aluminium coated plastic bags. This will help to keep the fruits and vegetables fresh for weeks. It is quite amazing and one that I have yet to try myself. But if it does work, hey why not try it!

Below is a sample of the type of aluminium coated plastic bag, this one is from quaker. Any type would be sufficient thought, as long as it has the same type of material. You can put in whatever and in any quantity you feel like it.

After one week, the vegetables are still fresh! Amazing right! No dehydration at all.

But remember, do not fold or seal the opening of the bag. The magic only works with the bag left open. so now, instead of discarding those quaker bags, it’s time to re-cycle and re-use them. You’ll not only be mother-nature’s new best friend, but you’ll save a whole lot of money for yourself and your family of course.

Chicken Wings

Amongst my forward emails, I came across this urgent message about chicken wings from a lady named Sharon How claiming to belong to Singapore Medical Association. It was a pretty interesting matter that she brought forward. But I do advise my readers to use you own discretion in this matter.

In the email the lady claimed that eating Chicken Wings frequently can have adverse effects, especially to the ladies. She recalled the experience of one of her friend who recently was diagnosed as having a peculiar growth in her womb and thus underwent an operation to remove the. The cyst removed was filled with a dark colored blood. Her friend thought that she would be recovered after the surgery but she was terribly wrong.

A relapse occurred just a few months later. Distressed, her friend rushed down to her gynecologist for a consultation. During her consultation, the doctor asked her a question that puzzled her. He ask if she was a frequent consumer of chicken wings and she replied yes wondering as to how, he knew of her eating habits.

It was told that in this modern day and age chickens are usually injected with steroids to accelerate their growth so that the needs of this (Singapore) society can be met. This need is none other than the need for food. Chickens that are injected with steroids are usually given the shot at the neck or the wings. Therefore, it is in these places that the highest concentration of steroids exists. These steroids have terrifying effects on the body as it accelerates growth. It has an even more dangerous effect in the presence of female hormones as it leads to women being more prone to the growth of a cyst in the womb.

Therefore, the forward email that I got on this matter aimed to advise the people out there to watch their diets and to reduce their consumption of chicken wings. My personal opinion on this is that, thank goodness our poultry are slaughtered the islamic way. We do not use steriods on them to enhance growth. Things are done naturally in Brunei. That’s the preferred way. Besides, I’m a chicken wing lover as well.

On the other hand, it would be wise to heed the urgency of this message especially for those travelling abroad. As the poultry provided outside our borders cannot be guaranteed the same assurance as what we enjoy here in Brunei. So do be careful with what you put into your stomach. Be wise with your dietry choices.

Earth Day 2009 – Grassroot action

Happy Earth Day 2009 everyone!!

22nd April has been declared Earth Day worldwide to inspire greater awareness and involvement of everyone in caring more for our environment. We have heard and seen numerous media news about the need for change. Not merely change in our habits but also change in how we see life.

In the hustle and bustle of our busy daily life, we tend to forget the importance of playing a part in conserving and sustaining the ‘health’ of mother nature. As years go by, and greater developmental progress achieved, we find ourselves engulfed in the materialistic aspect of life. In which case, these factory-manufactured materials are one of the main cause of illness to our earth. Pollution, energy wastage, overflow of plastic usage, global warming and others are the consequences of our improved living standards.

We truly need to refocus our commitments. Living luxuriously will be meaningless if we have to compromise clean air, clean water and healthy earth. Let’s do something completely different to help change and rid of  the damage we have done thus far to our earth. Change to make a difference!

Food for d’soul

Whenever I get the chance, I would indulge myself in my ultimate fav hobbie, which is cooking. I would cook whatever I can lay my hands on. And of course the challenge lies in making sure that the final dish is tasty. Other than taste, presentation of the dish is equally important, especially if I want to entice people to actually want to eat it.

To help in my every cooking session, I make sure I gather as many recipes as possible to experiment with. And I do this by watching the available cooking channels on astro. My all-time favourate channel is AFC (Asian Food Channel). I get great recipes from there, as well as insights on how to cook like real chefs

Of course, I still have a very long journey before I can be called  a chef. But for me, as long as I’m able to cook something that’s tasty, I’m a happy gal. So I will go on cooking, as practices will make me a step closer to being the perfect chef

Life’s Cycle

Watching my children grow day by day gives me such a fulfilling sensation inside of me. But at the same time, I also have this anxious feeling that as my children grow, so will I.

I know nobody gets younger by the day. We will all grow old and eventually life will reach its final destination. I recall the days when my grandparents were still around. Their last few moments with family members were the most precious and challenging times. It was hard to even comprehend that similar atmosphere and storyline will one day be my own. I sorely miss my grandparents, they played a very important role in my younger years. My only regret is that I didn’t spend enough time with them or even tell them how much they mean to me.

It’s true what people say about taking for granted things that you see often of and not really take the time to appreciate and even express those feelings of appreciations and affection to your love ones.

The way I was brought up, verbal expression of affection is something we’re shy to truly show. However, we have no resistance to showing it through things we do. It just gets uncomfortable to look into the eyes of your love one and tell them you love them without them suspecting something not right. Suspicion in this case would be the norm reaction, especially if we’re know not to be as expressive.

Anyhow, I think no matter how hard it is, it would still be a worthwhile cause to nurture ourself to be more expressive, more frequently. It may be awkward at first, but ove r time, it will just come naturally.

In the meantime, I truly hope that my family knows I love them all to bits. And eventhough I don’t say it, doesn’t mean I don’t feel it. I feel it all the time. And sometimes to the extent of scaring myself, afterall we will not live forever. Time will be the stop-watch to life. But death will definitely not be the border for affection. What we feel for someone, will never perish.. not unless you want it to.

We all know where our life’s cycle is heading. So spend your time wisely. Spend it with your family. Spend it doing worthwhile or even unworthwhile things. Just make sure you live you life to the fullest, without regrets.

Swine Flu Awareness

With stories and news about swine flu sweeping many more countries around the globe, precautions taken in Brunei continues with full speed. Many people are still unsure as how to behave in this phase 5 pandemic alert.

For myself, I’m no so familiar what the phases mean. But what I do understand is that the virus is at a point that it able to transmit from human to human. So this could have deadly repercussions if not handled immediately and with great cautious.

Although travels are not restricted by the World Health Organisation (WHO), but I personally think travels should be restricted for the time being. The concern is how to contain the virus without spreading any further. This would be difficult if people continue to behave irresponsibly and in ignorance of what is going on around them.

Basically, to prevent the spread of the flu, just stay away from the affected areas and affected people; keep proper hygiene; avoid crowded places; and ensure you consume balanced diet, daily.

If you think by getting yourself injected will prevent getting the flu, this is wrong. The virus itself is still evolving and mutating. The existing vaccination is only tamiflu which is for seasonal flu. So it will not necessarily guarantee we will be immune to the virus.

So let us keep ourselves updated on the situation by browsing the relevant websites. Education is awareness, and that itself will teach us on the relevant prevention. Insyallah

Effective PR

I had a very interesting discussion with my colleagues in the PR business. There seems to be a shared concerns on what effective public relations really means. Current understanding on public relations, specifically in the public sector focus mainly on the dissemination of information to the general public. Probably, in my opinion, too much focus has been granted in passing such information via the media, and very little attention and yet necessary has been allocated on exploring the alternative channels for such purposes.

I’ve only been permanently posted into the Public Relations business about less than 2 years, and during that time I’ve seen so much potentials that are just left to pass everyone by. My peers in this field are most of the time too bogged down with menial tasks that they lacked the opportunities to explore the more relevant and core area of their profession.

And this was exactly what my discussion yesterday was touching on. A question was posted to all my peers, what exactly makes an effective public relation officer? And surprisingly, my peers just remained quiet. I don’t blame them really. Because PR business is a contemporary concept that has yet to be fully absorbed into a traditional and conventional society such as ours.

Just to share my own thoughts, for me PR is everyone’s responsiblity. There is no law or rules that states only PR practisioners can be involved in such profession. Personally, public relations is an activity that everyone are involved in on a daily basis. But yet, when the word PR is even mention, fingers start to be pointed at the PR officers every single time.

Base on my experience, PR officers are the frontliners in this business. But their effectiveness lies in how other entities and personnel within and outside of the organisation are willing to render their assistance and support in the process as well. Therefore, the whole organisation has to work together to make PR work for them. Not merely making PRO work for the organisation.

Therefore, a change of mindset and culture in fully embracing PR responsibilities is necessary. And this has to start from the top of the hierarchy ladder and cascaded to the personnel on the ground. Realistically, this is a very complex and difficult task to achieve. Even in the management field, attempting to cascade an ideology to all levels is almost like trying to penetrate a steel door with a wooden chopstick!

But overall, achieving change means we have to be able to convince, fully or even partially, those around us on its imperativeness. Only through the such support will there be progress. At the same time, it would be useful to have a well thought out plan as well. So gather all your wits and prepare a sound plan, you might just be able to succeed in the PR business

Diet Supplements

Gaining weight is always easier than trying to lose it. And there seems to be the misperception that those who are able to lose the excess weight might have taken some kind of diet supplements. And there are thousands of brands and types to choose from.

Base on personal experience, diet supplements have never assisted in losing any of my excess weight. As a matter of fact, I gained even more weight because of it  along with other side effects like gastric and fatigue. And it took me several years to realise that the supplements are actually prolonging my over-weight condition rather than helping to reduce it.

It wasn’t until in 2007, that suddenly it hit me in the head, telling myself why in the world didn’t I just get myself to do some exercise to lose the weight rather than spending hundreds of dollars on diet supplements. So I had a mission in mind, it was not merely to lose weight but also to get fit. Of course at that moment, I had renewed dedication to truly lose the weight, so I came up with a simple fitness plan, which was to spend about 30mins, 3 days a week, walking around the National Stadium area. And I did that for about 3 months.

After 3 months, I got so pumped to lose my weight so I joined one of the local private gym. The aerobic programmes were my fav which included body combat, latino aerobics, hip hop and many more. Since my membership at the gym, I would spend no less than 1 hour a day, 5 times a week doing the various aerobic sessions. And when I had extra time, of if the aerobic sessions were my fav, I would do it for 2 hours a day.

So within 5 months or maybe even more, I lost about 10kg!!! I was so happy. Then came the fasting month. I couldn’t do my aerobics, not on an empty stomach for fear I might forfeit my fast and faint :p so I just controlled my food intake. Choosing wisely what I eat during the fasting month, like taking in lots of fresh veg and greens + fruits before consuming my main meals during opening of the fast. And guess what, I lost 5kg just during the fasting month!! So overall, I lost about 15kg.

That was a wonderful feat for me. And I felt great. But alas, since the birth of my son, I regained my weight simply because I spent my time being with my baby rather than at the gym but I’m confident, I can go through the whole process again, because I’ve been there and I know what to do.

So for those of you out there. Give up the diet supplements. They don’t work! Just get your booty onto the running tracks and just walk it off. Start simple, 30min per day or 3 days a week. And of course, watch your food intake. Reduce carbohydrates like bread and rice and increase on the fibres like vegetables and fruits. But this doesn’t mean you have to give up your favourite junk food completely. Just eat in moderation, and only have it one day in a week.

I promise you, this discipline will work!! You will be able to lose at least 5kg in 3 months. If you’re a hard worker, you can even lose 5kg per month!! But the main thing is, you enjoy doing the exercise so that you will continue doing it, even when you’ve reached your ideal weight!!

So make exercise part of your life’s routine. A healthy person is a happy person See you at the Stadium then!! or the gym!! Good Luck!!

Water is Life’s Essential

In my country, water is something you can easily find at the turn of the tap. But in other parts of the world, it is something of a luxury and scarce to some. My heart goes out to those who are deprived of this life’s core essential. And I just hope and pray that something is done to distribute the essential to those in need, immediately.

the middle east

trying to have a sip of the little water there is

Only one source to get water from

in asia

cherish the water

Green Thumb

In the cry to save the earth, we all can make our individual contribution to help improve the green house effect. One of the ways is to plant more plants Being a green thumb would be helpful in this case. You can plant whatever you want. It doesn’t really take a genious to plant something, all you need are very good and fertilised soil, a beautiful pot, plant seed and of course water and the sun

Some plants are easier to grow than others. I prefer to just buy them off from the Sunday Flower Market, and I have a ready potted plant to beautify my front yards! See how easy it is

But the main thing is, we share the common responsiblity to always live our lives in an earth-conscious way. Let’s work together to preserve a future for our next generations!

To Lie or Not To Lie

Nowadays, relationships between people, especially workmates may not necessarily be as genuine as it seems. In a capitalist world like now, fostered relationships are mainly calculated. It means, if a person wishes to befriend another person, e.g. at work, then befriending that other person better have its perks. I know this sounds quite conceited, but things like this do happen.

Such ‘relationship culture’ is usually the case between an underling/ junior executive and a top CEO. Some people would try to mush up to the top brass just so that they hope to be given incentives as a result. But most of the time, people deny having this ulterior motive. Probably for fear of their plan back-firing. If I was in such a position, I would truly feel horrible the next day. I just don’t feel right about fooling around with other people’s trust for the sake of materialistic things. And I’m sure, things like this will come to haunt us back, and then we’ll have to pay our dues.

It is just so funny to hear such denial, when it is so obvious from the individual’s actions and behaviour. It’s just something that cannot be hidden. People are quicker to notice something that is wrong, than otherwise.

As for me, I prefer to just speak my mind. But at times, I find it can be difficult, especially when those around me just don’t wish to admit that something is wrong. Some people even told me that my frank remarks can be hurtful. But for me, it would be even more hurtful if we lie, especially when we’re lying to our love ones or close friends. I have this belief that a friend has a responsibility to be truthful, no matter what, to their own circle of friends. So my mission is to express myself, rather than trying to impress. And if some people are not happy with that, then they’re welcome to find themselves new friends, who’re willing to lie to their faces! Good Luck…

Fear and Anxiety

At the weekend I was reading a very interesting book about fear and anxiety. There’re quite a number of people who have this problem of sudden fear and anxiousness when confronted with something new or something they anticipate to happen in their life. In the book, it gave quite a comprehensive explanation as to WHY we feel anxious and what are the process involved when we fear something.

It says that, some people fail to answer when asked why do they feel anxious, even though when it’s such a simple question.

But the reason is basically when we experience fluctuations or inconsistency and varibles in our lives, these feelings would arise. Of course, when an individual feel they are threatened, then their whole nerve systems would automatically react to the feeling as if being in danger. And the reaction may be physical, e.g. just try to run away from reality, and it may be mentally e.g. just suddenly be quiet, stiff and frozen.

For a psychologist, such reactions are normal. It is basically how our body prepare itself in the most suitable manner in facing event of anticipated fear or danger.

When the feeling anxiety emerge within us, it is derived from our emotions and feelings being lured into that anxious state, and later diverting our attention towards the event or condition that caused us to feel that way.Of course, this is basic human reaction in such condition. For some it becomes more hazardous when a conflict occur within that person as if there are two personality. And this cause some to be divided as to how to confront their anxious condition.

Another interesting thing mention in the book was that, there are two types of fear: sudden fear that is unintentional and a made-up fear which we await its arrival. The first type is basically how we feel fear when something really happened to us. But the second type of fear is when the person feel extreme fear about a suspected future without any real facts. This happens because of constantly imagining and baseless anticipation that only failure and difficulty will come by. And the more that person imagine such negativity, e.g. about the nearing of eventual failure or difficulty, anxiety will overcome that person to the extent of feeling delusional, disturbed, quickened heart beat, be withdrawn from reality and possess unsettling feelings. And this is cause merely by imagining the ifs and what might-happen scenario, with unfounded/ no hard facts.

So how to overcome this???

We have to be brave in confronting it. Or use other means which might help us to overcome it. Other means include to purify our minds through spiritual activities like zikir, prayers and learning more about things we lack understanding on. But most importantly, an idle mind is a dangerous mind. Just use our time more effectively, fill it by doing positive and useful activities such as exercises, spending time with the family, hanging out with friends or even working. So the key is basically, be BRAVE, LEARNED and ACTIVE.

Hope you enjoyed reading this article. I certainly enjoyed writing about it And tanx to the Author Yusof Al-Aqsari. ’35 Tips to Rid of Fear’.

Anger.. What’s the point?

Emotion is a very complex matter. And different people handle it in a completely different way. Anger is the most hazardous emotion of all. It not only has the potential to hurt oneself but also others whom we’re angry at, both physically and mentally.

For me the feeling of anger is more visible when we’re at that younger age. Youth seems to have excess of everything, energy, creativity, innovation, strength and even emotions. So in regards to emotions, when youth experience a particular feeling, it is usually in the most extreme way.

Anger is the most dangerous emotion to be feeling in extreme. When on gets angry, you experience an adrenaline rush throughout the whole body, which will consequently produce not so good outcome. We get blood rush to our face and head, our hands and legs become so light as if ready to punch, kick or pounce on the person we’re angry at or just a nearby scapegoat, then our minds become dishevelled with violent thoughts!! I’m sure everyone have experienced this. During the moment of feeling anger, yes it does feel good. But it’s the outcome which we usually end up regretting.

For me, during my younger years, especially when I started working, I noticed that I got angry a lot and quite frequent. Mainly angry about how other people don’t do what they’re supposed to do or angry about other people incapability to think the way I think. Well, these are some of the example of course. But the ultimate launching pad for my angry emotion is when people behave in double-standard manner!! urrrgggghhhh.. that can really set me off, still!

Whatever the issues are, there will always be something we don’t approve of and one that might cause us to be angry. But after thinking about it, and with a little bit of maturing going on, sometimes I just don’t think it’s worth it to even get angry about. Especially when anger cause your blood pressure to shoot up and may cause your heart to over pump blood and stop functioning!! hmmmm…

Once again, it’s never a good or beneficial idea to get angry when things just don’t turn out the way you want it to. And it’s wrong to expect things to be perfect all the time. It’s like Murphy’s Law, where if thing can go wrong, it will go wrong. Probably, for some it would be too much to ask to just look at things on the lighter and happier side. Honestly, what do you truly gain by being angry all the time at everyone?? Nothing much really, except you will end up having the person you’re angry at feeling uncomfortable and probably hating your guts for it and also causing your own health to deteriorate from over-excitement.

So the next time you feel angry at something or someone, try to rethink your reaction. What will you gain from getting angry?? Nothing at all. So cheer up and just go with the flow. People tend to respond better and be more sincere to a happier person than to an angry person. So just remember to put on your smiling face the next time you go out and meet people. Do smile and laugh more, as it’s the medicine for a healthier heart!

Things are not always what it seems.

Probably it’s a common human behaviour to judge things as one sees it. I think being given free reign to judge or recreate reasoning why certain things happen, somehow gives a person a superpower, a power to control perception.

What I noticed is, when a group of people gather for whatever reason, if something was to happen out of the ordinary or someone who seemed unique, I dare say there would be a lot of speculations and judgements being made on that particular scenario. People just enjoy sensationalising things that are not. And this more often than not, bring about quit complicated atmosphere where the feeling of suspicious would be the final outcome.

Basically, people are just so nosey about the business of other. And the fact that they’re able to spread whatever news, whether it’s the truth or just made-up, give them a sense of control and power over the situation. Why do we need to feel this way? Why do we have to dominate situations like these?

The only thing that can be gained is merely a 5-sec fame. Fame not necessarily base on truth, but what excite people by the things we tell them or make them think.

I know what I’m writing here seems to go round and round in circle, but the message that I”m trying to bring forward is basically, just try not to be so judgmental next time when you see something unfamiliar, new and strange. If you really want to know the facts, stop making mere assumptions or imagining the possible answers. Just go straight up to whatever it is, ask!! Again, next you’d have to keep in mind, why do you really need to know such trivial things? For me, if it brings me no benefit or otherwise, then just don’t bother to speculate. And just stop trying to guess why certain things happen, just so you have a more exciting scenario to think or talk about, eventhough when it’s not really our business to do so.

So lighten up people and don’t be too quick to judge things or people. We’re all in the same boat. Just live your own lives and make sure it’s a good one!

Do we behave as a family?

Quite an outrageous question, especially in a society like Brunei. Everything and anything that we do here revolves around family. So what caused me to bring you this question then??

I’m still at awe thinking that there are families, real families out there, that don’t behave like a family. What I mean by this is that they don’t spend time together, they don’t communicate with one another, and they don’t even sit down at meals together!! For someone like myself, who’s brought up in a typical conventional family, it’s quite shocking news to absorb. My kids were telling me that some of their own friends actually live like this, lacking communication/ interaction with their immediate family members. They don’t even know the birthdays of they own parents!!

What happened to those families? Why do they let themselves fall apart like that? Did something go wrong that cause them to isolate themselves from their love ones? Or do they just take for granted that their family will always be there?

I’m still in disbelief that some families don’t act or live like a family. And when you deprive yourself of such liberty, life would really be lonely. Children will start to go astray and hide things from their parents. Parents just assume things are well and dandy when their kids have nothing to complain about. Or is it?

Holding strong to family values is key to ensuring that we all grown up to be responsible and respectful persons. It gives us a sense of belonging and purpose. If we lose sight of what is truly important in our lives, we will eventually lose our own path in life. Family, parents and siblings are the one’s who are supposed to be there in times of wellness and in times of need. They don’t disappear at the sight of trouble. In fact, they preservere and stand even stronger besides you and help you through whatever troubles that crosses your path.

So for those families, that are slightly or temporarily diverted from such path, go back home and sit down with your family. Make sure you allocate some time to be in each other’s company. And you will realise, a strong family will be a happy family. And hopefully we will all mature to be responsible human beings!

Biggest Loser

I truly enjoy the reality show ‘Biggest Loser’ on Hallmark Channel. And no, it’s not about losers = useless people. It’s a show about the race to losing the most weight.

In the show, the participants comprised guys and gals who weigh well over 200pounds and more. They will be trained towards fitness by a professional personal trainer who will also advise on the proper diet. And the participants will race against one another in losing the most weight. Along the process, someone who lose the least weight with a week or so, will then be booted out through votes by fellow participants.

I certainly would not mind having that kind of show done in Brunei. It would be like getting a double bonus i.e. losing my excess weight and winning a lottery when losing the most weight. Fantastic!!

But of course watching it on tv seems like a piece of cake. But it’s not as easy as it looks. Those participants have to go through the gruelling daily routine of ultimate fitness, with the supervision of their merciless and often brutal trainers. But hey, you get results. And that’s the main thing.

look at the result!!

Trainer: Bob & Jillian

The Biggest Loser Gym

part of the gym

Elimination process

Child Abuse

I’ve been hearing stories about circulation of an email showing video of a foreign maid abusing her employer’s young children and toddlers.

Firstly, I hate hearing stories like that. I would automatically visualise those little babies being kicked, stamped and slapped around. Arggghhh!! Truly horrific and inhumane act. How could anyone be so heartless and cruel to do something so violent to innocent and defenseless little beings??

Thinking about my own children, I truly empathise with parents who have experienced this horrible event. The maid in question should be punished severely and totally. There is no excuse for violence on the innocent. This is usually the incident that cause parents to put up cctv at home just to make sure their children are safe in the care of the paid-nanny or maid.

But there are also cases where the family members are the abusive ones. This scenario is even worst. How could they have the heart to hurt their family and love ones? Is there no compassion at all when they do this? What do they hope to gain from inflicting harm on these innocent people? This I will never understand.

So those of you, who know of any incident like this going on here, please please report it immediately. Prolonging it means you’re also an accomplice of the crime. Think about the abused and think about their families, nobody deserve to be mistreated like that, especially children. Don’t let them grow up in fear, make them feel protected at all times.

What’s the point of revenge?

This is one of the many quotes from Mahatma Ghandi.

The typical human nature is that we are never satisfied with what we have and will always seek revenge in the pursuit of the so-called personal justice.

Even in a malay society like our own, those kind of mindset are not fully exempted. When somebody does anything unjust to our own persons, we will feel betrayed and dissatisfied. To regain our own satisfaction, revenge remain the solution, even in actual fact when revenge does nothing more than make the situation worst!

I can truly understand the quote by Gandhi, and it’s true that when we are so absorbed in taking our vengence, we become blinded with this heated emotion and would completely be shut out from all rational thoughts. And yet, we never repent and keep on harbouring these feelings, and thus prolonging our ‘blindness’ to what surrounds us.

But what’s the point? Even the satisfaction that we gained from it is only temporary, after which comes regret. Yet, we never fail to keep on going through the same cycle, each time re-creating the final condition of temporary satiated feeling that eventually leads to more regret.

Allow me to take an example from my own experience. Many years ago, when I was much younger, single and fully loaded with emotions I was in cloud-9, so I thought I was, with a guy. He was the type of guy some parents would truly approve. And so did my parents. Being so in love, I became a willing advocator on everything he tells me. He was a religious man, by profession, so he wanted me to be the ideal muslimah. So I did become that. But somehow, this became complicated. He was the jealous type, and he absolutely disapprove of me hanging out with friends, in particular boys. At that time I was doing my undergraduate in the UK, and I had loads of friends that I hang out with, especially guys. And when I want to have a group study with these guys, he won’t let me. After a while, probably because of over-jealousy, one day he gave me a call, during my examination week, and broke it off just like that!! I was so shocked, sad and angry. Luckily I was more angry than sad, coz if it was the latter, I could have failed in my exams.

I was so angry that he broke it off via phone. Such cowardice. And since that moment my mind was so consumed with revenge. Revenge to teach him a lesson about breaking off relations via phone.

One day, I had the chance to do so with the help of a mutual friend. I went to one of his night-religious class. He saw me, and he looked as if he saw a ghost. Since that day, I was satiated. And since that day, everytime he saw me, he would go the other way.  But now that I think of it, it was silly. And yes, I was so blinded with revenge, that I failed to see anything irrational about it. My mission was ‘to hurt him back’ one way or the other. But all I did was scare him. Well, at least my mind is in peace now. And I never want to go through that again.

That was my experience. And I may say now that I never want to do that again. But the truth is, we just don’t want to change. If we did, then we would stop seeing things like “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth”. It’s just not worth it. So next time, if something like this happens, just pause a moment, and try to reflect and visualise how negative reaction will benefit you. Nil, no negative reaction will benefit anyone. So don’t waste energy trying to make it so.

Spread the love

For me adoption is one of the things that can give a person the greatest joy and fear all at the same time. The greatest joy is being able to adopt beautiful kids and the fear is of course having to go through all the legal processes and just hoping that nothing will disrupt it.

But why do people want to adopt other people’s children? My guesses are: they can’t conceive their own yet, they love children, they want to have a much bigger family, they are humanitarian who strive to saving unwanted children etc. Regardless of the reason, the consequent is there is a new member of the family.

In Brunei, the adoption process is very delicate and complex. And the main players are the civil courts, syariah courts, community department of the Ministry of Culture Youth and Sports, and the Immigration department. If the child to be adopted is a foreigner, then the Embassies would be involved as well. Throughout the various layers of processes, the crucial documents that you always need to have with you are your identity card, latest pay slips, identity of the child’s biological parents, birth certificate of the child, and an agreement letter between the child’s biological parents and the couple adopting.

The scariest process is during the interview at the civil court. It is at that moment, when the child’s biological parents are able to convince the Registrar whether they are truly and really willing to release their child for adoption. Forget about their promises before the interview, it is during the interview you have to wary about. And the Registrar are very strict in this matter, as it is their responsibility to ensure that the whole adoption application is done with the consent of the biological parents. Without it will mean the end of our adoption desire.

For me, I’ve always wanted to adopt a child/ children. Gender is not an issue with me. As long as the baby is healthy, then I’m fine with it. I had this strong desire to adopt unwanted/orphaned children since I was a blossoming teenager. At that time, a group of orphaned male children came to our house. We were hosting a dinner for them. And there was this little boy, sweet boy, healthy but mute. My heart went out to him. And if I was able at that time, I would have adopted him on the spot!! My parents however did try to do that, but the guardian was not willing to let him go as they too are attached and taken by the little boy. He was such a sweetie. I pray everything is well with him now.

I’m envious of people who are able to conceive as many babies as they want. As you know, not everyone is blessed in such a way. For other, we have to wait, and wait, and wait some more, before we are given this gift of a child. The main thing is, even if it seems forever to conceive our own children, adoption is still an option we can take up. But then again, not everyone is willing to do that. For some people, adoption is just out of the question. There could be many reasons for this, and only they will truly know why.

Personally, whether a child is adopted or that child is my own, my treatment will be the same. They are all my babies, from young to old, they will always be my babies. I don’t approve of differentiating between adopted child with biological child. This is an act of selfishness. And I’m totally against it.

There are also some people, who say with their lips how happy they are with the adoption. But in their hearts, they seem divided. And this become visible overtime, through verbal and gestures. Like I said, adoption is not necessarily everyone’s cup of tea. It takes a true saint and pure of heart to truly accept someone else as their own. And I just hope there are more saints out there than not.

Even though I’m already blessed with 3 kids, I’m still and always on the look out to adopt unwanted children. I just adore and love children. I love watching them grow, learn and blossom with age. It’s like watching a miracle happen under my own rooftop! For me, my children are my peace, havoc, happiness, sadness.. all the wonderful mixture of life. And it’s something we will never tire of. Believe me.

So for those of you out there, if you’re thinking of giving your child for adoption, whatever the reason, please do get in touch with me Myself and many others are all just waiting for the chance to embrace a new member into our own family. They will be well cared for and loved.

Snap!

A few days ago my team and I had successfully held a course on photography and news writing. It was interesting to sit through all the lectures which I find truly refreshing. But after all have been done, the most difficult task now is to write a report about it.

I’m actually having a mental block with the report because I’m trying to find the most suitable introductory on photography. I know what photography is but somehow I just get stuck on what does it really mean in my line of work. So here I am, trying to think and blog about it.

Personally, photography to me is about capturing moments in my life which one day I hope I can share with my grown up children and grand children, and even great grand children. At my own time, I would take picture of my children, candid pictures of course. Then I would spend even more time editing those picture, cropping them just to give that extra ‘umph’. But my photos composition is pretty amateurish. And I know I need to learn more about the art of photography. But for my own personal purpose, my current standard would just have to do for now.

But in my line of work, photography is more than keeping a memory of things of events that had occurrred. Photography in my line of work is more about capturing images of our activities, our organisation, our people and everything that we are, and then use those digital images to pass an even more important message to our stakeholders. Here, skill and expertise in taking the photo are of the utmost importance. Therefore, I had this course conducted to ensure that such skills and expertise are present within my organisation.

But still, I’m stuck with my own introduction on what photography is. I know technology has a huge impact on photography. The latest camera on the market shelf, with it’s fancy price tags, has the capability to produce digital images of mind-blowing super-wow. Cameras nowadays are able to capture the right lighting, sharpness, and give fantastic effects. But that’s on the technical side.

Again, I’m still stuck. I remember the phrase ‘a picture tells a thousand stories’. Again this is how the final outcome of the image taken has the capacity to influence certain perception. But for those actually looking through the camera lens, what do they feel when taking these photos?

Personally, when I take snapshots, I like to focus on those little-little things like insects on plants, tree bark, flowers etc. When I take picture, it’s the same feeling like when I’m drawing or painting. It’s like doing art, but with sophisticated gadgets. At the turn of the lens or press of the ISO button or Shutter speed or aperture, the object captured becomes an art of its own. But this type of art is in the assistance of a gadget. Different from drawing and painting where our own hands and minds control the shades and texture of the art piece.

I just don’t know. I’m still stuck. Maybe my brain is just tired.

But maybe those of you reading this can share with me, what is photography? What does it mean in our society today? Why do people love photography so much? I have so many questions in my head… argggghhh!!

Tickle Your Taste Bud

A friend of mine a few weeks back had made an attempt to try some of the local dishes in Singapore. He claimed he had crocodile feet, turtle soup (with the feet still intact), black chicken, frog saliva and stinky tofu. Quite a bizarre menu and I wonder how his stomach took it.

I don’t think I have ever had the chance to taste any bizarre food.. well not yet that is. I’ve always wanted to try eating fried insects like grasshopper, scorpion… or ever flower . I have always wondered how those things tasted. I had this idea of eating fried insects and flowers since I saw a tv programme on bizarre food around the world. They way those people were gulping the dishes down make it seems as if it might just be tasty. But then again, looks can be deceiving. Maybe their taste buds are way experienced to endure the taste. Then again, I don’t mind trying. And I do hope I will one day get the chance to do so.

don’t that look scrumptious.. zucchinni flower fritters.. yummmm… I wanttt!!!

The only bizarre food that I had eaten (accidentally) was cow’s tongue. A friend of mine tricked me into eating it. She just told me to have a taste. Then I did, I chewed, and I swallowed. It tasted really weird. Then my friend told me it was cow’s tongue. My stomach did a somersault. I really didn’t like it. I kept imagining as if I was french-kissing the cow. Yuck!!! So never again. And I warned her not to serve me that dish ever, ever again. Yuck!!

that tongue should stay with the cow and not end up on the dish plate!

I saw this tv programme called Bizarre Food with Andrew Zimmerman or something like that, and in one of the episode he had to eat durian. And he actually gagged before even putting the durian into his mouth! He just couldn’t take it in. He was so disgusted and disturbed by the durian aroma. What a sissy!! And this is the guy who ate maggots, bats, belut, and other way weirder food before. And he falterred at the sight or rather the smell of a durian. Go figure!!

If somebody gave me durians, I would just gulp it down. I like eating durian, especially our local bruneian durian. Yum Yum… wonder when the durian season is :p

yummmmmm.. I’m drooling now *slurrppp*

Anyway, talking about food always make me hungry, even when it’s about bizarre food. So I’m off to visit my fridge now. In the meantime, if you happen to think of one or more type of food considered bizarre to share with us ok.

Girlie Flicks

What movies do you enjoy watching, that you would watch it again and again?? I have quite a few movie favourites that I can never tire of. I especially like the type of movies that has a happy ending, like a kind of fairy-tale story.

PRETTY WOMAN. To me this is a classic! I fell in love with this movie not just because both of the leading actors/ actress are among my fav celebrities but the story is sooooo romantic and so far out! I would rate it 8/10!! I’m such a sucker for romantic movies.

NEVER BEEN KISSED. Drew Barrymore is an absolute dork in this movie. But the fact that she had a second chance to go back to high school and crowned prom queen is something to really watch out for. I love the ideals of this undercover reporter falling in love with her shakespeare teacher… awwwwwwww… another romance. I grade it a 7.

MISS CONGENIALITY. Sandra Bullock started off as a bushy eye-browed FBI agent who just happened to get assigned to go undercover as one of the beauty pageant contestants. I totally enjoyed the make-over  scene, especially when sandra’s character was beautifully transformed that  her fellow male agents just went ga-gay. Loved it!! I give it 8!!

EVER AFTER. A modern yet medieval version of the Cinderella story. I especially like the slight twist that Cinderella, Drew Barrymore, turned out to be an intellectual gal at medieval times, who also happen to be quite a fiesty character. I give it a 6.5.

ENCHANTED. Not really into the toon part during the earlier part of the movie. But I truly enjoyed the scene at the park, when everything just came to live and people were singing and dancing all over.. so broadway :p I also enjoyed when Giselle ‘sung’ a calling to her little furry/ feathery animal friends to help her tidy the apartment in the city.. and guess what turned up?! Pigeons, cockroaches, and sewer rats!! hahaha.. that was funny. I give it a 6.

BLOOD: The Last Vampire

At the weekend my family and I went to watch the new movie Blood: The Last Vampire. I was so excited and looking forward to watching it because the movie trailer seemed really really good. But after spending about 1hr 15mins watching it, it was not as I had hoped it would be.

The movie was truly bloody, with heads amputated from the bodies, other body parts being chopped and blood particles splashed all over the movie screen about 80% of the time. The fights were truly superb, as expected from a Japanese movie. But the so-called evil monsters were clearly computer animated, it looked soooooo fake and lame. The movie dialogue was disappointing too. Overall, the movie storyline was so predictable, no surprises at all.

After watching it, I grade it a 4.5/10. So if you’re planning to see this movie, you’re better off staying at home!!

Penelope

When I have nothing better to do, I would just enjoy a relaxing time watching HBO or anything interesting on Astro Channel. Recently I watched the movie Penelope. I’ve been wanting to watch it, and finally I did. Penelope is one of those fairy-tale type of movie. The storyline begins with a girl called penelope who was born with a curse attached. The curse made her look like a pig, with the snout and thin ears. To break the curse, she has to get herself a husband. So to expedite the process, her mom hired a match-maker who listed out all the single nobles and arranged for them tie the knot with Penelope. Appointments were arranged for the bachelors to ‘meet’ penelope through a one-way mirror. She could see her potential suitors but they can’t see her. Rather than spoiling the surprise, I will let you guys discover the rest of story. After watching it, I would grade it a 7.

So when you  get the chance, do watch this movie. It’s something not to be missed, especially if you appreciate fairy-tale type movies.

Transformer II

It was fantastic!!!! A 2.5hrs movie you cannot miss! I was kind of worried when I went to the cinema last Tuesday, especially with the rising cases of swine flu in the country. But I didn’t really have to worry much because I’ve gotten myself vaccinated, and I watch my hygiene and diet.

Anyhow, if you haven’t seen the latest Transformer movie, better get your tickets now!! Over 10, I would give it a 10!! yeahhh!!!

By the way, just want to say HAPPIEST BIRTHDAY to my babu… we’re having a party at Ruby’s tonight.. lovey duvey cake for my mom!! Love u Mom!! muahzzzzzz…

Rock for sport?

The most sought after sporting activity that seems to a rise of interest in would probably be rock climbing. At my work place, we have a 1.5 storey high rock climbing wall which seems to be a great hit among our incoming visitors. Whenever we have visit tertiary academic  institutions, I would always bring them over to have a try on our rocky wall. And every single time, everyone just enjoy themselves and seem to be caught in the sport, forgetting the time.

I think there should be more facilities extending this new sport activity. It is probably for those thrill seeker, but at the same time for the ordinary individuals, it is a sport that will certainly raise their self confidence and physical strength.

As for me, I’m afraid of heights. But yet I have the craving to try the sport. So maybe one day I will. When I start to lose more weights, to make myself light enough to just breeze through the rock climbing activity. Hopefully one day

M.J. Died at 50

Michael Jackson, the former King of Pop, died in Los Angeles on Thursday afternoon after suffering an apparent cardiac arrest in his home. He was 50 years old.

According to press reports, the singer was pronounced dead at 2:26 p.m. at the Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center not far from his rental mansion in the Holmby Hills. The cause of death wasn’t known. In recent times, Jackson had been busy with preparations for a planned comeback tour, set to begin within weeks in England.

But like any celebrity, there seems to be some mystery associated with M.J. death. One day after his sudden death, speculation was already turning to what killed the 50-year-old “King of Pop” just weeks before a long-awaited series of comeback concerts.

A family attorney said today he had been concerned that Jackson’s use of prescription drugs for dancing-related injuries would eventually prove fatal and that the entertainer’s inner circle had ignored his warnings.

Authorities scheduled an autopsy for Friday. But they cautioned it could take weeks to determine a cause of death, which will likely have to wait for the return of toxicology tests. Those tests will determine if Jackson had any drugs, alcohol or prescription medications in his system.

We hope we can get answer soon. In the meantime, condolences to the family. M.J. will be greatly missed. We love u Michael!

Wolverine

Finally, I manage to drag myself and watch WOLVERINE on a decent dvd. It was full of special effects. Fantastic!! But the flow of the story was not as good as in X-Men. Anyway, I would grade it 7/10. Just because Jackman, Henney and Reynolds are in it

Shrivelled for Health

I was referring to raisins, if you’re wondering about the title of this post. It was a few days ago that I bought myself a fitness magazine. One of the articles had a title that says “Raisins cut appetite and Improve Blood Fats”.  Wanting to know more, I googled on the benefit of raisins and this was what I found:

“The health benefit of raisins is that they are an antioxidant. These help keep the blood clean and flowing. They get rid of all unclean impurities in the blood, raisins can’t do the job alone, there are other fruits and juices that act as antioxidants and together they can cleanse the blood and make you healthier. Raisins are said to beneficial for bone density. The minerals in raisins in conjunction with estrogen in women help make bones stronger and ward off osteoporosis.

Raisins are also great for healthy gums and teeth. Though raisins are sticky and very sweet, they do not cause tooth decay ore gum disease. The key ingredient in raisins that help promote good oral hygiene is called phytonutrients and olenolic acid. Raisins are also a preventative measure for macular degeneration, which is the health of your eyesight. Just as carrots are good for your eyesight as are raisins. Overall, raisins help with eyesight, oral hygiene and they act as antioxidants. Raisins are sweet and great tasting and promote good health.”

After reading that, I got myself a big box of yummy and shrivelled raisins

By the way, I just wanna say HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my 2nd Brother.. he’s 29 today!! You’re getting old dude :p

Happy 63rd Birthday

A day of great celebration has finally arrived. Happy 63rd Birthday to our beloved Monarch, may Allah watch over His Majesty and the country. Although the celebration this year has been put off to a later date, as precaution against the swine flu pandemic, but the whole country will still be performing the mass prayers for the Monarch’s birthday.That’s the most important event

Let’s just pray that the pandemic will not drag on too long. May Allah protect us all from this illness. Amin Ya Rabbil Alamin.

What you need to know about Swine Flu.

Brunei’s first A(H1N1) casualty was a 12 year old girl, who also had a chronic condition. The medical team is still trying to find out how the girl got infected in the first place. But we express our condolences to the family.

In the aftermath of that news, I became really worried. Thinking that I still don’t kno much about this infection.  Recently, I was surfing the website www.medicalnewstoday.com and I found useful information about the swine flu infection. I hope you will take time to have a read through, you truly need to know what the infection really means.

Swine flu (swine influenza) is a disease of pigs. It is a highly contagious respiratory disease caused by one of many Influenza A viruses. Approximately 1% to 4% of pigs that get swine flu die from it. It is spread among pigs by direct and indirect contact, aerosols, and from pigs that are infected but do not have symptoms. In many parts of the world pigs are vaccinated against swine flu.

Most commonly, swine flu is of the H1N1 influenza subtype. However, they can sometimes come from the other types, such as H1N2, H3N1, and H3N2.

The current outbreak of swine flu that has infected humans is of the H1N1 type – this type is not as dangerous as some others.

Avian Influenza (Bird Flu) can also infect pigs

Avian flu and human seasonal flu viruses can infect pigs, as well as swine influenza. The H3N2 influenza virus subtype, a virulent one, is thought to have come from pigs – it went on to infect humans.

It is possible for pigs to be infected with more than one flu virus subtype simultaneously. When this happens the genes of the viruses have the opportunity to mingle. When different flu subtypes mix they can create a new virus which contains the genes from several sources – a reassortant virus.

Although swine influenza tends to just infect pigs, they can, and sometimes do, jump the species barrier and infect humans.

What is the risk for human health?

Outbreaks of human infection from a virus which came from pigs (swine influenza) do happen and are sometimes reported. Symptoms will generally be similar to seasonal human influenzas – this can range from mild or no symptoms at all, to severe and possibly fatal pneumonia.

As swine flu symptoms are similar to typical human seasonal flu symptoms, and other upper respiratory tract infections, detection of swine flu in humans often does not happen, and when it does it is usually purely by chance through seasonal influenza surveillance. If symptoms are mild it is extremely unlikely that any connection to swine influenza is found – even if it is there. In other words, unless the doctors and experts are specifically looking for swine flu, it is rarely detected. Because of this, we really do not know what the true human infection rate is.

Examples of known swine flu infecting humans

Since the World Health Organization’s (WHO’s) implementation of IHR (2005) in 2007, they have been notified of swine influenza cases from the USA and Spain.

In March/April 2009 human cases of influenza A swine fever (H1N1) were first reported in California and Texas. Later other states also reported cases. A significant number of human cases during the same period have also been reported in Mexico – starting just in Mexico City, but now throughout various parts of the country. More cases are being reported in Canada, Europe, and New Zealand – mainly from people who have been in Mexico.

How does a human catch swine influenza?

• From contact with infected pigs (most common way)
• From contact with infected humans (much less common way)

In cases when humans have infected other humans close contact was necessary with the infected person, and they nearly always occurred in closed groups of people.

Where have pigs been infected?

As swine influenza infection among pigs is not an internationally notifiable disease we cannot be completely sure. Swine influenza infection among pigs is known to be endemic in the USA. Outbreaks have also occurred in other parts of North America, South American, Europe, Africa, China, Japan, and other parts of Asia.

Is there a pandemic risk?

People who are not in close contact with pigs generally have no immunity to the swine influenza viruses – they are less likely to be able to prevent a virus infection. If the virus infects enough people in a given area, the risk of an influenza pandemic is significantly greater. Experts say it is very hard to predict what impact a flu pandemic caused by a swine influenza virus would have on the global human population. This would depend on how virulent the virus is, what existing immunity among humans there already is, plus several other factors.

Do we have a specific swine flu vaccine?

No – not for humans.

Will current human flu vaccines help protect people from swine influenza infection?

We really don’t know. Influenza viruses are adapting and changing all the time. If a vaccine was made, it would have to be specifically for a current strain that is circulating for it to be effective. The WHO says it needs access to as many viruses as possible so that it can isolate the most appropriate candidate vaccine.

What are the signs and symptoms of swine influenza in humans?

They are similar to those of regular flu, and include:

• Body aches
• Chills
• Cough
• Diarrhea (less common)
• Headache
• Sore throat
• Temperature (fever)
• Tiredness (fatigue)
• Vomiting (less common)

What medications are there?

There are some drugs around that can effectively treat swine flu infection in humans – and many types of flu infections in humans. There are two main types:

• adamantanes (amantadine and remantadine)
• inhibitors of influenza neuraminidase (oseltamivir and zanamivir)

Most previous swine influenza human cases recovered completely without the need for medical attention.

What can I do to protect myself?

• Wash your hands regularly with soap
• Try to stay healthy
• Get plenty of sleep
• Do plenty of exercise
• Try to manage your stress
• Drink plenty of liquids
• Eat a well balanced diet
• Refrain from touching surfaces which may have the virus
• Do not get close to people who are sick
• Stay away from crowded areas if there is a swine flu outbreak in your area

If I am infected, how can I stop others from becoming infected?

• Limit your contact with other people
• Do not go to work or school
• When you cough or sneeze cover your mouth with a tissue. If you do not have a tissue, cover your mouth and nose.
• Put your used tissues in a waste basket
• Wash your hands and face regularly
• Keep all surfaces you have touched clean
• Follow your doctor’s instructions

Tradition over-rated?

Not many people are comfortable with the notion of change. Some people prefer to stay in the status quo and be complacent with what they have. While some other group of people prefer the opposite, always striving to make a difference,  a more positive change to what they already have.  In other words, they want to become what is usually not becoming of others.

Change is inevitable. Everything we see, feel, touch, hear and taste changes with time. Some more obvious change, other in a much slower pace. But change do happen. With that in mind, how come some people still resist change?

Holding onto tradition is an example of resisting change. But some may argue, tradition is the only proof of people’s origin. Personally, in this globalised era it is difficult to really define someone or something base on tradition or practiced culture. We are just not what we used to be. Our surroundings are now more open rather than the olden-ways of merely confined to a certain demography, culture or traditions. Even the younger generation nowadays are slowly forgetting their own traditions and way of life and opted to living a life that is more of MTV kind.

For Brunei Darussalam, tradition is an ideology that the older generation still hold onto very firmly. And it remains the desire of these older generation for the tradition to be contiued by the next and younger generation for many years to come and beyond. In this aim, many platforms have been utilised to ensure that our children are constantly reminded of their roots and origin. This can be seen through the contents of curriculums, projects, forums and exercises that involve youths and bringing them closer to their traditions and culture.

As a bruneian, I don’t think tradition is over-rated. But I do think it remains in the danger zone of being extinct. Tradition is a very tedious process. But a process that should be preserved so that our great-great grandchildren will still have the priviledge of understanding how our humble country came into being. It is our tradition and culture and belief that have shaped the way we are today. And it is indeed amazing how we have managed to still practice our tradition, despite the evolution of time and lifestyle around us.

Let’s just hope we will be able to share our traditions and culture for many more years to come. And to ensure that, each of us, as Bruneians, have a role to play. So let’s start doing our part!

Better Under Disguise

I was just clicking away on my astro remote control, and on Star Movies channel ‘Mrs Doubtfire’ was playing. That movie is basically about a recently divorced and unemployed dad of three children disguised himself as a 60+ year old lady and worked as a nanny at his ex-wife’s household just to be close to his children! and probably trying to patch things up with the ex-mrs as well.

Mrs Doubtfire role is played by Robin Williams, and we all know how wonderful and renowned he is with his acting skills. Anyhow, there are many more movies like this, where the character pretends to be what they’re not through disguise. We have that other movie Tootsie, also about a guy (acted by Justin Hoofman) who couldn’t get an acting career until he disguised himself as a women and landed himself in an all favourite drama series role!

This brings us to the question, it is true that people DO judge a book by its cover? Do we behave differently to the same people when they’re disguised as something else? Why do we tend to be judgmental about other people? How about those people who are actually doing the disguise? What do they hope to achieve by doing that?

Personally, I think it’s human nature. We like to judge things, especially things that are different and unknown to us. To add spice, sometimes we even judge with a little wild imagination added to the whole thing. Probably hoping to make it seem more exciting that it really is or just so that other people will listen to our translation of possibilities.

As for the one in disguise, probably they just hope to get a different reaction from people. Probably being themselves was just not enough. Or there could be a totally different reason all together! If you know, do tell me…

But all in all, we know that being judgmental bring no benefit to anyone. But somehow we still do it, every single time! So what do other people think about this? Do you agree or not? Do give me your comments….

Empowerment is just an illusion.

A lot of people make attempts to relate to empowerment without really understanding what it truly means. One way of looking at empowerment is that it is a multi-dimensional social process that helps people gain control over their own lives. It is a process that fosters power in people for use in their own lives, their communities and in their society, by acting on issues they define as important. Additionally, empowerment is the process of increasing the capacity of individuals or groups to make choices and to transform those choices into desired actions and outcomes

In a nutshell, empowerment is not what other people can give to you. It is about you making your own choices and  by your own ways on how you wish to live your life. Now that is true empowerment.

Putting aside the definition of the word, is it really possible that one can truly and realistically feel empowered? Or is it just make-believe? An illusion that seems to give us an excuse for not being the best that we can be? How can one really be empowered?

Empowerment, empowered, empowering or to empower are all words meaning, in my own definition, to have a power to do something. Power here is an entity that is more internal rather than external. Internal meaning, it is what a person feels inside, something that is quite synonymous to confidence, wits, visionary and belief all at once. When looking at that way, it is quite an amazing word. Too amazing to comprehend for an ordinary being to even aspire for. But yet, not impossible.

Earlier in the month, I attended a forum that touched on the role of women today and how the word empowerment was constantly referred to women’s changing role. Personally, even before the forum I couldn’t really get a grasp on how I can truly be empowered. I certainly don’t feel empowered. This is probably my lack of understanding of being empowered.

Today, quite suddenly and unexpectedly, it just hit me. Empowerment lies with my own self. It is how I face the world, goodtimes and badtimes, and still manage to stand tall and pursue after what I believe in. The influence of being empowered cannot be diminished by people or surrounding that act as resistance to it. The influence and power still lies and always will and always has been with the individual being empowered.

With that new revelation, I experience a new outlook on things around me. I’ve been feeling quite out of sort with my surrounding, feeling that I was just incapacitated to do anything at all. But somehow, my mind seems to have re-focused itself and I feel a sense of calmness.

I guess my problem is that I always try too hard to change my surrounding. Every single waking moments, I feel I just need to do something to change the world. I know my limitations. And it is within that recognised limitations that I can still make a difference. But for the last few weeks, things just got harder and new insights revealed that seem to act as hindering blocks to my quest to save the world, or save what is closest to my surrounding that is.

Anyhow, I’m totally at peace with myself. I just forgot that changing the world will take time, and I have to expect resistance to it, eventhough those resistance initially claimed to be my alliance in my quest. I just have to keep my own thoughts and vision intact. If I begin to falter, then all is lost.

So to all of you out there, if you happen to fall into that brief moment of forgetting what you aspire to do. Please just take a breather, relax yourself, and try to refocus again on what matters most. Life is a roller-coaster, it has its ups and downs. So just sit back when you get to the down part, and rejoyce when you get to the up part. But most importantly, just don’t lose yourself in the journey.

Know who you are to know what you can achieve.

A recent seminar brought to my attention the concept of Personal Brand. It is an element that adds value to the brand or reputation of an organisation, derived from the person running the show or business. Usually it is associated with the leader of an organisation.

I’ve always believed that in the mission of sustaining solid and credible reputation, it has to start from the people themselves. Beginning from the leaders and cascaded to the supporting staff on the ground.

Now, the most difficult task is the HOW.

How do we establish and solidify our own personal brand in order to augment or boost the good name of our organisation? What exactly do we need to do?

Base on my observation, a well respected and sustainable personal brand largely depends on the personality and attitude  of the leader. Personally, for a person to leave a positive mark or aura, they have to behave in a way that is acceptable by others. Like the saying “treat people how you wish to be treated yourself.” This is a useful quote to use in reminding us how we should conduct ourselves in the presence of others.

I’ve noticed in my few years of employment with staff working under me, they are happier and more productive when I acknowledge their hard work and empathise with any shortcoming they may face, be in at work or even outside of work.

Sometimes, when so engrossed with work overloads, leaders tend to forget that workers are still human. Eveything and anything they do can easily be affected by certain variables that goes on in their respective lives. Just because a worker under-perform doesn’t mean he or she is lazy or incapable. There could be other reasons, beyond work, that caused the worker to slack, probably unintentionally.

Therefore, it is essential that leaders and workers alike treat each other in a more human manner. We all have issues and problems, but in making a difference we can tackle whatever challenges we encounter together.

I’ve always found that “working like a family” does wonder for productivity. Working and caring may sounds sappy, but it is how we can ensure leaders and workers work side by side in a more friendly and motivated environment. Just look at how children perform better when parents reward they good efforts through encouring words, hugs, or even star stickers! The idea is ensure good efforts or work are warranted with appropriate recognition and motivation.

Another crucial criteria in emanating positive and credible personal brand is how well a leader perform in bringing about change within an organisation. This includes they leadership qualities, intra- and interpersonal skills, visions forward, values and charisma. These qualities are indeed a package for an ideal leader, not many have it, but few do.

It is important that characteristics such as these are nurtured continously. It is part of the delicate process of uncovering respected and effective leaders.

There are many more ways we can use to establish our own personal brand. But one thing for sure, it takes a lot of effort and strong dedication. And that in itself is the greatest challenge that you can face in this particular mission. Again, the outcome will depend on how you, as a leader, is able to exude and act upon your best qualities and at the same time to optimise resources around you. It would indeed be an interesting journey. And I, for one, am enjoying the ride so far! So why don’t you give it a try too!

Leaders are born not made!

I guess this post is somewhat related to my previous post. And one that I’m interested to explore further into.

How many of us truly understand what being a leader is all about? What does it mean to be a leader? What does a leader have to do? And how do the actions of a leader differ from the actions of a follower?

I know my questions are pretty heavy and the answers that I’m about to give will certainly raise a few eyebrows if not disagreement. But hey, I’m just sharing my thoughts. If any of you wish to contest any of my statements, please do so. I always enjoy a good argument, for constructive reasons of course.

To me a leader is the chosen individual in running a mission and somehow manages to pull through without compromising the essentials. Sounds confusing? Let me give another definition. A leader, to me that is, is a person who has the charisma, skills, knowledge, confidence and dedication to bring everyone in his team on a journey or a mission promising eventual feat. A leader is the boss but yet a team player; be firm with decisions but yet not brushing aside input or feedback from other team members; professional and skillful; confident but yet not cocky; focused and not complacent.

My description of a leader may probably sound too good to be true. But it is not impossible for someone to possess these qualities. The next question is, what does a leader have to do other than merely own the mentioned qualities?

Leaders have to know how to lead a team/ mission. A leader has to know how to command his team with motivation rather than oppression. A leader needs to nurture a sense of belonging, loyalty and confidence upon his team so that his leadership will be supported without questions. A leader has to make plans, execute the plan and review the plan (rather than leaving the latter two actions to the team members as usually the case). A leader has to see himself/ herself as part of the team, not as the big shot. Modesty and humility are essential.

Of course, the list of actions that a leader can pursue is indeed endless. But I’m not going to bore myself or my readers any further than deemed necessary. I will let you do that to yourself

Anyhow, my favourite question now is, are leaders born or made?? Which is your thoughts?

I certainly think real leaders are born. But before such leaders can really realise and utilise their capabilities, they need to be groomed and nurtured to bcome the true and potential leaders that they are. We can’t just groom any Tom, Dick and Harry.. a potential leader has a certain X-factor that make them stand out from the rest. The X-factor may not be something that is tangible, or something that can be seen with the naked eye. It may sound so far out, but hey, this is my own observation.

So the next time a new leader has been selected at your organisation/ unit/ team, just take time-out to observe their every actions, inaction, speech and attitude. I’m sure you will notice a difference, between good leaders and not so good leaders to exceptionally superb leaders!

So if you’re a leader of some sort, do drop me a comment and share your own observation on what makes an exceptionally superb leader.

Magical World

Since the publication of J.K. Rowling book series about a boy named Harry Potter, the world seems to be hypnotised by Rowling’s illustration of wizardry and witch craft. Then there is also Chronicles of Narnia, a movie about four orphaned siblings stumbled onto a secret passage via a wardrobe into a magical land with magical creatures like centeurs, majestic lion Aslan, and many more.

When looking back at history, it’s quite ironic that a community that has a historical background of literally hanging any individual believed to be involved in deviationist activity like black magic or witchcraft has over night embraced the storyline of harry potter.

Personally, I enjoy watching Hollywood version of Harry Potter and Chronicles of Narnia, all encompassing such magical moments, wonderful special effects and wild imagination. But to have those in reality, no thanks. I prefer my reality to just be what it is right now, boring and more human. I think if our lives are anything like in those movies, I doubt very much if I could even have a decent sleep at night. I would be worrying all the time about what will suddenly appear from my wardrobe or from my fire place! So in this real work, I prefer to remain a muggle

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Botox, liposuction, face lifts etc… all claimed to be done in the quest for greater beauty.. so they said.

Somehow nowadays, especially in hollywood, people, men and women, are so obssessed with the idea of looking young. This is probably because once you start showing signs of aging, nobody would want to cast you for any movies. Oh well that’s hollywood!

But the sad thing is, other ordinary people, who may be under the influence of the fame and glamour of hollywood, have also succumed to similar obssession. And the tragic is, not all of them end up looking like beauty queens or mr. universe. There have been stories of plastic surgery going wrong, and the beauty-wannabe turn out to look like alien beasts with swollen and distorted faces and other body parts!

It’s scary to be the one experiencing these tragic surgical failures. But hey, the risks have always been there. And it was just a matter of choice, whether you want it or not. And for some, it was indeed the worst choice to make.

Personally, it’s understandable for an individual to always want to look their best. On a daily  basis we do that simply by adorning ourselves with fashionable and flattering clothes, glowing make-up products, beautifully scented fragrances and the most sensual hair do! But for some, this seems to be inadequate. They just have to go the extra mile and get themselve on the surgery table and make corrective alterations to they entire body. I don’t think I have the guts to just lie still at the end of the cutting knife. I’m happy the way I am. I may not be a beauty queen, but at least I can I’m wholly original!

Not many people, especially in hollywood, and even those around us can say they’re physically totally original. Some people, like I said, are willing to go the extra distance to achieve that so-called perfect look for themselves. A better nose job, more satisfying bumper size, more hair and other imperfections they wish to have perfected. And such works are not without it’s pain. Other than pain from all the knife cutting and needle piercing, your purse string will feel the pinch as well.

Again, it’s a matter of choice. And only those with big purse can opt for that choice. For us common and monthly paid community, I will just settle with my natural beauty. As the saying goes ‘Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’. So the next time someone tells you that you’re not pretty, just treat them as if they’re blind. It means they’re not really looking. I don’t believe there’s such thing as ugly people. Ugliness is merely an invention from hatred and jealousy. While beauty is a creation from sincerity, modesty and love for life.

So for you gorgeous people out there, beauty is skin deep. Take good care of what you feel inside, and take good care of what comes out from inside, then only then will true beauty surfaces and capture the hearts of those around you. Stay beautiful people! Love ya all!

Girl Power!

No, I’m not referring to the Spice Girls! I’m referring to all women, and how they too can have the power to unravel the best of what they can become.

More common than not, the community still places little significant and acknowledgement on women’s postential. The notion of the world being male dominated is slowly dwindling. Women are rising to significance faster than you think. More and more girls are getting better and higher education, and more and more women are assuming higher executive positions in the corporate and even government sector.

This post is actually dedicated to boosting and heightening the morale and self-awareness of other women, ladies and girls who still think they don’t have what it takes to become their potential successful self. The secret to success is that there is no secret! To be successful doesn’t require other people to keep tabs on you and what you do so you will excel. To be successful doesn’t not require you to come from rich families in order to enjoy the various opportunities out there. To be successful only requires women, ladies and girls to believe in themselves. You have to be focused, you have to be brave, courageous, committed, dedicated and most importantly not be afraid to fight for what you want. Nobody can tell you that you will fail unless you allow them to do so. Nobody can tell you you can’t do something unless you allow them to do so.

It’s a matter of how we are able to take hold our own heart and mind and focus on what we truly want!

Another misconception about success is that, you have to end our with loads of money to be successful. Wrong!! Success is about achieving the greatest feat, not necessarily having to associated with any materialistic assets. Success is about feeling good and fulfilled at the end of the day. Feeling that you have done everything in your power and reaping the outcome that brings out the best in you and those around you. Success is about fulfillment and peace of mind!

You don’t not other to motivate you into doing something that you’re already good at. You just have to motivate yourself. Motivation is indeed a contagious feeling, that once you get the ball rolling, others around you will surrender themselves to this internal and natural ecstacy. Appreciate yourself more, only then will you have the confidence and motivation to step a little further out, hopefully into a world of greater opportunities.

So for all the women, ladies and girls.. it’s time to show everyone what you can do. And nothing and nobody can stop you once you have your mind set on it. Believe in yourself, and you will surely achieve!

My Desire

I’m quite a keen singer, especially on the karaoke set and one of my favourite karaoke song is by Mary MacGregor titled “Torn Between Two Lovers”.

It’s a pretty easy song to sing, with moderate beats and requires no screaming at all. So it’s no wonder that I like to sing it every single time.

On the other hand, the song lyrics has indepth meaning for me.  It was one of those song lyrics that happen to make sense to me at specific juncture in my life. And I hope by sharing the song lyrics with you all, you too maybe will discover a much deeper meaning from it.

There are times when a woman has to say what’s on her mind
Even though she knows how much it’s gonna hurt
Before I say another word let me tell you I love you
Let me hold you close and say these words as gently as I can

There’s been another man that I’ve needed and I’ve loved
But that doesn’t mean I love you less
And he knows you can’t possess me and he knows he never will
There’s just this empty place inside of me that only he can fill

CHORUS
Torn between two lovers, feelin’ like a fool
Lovin’ both of you is breakin’ all the rules
Torn between two lovers, feelin’ like a fool
Lovin’ you both is breakin’ all the rules

You mustn’t think you’ve failed me just because there’s someone else
You were the first real love I ever had
And all the things I ever said, I swear they still are true
For no one else can have the part of me I gave to you

CHORUS

I couldn’t really blame you if you turned and walked away
But with everything I feel inside, I’m asking you to stay

CHORUS

Torn between two lovers
FADE
Feelin’ like a fool
Lovin’ both of you is breakin’ all the rules

Little Einsteins

One of my son’s favourite tv programme is the LITTLE EINSTEINS. I think it’s a wonderful programme that teaches children about classical music. The interactive programme also educates children on selected verbs and adverbs.

So if you have young children, do click onto the Playhouse Disney Channel and do watch the Little Einsteins in action.

Hot Dog Dance!

My mornings always involve with turning the tv to the Playhouse Disney Channel. Just to make sure my son is kept pre-occupied while I get ready for work. And every morning, his favourite show is of course Mickey Mouse Club House. He especially like when mickey and his friends get on the dance floor to do the Hot Dog dance. My son would try to mimic the cartoon and he looked so funny and adorable.

Tongue Twisters

I always enjoy tongue twisters. It can indeed get your tongue on a tangle! But it’s a useful exercise to better improve your articulation. Have a try on this! It’s one of my fav!

Betty Botter bought some butter,
“But,” she said, “this butter’s bitter.
If I bake this bitter butter,
It will make my batter bitter.
But a bit of better butter -
That would make my batter better.”
So she bought a bit of butter,
Better than her bitter butter,
And she baked it in her batter,
And the batter was not bitter.
So ’twas better Betty Botter
Bought a bit of better butter.

If you thought that betty botter bit was hard, wait till you have a try on the wood chuck phrase!

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
He would chuck, he would, as much as he could,
And chuck as much wood as a woodchuck would
If a woodchuck could chuck wood.

This next one is one of the hardest tongue twister I came across. Somehow my tongue just gets all tangled up. I’m still trying to master saying this phrase:

Sarah saw a shot-silk sash shop full of shot-silk sashes as the sunshine shone on the side of the shot-silk sash shop.

Peace of Mind

Have you ever wanted to just go away from the hustle and bustle of city life? A retreat from all the work stress, deadlines, complaints, requests and traffic? To live  a life without worrying too much about money, bills and credit cards?

A world free from capitalism, communism, marxism and terrorism? Does such a utopia world exist?

After a hard and long day at work, I am always looking forward to going home. Going home means being in the company of my love ones, my family, spending time with them and appreciating what we have together. But being at home does not put an end to my constant worry and concern for the future welfare of those I love. And working hard is one of the ways that I know how to do in ensuring the future security of my family.

Thinking likewise, sometimes put quite a heavy pressure on oneself. It continues to be an alarm clock or reminder that if we want comfort and financial security when we’re old, we have to work hard now, in order to reach the top. Money is essential. The saying that goes “Money Makes the World Go Round” is indeed true. Especially in today’s world.

I’m at this juncture in life where I’m beginning to rethink all my previous actions, especially in how I approach life. I spend approximately 8hrs working at the office, and when I go home I still end up trying to finish up some of my working documents for the next day in which I may spend even up to an extra 2-3 hours. Aside from that, I still have the committment and responsibility to cater to the needs of my family, as a wife to my husband and a mother to my children.

With all those responsibilities harbouring on my shoulders, there seems to be not enough hours in day to do it all. And in fulfilling my responsibilities to other people, I forget my own responsibility to myself.

Sometimes, the pressure and workloads can be overwhelming. But when I look back at what I manage to provide for my family, it seems to be all worth it. The wish that remains is for me not to fall to deep into trying to hard to work towards materialistic things. I need to free myself from such thoughts. I need my own peace of mind.

If anybody of you out there who have suggestions on how that can be achieved, please do share your insights.

PEACE OF MIND

Carry all the weight upon your shoulder

It’s another day in your frantic life

You’re just another voice in the crowd

You don’t know who you are

Sometimes you don’t understand

Nothing’s ever what it seems

They sell you wrong for right

All you really need..

Some Peace of Mind, yeah

Meanwhile all go mad around you

More and more unsatisfied

In the race for progress

We’ve spun out of control

Don’t you think this all

Has gone too far…

But life is precious

A gift we shouldn’t waste

Go and get yourself

Some Peace of Mind…

Nothing’s ever what it seems

They sell you black for white

The world is upside down

But life is precious

A gift we shouldn’t waste

Somebody help me find

My Peace of Mind.

8hrs Sleep is Essential!

Good sleep habits are essential to a strong immune system. A good night’s sleep might also be the best way to prevent colds and flu.

Researchers from Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh exposed people to a cold virus (rhinovirus) and found that those who slept 8 hours a night were 300 percent less likely to catch colds than those who slept less than 7 hours, or restless sleepers.

Other studies found that inadequate sleep promotes weight gain, heart attach, high blood pressure, stroke and diabetes. (Archives Internal Medicine, 169:62-67, 2009)

This was indeed quite a shocker for me, someone who has always been told that those above 20+ of age only need 6hrs of sleep. Luckily I came across the article in For Women! Fitness Rx magazine.

So for those of you out there, make sure u punch in 8hrs of sleep per day. It’s not only good for you immune system, but it will also help to alleviate those bags under your eyes!

Online Hypochondriacs?

Once I start reading a fitness magazine, I just can’t seem to put it down. There are always something new that can be gained from the magazine, specifically on health info.

I came across this article that alleges the internet having an effect on people and turning them into a nation of hypochondriacs. Ready access to medical information on the internet have encouraged untrained people to self-diagnose health problems based on random symptoms and to rely less on the opinions of medical experts. In the mind of some, symptoms listed on medical cookbook websites can turn a headache into a brain tumor or a sore leg into bone cancer.

The advise was for these hypochondriacs to learn as much as they can about their health and well-being, but to refrain from allowing their imagination to run wild with them!

I have a few of those hypochondriacs among my family members. They’re so obssessed with their health that they over-worry over the most trivial of things. Some even to the point of insanity, that’s what I think. Their behaviour is just so over the top, I can’t imagine how they can live that way.

It’s ok to be concern about one’s health. But to become obsessive with every single infection or flu or wounds, can have the potential of turning that person slightly crazy.

So if any of you fall under this category, don’t worry too much. If you still worry, go see a doctor!

Running for Bone Health.

I came across this article stating that running or jogging is the best form of exercise for women.

The article stated:

Weight training helps build bone strength in women, but jogging might be better. A University of Missouri study found that running had a more positive effect on bone mass than resistance training.

Women can maximise bone health by practicing bone-loading exercises (e.g. weight training, jogging, plyometrics, bolleyball etc), consuming adequate amounts of calcium (1,200mg perday for most women), and maintaining optimal levels of reproductive hormones.

Non-weight-bearing exercises such as swimming and cycling can actually decrease bone density, so women should include bone-loading exercises in their fitness programmes. (Journal Strength Conditioning, 23: 427-435, 2009).

So the next time you feel like doing some exercise, do little bit of jogging for your own benefit.

Happy Bday to Nadz!

The Happiest of Birthdays to my eldest daughter, Nadz.. May the new year bring you many wonderful surprises and good health. Amin.

I know she will love this poster.. just for her!

Say ‘NO’ out of love. ‘YES’ is not always the answer.

Say YES out of fear. Say NO out of love.

It was during an Oprah Winfrey show where the issues revolved around the tendency of some siblings who kept on bailing out their least successful siblings thinking they’re mere fulfilling their responsibilities. But little did they know, their very actions only make it worst for everyone. During the show, Oprah brought in a family where the least successful sibling has been putting a toll on the purse of the successful sibling and her mother. The challenge was to stop the least successful sibling from expecting help from her family and start making her own living, while the sister and mother were asked to sign a contract promising to stop supporting her.

I guess it is true that in some families we can’t say no when a family member needs help. We would go to all length just to make sure our love ones are safe. But sometimes the so-called love brings about a completely different cause-and-effect outcome. Instead of helping our love ones to be stronger and take hold of their own life, we end up taking away their right to do so.

Good intention may not always have good outcome. We have to keep reminding ourselves on this. I know it would be hard or even very difficult to refuse helping your sibling the way we know how, but if the final outcome is going to make it even worst, then we have to just do the right thing.

It would take a very strong person to say NO out of love. But it is necessary.

BRIDEX 2009 Jumperz

To  those of you who managed to squeeze into the BRIDEX 2009 event, thank you so much for coming. It is truly a sight for sore eyes to see such overwhelming and encouraging response from everyone. It was also nice to hear positive feedbacks from visitors to the event. Once again thanks for your support.

Now for those of you who were so blown away by the BRIDEX 2009 Demonstration show, this article is basically dedicated to my dear friend’s team of parachuters who awed everyone with their sky-slicing jumping skills. It’s not easy to do what these guys are doing on  a daily basis. And during BRIDEX 2009 their parachuting segment was spectacular. Congratz and well done to the team!

Step into d’Flip Flops

During my lazy days, I enjoy nothing more than just slipping into my flip flops, my shabby top and worn out 3/4 jeans. Those are my comfort wear, esp the flip flops. I know this way of dressing may not be appropriate for someone of my position, but hey for me comfort comes first. Besides, it’s only during my lazy days, which are usually during the weekends.

I’m always on the look out for new flip flops though. I have this thang about leapord designs or camouflage designs flip flops. But sadly, I just can’t seem to find any here in Brunei. And when I do find it, it’s one of those really cheap ones and non-lasting. So if any of you know where to get really funky flip flops, at reasonable prices, do tell me ok.

I love this flip flop!!

College Crush

College Crushes.. Have you been there? I have

I guess that was the first time ever, for me, to even think about a guy in a romantic way. But the sad thing was, I had a crush on this guy and I didn’t even dare tell him :p Probably for fear of being rejected. I was no beauty queen anyway, so probably I would get rejected.

But now that I’m all grown up and more confident, I’m not shy anymore to be expressive about my feelings. But somehow, other people seem to be slightly uncomfortable when I allow myself to be as blunt in how I feel. Well, that’s their problem, so deal with it :p

Anyway, recently I had the most wonderful thing happened to me. I found my old crush in facebook!! I was sooooo elated, and I didn’t even waste time to tell him that  I used to have a crush on him. And guess what?! I felt as if a boulder has been lifted off my chest after that confession. I feel so super light. And light headed too. It feels as if I’ve finally put an end to that part of the story in my life. Finally!

As for that guy, he was ok with the confession. He didn’t freak out or anything. He’s such a sweetheart. I sincerely hope we will become good friends. I don’t have a crush on him anymore. I just feel funny that after all those years, he reappeared, as if giving me a chance to confess my self. And I did. Glad I did it too!

So for you out there, if you happen to have a crush on someone, don’t waste anymore time. Just tell him straight up. Life is too short to be spent on wondering the what-ifs.

Behave Confidently, To Be Confident.

I know it sounds like a mind-twister but that is exactly what we have to do if we ever want to be confident in whatever we do. So how can we behave confidently? Well, there are five procedures to follow:

1. Be a Front Seater

The next time you have a function to attend, make sure you seat yourself as close as possible to the front. Confident people should not hide at the back seats. They should be at the front.

2. Eye-Contact.

Make sure you establish eye contact when speaking to someone. This alert others that you’re sure of yourself. If you avoid eye contact, it will just signal shyness.

3. Walk Fast.

Walking fast and head high up illustrate someone with a mission and confident. If you slouch and lag behind, it will be deemed as lack of self-esteem and purpose.

4. Speak Up.

Speaking up is another trait of someone with great confidence. If you speak with a soft voice, that is hardly seen as confidence in the making. So speak up!

5. Smile Wide!

Above all smile wide. It is only after a wide smile, will you have the strength and confidence to face anything that comes your way.

Make sure you practice all these procedures on a daily basis. And I promise you, confidence with become a visible part of you.

First Day of Ramadhan

Today mark the first day we fast for the year 2009 (1430Hijriah). And in everyone’s mind is basically one thing and one thing only.. what to eat for break of fast!

For this whole month, our minds will be filled with plannings… plannings on what to eat today, tomorrow, the next day and henceforth. This is the time of dangerous indulgence. People just gulp anything and everything down when they break their fast. Most of the food choices are either something oily or something sweet with colours!

I used to be amongst those people. I just crave fried, oily and sometimes sweet cocktails whenever I fast. But no more!! Time has come for each and everyone of you to choose vegetables/ fruits over all others. I’ve discovered that if we make it a habit to break our fast with dates, then fruits and followed by fresh vegetables, our stomach will feel much lighter. And if you’re still hungry, then you can start eating the carbs and proteins you crave. This particular arrangement of eating healthy food first before ‘fun’ food, will not only supply you will all the vitamins deficiency but at the same time will help you lose weight the healthy way!

I did this last year and it worked! I lost 5 kg just during Ramadhan! So I’m planning to follow the same discipline, and hope I will lose 5 kg. Why don’t you give it a try. What have you gotta lose? Just 5 kg.

HAPPY RAMADHAN EVERYONE, BLESS YOU ALL!!

Pink is the new ‘Black’!

I’ve always loved the colour pink. I like it even more when guys wear it. But somehow, some guys find it ‘unmanly’ or lacking in the ‘macho’ quality if they do wear pink.

So tell me guys, isn’t is ridiculous to see a colour in this light? I didn’t know there was a gender issue associated with colours. What is actually preventing some guys from wearing pink? and why are other guys more amicable to the pink colour?

If you’re going to comment on this, please don’t give any discriminatory remarks and do leave homosexuality out of it ok. Keep it clean people!!

Fashion 70s

Regardless of where we originated from, we all share a common habit when it comes to fashion.. We all have a personal mission when it comes to how we look in public.

Fashion is basically that. By dictionary definition, fashion means a common and popular trend. By my definition, for the sake of this article, it’s about what’s accepted especially in how we are dressed or looked in the eyes of the public.

Over the decades, there have always been dramatic evolution of this so called fashion. The decade that is more familiar to me starts from the 1970s. That decade can be said a time when the Spice Girl should have come in. The youngster of those times were into colourful and eccentric looking platform shoes, super bellbottom trousers, floral shirts and some crazy hairdo. Some of the hairdo thing is just so outrageous that they look like human-cones with ice cream on top! But on the other side, there were those with the really afro and absolutely straight and middle parting hair style. ABBA is a good example to look at, these guys and gals were fashion icon of the 1970s. They rock!!

 Looking at how things are right now, I think the 70s fashion is making a comeback with a vengence!! I’m as guilty as the others in this. I’m so into platform shoes. I love ‘em. Just can’t get enought of ‘em. As for 70s clothes, well… I’m not that deep into the 70s just as yet. Bur for others, I’m sure deep-down we all possess a part of 70s mania within ourselves. Do you agree?!

 

80s Fashion

During the 80s I was a teenager. And that was the time when I experienced my fashion flop trends. Don’t ask me why. It just happened. And I’m still trying to figure out why I dressed the way I did during those times.

The 80s was the era of the tsunami hair styles. All curled and really high wave-like fringes. Hairsprays are the favourite during these times. My own hair was like this, and the over-loaded hairsprays have always given me headaches at the end of the day. But hey, in fashion, no pain no gain!

The dress code in the 80s were like plastics and too colourful for words. Unlike the 70s, the 80s people were more into abstract designs and distorted looking dresses. If you’re finding it hard to visualise what I mean, just think MADONNA or MICHEAL JACKSON in the 1980s. That’s what I mean! Again bright and mis-match of colours was the IN-thang during that time. For some it worked, but for most it was a fashion circus! Also all-type hand gloves were also an importance accessory of that time.

I think the 1980s was a fashion transition period. None of what people were wearing at that time made any sense. It was as if they were on a journey to find what really suit them. But I must say, the 80s was the time when they invented ‘funky’ and ‘wacky’ in fashion. That’s what I think

Glitter Me Up!

Bags, shoes, clothes, bags, shoes and clothes again.. are all the items that women just can’t seem to stop buying. Even when they already have dozens of them. Sales season is worst. We seems to be hypnotised by the SALES banners and big percentages like 50%… 70%.. deduction in sales, but yet still knowingly that those discounted items are actually old products. And still, we are like on remote controls and keep on spending till we drop!.. metaphorically that is

But the one ultimate item that every women ever truly wish to possess is… a beautiful large glittery rock!!

Diamonds!! Women will be completely mesmerised when in eye-contact with well carved diamonds.. just like that song “twinkle twinkle little ‘diamonds”…

Well, the song doesn’t actually referred to diamonds, but you get my point. Guy may wonder what is it about diamonds that make women so attached to it. It’s rainbow-like glitter of course. Having a diamond around my finger feels like I have the whole universe filled with glittery stars resting on my human finger. So surreal… but quite a satisfying feeling. To be in possession of a diamond is always a feat for every living woman. So the next time you go to a jewellery store, don’t waste time looking at the golds.. just go straight to the diamond section. As the saying goes.. “the way to a woman’s heart is to get her a large diamond!” Diamonds are forever.. Diamonds are a gal’s best friend :p

Glitter me Up pleaseeeee!!!

Raya Cakes

Selamat Hari Raya!!!! During the Hari Raya (Eid Mubarak) festivity, Bruneians will spending the whole month of Syawal eating all kinds of cakes, biscuits and wonderful and delicious foods. In this article I was want to share with you tantalizing pics of my favourite raya cakes. To the photographers of these pic, well done on the beautiful pics.. but now I have to use them to visually share with my readers my fav cakes

Kek Batek is my ultimate favourite. And this is the only cake that I’m able to make. The only difference when I make it is that I would sprinkle generous helpings of almonds shreads.. yum yum!

Almost similar is kek vico. I love this too. But I can’t make it.. not until I can get hold of its recipe But it’s similar to kek batek.. both contain cocoa… and more choco I can’t wait to eat these cakes…

Wonderful Wonderful Biscuits..

Raya is just around the corner.. and that means… raya pastries!!! yeah yeah

I love only the chocolaty pastries.. if it has chocolate, then I will gulp it down.. yummmmmmm!

For those of you who don’t know the type of pastries we serve during raya, well today is your lucky day. I managed to goggled a few photos of these scrumptious biscuit.. let’s see if you’re enticed by them too..

Poem: My Love

A suitable life partner is what all women hope and pursue

And a fairy tale handsome prince is usually how it starts

A tall, loving, suave and romantic prince charming

Is what we dream of..

But time has the magic

To alter that pursuit or conquest

And time can truly reveal the true love

Of the person we are bound to marry..

My love, my husband was my closest friend

He started off as my confidant and listener

Who was always there to be a real friend to me

He’s the only one who was able to calm me in time of troubles

From friendship, feeling of love blossomed

It was never planned nor expected

It just happened

Like nature taking its course

But how do I know he’s my true love?

I know because my feelings for him

Bear witness to the authenticity

Of our love being true and real..

I know he’s the one because..

Every time he’s beside me I would feel at ease

Whenever he’s away, I would feel empty

As if a part of me is missing..

When he smiles, I couldn’t resist but smile along

When he’s troubled, my heart would be in a knot

And I want to do whatever I can to ease his worries

And see the smile back on his face..

When we fight, the hearts experience chaos..

But we never fight for long..

We don’t scream or hit each other..

We rationalize.. or most of the time we just keep quiet..

The way we live together

Shows how we suit one another..

Life may have its ups and downs

But it’s d getting up bit that’s important..

My love, my husband..

He’s the right man for me..

And I’m the right lady for him..

And may God bless us to be together for as long time permits..

Song: Meanings

My life is filled with stories,

All beginning with words,

For me it carries many meanings,

Where I will always be entranced,

My world is nothing like others,

It is unique from the rest,

Eventhough I’m just a simple lady,

My desire is beyond imaginings,

What is the meaning of all these

My life is like a dream

I am indeed a one of a kind

Always chasing my ambition

Chorus

Listen to what I have to say

Do not remain in silence

Nothing’s wrong with wanting freedom

For the sake of attaining your ambitions

Give me space to feel

What I seek all these while

Eventhough my world is simple

What matters most is its meaning

Maybe others may not understand

What is enclosed in my heart

All that matters is what I’ve been through

and my strive towards my ambition

I would pawn my wealth

Just to get the satisfaction

This world is only temporary

So why should we waste it

Alas every human is not perfect

With whatever means

For me all that do not matter

As long as it carries meaning

Chorus

Listen to what I have to say

Do not remain in silence

Nothing’s wrong with wanting freedom

For the sake of attaining your ambitions

Give me space to feel

What I seek all this while

Eventhough my world is simple

What matters most is its meaning

Am I a Leader or Follower?

This question is constantly tainting my thoughts whenever I see the word LEADERS. I would try to recall all my actions, especially work performance-wise, and make an assessment whether my chosen actions illustrates my leadership qualities or not.

When at work, I have this habit of observing people’s every actions, speech, decisions and even inaction. From such observation, you can easily detect who are true leaders and who are not. But you must be clear about your own definition of leadership.

So who is the Leader? And Who are the followers?

Just because a person’s appointment is as the Head or Leader of a selected group, I dare say not all of them display the leadership qualities that supposedly-expected with the post. So don’t get confused with job titles and actual leadership’s charisma and aura.

Why I say this is to give everyone a fair chance. Just because a person does not hold a ‘leader’s’ post, doesn’t mean they lack or in absence of that quality. Anybody can have a leadership streak about them, only if they have what it takes of course.

For me, I don’t necessarily hold top post, but I do have this habit of wanting to make a difference. I always make it a point to be very pro-active in my job… meaning I don’t wait for others to give ideas on what to do, I act on my own ideas and disseminate it as soon as my brain thought of it!

I always try to seek the opinions of others, no matter how trivial. It doesn’t matter if it’s the opinion of my most inexperience or youngest staff. People should encourage to share their ideas, and when consolidated with other ideas, great ideas will follow.

Always treat people how I wish to be treated myself. If you don’t care about others, they will not care about you. So you will end up with nobody supporting your cause.

So looking at these few traits of mine, I can confidently say I am a LEADER. And I just hope that one day, I will be a recognised Leader

How about you? What are your traits? Are you a leader… or a follower? Think about it…

Ghosts..

I believe in ghosts. But most people don’t.

I don’t have the gift to be able to see ghosts. But I’m surrounded by family members who possess such gift. And believe me, at times you just don’t want to know what they are able to see with their naked eyes.

The closes encounter I got to almost see the passing shadow of a ghost was at my previous house in Jerudong. That place is truly haunted. Probably because I’ve left it vacant for quite some time.  Many years ago, I went there alone. It was only after work, about 5pm. I was just going to the house to pick up a few of my stuff. So I went in, went upstairs to my bedroom and start packing a few things. As I was going out of my bedroom, I felt something was moving behind me. I turned around, but there was nothing there. So I walked on, again *swoosh* behind me. As I was turning my head, I saw a little shadow moving fast just from the corner of my eye. Suddenly, I had hugeeeee goose-bumps. And that automatically signalled me to get out of the house immediately, Presto!!!

I tried to seem brave, I think I did. I came out of the house in one peace. As I drove out and closed the house gate, I looked up at my bedroom window to see if something was peeking at me. No, nothing at all. Maybe my imaginings you say. May be. But I know when I start to have goose-bumps, it is not my imagination. There was something there, and it wanted me out. So I was more than eager to oblige.

Well, that’s one of my ghost story… for now. Do you have any?

Bang, Crackle, Boom!!

Those are the sounds that surround my neighbourhood in the last few weeks coming to raya. All kinds of sparkles and fireworks filled the sky, signaling my neighbours’ excitement to welcome the end of the fast. But there’s still a few more days left for that.

I remembered my younger years, when my uncle was the ring-leader in getting all my cousins and siblings excited and eager to light up the next fire-crackers that we see. My uncle always bought the best fire crackers, and ones with the biggest sounds and sparks. There was once when we lit up this fire-cracker, but before that we had to plant it under the soil. And when it exploded, the land beneath us experienced a slight tremor. Being young and small at that time, I don’t doubt being able to actually feel the tremor. That was some super fire cracker. If it had been lit up while it was not under the soil, I bet it might even have sounded as if somebody fired a cannon!!

Even generations after me, they have not ceased to try and find the loudest and most impressive fire crackers the market have to offer. And in a neighbourhood like mine, when somebody lit one up, you can expect someone else trying to match it. So it’s like a fire-cracker tournament!!

Well, that’s only one part of the anticipated fun during the fasting month and upcoming raya month. And I’m sure with all those sounds, sleep will indeed be a deprivation

Departure

It’s never easy to go on with normalcy when you’ve just lost someone dear to you. It has now been 2 weeks since the departure of a dear grand-aunt of mine. She the last grand-aunt in our family on my mom’s side, and now she too has departed.

It was a shocking news. I’ve always know my grandaunt as someone so full of spunk and spark. And now she’s no longer amongst us. It started off with a stroke, and after just 4 days, she just went.

The day when my grandaunt’s body was brought back to my aunt’s house for the pre-burial rituals, I was still in disbelief that my grandaunt has passed. Watching strangers preparing her for the ritual was such an intricate process. Every detail of it was so impeccable and full of meaning. My only thought about the whole thing was, would I know what to do if I was faced with the same situation? I don’t think so.

The final moments when all close relatives bid their final goodbyes was truly heartbreaking for everyone. Tears were in abundance, but belief has it that if we grieve too much, the spirit of my grandaunt will be in pain. So for that sake, everyone held their tears in, as best they could. But it was really hard. I was almost crying my eyes out, if I hadn’t turn my head away from the crying relatives.

After the final goodbyes, my aunt was blanketed and all the men were lined up ready for the prayers. After4 or five mass prayer for the departed, the body, in a simple coffin, was hoisted onto the men’s shoulder, heading towards the departed van. That was the last I saw of my grandaunt. She was buried at the Jame Asr’ Graveyard. May she rest in peace. There she will join my grandmother, God bless her soul, who has passed many years before. I do miss my grandparents. And I sincerely hope they will all find peace and are given a special place in Heaven. God bless them all!

Al-Fatihah…

Raya at the Housing Settlement

This year is the first time my family to celebrate the Hari Raya at our brand new home. It is located in one of the housing scheme area in the Muara area. An as we anticipate, there will be incoming visits to our home, not only by our relatives and friends, but also neighbours in the vicinity.

Celebration at a housing scheme area has always been a lively one. This is what I’ve heard from relatives and friends who have lived in such area longer than we have. And the ones who will be frequent patrons are the children of the neighbourhood. And when they do come, you better be prepared with the green packets, because that is the only motivation for these children.

With our house being the odd one out in term of size and design, I’m sure that will act as a beacon or magnet for these children to come by. So far I’m not sure how large a crowd the visitors will be, but I’m expecting quite a handful. Let’s just hope my house will not fall prey to those raya-syndicates, where they collect van full of kids and drop them off from house to house just to collect the green packets. This will indeed be a challenge, and one I have a feeling will be confronting everyone in the neighbourhood.

But in the raya spirit, we will welcome all relative, friends and neighbours to our new home. We hope through this celebration we will be able to get to know people in the vicinity. And I’ll be able to make a survey of how many boys are exactly in the neighbourhood. Because I know, boys will be boys. And with 2 teenage girls in the household, I have too look out and make sure these boys stay out :p Oh well, that’s always a parent dilemma.

So to everyone out there, enjoy your Hari Raya!!!

Saturday Raya

Most people will be at work by now. But since it’s a day off for my organisation, I get to do a little raya festivity of my own. Usually, weekends like this my family and I would make an excursion to Kuala Belait, to visit our relatives there. It’s a 1.5hrs journey, and with my brand new wheels, I’m sure the trip will be a bearable one.

During hari raya, my family have the challenge of firstly, to visit all of our aunts and uncles on both side of the family. On the first day of raya, we would first visit my in-laws, followed by my parents, the my dad’s elder sister where we recite the tahlil for my late grandparents.

After that, we would follow my parents to visit all of my grandaunts and uncles. Later in the afternoon (still on day 1 of raya) we would continue the trips, but this time with my in-law. This switching trends is exactly what we have to keep on doing for the first week of hari raya. And it is a very tedious and tiring event. Especially with my little son around. He can’t really keep up with the trips, as he has his baby’s needs which we need to cater. But so far, we manage and we were able to enjoy our-self in the process.

On the second week of hari raya, this is the time when the cousins will be having their open houses. So no need for home cooking, because for sure you will be so filled by the time you reach home in the evening. Some friends and office colleagues will also be having open houses during the second week and third week of hari raya. So the eating and mingling goes on and on.

Few years ago, just on the first day of hari raya, my family would be able to visit about 15-20 houses. This is quite a feat, especially since the houses were not so close to each other. Ant this was covering both sides of my and my huby’ s family. It’s always nice to visit relatives whom we don’t frequently see otherwise if not during hari raya.

And this year, and probably the following year, this is what we have to do. I just hope we will be able to cover all our relatives, in all the districts (except temburong, because that is just too far) for this raya. And I hope you all will be able to do the same.

Thinking Work

Although the hari raya festivity is still burning hot, but by this week people, more or less, in conscience have returned and refocused on their jobs.

For some, Monday is always a slow day, as people are trying to recover from excitements during the weekend. For me, it’s just another day, work or play. I always enjoy working on Monday though, just because it’s only 5 days away from the next weekend! :p

Anyway, whenever I’m at the office, the first and foremost, I would start thinking about what project I can do. I love planning excursions, especially since that is exactly what I’m supposed to do in my current line of work. There are a few other activities I wanted to do, but prior to that, I have to submit a proposal paper on it to the higher authority. This is usually the hurdle for some people. To write proposals on something, is just not for most people to do. But for me, I love to write. So it worked out fine for me.Well, so far it does.

And I love emails too! So whenever I’ve done my papers, I would just have it email to my immediate supervisor, and cc it to my bigger bosses. Personally, it’s more effective this way, and consume lesser time.

Anyways, I better head off back to work if I’m going to get anything done at all. Smart working to y’all!!

Excellent Performance

Do people who excel in their job performance deserve the recognition in their appraisals? And for future assessment, what is the next stage after excellent??

Some people have the difficulty to decide whether or not to recognise excellent performance through appraisals. Some people are mindful of the good performance of their staff, but to put that recognition in written form, they seem to be reluctant. The reason being, if staff were assessed excellent, it will be harder to assess them in the future as they were already previously excellent.

I know this sounds confusing but just bare with me for a while. Personally, as a senior executive, I have no problem recognising the hard work and excellent performance of my own staff on paper. Providing they do perform in the most outstanding way. I believe people should be rewarded where warranted. Hence, an outstanding performance would be deserving of such recognition of award, whether in written form or through incentives.

But prior to making any appraisals, there are specific criterias we have to observe. But what we need to consider are basically, first and foremost, what is the job spec of the staff and whether they are able to perform those job spec. or is there any gaps for improvement.  The second consideration is, is the staff able to execute special project, that transcend their allocated job spec. If yes, this will be a vital point in the assessment process, that differentiate between average performance and outstanding performance. And the final consideration is, the psyche of the staff concerned. Are they in terms of mind and spirit, in tune with the vision of the organisation? with colleagues? what are the most visible positive/ negative attributes illustrated by the staff?

Of course there are other considerations that can be looked at. But the above are some of the essentials that I use myself. But for me, recognition on excellent performance is only warranted when that worker has done beyond their own job spec. It’s about the person’s credibility, competency and potential. Key word here is potential. Potentials are derived from how a staff is able to complete an assignment, whether it has any relevance to his job spec or not, in a timely and professional manner. Assignments in this instance include organising an international event, producing proposed paper on ways and means of improving an organisation or process, leading a major project etc.

This is how I would conduct the appraisal of my own staff.

But for some, giving excellent appraisal report to staff is merely a way of boosting the moral of the staff concerned. It is an effective way of doing so. But the downside is that, it compromises the professional development of the person concerned. For some, once they are given excellent appraisal report, that marks the point where they just maintain what they do, instead of further enhancing their performance.

I can talk at length on this, if I had the time. And I’m sure there would me many debates about it too. But regardless of HOW we wish to assess the performance of our staff, I’m sure the heart of it all is basically to help that person progress to the next stage. I also believe today’s working community consist of professional individuals. And with that mindset, people are committed and well-trained to conduct themselves in a professional manner.

As a last word, Remember to Work Smart while you Work Hard… Look after those under you, so that they will reciprocate by looking after you!

Raya Open Houses

During the hari raya festive month, there would be endless invites to open houses for family and friends. During such an event, wonderful and succulent foods will be laid out for the taking. In addition, the patroned house will be fully packed with incoming visitors, bustling with greetings and laughters.

I have held my own open house event, and it was a real success. My mom and sister-in-law helped out with the cooking that began as early as 4:30 in the morning!

Although the day saw tedious preparation, but the outcome was satisfying. Everyone were well entertained and fed. And families and friends were brought together to rekindle ties.

I thoroughly enjoyed that day. Thanks for all my family, relatives and friends for coming! Selamat Hari Raya to all of ya

Weekends

Second weekend of the raya month, people are still having open houses.. which I’m more than willing to entertain

I’m not planning to do anything today, other than visit those close-ones in the name of hari raya. I still have load of relatives and friends yet to visited and I better do it today.

To the rest of you out there, hope you enjoy your weekend with your love ones! Just don’t over eat when you do go to another open house ok

Standard Curriculum undermines innovation?

A few months back I had encountered a man who was vibrant in personality, persistant in action and focused in life’s ambition. He said something that seem to have stuck in my mind ever since. He said existing educational systems dictates the curriculum that students should take, completely ignoring the individual capacity and requirement of the student. He also said, it would be more beneficial to work on curriculum that actually fit to the requirement of the individual student rather than trying to make everyone fit into one standardised curriculum.

What he said made a whole lot of sense to me. And it also eased out a few personal concerns of my own.

During my school days, I fall into the those category of students who have the potential to seriously excel in my studies, but due some fun distractions, I manage to perform averagely in my studies. I was and still am the type who make attempt to still add fun-life to anything ‘serious’ that I do. And this is the one habit my friends envy most, although they are equally capable of doing it if only they know how to do so

Anyway, during my schooling years I’ve always had problems with one subject. Maths. My brain just seems to wander elsewhere whenever I have maths class. That’s why my grades are always super average in this subject. But surprisingly, when it comes to doing accountings, almost similar to maths without the x and y thingy, I got excellent distinctions! Go figure.

I’ve always hated the policy making maths a compulsory subject. Just because maths is just not my cup of tea. Never was, never will be.

I totally agree with the statement that existing curriculum in school, around the world, gives very little attention to developing curriculum to develop the potentials of individual students. As a short cut, a one-fits all curriculum is produced, with the hope of turning the students into ‘successful’ and useful ‘asset’ to the nation.

Personally, this idea of one-fits all curriculum actually undermines innovation, creativity and personal niche capability.. especially at the start of the educational process. Children need to be nurtured and taught and groomed base on what they’re good at, not base on what the curriculum dictates them to do.

If we ever aspire to have a generation of great thinkers, innovator and drivers of great changes, we have to workimmediately in changing the way we do things. To achieve change, to achieve innovation, we have to first change ourselves.. change the way we used to do things, the way we used to think, and be more forward thinking for the greater good.. without compromising the individual potentials.

Innovation and change is never a straightforward process. It will be tedious, it will be demanding and it will be challenging. But in order to realise our true potentials, we have to stop standardising how we do things. We have to evolve with time and current needs. And education is a significant component of this process.

It’s time for change.

Public Affairs vs Public Diplomacy

In reference to the book ‘The Public Diplomacy Reader’ by J.Michael Waller.

I haven’t finish reading the book, but the first few pages have given me very refreshing insights on the definition of Public Diplomacy given by various influetial figures/ quotations.

But for the sake of discussion, is there really a difference between public affairs and public diplomacy?

Initially, I thought there was not much difference between the two. To a certain extent, I was correct. But on the bigger picture, there were more than meets the eye.

Public affairs, or public relations (PR) as we are more familiar with here in Brunei, is primarily about informing on what we do. Our activities and any other relevant events. As a PR practitioner myself, I do this by taking advantage of the local media, internet facilities and face-to-face interactions. All for the puropse of sharing information about what my organisation does.

Public diplomacy (PD) is a new word for many of us. From what I’ve read (briefly) it is similar to public affairs, but its purpose is not merely to inform. Public diplomacy is conducted to inform AND influence a targeted audience.

Public Diplomacy is usually conducted abroad. It is a favourite exercise of the US, e.g. during deployment in afghanistan. PD is used to ensure understading among the local people on the policy and peaceful intent of a mission. They do this through the media, and communication with the local people.

Personally, PD would be similarly effective exercise for our own PR practitioner, especially in furthering the aspiration and vision of the government. Prior to employing PD, prior criterias have to be fulfilled. There need to be clear guidelines and policy on what we’re trying to project to the people, understanding the impact of selected activities, and consistent through the monitor of progress. It’s about strategic communication.

PD would indeed be an interesting topic for discussion. And if any of you have anything to say about it, please do share with us. I’m craving for your views on this.

Royal Birthday

Wishing a wonderful birthday to our beloved Queen, Her Majesty Raja Isteri today. May Her Majesty be continually blessed with good health, prosperity, and endless adoration of her humble subjects.

SELAMAT HARI PUJA USIA!!

To Tell the Truth and Nothing but the Truth…

Whether it’s family, best friends, colleagues or ever stranger.. more often than not people prefer to not tell the truth most of the time, for fear of hurting the feelings of the person they tell it to.

Once I had this brief conversation with a friend, and quite diplomatically she told me that I’m too vocal with my thoughts, which may be hurtful to some people. My response was simple. I simply replied with a question: would I want my friends to lie to my face? Aren’t friends supposed to tell the truth, even when it hurts? My friend just kept quiet after that.

Personally, I know it is always hurtful to hear something negative about yourself. It is even more hurtful if it was coming from someone close to you. But there’s always two side of the coin. It’s about trying to see the positive light of things.

I prefer a friend who is honest, for the sake of bringing about a better change for me. I will appreciate such honesty. But what I will not appreciate are hypocrites and back-stabber.

Most of the time, people find it hard when I tell them up straight what I really think. I’m not much of a ‘pleaser’, but I am a carer. But I do make it a point to only speak to those I intend to without the presence of others. This way, I will not be demeaning the reputation of the person in question. It is always respectful to do things privately, especially if you which to comment on someone’s shortcomings. People are very sensitive about this.

So for those of you out there. If you’re among those people who detest me for being to vocal about my comments, well I’m sorry. But hey, my intention is always good. I will not make comments where not warranted. Everything I say is always in the name of better improvement and change. I can’t keep things bottled up. I prefer to just let it out. I always believe, a friend is only a true friend when they are truthful to their dear ones. And I will always be a true friend, whether you ask of it or not.

So next time, if you’re expecting me to lie, go find yourself a new friend. I just hate liars. Liars are not helpful at all. So why bother to befriend liars.

Think about it!!!

What’s Love gotta do with it…

True love.. does it exist? How about love at first sight.. do you believe there is such a thing?

At different stages of our lives, our feelings go through a roller coaster ride with numerous ups and downs. Love is one of the feelings that goes through such rides. Most of the time being it abused or misused.

In a modern world like now, kids as young as 8 years old are already in search of their ‘true love’. At that age, it is definitely not true love, puppy love is more like it. Kids nowadays are so influenced by what they see on tv.. falling into romantic idealism or imaginings.

At high school, they are even more curious and active in search of their ‘true love’. Peer pressure is more the case at this age, where teenagers seek out ‘love’ just because their friends are paired up as a couple as well. Additionally, teenagers goes through a very dramatic hormonal process, hence making them even more curious about the opposite sex.. even to the extent of being curious enough to make ‘experimentations’.

Then comes college and university, where reaching the age of 18 is like being given passport to have endless fun! Does this age group think about love? Definitely not! Lust is more like it. Why the change in attitude? There could be many reasons for this, one being the human body of an 18 year old is now more aware of what they are able to do. And the mind of an 18 year old is usually focused on the fun, rather than being tied down.

As people get older, time will come to one day tie the knot. This is the big question. Are all married people truly and really in love? The shocking answer that I gave to my daughter was that, true love does not necessarily applies to all married people. She was disappointed.

Some may argue my view on this, but base on my own personal observation ‘love’ between married people is more to do with ‘love for the children’. Yes of course, for the newly weds, they’re constantly in embraces, holding hands  and snuggling each other wherever they go. But when a child comes between that ‘newly weds coupling’, the love and attention is automatically transferred to the child.

Personally, I don’t believe in true love. I do believe in love though, but not true love. To me, true love is only something that is made up in movies.  Do you agree?

Failure vs Success

There’ are always two sides to a coin. One cannot be without the other, complementing one another as a core entity. The same thing applies in life.

In any undertakings, we always have this hope that things will run smoothly and successfully. We never want to encounter complex challenges that have the potential to cause us to fail in reaching our destination.

Failure vs Success is fundamentally about in emphasizing that in every success there are bound to be failures. We can only reap success after overcoming and conquering our failings. Most people know this by heart, but their actions do not necessarily align to what they know.

I’ve encountered many people who are so eager to make big changes in their lives and career, but when it comes to actually doing it, the one major obstacle that hinders them from doing so is the fear of failing. I’ve tried numerous times trying to explain that failures are actually a good thing. Failures help us to better improve ourselves.

The only worst kind of failure is failing to try at all. So the next time you guys have this fear of failing, you will only have failed if you failed to try at all.

Cheers!

Mentoring and Youths

I was browsing through the bookshelves at the library the other day and I came across this book on Mentoring. I didn’t actually read the book, but the title itself made me recall an article I read on that same topic.

There was this notion of applying Mentoring on troublesome youths. Somehow I was kind of skeptic about this idea. It’s a good idea though. It’s just that I doubt the capability to executive such an idea.

Looking at my own personal experience, I’ve been primarily educated at the national public schools. And when it comes to students’ welfare issues, there has never been any qualified counselors at the school to help sort out the troubled students. The usual practice, as I remembered it, is that the welfare teacher allocated at any public schools are usually one of the teaching staff at the school, who happened to be free and don’t necessarily possess any counseling skills.

And now, they have this new idea about mentoring. I seriously would like to know how this notion will be applied.

To me, when it comes to troublesome youths, we have to look at the root cause of it. The usual common issues confronting these youths are divorced parents, negligence, peer pressure, lack of religious education, and many more.

Troublesome youths can be considered as one of the social ills of the modernised world. If we look back at how things were during our great grand parents days, they didn’t have problems like this with their youths. Youths of yesteryears were more obedient, loyal, respectful and fearful of their elders. But today, youths are more exposed to their surroundings and thus have a tendency to be calculative with their obedience, loyalty, and respect. And most youths certainly do not fear their elders like they used to.

Looking at these characteristics, the attempt of applying mentoring (defined as a responsible adult becoming role models to the trouble youths by being their confidante, conscience and adviser) to these kids will indeed be a challenging one. Most youths, when in trouble, prefer to turn to their peers than to an adult. It’s a universal culture or traits. Reason being for fear of being nagged and scolded at probably.

My suggestion as a solution to trouble youths syndrome, is to revert back to how families used to live their life. Example, rather than parents being so engrossed with their worldly jobs and daily upkeep, please do make the time to spend quality time with every family members, find out what the children have been up to, how they’re doing in schools, who they hang out with, who their friends are, and etc etc. Another example is, rather than letting your child spend most of their time with their peers at the Mall, use some of the free time to get close and get to know your child, be their parents and friend.

I know it’s not easy to try to revert our modern way of living to the old backward days of our ancestor. But for me, it’s a worthwhile effort and journey to retain the value of family-hood just so that we can live harmoniously as a family. So let’s give this a try.

Website and Portals

Technological change and globalisation has brought with it the never ending challenge of competition. One of the effective mode in boosting our competitive edge is the capability to optimize usage of the internet. Whether you’re in the public or private sector, utilisation of I.T is a must if you wish to ensure that people are well informed about your organisation.

Yesterday, I attended a workshop that specifically focused on finding a solution to challenges in establishing an organisation’s website and portal. Although it was only a one-day session, but the discussions that transpired were exceedingly refreshing. Within that one-day session we were able to identify common challenges and eventually selective/ unified solutions.

The internet revolution is still a new concept to fellow colleagues in my sector. Although slow in embracing this new technology, we are not completely ignorant of its potential. The ongoing problem is that we are just not putting enough effort and attention to realise this potential.

Personally, the intent of establishing a portal for our sector would go a very long way in not only allowing us to reach out to all corners of the nation and beyond but concomitantly will help to further disseminate our aspirations to others. Today’s society is different from the olden days. Nowadays people are more and more curious and crave for information on anything an everything. With the advent of I.T., the general public have the freedom to access all types of information just at the click of a button.

Although on the one side I.T. enables people to be more well informed on things, but there is also the danger of people being mis-informed at the same time. There is not specific software that is capable of filtering inaccurate information. And this is a shortcoming that specific sectors have concerns about.

As a solution, organisations world wide take the initiative to set up their own official website and portals. Hopefully through this effort, people will be provided with timely, relevant and accurate information.

But for some, implementing such an initiative entails a huge challenge. It requires an organisational change i.e. to designate the right people for the job, who knows and understands the organisation’s needs, and are empowered to do so. These are only some of the necessary changes that need to take place. There are other activities that are of equal importance, and should be explored base on respective needs and requirements. And this was exactly what I went through in identifying and deliberating during the workshop yesterday.

I seriously hope friends and colleagues will make attempts to familiarise with I.T. Although it may seem common in today’s business, but its impact has no barrier. And it would be a personal as well as professional achievement if we can start and continue to utilize I.T. in everything that we do. Remember, Work Smart, not Work Hard :)

Beyond the naked eye

Yesterday I was watching the movie Shallow Hal. The movie flow is so symbolic and representative of the perception of today’s society.

There is indeed a dramatic and prominent change in how the society view similar things but during different times. As time evolve, expectations and opinions changes base on what is the ‘fashion’ of the day. Fashion here is defined as what is commonly acceptable by everyone.

The movie SHALLOW HALL looked at perceptions on the beauty of individuals. Probably as a mockery towards certain people who are so shallow and superficial, the movie highlights the habit of always judging people base on their looks. For example, just because someone is physically imperfect, doesn’t mean they are not worthy to be accepted in a society. But it is true in some cases where a person will simply not be-friend someone just because of their imperfect looks. Such individual is not even interested to know beyond the physical appearance.

I remember during my college years, there was this group of girls who were basically labelled as the Glamour-Gals. Not sure they know it or not, but because all of the girls in that group were really pretty and model-like, hence they got named as the Glamour-gals. I didn’t belong to that group. I didn’t fall into the pretty category, probably because I was a tomboy. Anyway, guys were seen flocking and eager to say hi to the glamour gals. Simply because they were really pretty. Luckily those girls also had personality. They were nice and brainy. So they were even more likeable.

In the movie, the perception was more bias. The pretty gals are those without personality and more inclined to be selfish, rude, and not very smart. While the Ugly Ducklings were funny, wonder personality, nice and intelligent. And then there is this group of guys, who are not so good looking and yet expect to get a really Hot looking gal thinking the ugly ducklings are not even up their league.

The movie is basically telling its audience that everyone has their own imperfections. And it’s not beneficial to anyone when judging and selecting base on how they look physically. A rule that I’ve always remembered, not sure where I got it from though, is that always look beyond the naked eye. What lies within a person is what will ensure long lasting appreciation. Meaning, when we’re interested in someone, let the reason be because we share something similar and like the same things. Don’t like someone base on how they look, look will wither away like flowers do. But personality and internal qualities will last a lifetime.

I’ve always make it a point get to know someone beyond their physical appearances. I admit, good looks are beacons for attention. But it is always personality which put a chain on that attention. We can easily lose interest in someone so gorgeous and beautiful if they just don’t have a personality or mind to match that. We get more entranced and captivated with someone who displays wits, brains, humour and personality.

So tell me, which beauty are you interested in?

Criticism vs Compliments

Why is it that we’re so quick and willing to criticise and yet very slow and reluctant to give compliments/ praises?

I’m sure all of us have had our actions criticised at some point or another. And I’m also sure that not many of us had the luxury of being complimented or praised for a job well done, not on a regular basis that is.

I noticed that being in a competitive surrounding, like the work office, people are just not keen on raising the morale of their fellow competitors. Where the superiors are concerned, they are more wary of what they compliments might imply in the long run. I’m not sure what that means, but it is quite strange to even be so calculative and frugal with our compliments when situation warrants it.

I’m the type of person who would definitely be forefront about my feelings, especially where work is concerned. If I see my underlings not performing to their best potential or demonstrating slackness in how they conduct their jobs, then I will straight up tell them that it’s no good and I expect a much better performance and effort. And when I see my staff performing well, I’m still as eager and willing to compliment them on their efforts, and encourage them to continue this excellent performance.

There’s nothing wrong with telling people when something is not done to a satisfactory level. But it is wrong to suppress well deserved praises to those who deserve it. We are after all humans, emotions can either fuel or deflate your spirit/ enthusiasm. So make sure there’s always a balance of the bad and the good that we give to people. More good is always preferable, because the ultimate aim is to encourage and raise the morale of those around us.

So the next time you see a job well done, please take the initiative to say “excellent work”. A simple word like that will not take more than 2 seconds to vocalise, and it will definitely brighten up someone’s day. 2 seconds for an entire day sound a very good value for money don’t you think?

So Let’s live life happily! And be ready to praise more

Democratic Management

I was reading a book on public administration a few days back, and I came across an interesting view on the topic. The book stated that the public sector has been cultured to do things just because the top authority tells them to do it. And they will not do things beyond the instruction given. So the so called public servants were merely like puppets with the strings symbolising the directives and procedures given to them to conduct the necessary action.

To an extent, those statement still applies in today’s world. Some of the people in the public sector seem to be more comfortable to just stay within the above definition. And for the few of the people, this can form a kind of resistance, especially if the organisation aspires to evolve into something more dynamic.

I also came across a book on Participative Management which among other things highlighted how democratic management is the way to go nowadays. Democracy in this sense is about empowering people and allowing them to take rein and be accountable for their actions. The superiors in this instance will not be surrendering their authority but instead delegating the task and sharing the responsibility with those in the organisation.

I love this idea of democratic management. Although I haven’t really finished reading the article, I’m keen more than ever to further explore this concept. So if any of you know specific books I should be reading on this, please do tell me.

My Ambition

From primary school, to high school, college, university and today, I’ve experienced changes in my personal ambition in life. It’s funny how ambition can change over time.

When I was in Primary school, I had this ambition of wanting to be a musician. I was pretty good with musical instruments, especially keyboards and recorders. The talent seems to just come naturally.

Then when I started my Secondary level education, I aspired to be a basketball player. I guess during that time I was so enthusiastic about my P.E lessons, and basketball just happened to be one of my favourite sport. At that age, I had a talent for basketball, netball, badminton, tennis, baseball, softball, rounders, cricket, dodgeball and volleyball. I also did gymnastic (although I must admit my body was not flexible enough, but heck that didn’t stop me from trying!), hockey, rugby and swimming. I was a pretty athletic gal.. and very tanned.

The came high school, I matured a bit (I think :p) and by the age of 14, I had this ambition of wanting to be a lawyer. I was pretty good in my debate class, but unfortunately it was an ambition my mom didn’t approve of.

By the time I went to college, at age 16, my new found ambition was to be a politician! Hahaha.. funny it seems now. I wanted to be a politician because I thought the profession have huge influence over people.. well, that was what it seemed like during my Public Affairs lessons.

Then came university, and at that juncture of my life I had a new ambition in life. I wanted to be the First female Minister in Brunei, Minister of Women’s Affairs. Even until now, I still hold on to this ambition. You just never know right

I had many more ambitions over the last decade or so. But at this very moment, my ultimate ambition is basically to be my true self, doing what I do best (whatever that may be). I know now that my previous ambitions had given me the motivation to always do well in what I do. Although I don’t necessarily do well 100% of the time, but I manage to have fun in the process as well. That’s what counts!

Now, at the age of over 30, married with 3 kids, my ambition is just to be a loving wife to my husband, a nurturing mother to my children, a dedicated daughter to my parents, a supportive sister to my siblings, and a true comrade to my friends. If I can achieve all these, then my life-time ambition will be fulfilled!

Individualism

Individualism simply means you as a person having your own vision and goals. Individualism opposes or is the opposite of collectivism.

Does individualism still applies in this contemporary world? How does individualism applies in sentiment of nationalism, regionalism or even globalism?

“ism” in this context is really stretching the horizon. Sometimes it’s even difficult to keep track on what these ideology really implies. Personally, I don’t think individualism is possible today. Unless you’re a complete loner and anti-social. My view is there’s power in strength. So does that mean collectivism overcomes individualism?

Can anybody shed some light on this?

Languages

I’ve always wondered how the various languages came about.

Let’s take the English language. How did people end up naming this round planet of ours EARTH? In malay it’s called BUMI.. who decided what should be named/ called what? And how did they manage to translate this one word into the thousands of languages practiced around the world? how? how? how?

How come some languages sound sexier than others? How many languages are there exactly? Do any of us know the story behind our own language?

I certain don’t. I can probably google it. But for those of you out there, do you know the history behind your own language? Share with me.

Women, the Best Manager.

It’s an undeniable fact that women make better managers than men do.

Probably this statement may come off as feminist, but I’m merely stating what has been proven from the days of our great, great ancestors.

Women started off as playing a more domesticated role in the olden days. Yes, the men were always the ones going out to get food and livelihood for the family. But it’s always the women who produce something out of the food and livelihood gathered. Men may bring in fowl, beef and flour home. But it’s the women who then turn those items into something like bbq chicken, beef stew and bread – all with its various condiments and side dishes.

In the contemporary world, although men have been seen to dominate the working sector previously, women nowadays are becoming more and more capable as well as competent to compete with their male counterparts. Women have over the centuries has elevated in status from mere domestic housewife to professions such as government officers, teachers/ lecturers, entrepreneurs, engineers, lawyers and many more. And it has been widely acknowledge that women are more thorough and organised then men are. I’m not sure whether the men will agree, but this is what I’ve heard, not just because I’m a woman myself

Women’s competency as managers is not something new. It has flourished over time. Women started off as manager of their own home and family and nowadays (still executing their domestic responsibilities) have also gained a respected status as managers at the work place.

I salute what women globally have achieved for themselves over the years. Keep up the great work! Girl Power!!

If U Can Do It, U Deserve to Brag About It!

I was watching this korean drama series “Couples and Trouble”, and there was this script dialog which I’m so taken up until now. The actress (character name Ra Sang-sil) said to the three little boys “there’s nothing wrong with bragging about what you have achieved for yourself. If you know you can do it, then you deserve to brag about it as much as you want”.

More often than not, the way we have been brought up is that we should always be modest. We were told by our parents never to be too proud of ourself, always embrace a little bit of humility for ourselves. In a way this is good, in certain condition. But where the above dialog is concerned, it’s also not a bad idea to sometimes brag a little. The feeling of self accomplishment should be shared with others. This particular action will not only alert other people of what you’re capable of doing, but at the same time it’s very nourishing for the soul and spirit.

To expect other people to give you praises and compliments can indeed be a rarity. Not many people are willing to do so. So why don’t you do yourself a favour and brag on your own accomplishment. Give it a try

Just Do It!

“In Politics, if you want anything said, ask a man – if you want anything done, ask a woman.” Margaret Thatcher.

Now this is a feminist quote

But I like it, it’s so inspirational. Like machines, from time to time we need to be fueled up. So quotes that are inspirational like this, or even words of encouragement from love ones, friends, colleagues and anyone else would indeed come in handy in providing the necessary fuel.

Unlike machines, our so called “fuel” needs to be transformed into spirit, enthusiasm and determination. Therefore, once in a while, let yourself enjoy a little bit of healthy “sunshine”. The hearts and minds are two tanks that need constant filling. So fill yourself up with a little bit of encouragement, and I’m sure the day will pass by with more joy and satisfaction

Inferiority

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.” Eleanor Roosevelt.

I totally agree with this quote. It’s so frustrating to see some people easily succumb to feelings of inferiority. What’s worst is if it was caused by what someone told you or make you believe it to be. In this case, self esteem or self confidence can either help shield or expose you to such feelings.

I remember when I was much younger, I never had much confidence in myself, probably because I was a shy person, especially in the company of adults. I always felt really small around these big and tall adults. And over the years, the feeling of “smallness” or inferiority somehow got stuck inside of me, making me uncomfortable at times. But luckily, that feeling slowly diminishes as time goes by. Probably due to my environment changing drastically, exposing me to events that compel me to release myself from that feeling of inferiority.

As we mature, hopefully for most of us, we begin to see things in a different light. For me, I underwent and still undergo numerous changing and self-realisation phases, where I take the time to constantly re-think my views and perceptions on things. I must admit, when trying to change myself for the better, it has always and still is a challenging  journey. But the important thing is, we have to really want it, in order to really realise the change.

At this juncture of my life, I can say that I’ve overcomed my previous feeling of inferiority and replace it with greater self-confidence. What continues to drive my confidence is knowing what I’m capable of doing.and the comparative advantage that I have over others. You may see other people being super capable in what they’re doing and others who seem so intelligent and successful, but at the end of the day, we can be like  or even much better than those people  Capabilities and success come in may forms. In my case, I honestly believe I have an exceptional capability that nobody else have. We’re all different, therefore we’re all capable of doing different things very well. But  behind the differences, we all have something to offer to others, doesn’t matter whether it’s something small or large.

My advise to those who putting so much effort holding onto feelings of inferiority, please reverse that energy and put in the effort to nourish and generate a new and more invigorating feeling of self-confidence. Just remember, nobody has the right to make you feel inferior without your permission. It’s time to take back that permission and invest in a more worthwhile cause.

What Colour Are You?

Everyone has a specific preference for the colours that they choose. And among the many colours of the rainbow, there will always be one or two colours which seem to appeal more than others.

My favourite colours are (in order of preference) black, red, pink, brown, white, yellow. That’s a whole lots of colors. But my ultimate favourite is black, simply because it makes me look slightly down-sized than my actual size! And every gal would always want to find colours and clothing style that makes them look superhot and give the illusion of slim-ness

I found an article that gives ‘definition’ or the personality that is associated with colours. For example, my favoured colour black is defined as the ultimate power colour when it comes to clothing; it is associated with dignity and sophistication. Black also means that I carry yourself with dignity and is inclined to conceal my real personality and emotions from others. It also states that Black-lover finds it difficult to be carefree, but in public may put forth an image of wit and cleverness. Small amounts of black are inspirational, large amounts, oppressing. Black coordinates with all other colours… This is absolutely me!!

If you wish to find out the personality of your colour, I’ve listed below the definition of each colours. To know more you can also browse through the related website (http://www.beautitone.ca/english/85.htm). Happy reading!

COLOUR PERSONALITY

One of the most compelling things about paint colour is its power to dramatically affect how people feel. Different colours can instill feelings of warmth, cold, calm or nervousness. They can stir the appetite, the spirit and even the libido. Colour, in short is immensely powerful and tapping into that power isn’t all that hard, if you know how to go about it. Thankfully, most people are affected by various colours in the same way. In general, reds and yellows are perceived as warm, active, youthful and invigorating. Blues and greens, meanwhile, are perceived as cool, calm, passive and relaxing. Every colour has its own personality and influences our emotions. Choose colours that will reflect the mood you want to create in your home.

Red is great for dining rooms, stimulating appetite and increasing brain activity. It is excellent for child development as it is believed to be the first colour they see. If red is your favourite colour you are impulsive, possibly athletic, sexy and quick to speak your mind. You feel that life is meant to be happy and exciting.

Orange is an extrovert with a contemporary outlook. Its hue helps in attracting people. If orange is your favourite colour you get along well with others. You tend to be social and hate to be alone. People who wear orange enjoy being the centre of attention. Terra cotta is often a popular shade of orange used in decorating.

Yellow is the brightest colour, stimulating memory and giving the room a warm sunny outlook. In proper doses it can lift your spirits. If yellow is your favourite colour you look toward the future and have a yearning for the new and the modern. You have a cheerful spirit and are inclined to be intellectual, idealistic and highly imaginative. Be careful: a bright yellow nursery may make a baby cry more often. Ideal for kitchens and studies.

Green is the most dominant colour in nature. Green gives a feeling of tranquillity to a room, making you feel secure. If green is your favourite colour you cherish stability, balance and persistence. You always finish what you start. You are inclined to be frank, moral, sensitive, affectionate and loyal. Painting your front entrance door green can invite prosperity to enter your home.

Blue is the stated preference of the majority of the population. It lowers blood pressure and inspires meditation. If blue is your favourite colour you have a basic need for a calm, harmonious, tension-free existence. You are capable, conservative and sensitive to others. You are a loyal, trustworthy friend. You enjoy life but may find it difficult to release your emotions. Blue has a restful effect and is great for bedrooms.

Violet is regarded as a power colour. It can be soothing and spiritual in deeper shades. Brighter hues are preferred by children, while rosier hues are preferred by adults. If violet is your favourite colour you are highly sensitive and observant, but may be quite temperamental. You are highly artistic and talented and enjoy being glamorous. Purple depresses appetite, so eating from purple plates will help you to stay trim!

White is delicate and refined. It looks good with every other colour and will tone down other colours. If white is your favourite colour you expect to experience happiness. You seek perfection and desire constant enlightenment. You strive for all that is best and you expect others to do the same. White encourages a sense of peace and purity.

Black is the ultimate power colour when it comes to clothing; it is associated with dignity and sophistication. If black is your favourite colour you carry yourself with dignity and are inclined to conceal your real personality and emotions from others. You find it difficult to be carefree but in public you may put forth an image of wit and cleverness. Small amounts of black are inspirational, large amounts, oppressing. Black coordinates with all other colours.

Economics and NPM

There is this ongoing effort to give economics reasoning to how the public sector manages itself. This can be a challenge, especially if you don’t have any economics background to begin with. But yet not impossible.

When people hear the word economics, you can see their facial expression changing to a very concerned and unfamiliar look. There’s nothing to be afraid of about economics. It’s just one of those subjects in school where most students just don’t opt to sit in as a choice. But it is a subject that is very closely related to our everyday life.

Simply put, economics is about how we behave in our daily life. Microeconomics is the effects of our behavior on those things around us, while macroeconomics is about the effects of everyone’s behaviour on everything else around them.

In the context of NPM (New Public Management), economics is seen under a lighter shade. Economics here is used to explain why certain choices of policy is more beneficial than others, in consideration of the micro and macro effect that it has. This is my own understanding and definition. So don’t quote me. But do debate if you disagree.

Hence, with the application of economics in management, the concept of ‘NPM’ begin to emerge. NPM basically brings traditional public administrators to a new height, with a focus for more strategic change and outcome rather than merely implementation base on instruction.  Again this is my own definition.

So when you put economics and NPM together, what is endeavoured is to ensure decisions in the policy formulation process is derived from assessment of the related environment and users/ beneficiary feedbacks. Of course, the explanation on this is much more extensive than what I’ve written here. But we can cover that another time.

On the implementation side, attempting to mould a new working culture revolving around economics and NPM is indeed a crazy and almost impossible undertaking. The very words of Economics and NPM, which are aliens to most people, will automatically turn people on the defensive mode and consequently produce a resistance.

Anything new, unfamiliar and imply a change from the norm will have this effect. So the force for change will need to be greater in strength and tenacity. Leaders (in action not in position) have an important role to play here. Because only strong-willed and tenacious leaders can bring out the ultimate change through alteration in mindset and working culture. Equally important is to manage such initiative with relevant and timely knowledge. People will ease up to any undertakings if they are constantly updated and informed on the progress.

I could talk endlessly on this. There are many dimesion to explore and deliberate. If there is an area you want to share under this title, please to pass in your comments. I’m dying to read more refreshing thoughts on this.

Aging

When I was younger, I was so eager to be 18  just because that’s the  age when I could things that adults do. But as years went by, birthdays after birthdays,  age slowly begin to catch up.. and how I wish I was young again.

But hey, that’s life! We come into the world, grow up, and sooner or later get closer to the time to leave the world that we first came into.

Aging is a scary thing. Scary because it means one day we would have to leave our love ones for good, forever. That’s looking at it from the final-end perspective. But if we look at the aging process overall, it’s not so bad for some people. For some, aging means having spent your life doing what you like and in the company of your family, friends and others. So the quality of life that you’ve led as you approach your much older self is what counts most.

So how is the quality of your own aging process?Aging is more than how your skin begin to shag. It’s about what each and every wrinkles on you means So live a meaningful life and embrace your aging self. Life is too beautiful to waste on worrying!

Hanging Out

Recalling my youthful years, I was always intrigued by what goes on outside of the home. I was always trying to find excuses to go out with my friends and just hang out. Most of the time when we do hang out, we were never really doing anything useful or important. Just by being in each other’s company and in an interesting surrounding seemed the right thing to do, as opposed to just stay home.

Now, with my own teenage children, I can finally see how my parents must have felt towards my behaviour. I wasn’t really the wild type, probably more tomboyish and so I hang out with guys. I didn’t like hanging out with girls because all they talked about was boys, in a girlish gossipy way *yuck*. Anyway, my parents didn’t have any problem with me, because they made sure I never hang out with my friends. The only way to hang out with my friends was to invite them to my home This was done often, and was pretty fun too.

Youths undergo a very challenging growing process, especially when it revolves around involvement with peer activities. Of course it’s always much more interesting and fun to hang out with your friends than some old and unexciting family members. But as a parent, having gone through the same youthful-past of great curiousity and adventure, it’s not always a good idea to allow too much freedom in this case. At the same time, it’s equally a bad idea to try and lock up the kids just because you’re worried about the potential problems they might get into.

Hanging out for teenage children is sometimes a good thing, as long as they’re doing something constructive and useful… and in the absence of boys

Study in the UK

I’m currently making preparation for my further studies. There are so many fields available to choose from, and of course quite demanding entry requirements as well. My favourite topic is of course Management, so I’ve been making arrangements to pursue that field. So hopefully I will see some development in the application outcome.

But last week, I attended this exhibition “Study in the UK” at the Empire Hotel, quite a number of renowned universities were present to have a one-on-one session with incoming visitors. I found it very useful and quite refreshing.

My first degree was done in the UK. So I wanted to do my postgraduate elsewhere, just wanting to experience studying in other cultures But my visit to the exhibition last week has brought back memories of my studying experience in the UK. It’s a wonderful country to be studying at. And after speaking to quite a few of the universities’ representatives, I’m opening my option of studying again in the UK.

So for those of you thinking of doing your undergraduate study, please do consider the UK as your first option. I’ve studied there for my undergraduate, and it was an absolutely wonderful experience. Take my word for it

New Moon Review

Went to watch NEW MOON last week with my family. From the start of the movie, the movie involved a lot of talking and not enough acting. If you’re wondering about how good their acting was, let’s just say Bella’s and Edward’s facial expressions were as stale and blank as a rock. The only thing that made the movie worth watching was how much Jacob has grown, physically. That boy is buffed you can’t help but feel hot at every scene with him bare-chested. The biggest turn-off I think was the ending. It’s one thing to want to leave people wondering and anticipating for the next episode, but it’s quite another when the dialog just stop abruptly with when edward says “Will you marry me?”. What the heck!

I honestly don’t know why I keep going to watch these vampire movies. I will just give NEW MOON a grade of 4/10. And for Jacob’s pecks 10/10. He’s a mighty fine young werewolf

Another Movie Review

When I have nothing specific to talk about, I always revert to my love for the movies. A few weeks ago, I went to watch the movie 2010, and it was great!!! Although the storyline was somewhat spooky and nerve-wrecking, but the irony of some of the scene left such a huge impression on me. My most favourite part was when when the family barely managed t0 escape the deteriorating grounds. That was definitely too lucky to be real.

Almost 3 hours went past when the movie was finally over… we didn’t even notice it was that long! I totally recommend for everyone to watch this movie. The special effects, the catastrophic landscape was superb!! To grade it, I would give it 8/10.

Scary Experience

I recall an incident last year, just a few days after I brought my newborn son home, the most terrifying incident happened to us.

I think it was around 4am in the morning when I suddenly woke up and saw my room ceiling covered with dark smokey clouds. I practically jumped out of bed and try to find what caused the smoke, though I didn’t see any fire  flames.. only scary thick black smokes engulfing my ceiling.

As if sensing what caused the smoke, I ran to the bathroom and saw the hanging plastic cup dripping like rubber, while omitting black smoke up to the wall.  I quickly turned on the water tap to put out the little lit fire from the melting candle and in a split second rushed to my husband to wake up the kids . Then as if like lightning,  I rushed to pick up my newborn son to take him away from the smoke filled room. I ran out of the room and to the first floor of the house, which didn’t seem affected at all. I was so glad to be out of that room with my baby.

When I reached the first floor, I went in search of my mom. She was shocked when she found me, apparently shocked by my appearance. I didn’t know how I looked at that time until I saw my son. His face was black, dirtied by the smoke.. and his little nostrils were also pitch black! He looked so vulnerable, in my mind there was this fear that if I didn’t wake up and the smoke was allowed to engulf the whole room, my family could have been extremely suffocated, especially my little baby. But by God’s will my family was all fine and well. My mom and dad were so very angry with me and the incident. It wasn’t intentional. Accidents never were. But the main thing was, everyone was safe.

When the commotion toned down, I finally had the chance to actually look at myself in the mirror. And yes, I too was completely dirtied by the black smoke, from the top of my head to my very toes. I looked as if I have come out of the 7/11 movie. It was seriously horrifying. The appearance of my baby boy on that day has stuck firmly in my mind until this very day, probably even till the last day of my life. That was a sight I never want to encounter ever. The dreading feeling that something really bad could have happened keep on lingering in my mind. I pray and thank God that my family was kept safe. God bless us all!

First Class Cinema

I’m such a movie buff that I would be so restless if I don’t go to the cinema at least once a week. And recently a friend of mine forwarded me an email showing this First Class Cinema in Thailand. I’m sure you would want to go to the cinema as often as possible after seeing these. But there is a possibility that the movie ticket will cost more than usual :p

Instant Noodle.

I came across this very important forwarded-email about the proper way to cook instant noodles. I would like to share with all my blog readers this information, especially if you’re keen on instant noodles.

Normally, how we cook the instant noodles is to put the noodles into a pot with water, throw in the powder and let it cook for around 3 minutes and then it’s ready to eat.

This is the WRONG method of cooking the instant noodles.

By doing this, when we actually boil the ingredients in the powder, normally with MSG, it will change the molecular structures of the MSG causing it to be toxic.

The other thing that you may or may not realize is that, the noodles are coated with wax and it will take around 4 to 5 days for the body to excrete the wax after you have taken the noodles.

CORRECT METHOD :

1. boil the noodles in a pot with water.

2. once the noodles is cooked, take out the noodles, and throw away the water which contains wax.

3. boil another pot of water till boiling and put the noodles into the hot boiling water and then shut the fire.

4. only at this stage when the fire is off, and while the water is very hot, put the ingredient with the powder into the water, to make noodle soup.

5. however, if you need dry noodles, take out the noodles and add the ingredient with the powder and toss it to get dry noodles.

Dietician’s Note: If you buy plain hakka noodles which you make initially need to boil in water and discard the water. This will soften the noodles but to prevent it from sticking we need to add a tbsp of oil and also the noodles are deep fried partially to make it crunchy and then dusted with flour to prevent it from sticking while boiling. Hence when you buy the noodles they are already made unhealthy and this is the type we use to make stir fry noodles and the regular maggi too is made the same way plus they add MSG/ ajinomoto and other chemical preservatives.

A large number of patient with the ages ranging from 18-24 years are ending up with pancreatitis either as a swelling or infection of the pancreas due to regular consumption of instant noodles. If the frequency is more than 3 times a week, then it is very hazardous.

Health Tips

I came across this interesting blog where one of the article was on Health Tips. Have a look at it yourself.

Super Fruits

I found another fun-tastic list on the benefits of fruits. And as always, I got it here to share with my blog readers.

Looking Good

Looking good is an absolute must for most people. If you don’t look good, other people may not be interested in knowing you. (Some may tend to think this way). But I think, why should you care about it that much? Do you want everyone to be interested in you just for your looks?

Most people are totally obsessed with how they look. Some make the effort to look good, and they do. While others who don’t make as much an effort, still manage to look their best. But there are also some people who no matter how hard they try, they’re just not so appealing to look at. So why is everyone working so hard to look good? What are the gains from looking your best?

One reason could be, prettier or good looking people have more friends… friends who also look as good as they do. But this is such a lame excuse though. Friends can be found and made anywhere and for any kind of reason. Being pretty will not necessarily mean you will have more friends than a less pretty person.

Another reason.. wanting to look and feel like a celebrity. Probably influenced by MTV and E! channel, people go the extra mile in donning themselves with matching accessories and flattering clothes just to have a feel of what it’s like to be popular. Again, this is so superficial and plastic. This reason is so teenager-ish :p

So what do you think? What is the real reason behind why people make such a big deal in looking good in the presence of others?

Food Obsession?

As a morning routine, I would browse through the net for interesting articles. Today I found this article by Lauren Gelman titled “Are You Obsessed with Food: 13 signs you’re overthinking mealtime—and how to forge a healthier relationship with your plate”. Since I liked the article so much, I had re-posted it here for your reading.

ARE YOU OBSESSED WITH FOOD?

On any given day, 45% of women are on a diet, according to the National Eating Disorders Association.

On average, we think about our bodies 8 times a day, found one recent survey. About 80% of women are dissatisfied with their appearance, and what’s worse, 40% would trade 3 to 5 years of their lives to achieve weight loss goals.

No wonder many women report signs of disordered eating behavior—like excessively counting calories or working out just to burn off food—even if they never develop a full-blown disorder such as anorexia or bulimia.

Problem is, there’s often a fine line between eating healthfully to slim down and becoming fixated with food, so we talked to top food behavior experts to understand the difference. Here are some red flags that could indicate a food/weight obsession. Ask yourself these questions, and then learn how you can adopt a healthier approach.

1. You eat in reaction to bad or good news.

You’re having a stressful day, so you treat yourself to Cheetos at the vending machine. Or you just nailed a big presentation, so you supersize your french fries as a reward.

“If food is your automatic reaction to dealing with any emotion—good or bad—it could signal an unhealthy relationship,” says Cynthia Bulik, PhD, director of the Eating Disorders Program at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine. Another sign: When you’re upset, you turn to food before you call your partner or a friend.

2. You eat without feeling hungry.

It’s 12:30, your usual lunchtime. But today you had a late breakfast and you’re not feeling very hungry. Do you make a beeline for your favorite sandwich shop anyway? If so, this means you’ve detached eating from physical hunger, says Adrienne Ressler, LMSW, national training director for the Renfrew Center Foundation, one of the country’s top treatment centers for eating disorders.

“You may eat out of boredom, anxiety, habits, desire, or some other emotion,” says Bulik. But going with your gut—literally—is best for your health. Women who follow internal hunger and satiety cues report higher levels of self-esteem and optimism and lower BMIs, according to a Journal of Counseling Psychology study.

3. You have out-of-control eating binges.

Everyone indulges in an extra slice of pizza or another handful of M&M’s. But if you regularly eat much more than you intended, stuff yourself until you’re uncomfortably full, or feel like you can’t stop eating, that could be something to watch.

Overeating like this can result from going too long between meals or restricting yourself, not to mention that age-old culprit: boredom. “Binge eating is often associated with eating rituals, like sitting down to watch TV,” says Ressler. “You start with a bag of popcorn. All that salt makes you crave something sweet, like ice cream. Then you feel thirsty, so you have a soda.”

Eat frequent, consistently sized meals to avoid binges and feel happier. Research from Liverpool John Moores University found that women who fluctuated between low- and high-calorie meals were less happy with their bodies than those whose plates packed a similar number of calories from meal to meal.

If numbers 1, 2, and 3 apply to you, you may be an emotional eater.

Problem: Emotional Eater

Coping strategy: There are two main issues here, says Bulik: “One is that emotional eaters are more likely to have problems maintaining a healthy weight.” The other is that you never develop positive ways to handle your feelings, such as taking a mind-clearing walk instead of reaching into your snack drawer or simply asking yourself if something is bothering you before you grab a cookie.

Start a food-mood journal to track the following whenever you eat: (1) what you eat, (2) your emotion at the time, and (3) the strength of that emotion (on a 1-to-10 scale). You’ll identify patterns that drive you to crave certain foods and can work on finding other ways to deal instead.

Learning to appreciate your body can also help. Even if you’re still a dress size or three away from your “ideal,” try to focus on the features you do love—strong, shapely legs, perhaps, or shoulders that look great in strapless. Being satisfied with your shape may help prevent emotional eating, according to research in the Journal of Counseling Psychology. People who are content with their bodies tend to be more in tune with hunger signals.

4. There’s zero variety in your diet.

You’ve had Rice Krispies with fat-free milk for breakfast every day for 10 years. For lunch, it’s always salad with the same fat-free dressing. And for dinner, what’s wrong with grilled chicken and steamed broccoli Monday through Thursday?

“Someone who eats like this takes no pleasure in food,” says Ressler. “The satisfaction comes not from the experience but from knowing they’ve met requirements on a nutrition label.” Another danger: missing important nutrients. Different grains, dairy, meats, nuts, beans, vegetables, and fruit means you get a variety of essential vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants every day.

5. You count every last calorie.

It’s one thing to watch your intake while you’re trying to lose weight. But over time, people can gauge how much to eat to maintain weight loss without poring over every label. If you’ve cut calories dangerously low (under 1,200 a day for most women) and your life revolves around your food “rules,” then you’ve taken things too far.

Calorie hawks also feel guilty when they don’t follow their plans—”like the rest of the day is ruined,” says Bulik. Severe restriction can lead to anorexia or thwart weight loss efforts by slowing metabolism—not to mention that you’ll feel hungry, exhausted, foggy, and grumpy if you don’t consume enough nutrients.

6. You view foods as “good” or “bad.”

Bread is “bad”—so having a bagel for breakfast is a rare treat. Baby carrots are “good,” so there’s zero guilt about eating them as a snack. If you compartmentalize food choices like this, you’re setting yourself up for a tricky tango later, says Bulik: “Once you have a ‘bad’ label on something, under certain conditions you’ll crave it more, lose all control, and binge.” Research shows that people have only so much willpower; if you try to limit too many things at once, you’ll end up caving more quickly.

Of course, certain foods are inherently healthier than others—so this doesn’t mean you can eat fast food whenever you want. But that’s where portion control comes in. Train yourself to have just one Munchkin and then concentrate on something other than eating, says Bulik.

If numbers 4, 5, and 6 apply to you, you may be a food restricter.

Problem: Food Restricter

Coping strategy: Skimping on variety for predictability—a way to exert control—can shortchange your body of crucial nutrients, as can cutting calories too low. A Canadian study found that about 25% of women have what’s known as high cognitive dietary restraint, which means they think constantly about food and spend a lot of time deciding what to eat and avoid. Research shows that these women have higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol; however, they’re no more likely to be thin than are the women who don’t think about food as much.

Unravel the strict behaviors, and be more spontaneous about your meals. Start small: Try something new for breakfast, and don’t count calories. Eyeball what looks like a sensible portion, and see how satiated you feel afterward. “A healthy approach to food is a flexible one,” says Bulik.

7. You’re 100% organic, 100% of the time.

We know organic, unprocessed, whole foods are healthiest, but some people take the mantra to an extreme. This could be you if you refuse to shop for groceries or eat at places that don’t meet your healthy standards, you decode every ingredient label and deem all foods with “unnatural” ingredients off-limits, or you perceive processed products as dangerous to your health.

8. You judge others’ eating habits.

Have you become such a health guru that you can’t help but comment on or judge others’ food choices? It’s one thing to be concerned about a loved one’s health and hide the salt shaker or insist on low-fat ice cream, but it’s another to become evangelical about it.

“If you create a hostile environment for others or violate their boundaries with your perspective, that’s not good,” says Ressler.

If numbers 7 and 8 apply to you, you may be an orthorexic eater.

Problem: Orthorexic Eater

This term, coined by a Colorado doctor more than 10 years ago, refers to people who are unhealthfully concerned with, well, eating healthy.

Coping strategy: “This becomes a slippery slope as people restrict more and more foods from their repertoire,” says Bulik. “For some it can stay at that level, but for many others, it evolves into a convenient way to justify anorexia.” Another consequence: It can give kids a fear of food, as though there’s a danger lurking in every package. You may not realize how extreme your healthy ways have become, but your friends and family probably have. Ask them if they think you may have a problem.

Remember that nutrition science changes all the time. How you look and feel—not a daily consumption of flaxseed or avoiding high fructose corn syrup at all costs—is your best everyday measure of health.

9. You eat differently when alone.

At dinner with friends, you order a leafy salad, pass on the breadbasket, and nibble on a shared dessert. On the couch in comfy sweats, you have no problem eating whatever you want—or how much you want.

“There’s sort of an unstated rule that women are always supposed to be on diets, that they’re not supposed to have hearty appetites,” says Bulik. “These myths drive an enormous amount of female behavior.”

10. You’ve dropped friends over food.

Have you cut back on evenings out with your margarita-swigging girlfriends in favor of being with people who are on the exact same diet/exercise page as you? Or do you spend more time seeking diet advice in message boards online instead of chatting with family and friends? These behaviors could indicate that your food relationship is taking a toll on your social relationships.

If numbers 9 and 10 apply to you, you may be social switcher.

Problem: Social Switcher

Coping strategy: “If you often eat differently when alone, that means there’s a fundamental discomfort with who you are,” says Bulik. That can cause stress, anxiety, and self-esteem issues: “It’s as though you’ve divided your life into two parts, allowing yourself to be ‘good’ around others and ‘bad’ when alone.” If friendships have changed because of food, that can be a sign of overly restrictive rules.

Think about why you approach food differently when you’re around others. If you’re worried about eating too much in public, remember that we’re meant to have an appetite. No one thinks more highly of you because you choose the mesclun greens instead of penne marinara. And research shows that you eat less when you take time to eat, chew, and digest between bites—something that’s easier when you chat away dinner with friends than when you dine alone.

11. You make water a “meal”.

Sipping water throughout the day to stay hydrated and full between meals is fine; downing a glass in lieu of lunch is not. Same with gum—it’s a great way to fend off an unexpected craving but shouldn’t replace a healthy snack, which provides crucial nutrients and boosts energy levels.

Using these “tools” to keep full may mean you’re trying too hard to override your body’s natural hunger signals—and may be cutting calories and nutrients too low.

12. You follow extreme/weird diets.

Are carbs banned from your pantry? Do you drink all of your meals? Are you on a regimen where you can’t eat certain food groups—like protein and carbs—at the same sitting? Extreme plans like these may seem okay for short-term results (say, a high school reunion or family wedding), but “these diets can be really dangerous,” says Ressler.

If numbers 11 and 12 apply to you, you may be a diet addict.

Problem: Diet Addict

Coping strategy: This is a form of restricted eating in which you may be missing important nutrients. Plus, it can slow your metabolism to the point where cutting calories becomes countereffective. Also, extreme plans are difficult to stick to long-term, so you yo-yo: You regain the weight then try something else to lose again.

Some people need structure to eat healthfully, and that’s okay. But if a plan sounds gimmicky or too good to be true, it probably is. Look for a program that emphasizes a healthy balance of all nutrients, with controlled portions to keep calories in check. Some people need structure to eat healthfully, and that’s okay. But if a plan sounds gimmicky or too good to be true, it probably is. Look for a program that emphasizes a healthy balance of all nutrients, with controlled portions to keep calories in check. Visit our diet section for healthy options.

13. You Overdo Workouts.

If you do calorie math before you hit the gym (e.g., I ate X calories at lunch, so I need to burn off Y on the treadmill) or refuse to skip a workout—even if you’re injured, completely exhausted, or sneezing and coughing up a storm—then you may have taken this healthy habit too far. Though most people don’t exercise enough, in some cases there can be too much of a good thing.

If number 13 applies to you, you may be an overexerciser.

Problem: Overexerciser

Coping strategy: Some people use long gym sessions or work out at an extreme pace to get their weight unnaturally low, says Bulik. This is common among women with anorexia. Women who binge may also work out to burn off the calorie damage, which means they’re eating poorly as part of a vicious cycle that won’t lead to weight loss.

First, examine what’s driving your behavior, says Ressler: “Is it to feel better and live longer, or because you think your self-worth is based on being able to wear a size two?” Remember that exercise is about much more than weight loss. Cardio workouts get healthy, oxygen-rich blood coursing through your body, nourishing your heart, brain, lungs, and pretty much every organ. Strength-training builds muscle tone, which maintains your strength and can even prevent type 2 diabetes. Yoga and other calming workouts relieve stress and improve balance, reducing your risk of injury.

Super Food

Another useful article that I came across, and just had to share with you all, was by Amanda MacMillan and Tamara Schryver, RD titled “9 Power Foods That Boost Immunity”.

I’ve always make it a point to invest in the food that my family consumes. And it is absolutely and indefinitely important that all food selection that I make will ensure a balanced diet for my family. I guess the article below intrigued me because it listed the 9 type of foods that are simple to get but most of the time the health benefits are taken for granted by most of us. Have a read below.

Foods that Fight Illness

It takes more than an apple a day to keep the doctor away. It turns out that eating some pretty surprising nutrients will help keep your immune system on guard.

You can ensure your body and immunity run smoothly by rounding out your plate with plenty of colorful servings of fruits and veggies, plus 8 to 10 glasses of water a day, at the very least. The following ingredients can add extra flu-fighting punch to your winter meal plan.

1. Yogurt

Probiotics, or the “live active cultures” found in yogurt, are healthy bacteria that keep the gut and intestinal tract free of disease-causing germs. Although they’re available in supplement form, a study from the University of Vienna in Austria found that a daily 7-ounce dose of yogurt was just as effective in boosting immunity as popping pills. In an 80-day Swedish study of 181 factory employees, those who drank a daily supplement of Lactobacillus reuteri–a specific probiotic that appears to stimulate white blood cells–took 33% fewer sick days than those given a placebo. Any yogurt with a Live and Active Cultures seal contains some beneficial bugs, but Stonyfield Farm is the only US brand that contains this specific strain.

Your optimal dose: Two 6-ounce servings a day.

2. Oats and Barley

These grains contain beta-glucan, a type of fiber with antimicrobial and antioxidant capabilities more potent than echinacea, reports a Norwegian study. When animals eat this compound, they’re less likely to contract influenza, herpes, even anthrax; in humans, it boosts immunity, speeds wound healing, and may help antibiotics work better.

Your optimal dose: At least one in your three daily servings of whole grains.

3. Garlic

This potent onion relative contains the active ingredient allicin, which fights infection and bacteria. British researchers gave 146 people either a placebo or a garlic extract for 12 weeks; the garlic takers were two-thirds less likely to catch a cold. Other studies suggest that garlic lovers who chow more than six cloves a week have a 30% lower rate of colorectal cancer and a 50% lower rate of stomach cancer.

Your optimal dose: Two raw cloves a day and add crushed garlic to your cooking several times a week.

4. Fish

Selenium, plentiful in shellfish such as oysters, lobsters, crabs, and clams, helps white blood cells produce cytokines-proteins that help clear flu viruses out of the body. Salmon, mackerel, and herring are rich in omega-3 fats, which reduce inflammation, increasing airflow and protecting lungs from colds and respiratory infections.

Your optimal dose: Two servings a week (unless you’re pregnant or planning to be).

5. Chicken Soup

When University of Nebraska researchers tested 13 brands, they found that all but one (chicken-flavored ramen noodles) blocked the migration of inflammatory white cells-an important finding, because cold symptoms are a response to the cells’ accumulation in the bronchial tubes. The amino acid cysteine, released from chicken during cooking, chemically resembles the bronchitis drug acetylcysteine, which may explain the results. The soup’s salty broth keeps mucus thin the same way cough medicines do. Added spices, such as garlic and onions, can increase soup’s immune-boosting power.

Your optimal dose: Have a bowl when feeling crummy.

6. Tea

People who drank 5 cups a day of black tea for 2 weeks had 10 times more virus-fighting interferon in their blood than others who drank a placebo hot drink, in a Harvard study. The amino acid that’s responsible for this immune boost, L-theanine, is abundant in both black and green tea–decaf versions have it, too.

Your optimal dose: Several cups daily. To get up to five times more antioxidants from your tea bags, bob them up and down while you brew.

7. Beef

Zinc deficiency is one of the most common nutritional shortfalls among American adults, especially for vegetarians and those who’ve cut back on beef, a prime source of this immunity-bolstering mineral. And that’s unfortunate, because even mild zinc deficiency can increase your risk of infection. Zinc in your diet is very important for the development of white blood cells, the intrepid immune system cells that recognize and destroy invading bacteria, viruses, and assorted other bad guys, says William Boisvert, PhD, an expert in nutrition and immunity at The Scripps Research Institute in La Jolla, CA.

Your optimal dose: A 3-oz serving of lean beef provides about 30 percent of the Daily Value (DV) for zinc. That’s often enough to make the difference between deficient and sufficient. Not a beef person? Try zinc-rich oysters, fortified cereals, pork, poultry, yogurt, or milk.

8. Sweet Potatoes

You may not think of skin as part of your immune system. But this crucial organ, covering an impressive 16 square feet, serves as a first-line fortress against bacteria, viruses, and other undesirables. To stay strong and healthy, your skin needs vitamin A. “Vitamin A plays a major role in the production of connective tissue, a key component of skin,” explains Prevention advisor David Katz, MD, director of the Yale-Griffin Prevention Research Center in Derby, CT. One of the best ways to get vitamin A into your diet is from foods containing beta-carotene (like sweet potatoes), which your body turns into vitamin A.

Your optimal dose: A half-cup serving, which delivers only 170 calories but 40 percent of the DV of vitamin A as beta-carotene. They’re so good, you might want to save them for dessert! Think orange when looking for other foods rich in beta-carotene: carrots, squash, canned pumpkin, and cantaloupe.

9. Mushrooms

For centuries, people around the world have turned to mushrooms for a healthy immune system. Contemporary researchers now know why. “Studies show that mushrooms increase the production and activity of white blood cells, making them more aggressive. This is a good thing when you have an infection,” says Douglas Schar, DipPhyt, MCPP, MNIMH, director of the Institute of Herbal Medicine in Washington, DC.

Your optimal dose: Shiitake, maitake, and reishi mushrooms appear to pack the biggest immunity punch; experts recommend at least ¼ ounce to an ounce a few times a day for maximum immune benefits. Add a handful to pasta sauce, saute with a little oil and add to eggs, or heap triple-decker style on a frozen pizza.

Good Food May Be Bad For You?

Probably I’m on a quest for new and useful health tips, but I read this article by Liz Vaccariello, Editor-in-Chief, PREVENTION on “The 7 foods experts won’t eat”.

The listed food were quite normal but yet the story behind them, the way these experts explained it, will cause you to really re-think your choices every time you visit the supermarket! Do tell me what you think of the article below:

How healthy (or not) certain foods are—for us, for the environment—is a hotly debated topic among experts and consumers alike, and there are no easy answers. But when Prevention talked to the people at the forefront of food safety and asked them one simple question—“What foods do you avoid?”—we got some pretty interesting answers. Although these foods don’t necessarily make up a “banned” list, as you head into the holidays—and all the grocery shopping that comes with it—their answers are, well, food for thought:

1. Canned Tomatoes

The expert: Fredrick vom Saal, PhD, an endocrinologist at the University of Missouri who studies bisphenol-A

The problem: The resin linings of tin cans contain bisphenol-A, a synthetic estrogen that has been linked to ailments ranging from reproductive problems to heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. Unfortunately, acidity (a prominent characteristic of tomatoes) causes BPA to leach into your food. Studies show that the BPA in most people’s body exceeds the amount that suppresses sperm production or causes chromosomal damage to the eggs of animals. “You can get 50 mcg of BPA per liter out of a tomato can, and that’s a level that is going to impact people, particularly the young,” says vom Saal. “I won’t go near canned tomatoes.”

The solution: Choose tomatoes in glass bottles (which do not need resin linings), such as the brands Bionaturae and Coluccio. You can also get several types in Tetra Pak boxes, like Trader Joe’s and Pomi.

2. Corn-Fed Beef

The expert: Joel Salatin, co-owner of Polyface Farms and author of half a dozen books on sustainable farming

The problem: Cattle evolved to eat grass, not grains. But farmers today feed their animals corn and soybeans, which fatten up the animals faster for slaughter. More money for cattle farmers (and lower prices at the grocery store) means a lot less nutrition for us. A recent comprehensive study conducted by the USDA and researchers from Clemson University found that compared with corn-fed beef, grass-fed beef is higher in beta-carotene, vitamin E, omega-3s, conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), calcium, magnesium, and potassium; lower in inflammatory omega-6s; and lower in saturated fats that have been linked to heart disease. “We need to respect the fact that cows are herbivores, and that does not mean feeding them corn and chicken manure,” says Salatin.

The solution: Buy grass-fed beef, which can be found at specialty grocers, farmers’ markets, and nationally at Whole Foods. It’s usually labeled because it demands a premium, but if you don’t see it, ask your butcher.

3. Microwave Popcorn

The expert: Olga Naidenko, PhD, a senior scientist for the Environmental Working Group,

The problem: Chemicals, including perfluorooctanoic acid (PFOA), in the lining of the bag, are part of a class of compounds that may be linked to infertility in humans, according to a recent study from UCLA. In animal testing, the chemicals cause liver, testicular, and pancreatic cancer. Studies show that microwaving causes the chemicals to vaporize—and migrate into your popcorn. “They stay in your body for years and accumulate there,” says Naidenko, which is why researchers worry that levels in humans could approach the amounts causing cancers in laboratory animals. DuPont and other manufacturers have promised to phase out PFOA by 2015 under a voluntary EPA plan, but millions of bags of popcorn will be sold between now and then.

The solution: Pop natural kernels the old-fashioned way: in a skillet. For flavorings, you can add real butter or dried seasonings, such as dillweed, vegetable flakes, or soup mix.

4. Nonorganic Potatoes

The expert: Jeffrey Moyer, chair of the National Organic Standards Board

The problem: Root vegetables absorb herbicides, pesticides, and fungicides that wind up in soil. In the case of potatoes—the nation’s most popular vegetable—they’re treated with fungicides during the growing season, then sprayed with herbicides to kill off the fibrous vines before harvesting. After they’re dug up, the potatoes are treated yet again to prevent them from sprouting. “Try this experiment: Buy a conventional potato in a store, and try to get it to sprout. It won’t,” says Moyer, who is also farm director of the Rodale Institute (also owned by Rodale Inc., the publisher of Prevention). “I’ve talked with potato growers who say point-blank they would never eat the potatoes they sell. They have separate plots where they grow potatoes for themselves without all the chemicals.”

The solution: Buy organic potatoes. Washing isn’t good enough if you’re trying to remove chemicals that have been absorbed into the flesh.

5. Farmed Salmon

The expert: David Carpenter, MD, director of the Institute for Health and the Environment at the University at Albany and publisher of a major study in the journal Science on contamination in fish.

The problem: Nature didn’t intend for salmon to be crammed into pens and fed soy, poultry litter, and hydrolyzed chicken feathers. As a result, farmed salmon is lower in vitamin D and higher in contaminants, including carcinogens, PCBs, brominated flame retardants, and pesticides such as dioxin and DDT. According to Carpenter, the most contaminated fish come from Northern Europe, which can be found on American menus. “You can only safely eat one of these salmon dinners every 5 months without increasing your risk of cancer,” says Carpenter, whose 2004 fish contamination study got broad media attention. “It’s that bad.” Preliminary science has also linked DDT to diabetes and obesity, but some nutritionists believe the benefits of omega-3s outweigh the risks. There is also concern about the high level of antibiotics and pesticides used to treat these fish. When you eat farmed salmon, you get dosed with the same drugs and chemicals.

The solution: Switch to wild-caught Alaska salmon. If the package says fresh Atlantic, it’s farmed. There are no commercial fisheries left for wild Atlantic salmon.

6. Milk Produced with Artificial Hormones

The expert: Rick North, project director of the Campaign for Safe Food at the Oregon Physicians for Social Responsibility and former CEO of the Oregon division of the American Cancer Society

The problem: Milk producers treat their dairy cattle with recombinant bovine growth hormone (rBGH or rBST, as it is also known) to boost milk production. But rBGH also increases udder infections and even pus in the milk. It also leads to higher levels of a hormone called insulin-like growth factor in milk. In people, high levels of IGF-1 may contribute to breast, prostate, and colon cancers. “When the government approved rBGH, it was thought that IGF-1 from milk would be broken down in the human digestive tract,” says North. As it turns out, the casein in milk protects most of it, according to several independent studies. “There’s not 100% proof that this is increasing cancer in humans,” admits North. “However, it’s banned in most industrialized countries.”

The solution: Check labels for rBGH-free, rBST-free, produced without artificial hormones, or organic milk. These phrases indicate rBGH-free products.

7. Conventional Apples

The expert: Mark Kastel, former executive for agribusiness and codirector of the Cornucopia Institute, a farm-policy research group that supports organic foods

The problem: If fall fruits held a “most doused in pesticides contest,” apples would win. Why? They are individually grafted (descended from a single tree) so that each variety maintains its distinctive flavor. As such, apples don’t develop resistance to pests and are sprayed frequently. The industry maintains that these residues are not harmful. But Kastel counters that it’s just common sense to minimize exposure by avoiding the most doused produce, like apples. “Farm workers have higher rates of many cancers,” he says. And increasing numbers of studies are starting to link a higher body burden of pesticides (from all sources) with Parkinson’s disease.

The solution: Buy organic apples. If you can’t afford organic, be sure to wash and peel them first.

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2010!

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010!!

Recap of 2009

Only 4 days left before entering the new year of 2010, and now more than ever I feel how fast time flies. Probably now is a good time to actually think back to the start of 2009 and track all of the things that I’ve done successfully and not so successfully.

My 2009, like previous years, has been a bustling one. Work commitments flaring like fireworks, office seats barely warmed as I was always on the move most of the time. But I’ve always enjoyed the mobile nature of my work, it certainly beats being static all the time!

In 2009 I’ve made more new friends, both locally and abroad. I’ve met some wonderful and funny people. But I truly appreciate the chance to make new friends, and I hope such a chance will avail itself again in the coming year and many years ahead.

New experience is another benefit that 2009 has given me. This comes in the form of dealing with people, learning new processes.. basically I’m slowly groomed to be a better worker.

As far as self-achievement is concerned, I think I’ve 2009 has brought forth a significant feat. I’m totally satisfied with what I’ve done this year and I hope the many more years to come will endow me with such opportune moments.

I feel truly blessed in 2009, and I only have my Creator to thank for. Alhamdullilah.

Expectations for 2010

Everyone by now would have come up with their new year’s resolution. I’m definitely not one of them. It’s not I’m not a visionary person, I just don’t see the point of coming up with a resolution and end up not fulfilling it at all.

However, I do have a few plans for 2010. What I’m hoping for 2010 is basically an opportunity for me to further my studies. I’ve always wanted to do for so many years, but just didn’t get to do it due to numerous job commitments. But next year will be different because I’ve made all the necessary paperwork for it.

Another expectation for 2010 is for my eldest daughter to fly off to the best institution in the UK for her undergraduate study. I pray and hope she will pass her A level with flying colours. This will open up opportunities for her to continue her studies abroad. It will be an experience to remember and cherish.

For now that’s all I have planned for 2010, at a personal level that is. On a professional level, I’m expecting more excitement and long working hours, the usual trend at work. Though I’m hoping for a change of landscape, especially a chance to challenge myself to new job specs. Who knows, maybe my bos is reading this blog and just might get the hint *smile*.

So what are your expectations for 2010?

What’s Your Zodiac?

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Mysterious and alluring individuals, most Pisces are extremely talented, but even though they are gifted in many ways, they still manage to spend most of their lives battling “confusing” conditions. Pisces is the sign symbolised by the image of two fish. Their symbol depicts one fish heading upward, the other pulling downward. This mirrors how Pisceans are frequently torn between two pathways in life, or actually do live two very different existences at the same time.

The number 2, is a very powerful number for them. This zodiac sign is acknowledged as being the Saint and the Sinner rolled into one; the trendsetter of fashion or art, the lost soul, the philosopher and the psychotic and the visionary. As a credit to them, considering their many vulnerable characteristics; Pisceans are incredibly adaptable and resilient. They are to be found leading the field in many diverse areas of life and many Pisces can be found represented amongst top business millionaires. On the other side of the coin, prisons, reform schools and all kinds of institutions statistically hold a high number of Pisceans too.

The Piscean’s inner quest to explore their “ivory tower” syndrome can lead them into some most unusual and unlikely living conditions. Of all the signs of the zodiac, Pisces are the ones who end up in the most muddles over the years of their lives. They fantasize about situations, people and particularly romance – and because they spend so much time in their own form of ‘fantasy land’ this can catch them short in other more worldly areas. Because of this inner world of fantasy, Pisces people seldom perceive whatever is going on around them in its true light. They see life instead as they want to see it, coloring their view of the world in hues and tones far removed from its true reflection. No wonder this is the sign of both miracles and disillusionment. If you are a Pisces, be warned your emotions are a weak spot.

One thing that plays havoc with your life is romance. When things romantically are going well for you, you are on cloud nine. When romance turns sour you land in a heap. Pisces often need to take lots of holidays (or time off) to recover from life’s many diverse pressures. You are the zodiac’s most sensitive sign, so you need to take extra special care of yourself. Nobody can beat you up, as much as you can beat yourself up within your own mind. In your purest form you are psychic, visionary and a guiding light to all who know you. But, in your “out of tune” state, you become depressed, obsessive and confused.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Special note for Aquarians: With the new Millennium heralding the Dawn of the Age of Aquarius, at this time, ready or not, your sign is regarded as the zodiac’s leader. You are the trendsetter for the future and because of this high responsibility, many under born your sign will be undergoing at this time, as we approach the Millennium, the pressure of personal change (particularly in your values and what makes you content and happy). Yours has always been a philanthropic sign. Now more than ever these qualities will be highlighted.

Those born under the sign of Aquarius not only march to a different drummer, they make up new music as they go along. They are ‘mind oriented’ individuals, whose thoughts never stop tick-tocking over. Because of their high focus on intellectual exploration, many inventors, eccentrics and highly original trailblazers are born under this sign. Their intense ability to live on many mental levels, holds both pain and pleasure for Aquarians. For example, in the American Hall of Fame there are more Aquarians than any other sign, yet statistics reveal that in mental institutions there are more Aquarians than any other sign too. Many extremes can surround this sign and these extremes can take them to both heaven and hell.

But in everyday terms, most Aquarians are extremely humanitarian and often involved in social programs that assist others. They can also be objective in judgement, for they never let their emotions get in the way. Outgoing and amiable, Aquarians attract friends wherever they go and those whom Aquarians befriend have their unswerving loyalty.

Aquarians are the zodiac’s most mysterious and unusual people – and no two are anything alike. Those born under this sign – ruled by innovative and non-conformist Uranus – march to the beat of their own drum. They see life in a different way. Others quite frequently think their habits and ideas are eccentric or crazy in some way, but it is this uniqueness that makes them so special. The Aquarian mind is extremely quick and they never seem to stop thinking (it is interesting to note that many born under this sign suffer from insomnia.) Aquarians usually have strong political, environmental or social beliefs. But whether it is a relationship, career or cause – Aquarians are happiest when they have “something” to believe in and nurture.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

The sign of the high roller, Capricorn is regarded as the zodiac’s top, but also quiet, life and business achievers. But, there are two very different types of Capricorns.

The first is represented by the mountain goat, always climbing higher and higher; never content until reaching the top. The second is the garden goat, with little adventurous spirit or ambition-happy to remain within a small domain, refusing to budge unless it is pushed. Either type of Capricorn, however, is patient and persevering. They reach their goals because they know the longest journey commences with a single step and that the first step is always the most difficult.

The one thing a Capricorn must always try to do is balance work with play; otherwise they can become too one-sided and work can replace true personal emotional fulfilment. Continually climbing the eternal mountain of success, Capricornians rise to the occasion when faced with a new task or deadline. Even if something comes to a grinding halt, their ambition to reach the ultimate keeps them moving forever onwards and upwards (prompted by the strict influence of ruling planet Saturn). Although conservative and cautious, Goats are willing to try unusual approaches on their road to success in business or in love. Romantically, they desire a permanent relationship with someone who’ll give them the affection they crave (and often neglect to give themselves!)

The rulership of Saturn – the planet representing responsibility, structure and hard work – ensures that Capricorns in their truest of expression, are ambitious, practical and superb organizers. Although many Capricorns are borderline workaholics, this doesn’t necessarily make them dull or gloomy! They have an offbeat sense of humour, which seems to erupt at the most unexpected moments. Their motivating force in life is success, money, status, authority and – although many might not admit it – love. By nature Capricorns are cautious when entering a new love relationship, but once they feel ‘safe’ with their partner, the cool exterior melts away to reveal a sensitive and loyal heart beneath. As a friend, Capricorns can be relied upon to provide the strongest and most sympathetic pair of shoulders in the zodiac.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Ruled by the benefic planet Jupiter, Sagittarians possess a natural exuberance, sense of adventure and love of life that makes them one of the most optimistic zodiac signs of all. Like their astrological symbol – the Archer – Sagittarians are renowned for aiming their sights towards whatever it is they find alluring – a love partner, dream job, vacation – and making it their own. They believe that anything is possible – and because of this belief system, Sagittarians are adept at seeking out their very own pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

But sometimes trying to tie down these free-spirited individuals is frustrating for those around them. Sagittarians are happiest on the move – exploring new cultures and ideas and many are attracted to occupations related to travel, the media, outdoor work and philosophical pursuits. In love, their catch-cry is “don’t fence me in”. But once they find a partner who understands their need to retain their own sense of self and identity, Sagittarians can be the most big-hearted, generous and fun-loving companions of all.

Freedom loving, optimistic and honest, Sagittarians are ruled by Jupiter, the planet of abundance and higher learning. The wisdom of Jupiter imbibes Sagittarians with an inherent need to develop their own unique philosophy of life. The Centaur is their astrological symbol, and it gives many insights into the Sagittarian personality. The higher-evolved Sagittarian learns to integrate the two ends of the Centaur (half-human, half-beast) in order for their arrow (another Sagittarian symbol) of higher aspirations to be more on the mark. Although they are intellectually and spiritually advanced, Sagittarians are notorious for their lack of tact. In relationships they demand independence, but when in love, it can’t be denied that they are one of the most big-hearted signs of the zodiac.

Scorpion (October 23 – November 21)

Reputed to be the “most powerful” sign of the zodiac, Scorpios lead fate filled lives and have intense and dramatic personal relationships. Even as children Scorpios are often found to be wise beyond their years. Many astrologers call this the sign of the “oldest souls”. Old and wise beyond the average, Scorpios often know all the answers, except sometimes; they too often have difficulty finding what they need to develop their own happiness.

Passion, desire and power go hand in hand for Scorpios. Their biggest challenge and test in life is choosing between the power of love and the love of power. Coming to grips with their extraordinary emotional depths and sensitivity isn’t easy for those around them. They are different from all other zodiac signs and this difference has them walking, working and loving to a different beat. Others can often live with a Scorpio partner for years, but not really know them. Much to do with a Scorpio remains ever secret. Their eyes often blaze with feelings that words never express, and beware on the days or nights they hide their feelings behind dark glasses, there is likely to be a storm of some kind brewing. When you deal with a Scorpio you have to always deal with them on a psychic intuitive level. They often wear a mask. Too often they say “no” when they really mean “yes”. They have contrary natures. Once they find true love they can be the most faithful dedicated of all partners but fall out badly with a Scorpio and you are likely to find they will never forget or forgive.

Most Scorpios are winners. The main thing they have to worry about is their attitudes, which make up their mind powers and can either make or break them. When they are negative about something or someone, or critical of themselves, they can tend to get in their own way.

Scorpios operate on three levels of soul evolvement; adding up to three distinctively different types of Scorpios. The first level is the Scorpion. This is the least evolved and most drawn toward using their powers the wrong way. The criminal element of Scorpio comes under this level. Then there is the eagle – the highflying, entrepreneurial, successful Scorpio, who seems able to rise above adversity and transform bad-times into good. Then the highest expression of this sign is the Phoenix Resurrected. These Scorpios are detached and extremely powerful. They are wise beyond their years and act as leaders and are an inspiration to others. Quite frequently a Scorpio goes through the three levels of evolvement in one lifetime – but the levels can operate out of sequence.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Every adolescent Libran’s fantasy is to find the Prince or Princess of their dreams. As their lives unfold, the experiences, false starts, dramas, broken hearts and disillusionment they encounter seeking this personal Holy Grail, often shapes their futures in the most extra-ordinary manner. Love and love-lost makes a big difference to the Libran although their often happy-go-lucky appearance against all kinds of odds may not reveal this as fact.

Librans can switch off from the world around then and during these periods much more occurs on the deep innermost levels of the Libran’s psyche, than their closest companions imagine. Many Librans after establishing a lifestyle that somehow falls short of their childhood dreams, manage to conjure up a most independent life and keep up an image of being dedicated to a “close relationship”. They can escape into obscure role playing – and often this makes them extremely successful business people. When it comes to romance and love, Librans can be difficult to fathom yet in business many Librans discover they can not only be creative, but it provides an opportunity to express the more diverse sides to their personalities. Their charm can win jobs and provides powerful friends. But in both work and play, looking for peace and harmony, Librans often say “yes” when they should be saying “no”.

It is a sad fact about many a Libran’s personal or business lives to say – many would have faired far better had they remained alone! But for those Librans who do find their secret dream and meet up with their Prince or Princess, that’s another story! You’ll find them living in some exotic, distant beautiful place, probably running the local bar or restaurant, designing the beach or ski gear, looking wonderful, sipping cocktails and finding life to be the total paradise they knew it could be. What Librans always have to remember when looking to fulfil their dreams is they should never undermine their own integrity and hold out until their dreams do come true – not simply take whatever is offered.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgos are often put down badly by many astrologers and written up as being fussy and narrow-minded. But when a Virgo shines, there is practically no sign to match their inner light. An in-tune Virgo is a treat to meet. When a Virgo is confident within themselves they are the most successful, structured and creative of all the signs.

Many Virgos can be found working in the “service to others” industries, ranging from welfare work, doctors, school-teachers through to practising natural forms of healing like massage, herbal remedies etc. One of the most magical characteristics of the Virgo is no matter how many times life or romance turns sour on them, they still manage to maintain faith in others, refusing to become cynical. There is ingenuity around this sign, a kind-heartedness, which unfortunately is sometimes played upon by others for their advantage. Virgos can often become victims of relationship power-games, where they are mistreated.

Creative and sensitive, Virgos are delicate people who, like rare and special orchids, require individual treatment to fully blossom into their true unique beauty. Shy, they are happy to allow others to take centre-stage and often generate their time and energy into making those they love happy or successful.

Virgos are givers and when the chips are down and you need a friend, the one available during those testing times when you need advice or companionship the most, is likely to be a Virgo. Virgos understand human frailties better than most, because they are so deep and reflective themselves. With a Virgo in your life you have someone who understands and cares and any romance or friendship based upon these qualities is certain to be mutually rewarding.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Love triumphs over all for this sign, which is ruled by the heart and operates from this dimension too. Leo’s are born fortunate. Charismatic and positive-thinking they attract not only an abundance of friends and opportunities, but manage to survive life’s stormy times with style and good humour.

Once a Lion is committed to a relationship, they are totally devoted and faithful. Should their heart or trust be broken they never forgive or forget. When a relationship breaks down (even a long standing one) they can disappear into the sunset without a backward look. Leos can cut ties, and leave others heartbroken, but usually there is a good reason why they have broken a tryst. For a Leo, when a relationship is over, really over, it is over for good.

There are three levels of soul-evolution of the Leos. The highest is represented by the Sphinx; wise beyond their years and great teachers to others. The second is the Lion, King of the Jungle, ruled by ego but always protective and sustaining of those they love. The last is the Lion Cub, immature and undeveloped, frightened by anything new. These Leos cling to others (in the mode of the child not wanting to leave its mother’s side).) They can’t bear to be alone.

No matter what level they have attained, all Leos are trendsetters, leaders and adventurers. Their weakness is their pride. This is one sign where the saying “flattery will get you everything” applies, but be warned criticism will slam the relationship door right in your face.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Those born under the sign of Cancer, ruled by the mysterious Moon, are one of the zodiac’s enigmas. It is fair to say that most Cancers are a bundle of contradictions. Compassionate and caring with friends, family and lovers, yet they can cut to the bone with their jealous remarks and ever-changing moods. Endearingly eccentric on one hand, and on the other, insecure about how others see them. Like their astrological symbol – the Crab – Cancers can appear hard and insensitive on the outside. However, for those of us who know and love a “Moon Child”, we understand that deep below lies a softness and sensitivity that makes them so very special.

Just as the Moon goes through many changes as it moves from its new to full phases, Cancers too go through many new and full phases of experience. Life doesn’t stand still for this sign, even if they remain in one place, because they live so much in their internal oceans of emotions. Their link with the Moon often makes it impossible for them to operate on an even keel from day to day. Up and down like the proverbial yo-yo, most Cancerians feel one way one minute, then sometimes totally different the next. But this characteristic is part of their charm.

Love and romance matter more than anything else to this sign (but this occasionally shares first place with having lots of money in the bank). No other sign romances better, equally though, no sign takes it so badly when romance turns sour either. But with their changeable natures Cancerians are fascinating, mysterious, stimulating and extremely alluring. This sign is one of the most magic of all and once their magic has reached you, they are the most beguiling companions. After all, isn’t the Moon the most talked about and romantic galactic identity?

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

In ancient Greek mythology, Gemini’s ruler – Mercury, was the light-footed messenger of the gods who darted back and forth across the heavens delivering news – which might explain why those born under the sign of the ‘Twins’ are always on the move; thirsty for knowledge and new experiences. Terminally curious and sometimes even mischievous, Geminis are multi-faceted souls who enjoy knowing a little bit of everything but generally not too much about one particular subject. It’s just that variety is the spice of their lives!

In Astrology, Geminis have also gained the reputation of being the incessant talkers of the zodiac. Those Twins that don’t have the ‘gift of the gab’ are usually talented writers or have a special interest in foreign languages. In love, they look for a partner who can keep up with them mentally and physically! And, to quote Oscar Wilde, “there’s one thing worse than people talking about you, that’s people not talking about you.” Whether Geminis like it or not, people are usually “talking about them”. Together with Scorpio and Virgos, they are a sign that is often discussed, dissected and sometimes even put down by the other signs of the zodiac. Sometimes this is a subtle form of jealousy by others, because Geminis do lead very unique and unusual lives. The Gemini personality can appear mysterious or detached to others and therefore they are often misunderstood and unappreciated for the talents they offer to the world at large.

Another reason Geminis evoke so much interest is many born under this sign are multi-dimensionally talented. In money matters, some Geminis are very adept and quick at making it…and spending it too. Many Geminis are involved in international financial wheeling and dealing. They love the adventure and game playing involved in out-thinking other people. Gemini’s can be very haphazard about their financial affairs too, with many of them ending up in divorce courts mainly because their partners have become tired of living on the edge of a financial precipice.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Underneath their cool, calm and collected exterior, Taureans differ greatly from all the other signs of the zodiac. Taureans manage to discreetly stay apart from the crowd, even though they have a well-earned reputation for being socialisers. They will let others get close, but only so close as they want them. Some claim that trying to get your point across to a Taurean, should they not want to hear you, is rather similar to talking to the trees – they simply won’t budge. And, there is no such thing as an open-book Taurean. Their feelings, fears and desires often run far deeper than anyone around them would guess. Like the butterfly that chooses to remain hidden in its cocoon until it is ready and prepared to emerge, so the true Taurean spirit remains hidden behind a veneer of day-to-day activities. That’s why Taureans are sometimes regarded as snobby, withdrawn, boring, or even sulky.

The truth is, when Taureans manage to operate very adequately on their own form of automatic pilot, they can switch off from the world around them very efficiently. And when they do switch off, they are actually gathering in their inner reserves to deal with the outside pressures. This sign is also very closely connected to ‘feeling good’. Most Taureans like their creature comforts and hate change because it takes them out of their automatic pilot condition of separating themselves from the world around them.

Because they hate to be put in jeopardy of any kind, this is the sign that strives to create tomorrow in advance, rather than leave it to fate. In love, Taureans are regarded as extremely sensual beings. An earth sign, they deal well with the personal, physical senses and consequently all the pleasures associated with what they can see, touch, smell and taste, add up to a special delight to them. Often nature and pet lovers, Taureans are closely associated with all things off the earth and nature.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries are fire signs and those born under this element are regarded in astrology as adventurous, active and outgoing. It won’t matter where you go or how remote or unusual it is – from the Outback to the Antarctic – you can be sure that an Aries has been there before you (or at the very least you will meet one along the way!) Aries is a uniquely naive sign. Although they are independent, outgoing and assertive they are also surprisingly trusting, often innocently walking into the lion’s den at times. No matter what upheaval, challenge or triumph they confront – an Aries has a wonderful ability to bounce back. Their faith in life and the future remains untouched by hardship. Their gift is that they are always children at heart and the world is always a magical place for them. Many famous sports people are born under this sign. Aries is regarded as the most physical sign and because of its Mar’s rulership; it is also one of the most highly charged masculine energy signs in astrology. No wonder women born under Aries are forceful, dynamic and aggressive, and as a result these Aries women frequently find themselves with dilemmas surrounding their romantic relationships. For them, a man has to be a ‘real man’ to deal with an Aries woman, otherwise she intimidates him. And conversely for the Aries male, a woman has to be a real woman to deal with him, because he is looking for many balancing component traits (his true feminine side) in his partner. She has to run the gamut in his support system, from the Aries man’s best friend, true companion, through to his muse, and yet she must never ever answer him back!

Therefore Aries can be a confusing sign because there is a complex combination of very strong masculine and feminine expressions all combined together. Because of the male energy surrounding it, when a woman is born under Aries, it creates some of the most interesting women in the world, women who are adventurous, independent and have competitive natures. It also tends to make them very forthright.

But whether male or female, Aries people are ‘doers’ rather than ‘talkers’. They are the impulsive, act first, ask questions or have doubts later, sign of the zodiac. That’s why their lives are often filled with many dramas and sometimes even accidents! Their ability to live life close to the edge provides them with a wealth of ‘real experience’ to call upon. When an Aries person talks about something or somewhere they’ve usually done it or been there, rather than simply read about it in a book. Being active people Aries can’t adapt to any kind of restriction, particularly possessive relationships. They often travel to escape any feelings of being stuck or possessed. Aries people love challenges. In fact, if everything is running smoothly, they are quite capable of going out and doing something (sometimes quite foolish) to rock the boat. Aries love to race in where angels fear to tread.

Know Your Astrology?

I’ve always enjoyed my readings on chinese astrology. So if you share this interest, find out what your own astrology is by looking at your year of birth against the animal symbol for respective astrology below:

Rat: 1900, 1912, 1924, 1936, 1948, 1960, 1972,1984, 1996.

Ox: 1901, 1913, 1925, 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997.

Tiger: 1902, 1914, 1926, 1938, 1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998.

Rabbit: 1903, 1915, 1927, 1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999.

Dragon: 1904, 1916, 1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000.

Snake: 1905, 1917, 1929, 1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001.

Horse: 1906, 1918, 1930, 1942 ,1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002.

Goat: 1907, 1919, 1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003.

Monkey: 1908, 1920, 1932, 1944, 1956, 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004.

Rooster: 1909, 1921, 1933, 1945, 1957, 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005.

Dog: 1910, 1922, 1934, 1946, 1958, 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006.

Pig: 1911, 1923, 1935, 1947, 1959, 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007.

So what does each animal symbol means….

The Rat

Though the Western rat is reviled as little more than a bottom-dwelling disease carrier, this animal is viewed much differently in the East. The Eastern rat is revered for its quick wits and its ability to accrue and hold on to items of value; rats are considered a symbol of good luck and wealth in both China and Japan. Clever and quick-witted, the Rat of the Chinese Zodiac is utterly disarming to boot. Possessed of excellent taste, this Sign flaunts its style at every turn. Its natural charm and sharp, funny demeanor make it an appealing friend for almost anyone. The Rat likes to know who is on its side and will treat its most loyal friends with an extra measure of protection and generosity.

Behind that sweet smile, though, Rats are keen and unapologetic promoters of their own agendas. This Sign is motivated by its own interests, which often include money; greed can become a problem if the Rat isn’t careful to keep its priorities straight. This Sign’s natural powers of charm and persuasion can definitely come in handy! Although they are often hoarders, Rats can be very generous to those in their “pack,” namely friends and family members who have proven their loyalty. Others might perceive them as quick-tempered and sharp-tongued, but never boorish. Verbal jousting is a great pleasure for the Rat, a Sign that everyone around will quickly learn either to love or to hate.

Rats enjoy being on the outside looking in, as the outside affords a view into the inner workings of a system or situation. The Rat’s keen mind always seeks out new knowledge, to be stored away for future use. This ever-curious Sign also welcomes challenges as a way to stay sharp. If boredom sets in the Rat is no fun at all, but that isn’t likely; this Sign knows how to keep itself entertained.

A valuable lesson for Rats is to learn to consider others above themselves, at least sometimes. If they can develop their sense of self and realize it leaves room for others in their life as well, Rats could find true happiness.

The most compatible match for a Rat is the Dragon or the Monkey.

The OX

The Ox of Chinese Astrology is no bull in a china shop. Steadfast and solid, this powerful Sign is a born leader, being quite dependable and possessing an innate ability to achieve great things. Oxen tend to be plodding and methodical; they approach projects in the step-by-step manner that serves them best, and they never lose sight of their goal. They are tireless workers who are detail-oriented and believe in doing things right the first time.

The world may perceive Oxen as being far too serious or incapable of loosening up. This sturdy sort is less than social by nature and tends to become introverted in a crowd. To make things worse, they can’t be bothered with what other people think and prefer to do what makes them feel best. Behind that calm facade, though, lives an Ox who can feel hurt, lonely and unable to connect with others. Friends and family are a great source of comfort to this beast, even if they don’t always understand what makes the Ox tick. As a lover, friend, family member or housemate, the Ox makes a wonderfully strong, tender and affectionate companion who is protective and always reliable.

Out in the world, though, Oxen tend to be stubborn, dogmatic, my-way-or-the-highway kind of people who have no concept of when to back down. Oxen don’t care to be pushed, especially since they think they’re the good guys of the Chinese Zodiac. There is some truth to that theory, since the Ox is smart, trustworthy, caring and honorable. If you need honest, steady and unbiased advice, call on the Ox.

A good lesson for mighty Oxen is to strive to overcome a judgmental nature that keeps them from getting close to others. If they can learn to value their own good qualities, they’ll have more room in their hearts to invite others in.

The most compatible match for an Ox is the Snake or the Rooster.

The Tiger

Tigers may not be the king of the jungle, but these striped cats are no softies! Magnetic and self-possessed, Tigers are born leaders. They have an air of authority that prompts others to fall in line, which is exactly how they like it. Although they are magnetically charming and fun to be around, Tigers like to go it alone sometimes too. A Tiger’s main interest is in following its ambitions — and maintaining control.

Tigers are courageous beyond compare and generally come out ahead in battle, be it in the boardroom or the bedroom. Seduction is one area where the Tiger is definitely king! Noble and warm-hearted, Tigers have a natural, raw appeal that’s extremely attractive to other Signs. They’re not just about attraction, though; ever on the side of right, Tigers will fight the good fight to the bitter end if the cause is worthy. Opponents are wise to fear this feline.

A bit of caution is a good thing around Tigers, since they can pounce without warning. They experience mood swings and often feel things more intensely than others, the latter quality being both good and bad. They can react poorly under stress and are prone to emotional outbursts. This Sign’s bristling sensitivity can send friend and foe running for cover.

A lesson that Tigers would be well-served to learn is “moderation in all things.” Once these cats can find their center and direct their considerable energies toward worthwhile endeavors (as opposed to racing through life), they will accomplish much.

The most compatible match for a Tiger is the Horse or the Dog.

The Rabbit

Timid and attractive, the Rabbits of the Chinese Zodiac tend to act more like bunnies, whether they like it or not! This Sign is extremely popular and has a wide circle of family and friends. Its compassionate nature leads it to be very protective of those it holds dear, but where romance is concerned, the Rabbit’s sentimentality can lead it to idealize relationships. The sweet, sensitive Rabbit often ends up giving more of itself to a partner than is realistic or healthy. The good news is, when this Sign goes off-balance, the Rabbit’s core group of friends and its stable home life help bring it back to center.

The Rabbit is a rather delicate Sign that needs a solid base in order to thrive. Lacking close, supportive friends and family, the Rabbit might just break down in tears at the first sign of conflict. Emotional upsets in this Sign’s life can even lead to physical illnesses. Rabbits dislike arguments and other conflict and will try anything to avoid a fight; this results in something of a pushover nature. Rabbits can also lapse into pessimism and may seem stuck in life — often to mask their insecure natures. Rabbits tend to move through life’s lessons at their own, rather contemplative pace; it’s a waste of time to become exasperated with this Sign’s seeming disinterest in facing its problems and conquering them.

With the right partner — meaning someone whose high principles won’t allow it to take advantage of this sensitive, giving Sign — the Rabbit can make an incredibly loving and protective partner or family member. Rabbits love to entertain at home and always make sure their house is comfortable and tastefully-furnished. What Rabbits need most is a stronger sense of self-worth and the security that comes with it. Their discerning natures, coupled with some hard-won assertiveness, will help these happy creatures go far.

The most compatible match for a Rabbit is the Goat or the Pig.

The Dragon

The Dragon is one of the most powerful and lucky Signs of the Chinese Zodiac. Its warm heart makes the Dragon’s brash, fiery energy far more palatable. This is a giving, intelligent and tenacious Sign that knows exactly what it wants and is determined to get it. Dragons possess a certain natural, charming charisma that ensures they can always influence their peers and often find themselves the center of attention in social situations. This Sign is truly blessed, too; Dragons are considered to be very lucky in love! The Dragon’s friends are always keen to hear what this firebrand has to say and when it comes to dispensing advice, the Dragon has the floor.

Its ego can get in the Dragon’s way, but even so, this larger-than-life creature has a knack for initiating projects and keeping the troops motivated. According to Dragons, it’s their natural born right to lead the way — because who else could do it so surely and so well? As lucky as they are, Dragons have a good chance of achieving considerable material wealth during their lifetimes, although it isn’t mere money that’s this Sign’s main motivation. Power is what the Dragon wants and truly believes it deserves. Dragons are quite the opportunists, forever searching for ways in which to consolidate their considerable power. Contrary to all this strength and fire, a weakened Dragon is a sad sack, a creature that refuses to take defeat with even a modicum of grace.

The role of leader is the only one the Dragon wants, the better from which to give orders and be king of the hill. They make solid leaders, too, knowing instinctively what needs to be done to stay on top. Crossing the Dragon is never a good idea — this beast can singe! A valuable life lesson for this clever creature would be to absorb the principles of flexibility, compassion and tolerance. Being high and mighty can serve to inspire others, but it also keeps Dragons from living their lives to the fullest. If Dragons can learn to balance their quest for success with an appreciation for the little things, their life will be more than worthwhile.

The most compatible match for a Dragon is the Monkey or the Rat.

The Snake

Diplomatic and popular, the Snake has the sensual art of seduction down. This Sign is an interesting mix of gregariousness paired with introversion, intuitive reasoning paired with savvy business skills. Snakes are considered to be lucky with money and will generally have more than enough to live life to the fullest, regardless of how important it considers money to be; this may be due to the fact that Snakes tend to be rather tight with cash. They’re not stingy, they’re simply more mentally than physically active. Snakes tend to hang back a bit in order to analyze a situation before jumping into it. Their charming, seductive quality actually belies a rather retiring nature; this Sign is perfectly happy to spend the whole day curled up with a good book and, thus, can be mislabeled as being lazy.

The Snake is somewhat insecure deep down and tend to be a rather jealous, possessive lover, behavior that can end up alienating loved ones. Despite these less-than-stellar tendencies, however, the Snake often proves irresistible and is a generous, loving partner.. Slightly dangerous and disarmingly smart, the Snake’s philosophical and intuitive mind generally supersedes logic in favor of feelings and instinct. Snakes will rely on their own gut reactions and intuitions before turning to others for suggestions. This makes this Sign a great hand in any business venture, possessing the caution and smarts needed to get ahead.

Snakes are hard workers (when they see good reason to be!) and are possessed of a keen intelligence. Snakes have incredible follow-through, once they get going, and they expect the same from others. Thus, their coworkers and employees had best stay on their toes, lest they anger the Snake and suffer its poisonous bite!

In general, of course, Snakes are generous and genteel, charming and appealing. Snakes must try to learn humility and to develop a stronger sense of self. Once Snakes realize that confidence comes from within, they will finally be comfortable in their own skin.

The most compatible match for a Snake is the Rooster or the Ox.

The Horse

Thank goodness for open spaces, because the Horse needs plenty of room to roam! Energetic, good with money and very fond of travel, Horses are the nomads of the Chinese Zodiac, roaming from one place or project to the next. All of this Sign’s incessant activity and searching may be to satisfy a deep-rooted desire to fit in. Paradoxically, Horses feel a simultaneous yearning for independence and freedom.

Horses crave love and intimacy, which is a double-edged sword since it often leads them to feel trapped. Love connections tend to come easily to Horses, since they exude the kind of raw sex appeal that is a magnet to others. This Sign tends to come on very strong in the beginning of the relationship, having an almost innate sense of romance and seduction. Horses are seducers in general; check out any A-list party and you’re bound to find the Horse in attendance. This Sign possesses a sharp wit and a scintillating presence; it really knows how to work a crowd. Surprisingly, Horses tend to feel a bit inferior to their peers, a misconception that causes them to drift from group to group out of an irrational fear of being exposed as a fraud.

An impatient streak can lead Horses to be less than sensitive to others’ needs. These colts would rather take a situation firmly in hand as opposed to waiting for others to weigh in or come to terms with it. The lone wolf inside the Horse can at times push others away, but this also makes this Sign stronger and is a key to its success. Horses are self-reliant and, though they might lose interest fast in a tedious, nine-to-five day job, are willing to do the work necessary to get ahead.

Horses tend not to look much at the big picture; instead they just follow their whims, which can result in a trail of prematurely ended relationships, jobs, projects and so on. This Sign really knows how to motivate others, though, and get a lot accomplished. Once they find some peace within themselves, they can curb their wandering tendencies and learn to appreciate what’s in their own backyard.

The most compatible match for a Horse is the Dog or the Tiger.

The Goat

Daydreaming all afternoon sounds heavenly to the Goat. This creative, esoteric Sign needs plenty of time alone in which to feed its Muse. Goats are generally most comfortable in their own minds (which other, more linear-thinking Signs may have trouble deciphering). This Sign makes a great crafts person or artisan, or perhaps a teacher of New Age studies — any occupation that allows its mind the full range of freedom. Goats tend not to be very well-organized, precluding many more dry business endeavors. In fact, Goats tend not to be very materialistic in general, finding plenty of riches in their own imagination. However, especially when in love, the Goat can be quite a lavish gift-giver.

Perhaps it’s that artistic temperament that so often causes Goats to feel insecure, but the result is that these high-strung creatures need to feel loved and admired lest they start worrying incessantly. For this reason, Goats tend to have a hard time with romance; anyone who couples up with a Goat must know, this Sign has a sensitive streak a mile wide and can be subject to bouts of anxiety over seemingly inconsequential things. Goats need plenty of love, support and open reassurance from their lovers. If a relationship is marked by conflict, the Goat will often pull away — either physically or simply by retreating into the safe haven of its imagination.

If the romance is going well, however, Goats won’t hesitate to tell their partner what they need — and they can be quite insistent about it! This Sign will definitely return the favor, however; the Goat has a luxurious side that delights in indulging a lover’s every wish. Appearances are also important to the Goat, which may explain why these folks can spend hours primping and posing.

Goats would be well-served by learning to relax and let others run the show from time to time. Once they can be certain that their friends and lovers won’t be gone when the Goat returns from its daydreams, life will be a field of daisies.

The most compatible match for a Goat is the Pig or the Rabbit.

The Monkey

The spunky Monkey is the original party animal! Charming and energetic, Monkeys crave fun, activity and stimulation. They truly know how to have a good time and can often be seen swinging from one group of friends to another, attracting a motley crew in the process. Always upbeat, they are considered minor celebrities in their circle thanks to their sparkling wit and that rapier-sharp mind. Perhaps surprisingly, Monkeys are also good listeners and tackle complicated situations with ease. This Sign’s natural curiosity lends it the desire to become knowledgeable on a broad range of topics. Monkeys have a show-off side that loves nothing more than to dazzle their pals with all they know.

The Monkey tends to be rather accident-prone due to a certain lack of very high morals. This Sign’s first interest is pursuing its own pleasure; this is not a malicious interest, it’s just the way the Monkey is. However, this kind of carefree self-involvement can lead to all kinds of scrapes. In love, the Monkey makes a fun, exciting lover — but one that may have the potential to stray romantically. The good news is, the Monkey’s glib manner and witty repartee can often get this Sign out of a scrape. Perhaps not everyone will be won over by the Monkey — but do you think the Monkey really cares? The Monkey’s world, full of devil-may-care energy and revelry, isn’t for everyone. Remember, though, it’s not that this Sign is mean; it might just be a bit too curious for its own good. Monkeys often feel the need to try everything at least once, which can make for a merry-go-round of relationships.

The Monkey’s love of self-indulgence can also lead to other types of trouble. This Sign may have limited self-control concerning food, alcohol and other pleasurable activities. It’s party time all the time for the Monkey, yet when it leads to a monster hangover or a shattered heart (generally someone else’s, not theirs), this Sign might actually show a touch of remorse. They won’t flat-out admit the error of their ways, but at least they’ll pull back and try to tone things down — for a while.

Monkeys must try to learn to think of others ahead of themselves, at least some of the time. This Sign’s world will be more complete once it realizes the world doesn’t revolve around it.

The most compatible match for a Monkey is the Rat or the Dragon.

The Rooster

The Rooster is the strutting peacock of the Chinese Zodiac! These quick thinkers are practical and resourceful, preferring to stick to what is tried and true rather than taking messy, unnecessary risks. Roosters are keenly observant. It’s hard to slip anything past a Rooster, since they seem to have eyes in the backs of their heads! This quality can lead others to think the Rooster is psychic, but that’s not generally the case; instead, this Sign enjoys a keen attention to detail that makes it a whiz at anything requiring close analysis. Roosters make great lawyers, brain surgeons and accountants, to name a few of this Sign’s possible occupations. Above all else, the Rooster is very straightforward and rewards others’ honesty in kind.

Roosters aren’t shifty or cagey and have no interest in hiding behind a facade. They are the proverbial open book, telling the truth and keeping their word. If you show your hand, the Rooster will respect you for it. This kind of trusting behavior can tempt tricksters to pull a fast one on the Rooster, but that would be a bad move! Remember, this Sign doesn’t indulge in flights of fancy and keeps those eyes wide open at all times.

Roosters tend to be perfectionists and expect to be in control, especially over their appearance. Primping and posing for the Rooster can go on forever! Being noticed and admired is an aphrodisiac for Roosters, and they can go a long time on a few kind words. Roosters also adore being out on the town, especially if they’re in the company of adoring friends. The Rooster will also be the best-dressed one of the bunch — style counts with this Sign, regardless of the cost.

Roosters also expect to be in control of their surroundings, including whoever happens to be in those surroundings. Roosters keep an impeccably neat house and expect their lovers, housemates and family members to maintain the same high standards of dress and conduct as they do. This can cause problems with other, more relaxed types who just want to be accepted as is. The Rooster needs the right partner, one who understands this Sign’s basically conservative nature. With the right person, the Rooster can be the most loyal, trusting and supportive mate around, one who bends over backward to please its loved ones. Some Signs may just end up feeling hen-pecked, however.

Roosters need to learn to value their heart and soul as much as their good looks. Their excellent people skills and sharp minds are qualities that others will appreciate as much as a pretty face. This Sign would also do well to learn to adopt the philosophy of “live and let live”; perhaps an appeal to the Rooster’s logic — that it’s inefficient to waste time nagging others — will help this Sign learn to let others be whomever and however they are.

The most compatible match for a Rooster is the Ox or the Snake.

The Dog

In the West, the Dog is man’s best friend, but in Chinese Astrology this Sign is a little more unpredictable than that. Dogs are loyal, faithful and honest and always stick to their firm codes of ethics. However, this Sign has trouble trusting others. It’s generally quite trustworthy itself — except for the occasional “little white lies” the Dog tells in order to make things go more smoothly. The Dog makes a wonderful, discreet and loyal friend (despite any white lies) and is an excellent listener. This Sign tends to root for the underdog and its keen sense of right and wrong makes it duty-bound to the core. The Dog’s mantra seems to be, Live right, look out for the little people and fight injustice whenever possible.

Dogs can also be rather dogmatic, too. They don’t go in for light social banter; instead, they go straight for home, expostulating on the topics that are most important to them. At these times the Dog’s narrow-minded or stubborn side can become apparent; this Sign has trouble staying light and calm when an important issue is at stake. This Sign can also be very temperamental; mood swings characterize its emotional life and often the Dog needs to run off to be alone in order to recuperate. Part of the problem is the result of this Sign’s load of irrational fears that turn into niggling anxieties that turn into hurt feelings and occasional grouchiness. This sensitive Sign needs to warm up to others over time and gradually learn to trust them. Without that trust as a foundation, Dogs can be judgmental and coarse.

The Dog’s discerning nature does make it an excellent business person, one who can turn that picky, guarded nature into a keen sense of the truth of another’s motives. Where love is concerned, Dogs often have a tough time finding the right match. They can be so anxious and overwrought in the romance dance that they’ll stress their partner to the max! In any forum, this Sign is happiest when able to be quite physically active; at home or at work, the Dog will always be constructing something new or cleaning something up in order to make things better. Dogs need to work on controlling their irrational worries and would also be well-served to relax their mile-high standards, which can sometimes wind up alienating the ones they love.

The most compatible match for a Dog is the Tiger or the Horse.

The Pig

Contrary to its rather negative reputation in the West, the Pig of Chinese Astrology may be the most generous and honorable Sign of the Zodiac. Pigs are nice to a fault and possess impeccable manners and taste. They have so much of the perfectionist in them that others may be inclined to perceive them as snobs, but this is a misconception. Pigs are simply possessed of a truly luxurious nature, one that delights in finery and riches (in surroundings, food, lovemaking and otherwise). This Sign believes in the best qualities of mankind and certainly doesn’t consider itself to be superior. Pigs also care a great deal about friends and family and work hard to keep everyone in their life happy. Helping others is a true pleasure for the Pig, who feels best when everyone else is smiling.

A Pig with no one around to appreciate its giving nature is a sad sight. Pigs are so magnanimous they can appear almost saintly; this can lead some less-than-well-intentioned souls to stomp all over this Sign, and the bad news is, the Pig will take the blows! Pigs make great companions in part because of their refusal to see the more negative or base qualities in a partner, but that rose-colored view can lead to this Sign’s allowing itself to be taken advantage of. Contrary to their seemingly benign dispositions, however, Pigs can be quite venomous in response to being crossed by a lover, friend or business partner.

Pigs are highly intelligent creatures, forever studying, playing and probing in their quest for greater knowledge. They can be misinterpreted as being lazy, however, due to their love of reveling in the good stuff; this Sign could happily spend hours on end making love, napping, taking a long bubble bath or dallying over an incredible spread of rich foods. Pigs tend to make wonderful life partners due to their hearts of gold and their love of family. Even so, Pigs can be rather exclusive, choosing to spend time with those who will appreciate them most and ignore the rest of the populace. Pigs would do well to realize that there’s more to life than being needed. When they open up their world to a diverse group of people, they will truly bloom.

The most compatible match for a Pig is the Rabbit or the Goat.

Flora and Fauna

Was just browsing through my photo collection, and came across these wonderful pics of selective flowers that I took. I love the colours on these flowers and everytime I take a photo of an object, it ignites a longing to learn more about photography.

I know it’s blurry but I like the angle of this pic

The green colour of the plant is has such a peaceful effect

This is a typical pic by a newbie,

but I like the curly structure of the object..

Fluffy Whites

Another favourite past-time of mine is taking photos of the sky. For me it’s the hardest in photography. There’s nothing much really to look at on a clear day, but once the sky is filled with fluffy clouds or even the sun just rising or setting, it can produce such mesmerizing colours up above.

This is the view I get from my house balcony in the afternoon

This was taken on the driveway into my previous house

Al-Ameerah Al-Hajah Mariam Mosque, Jerudong

Public Holidays 2010

At every start of the new year, the first list I would be looking at is the new year’s list of dates for public holiday!! In total we have about 14 days of  public holidays and here’s the list for my beloved country, Brunei Darussalam.

1. New Year (Masehi) 2010:  Sat, 16 Muharram 1431 / 2 Jan 2010 (as a replacement for Fri 15 Muharram 1431 / 1 Jan 2010)

2. Chinese New Year: Mon, 1 Rabiulawal 1431 / 15 Feb 2010 (as a replacement for Sun, 29 Safar 1431 / 14 Feb 2010)

3.  Brunei Darussalam 26th National Day: Tue, 9 Rabiulawal 1431 /23 Feb 2010

4. Prophet Maulud Nabi Muhammad Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam Anniversary: Sat, 13 Rabiulawal 1431 / 27 Feb 2010 (as a replacement for Fri, 12 Rabiulawal 1431 / 26 Feb 2010)

5. Royal Brunei Armed Forces 49th Anniversary: Mon, 17 Jamadilakhir 1431 / 31 May 2010

6. *Israk Mikraj: Sat, 27 Rejab 1431 / 10 Jul 2010

7. His Majesty the Sultan and Yang Di-Pertuan of Brunei Darussalam 64th Birthday Anniversary: Thu, 3 Syaaban 1431 / 15 Jul 2010

8. *Start of Ramadan (Fasting Month): Wed, 1 Ramadan 1431/ 11 Aug 2010

9. *Rememberance of  Nuzul Al-Qur’an:  Sat, 18 Ramadan 1431 / 28 Aug 2010 (as a replacement for Fri, 17 Ramadan 1431 / 27 Aug 2010)

10. *Eid Mubarak Celebration:  Sat, 2 Syawal 1431 / 11 Sep 2010 (as a replacement for Fri, 1 Syawal 1431 / 10 Sep 2010) and Mon, 4 Syawal 1431 / 13 Sep 2010

11. *Aidiladha Celebration (Sacrifice): Tue, 10 Zulhijjah 1431 / 16 Nov 2010

12. New Year of Hijriah 1432: Tue, 1 Muharram 1432 / 7 Dec 2010

13. Christmas: Sat, 19 Muharram 1432 / 25 Disember 2010

*Subject to changes

What Fruits Are You?

Fruits can also reflect our personality. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this article on “Fructology” from this website: http://www.abarnett.demon.co.uk/fructi/index.html.

Once again, I have re-posted the article here to bring to you the thesis on Fruits and how it is connected to our own personality.

Fruit Signs and Fructitherapy

Throughout the ages, women and men have sought to divine information about their past, present and future from the natural world. Quantum physicists have learnt that all things in the universe are interconnected, thus demonstrating the truth behind the science of Astrology. All over the planet, people read with awe the predictions made in their star-sign, moon-sign and sun-sign horoscopes. These accurate charts are created by the scientific interpretation of the relative positions and movements of the various Astral bodies within and without our Solar System. It is known that the planets affect the lives of  those born under them, as the pull of gravity affects the very molecules in our brains at the moments of birth and conception.

This science is, however, limited. The stars and planets are dead bodies – balls of rock or flaming gas, and nothing more. Something is missing. That something is the life-force itself. The Elan Vital, as it were. During his life-long search for the Truth, Doctor Barnett began to formulate the science of Fructology (or Fruit Signs) and it’s related science of Fructitherapy (fruit-based healing), based on the realisation that peoples from around the world exhibit minor modifications to their Astrological personality types. The one thing in common throughout the world, a thing which exemplifies the very essence of life itself, is fruit. As the seasons roll across the face of the world trees, flowers, shrubs and hedges burst into life, expending their life-energies in the production of fruits.

Like people, fruit comes in all imaginable shapes, sizes, colours and textures. From the large, spikey pineapple to the soft blackberry. From the delicate grapes of the French vineyards to the heavy Coco-de-Mer. Naturally, people cannot fail to be influenced by the fruits of the area in which they grow up. Not only will they actually eat those fruits, thus imbibing their vital energies directly, they will walk, ride, swim and run past them as the Earth herself pumps them full of living water and nutrients, their aural vibrations penetrating into the growing brain of the children playing in the branches. Fruit is alive, growing and energetic, just like the children raised alongside them. Apples, Bananas and Pomegranates are the fruit of plants – boys and girls are the fruit of people. The connection is blindingly obvious.

After almost two decades of studying the modifying effects that fruit has on Astrological profiles, Dr. Barnett and his team of dedicated assistants have produced the Fruit Signs chart below. Taking into account the longitude and latitude at which the various fruits flourish, the time of year that they grow, and the related Star, Sun and Moon signs, this chart will prove to be of enormous benefit to those wishing to enhance their knowledge of  themselves and the universe.

How to use the Fructological chart

Humans have spread all over the world for thousands of years. With the advent of cheap, international transport, fruit is also being spread across the world. In your local supermarket you can find fruit from every continent. It is simply a case of determining your favourite fruit-type from the chart below. You may not have been directly involved with it’s energies during your childhood, but your ancestral ties are intricately linked with the aura of the fruit. That is why you like the fruit that you do, even if it is not native to your country of birth! The science of Aromatherapy has also been taken into consideration with this technique, as the essential oils of many fruits have been demonstrated to have beneficial properties, and the life-essence and properties of the living fruit are concentrated in the oils themselves.

This graph demonstrates the cleansing effects that your Life-Fruit can have on the strength and intensity of your Aura. Fruit in general is a well-known Aural cleanser, but as you can see, the effects are magnified enormously by the particular fruit that is in harmony with your body’s individual energies. Double-blind clinical trials have been performed to confirm that once a person has determined their personal Fruit-type and informed our therapists of it, their aura becomes measurably stronger and healthier within hours of consuming it. Several Aura Therapists are even able to sense the Fruit that has been consumed, so strongly does it affect the aura. Some people have reported a benefit by simply having the smell of the fruit in their home or office.

It is necessary to carefully choose your fruit from this chart. Your favourite may not be explicitly represented, but that does not matter. It is the kind of fruit that you feel a connection with that matters – it may be the shape, the size, the colour, the smell or the flavour. Pick the type of fruit that you feel calling to your spirit. Each chart includes the modification that the Fruit-Sign makes to your Sun, Moon or Star Sign reading. This is your Life-Fruit, and if possible you should try to partake of it at least once a day to help detoxify your body and spirit in the most efficient manner possible. Your Life-Fruit is in perfect harmony with your body and mind, and can actively help to balance the delicate biochemical systems throughout your body. Most people feel totally revitalised after just a few days of eating their personal Life-Fruit!

The Fruit-Sign charts describes your personality type, as well as those unique attributes which should be taken into account when interpreting your Astrological profiles. I hope you find this new information helpful in your spiritual development, and in your interactions with those around you.

The Eight Life-Fruit Types
Citrus (firm, bright, intense acidic flavour, juicy): e.g. Orange, Lemon, Lime, Grapefruit, Kumquat. You have a zest for life. You prefer bright colours and intense experiences. People often come to you for your unique insight into matters. Like your Life-Fruit, you can sometimes appear to be thick-skinned at first, but people soon learn about the real you inside. Sometimes you just need to spend a little time on your own, to relax and gather your thoughts. People can feel rejuvenated after spending time with you. The more friends get to know you, the stronger your friendship becomes. Your Sign is modified with enjoyment of the moment.	Melon (round, firm, juicy, many seeds): e.g. Watermelon, Galia, Honeydew, Cantaloupe. You are a provider. You give, give and give some more. You enjoy helping others, and receive kindness in return.  You are a lover of the Earth, and have many carefully-chosen plants around your house and garden. You have several especially close friends. You are romantic at heart. You work to prevent the suffering of others whenever you can. There are many things you would like to do, and you make time for as many as you are able. Your Sign is modified with careful determination.
Spicey (bright, variety of shapes, strong/hot flavour): e.g. Pepper, Chilli, Jalapeno, You can be fiery and bursting with energy. Sometimes you don’t know what to do with yourself, but you eventually find a new project to channel your inexhaustible energies into. You enjoy rich food and good living, but never lose sight of your roots. You enjoy the thrill of a new love. Family is important to you. You enjoy thrilling experiences, but do not lose your sense of caution. You inspire those around you, whether you know it or not. Your sign has the modification of vibrant energy.	Berry (small, round, soft, sweet, variety of colours): e.g. Blackberry, Blueberry, Strawberry, Raspberry, Cranberry, Gooseberry, Blackcurrant, Tomato, Grape. You are the life of the party, and help to bring out the best in others. Your sense of  fun and enthusiasm is picked up by those around you, and you tend to make friends quickly, even with complete strangers. You like interestingly flavoured foods. You often feel that you have an important destiny in life. Like the Blackberry, your personality is comprised of many different parts, all working together to make you whole. Your Sign is modified with your naturally bubbly personality.
Orchard (hard/firm, bulbous, few seeds): e.g. Apple, Pear (many varieties of each) The keyword here is Strength. Not only are you strong of spirit yourself, but you lend strength and support to those around you. You are able to get yourself out of sticky situations and help others out also. You enjoy fine foods. As with all Orchard Fruits, hidden deep within you are the seeds of a new awakening. Soon, you will feel the need to release them and change the direction of your life for the better. You are eager for new knowledge. Your Sign modification is a strong determination to get things done without losing touch with your tender side.	Squash (large, heavy, many seeds, fleshy): e.g. Pumpkin, Gourd There is more to you than meets the eye. You are naturally curious. People are often surprised at how much you are able to teach them. People are not immediately aware of your deeper nature, but may often depend upon you later. You enjoy intelligent reading and conversation. Friends rely on you at times, and your steadfastness is rewarded. Sometimes the pressures of work can get you down, but you soon bounce back to meet new challenges. You prefer subtle, tasteful colours and décor. Your Sign personality is modified with exceptional gentleness and a tender outlook.
Nut (hard/tough shell, dry, brown/dark, woody): e.g. Brazil, Walnut, Coconut (and Coco-De-Mer!), Pecan, Cashew, Hazel, Peanut. You are occasionally short-tempered, but rarely without good reason. You are resilient, and can be stubborn when you know you are right. Hold out long enough and others will see your careful reasoning for what it is. You forge friendships for life, and stay in touch with those you love even if you do not see them for years at a time. Like the nuts, it can sometime take a while to get to know you, but the effort is worth it. Your Sign is modified with strength of will and a determination to do what is right.	Tropical / Exotic (sunny climes, wide variety of shapes, colours, sizes, textures, flavours): e.g. Banana, Start Fruit, Papaya, Guava, Kiwi, Pineapple, Pomegranate, Custard Apple, Avocado. You love new experiences. You try different foods, flavours, thrills as often as possible. People often have trouble keeping up with your active lifestyle. You dislike things which cause you emotional pain. Your partner will be someone who is much calmer than yourself but loves you for who you are. You enjoy spending time with those close to you. People think of you as bouncy, energetic and fun to be around. You can occasionally be sad, but hide it in order to not sadden those around you. Your Sign is modified with caring and playfulness.

Testimonies

We have had letters from all over the world describing the life-enhancing benefits of the various aspects of Fruit Therapy. Here is a small sample.

“I have been a life-long reader of horoscopes, and I have found that the Fructilogical modifications of my readings have helped greatly. This fills the gap that has been missing from astrology for so long. Thank you ever so much.”
Mrs.D.Johnson, Birmingham England.

“At first I was skeptical about this, but after only a week of eating my Life-Fruit once a day I began to feel invigorated, healthier and happier. I’m a skeptic no longer and now I recommend this technique to all my friends.”
Miss.L.Mbembe, Salt Lake City.

“As a professional in the field of complementary medicine, I now always ask my clients to use the Fruit chart and begin personal Fructitherapy a week before they come for Healing. When their body and aura have been detoxified already, it increases the effectiveness of their treatment and they respond so much better to Healing.”
Dr.Elaine McKinley, Heysham School Of The Healing Touch.

“My life-fruit turned out to be the Bread-Fruit. I discovered this after Past-Life Regression therapy, during which I discovered that I was actually the cabin-boy on the Bounty in one of my past lives. I now grow Bread-Fruit, and am seeking others who were members of that crew in their past lives. Bread-Fruit doesn’t actually taste very nice, but I can feel it doing me spiritual good every time I eat it.”
Mr.M.T.Major, Sun City, S.Africa

Oh Ji Ho

I adore and love watching korean drama and movies. I would even lose sleep just to watch all the drama episodes, especially when my favourite actors are in it. Here’s my first fav actor…

OH JI HO

Name: 오지호 / Oh Ji Ho
Profession: Actor and model
Birthdate: 1976-Apr-14
Height: 183cm
Weight: 75kg
Star sign: Aries

Ji-ho completed his education at Anyang University. It was not long for him to receive his first role. In fact, he received his first job after his very first audition and in 1998, he debuted in his first movie Kka. His other movie credits include:

TV Shows

Queen of Housewives (MBC, 2009)
My Precious Child (KBS2, 2008)
Single Dad in Love (KBS2, 2008)
Get Karl! Oh Soo Jung (SBS, 2007)
Couple of Fantasy (MBC, 2006)
Thank You Life (KBS, 2006)
Autumn Shower (MBC, 2005)
Super Rookie (MBC, 2005)
Second Proposal (KBS2, 2004)
Detectives (SBS, 2003)
Confession (MBC, 2002)
Cool (KBS2, 2001)

Movies

My Wife is a Gangster 3 (2006)
Love Trilogy (2004)
Silver Knife (2003)
I Love You (2001)
La Belle (2000)
Kka (1998)

Awards

MBC Drama Awards: Popularity Award (2006)
MBC Drama Awards: Best Couple Award with Han Ye Seul (2006)
KBS Drama Awards: Best Supporting Actor (2004)

Ji-ho stands 6’0″ and weighs 165lbs.
His hobbies include jet surfing, waterskiing, swimming, music, Tae Kwon Do, movies, and basketball.

Daniel Henney

Again with my korean actors obssession.. Here’s my second most favourite actor..

DANIEL HENNEY

Date of Birth

28 November 1979, USA

Birth Name

Daniel Phillip Henney

Nickname

Mr. Robin
Phillip

Height

6′ 2″ (1.88 m)

Trivia

He jogs for half an hour every day.

Started modeling in 2001 and has worked in Italy, France, Paris, London, New York & Hong Kong.

Went to Carson City-Crystal High School. Alma College (Attended on basketball scholarship) Albion College (Attended on basketball scholarship).

His hobbies are sports, guitar, basketball, travelling, and reading.

Family: father (American of British descent), mother (American of Korean descent).

Kim Jae Won

I just can’t stop thinking about my favourite korean actors. And because of that I just had to put them on my blog! Here’s my third fav actor…

KIM JAE WON

Name: 김재원 / Kim Jae Won
Profession: Actor and model
Birthdate: 1981-Feb-18
Birthplace: Seoul, South Korea
Height: 182cm
Weight: 71kg
Star sign: Aquarius
Blood type: B
Family: Older sister

Brittany Murphy Dies at 32

A shocking news caught my eye when I browsed through yahoo.com today on an Associated Press article that read “Actress Brittany Murphy dies in LA at age 32″. She’s such a sweet actress, and condolences to the family.

I have re-posted the article here for your view.. courtesy of Associated Press! Tanx for the updated news! Photo downloaded from wallpaper-s.org.

LOS ANGELES – Brittany Murphy, the actress who got her start in the sleeper hit “Clueless” and rose to stardom in “8 Mile” before her movie roles declined in recent years, died Sunday in Los Angeles of what appeared to be natural causes, a Los Angeles County coroner’s official said. She was 32.

Murphy was pronounced dead at 10:04 a.m. at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, hospital spokeswoman Sally Stewart said.

Murphy was transported to the hospital after the Los Angeles Fire Department responded to a call at 8 a.m. at the home she shared with her husband, British screenwriter Simon Monjack, in the Hollywood Hills.

Assistant Chief Coroner Ed Winter said Murphy apparently collapsed in the bathroom, and authorities were looking into her medical history.

An official cause of death may not be determined for some time, since toxicology tests will be required, but “it appears to be natural,” Winter said. He said an autopsy was planned for Monday or Tuesday.

Winter said Murphy’s family was cooperating with the coroner’s investigation. Funeral arrangements have not been announced, he said.

Los Angeles police have opened an investigation into Murphy’s death, Officer Norma Eisenman said. Detectives and coroner’s officials were at Murphy and Monjack’s home Sunday afternoon but did not talk to reporters. Paparazzi were camped outside the multistory home, located above the Sunset Strip.

Messages left for Murphy’s manager and agent by The Associated Press were not immediately returned.

Neighbor Clare Staples said she saw firefighters working to resuscitate the actress Sunday morning. She said Murphy was on a stretcher and “looked as though she was dead at the scene.”

Murphy’s husband, wearing pajama bottoms and no shoes, appeared “dazed” as firefighters tried to save her, Staples said. “It’s just tragic,” she added.

TMZ.com first reported Murphy’s death Sunday morning.

Murphy’s father, Angelo Bertolotti, said he learned of her death from his son, the actress’s brother, and was stunned.

“She was just an absolute doll since she was born,” Bertolotti said from his Branford, Fla., home. “Her personality was always outward. Everybody loved her — people that made movies with her, people on a cruise — they all loved her. She was just a regular gal.”

He said he hadn’t heard much about the circumstances of Murphy’s death. Bertolotti divorced her mother when Murphy was young and hadn’t seen Murphy in the past few years. He said he used to be in the mob and served prison time on federal drug charges.

“She was just talented,” Bertolotti said. “And I loved her very much.”

Meanwhile, Murphy’s publicist, Nicole Perna, said in a statement: “In this time of sadness, the family thanks you for your love and support. It is their wish that you respect their privacy.”

Born Nov. 10, 1977, in Atlanta, Murphy grew up in New Jersey and later moved with her mother to Los Angeles to pursue acting.

Her career started in the early 1990s with small roles in television series, commercials and movies. She is best known for parts in “Girl, Interrupted,” “Clueless” and “8 Mile.”

Her on-screen work had lessened of late, but Murphy’s voice gave life to numerous animated characters, including Luanne Platter on more than 200 episodes of Fox’s “King of the Hill” and Gloria the penguin in the 2006 feature “Happy Feet.”

She is due to appear in Sylvester Stallone’s upcoming film, “The Expendables,” set for release next year.

Her role in “8 Mile” led to more recognition, Murphy told AP in 2003. “That changed a lot,” she said. “That was the difference between people knowing my first and last name as opposed to not.”

Murphy credited her mother, Sharon, with being a key to her success.

“When I asked my mom to move to California, she sold everything and moved out here for me,” Murphy said. “I was really grateful to have grown up in an environment that was conducive to creating and didn’t stifle any of that. She always believed in me.”

She dated Ashton Kutcher, who costarred with Murphy in 2003′s romantic comedy “Just Married.”

Kutcher sent a message on Twitter Sunday morning about Murphy’s death: “2day the world lost a little piece of sunshine,” Kutcher wrote. “My deepest condolences go out 2 Brittany’s family, her husband, & her amazing mother Sharon.”

Brendan Fraser

One of my fav hollywood celebrity is Brendan James Fraser. Although he’s kind of getting old now, but he was definitely a hottie! So dearest readers, today I’m putting him on the pedestal

Born December 3, 1968, Brendan is a Canadian-American actor of stage and screen. He has starred in many major Hollywood films, including The Mummy film series, Crash, Dudley Do-Right, Looney Tunes: Back in Action, George of the Jungle and Journey to the Center of the Earth.

New Motivation

Not a very enjoyable sunday when you’re down with flu and your whole body seems to repond slowly to everything that your brain tells it to do.

But today I’ve found more motivation to overcome m weight problem. Yes, I do have a weight problem (just by looking at me in person you will see the extent of the problem) and I’m struggling to drive myself onto the path that will help me rid of this problem indefinitely.

I’ve been thinking a whole lot about what I need to do to compel myself to do something about my weight problem. My only motivation for the last few months has been the fact that I did manage to lose the weight in 2008, merely eating right and exercising enough. In 2008, I had lost 15kg and it took me exactly 1 year to achieve it.

Now, 2010, I’ve woken up from my slumber and discovered that I’ve regained all that weight which I had lost. And I find myself, once again, in the dilemma of getting my self discipline and to pursue another weight loss program and this time to stick to it indefinitely!

I can sense that my motivation in this pursuit is still inadequate to really  put me on disciple mode in losing the excess weight. But this month alone, I’ve seen friends who have actually succeeded in losing their unwanted weight and they look great!!!!

I’m truly envious of what they have achieved, and I want the same result and determination so badly!

Therefore, here,  I shall make a pledge, first and foremost to myself, to lose exactly 20kg by May 2010. This will indeed be a huge undertaking and I expect numerous challenges along the way. I only hope and pray that my friends and family will continue to support me in this adventure.

Wish me Luck!!

The Wonders of Maths

Being on the slow side where maths is concerned, but I’ve become truly intrigued by how this mathematics pattern arrive at the given answer. Why don’t you have a go.. It’s education and fun, all at once!

1. Key-in the first 3 digit of your handphone number (not the 01x number – e.g., 08753287– just take 875) into the calculator

2. Multiply by 80

3. Add 1

4. Multiply by 250

5. Plus last four digit of phone number

6. Plus last four digit of phone number again

7. Minus 250

8. Divide by 2

Is it your handphone number???

Siblings

Lately, I’m such a sucker for those mathematics fun games, which is so weird :p

But I can’t help it and feel so compelled to share it here with you here.

My friend tried out this maths formula with me and he managed to guess how many siblings, of either genders, I have! It was amazing! Let’s see if this formula can also guess the number and gender of your own siblings

So how many brothers and sisters are there in your family..

The Formula

1. Ask someone to write down the number of boys in the family (just write down but dont tell u)

2. Minus 1

3. Multiply by 2

4. Plus 5

5. Multiply by 5

6. Plus the number of girl(s)

7. Minus 25

The answer should indicate the number of brother and sister in the family.. the first digit indicates the number of boys but make sure to add 1 to the first digit, the second digit indicates the number of girls.. e.g, the final answer is 23.. means 3 boys and 3 girls..

Magic Number

Have you ever wondered how some of those magicians/ illusionist manage to guess your magic number just by using a maths formula?

Well, here is how some of them get hold of your ‘magic numbers’.

The Formula

1. ask someone to think of a number from 1 to 9. Keep it to him/herself and dont tell u)

2. Multiply by 6

3. Plus the number that he/she think

4. Divide by the number that he/she think

The answer is 7

1. ask someone to think of a number from 1 to 9. Keep it to him/herself and dont tell u)

2. Multiply by 5

3. Minus the number that he/she think

4. Divide by the number that he/she think

The answer is 4

Role Model

Did u know that there’s a formula to help you to find out who your role model is??? I love this maths formula.. and I’m sure you will too.

This is a great psychological test and extremely accurate.  It is amazing what modern math can do.  Let’s have a go at this … This is pretty amazing.. believe me!

Rules

No cheating!

DON’T SCROLL DOWN YET, DO THE SIMPLE MATH BELOW, THEN SCROLL DOWN TO FIND YOUR HERO.

It’s CRAZY how accurate this is!

No peeking!

1) Pick your favorite number between 1-9

2) Multiply by 3 then

3) Add 3

4) Then again, multiply by 3 (I’ll wait while you get the calculator….)

5) You’ll get a 2 or 3 digit number….

6) Add the digits together

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With that number, see who your ROLE MODEL is from the list below:

1. Einstein

2. Brain Habana

3. Madiba

4. Madonna

5. Bill Gates

6. Oprah Winfrey

7. Luke Watson

8. Jacob Zuma

9. Ryna ‘Apanyangku’

10. Tyra Banks

I know, I know….I just have that effect on people.

One day, you too can be like me

P.S. Stop picking different numbers!!

I AM YOUR ROLE MODEL, JUST DEAL WITH IT!

First Training

Today we had our first training session. I have 4 other friends  (jol, fiona, hjh Frdh, and ct ain) joining me and we started the workout at the Belapan Tracks in Berakas. We started at 5:15pm and finished up at around 6:20pm.

Today’s workout was to walk/ jog for 45 minutes followed by a brief warm up workout. For most of my friends, they were able to jog and walk the entire 45mins. As for me, I had to take it slow first, but I was walking pretty fast. I have Coach Khairry watching my progress next to me, along with my dear niece Fiona accompanying me as we share the same beginner pace (but she is way fitter than I am ;p)

After all that workout, although it may seem ‘mini mouse’ in terms of extremity, but I managed to soak my shirt with sweat. I also manage to bring out my asthma! But heck, I’m not gonna let that get in the way. I’m determined to do my next training, schedule for tomorrow’s afternoon.

First Fitness Test

I’ve somehow managed to set up my own informal biggest loser program and I even have a personal trainer (Coach Khairy) to help me. Few of my closest friends are even joining in (eventhough they’re not as heavy set as I am) the program.

Today, myself, jol and fiona, the first three pioneer member of the program, went through a 30min fitness test at the bol gym.

We first went on the bicycle for 10mins. It was the most uncomfortable 10mins. I could feel my bu** like overflowing from the small seat of the bicycle, and I was complaining the whole time to the coach.. who seems to just smiled off my sulky complaints :p

Next, we went into the aerobics room. Not to do aerobics though (shucks!). There we were tasked to do 15mins on the steps. Everyone else was doing great on the steps, except me. I started off fine. 1min went by and I could feel my legs wobbling. Coming to 2mins, I suddenly feel hot all over and my vision going round like a merry-go-round! By 3mins into the steps routine, I was ready to faint!! Luckily I didn’t.

I told the coach I was going to faint and I was just told to sit down and cool down. It took me a good 15mins to recover! That experience was a real disappointment. That fainting feeling has served as a real alarm for me proving that I’m totally and utterly fat and unfit!!!

Oh well, it’s better to realise now than later. So I’m now more determined than ever to conquer and win this battle and become the Biggest Loser!

Anyone wanna join in?

By the way, I weigh myself today.. and I’m still 100kg :p

Second Training Session

Another cool and cloudy day, but yet just beautiful to undergo our second training session. We were supposed to do the tracks at belapan, but there was a football game going on. So the coach told us that today we will be going around the stadium area.

Joining today were myself, fiona, zara, norain and ct ain… and of course our Coach Khairry.

Prior to our brisk walk, we did a 5min warm up workout. We did 45min brisk walk all over the stadium area. We don’t only walk on the flat path, the coach made us walk and run on the big stairs as well! The stair bit was truly challenging on my knee, as my body weight is just too much on my lil’ knee and even my small ankles.

After the walk, we did a finishing workout for about 10mins. This final workout is always heavy for me. We do the 20-30m knee-high running, knee squat and stretch routine, and many others. It was really tiring. My heart beat in a minute was 180. And after 5min more of cooling down stretching, we took our heart beat measurement. Mine went down to 130. Pretty ok.. for today

My weight today is 98kg.. niceee!!

Wednesday Sport

Went to Tasek today just to re-connect with mother nature… and to prepare myself for my next training session wt Coach scheduled at the same place.

Spent 45mins just walking and climbing stairs, quite strenuous.. especially the stairs.

That’s my exercise log for today

Tasek Again

We were supposed to have our 3rd training session today, but he coach was called for duty.  But I was determined to continue my training today so asked my other friends to join in. Only 2 turned up :p but we managed to do 5 rounds within 45mins.

The weather was cloudy, and it made the walk even more enjoyable

New Shoes

Didn’t plan to do any exercise today. But since I got new running shoes, I just have to try them out!

Luckily, today I have a new exercise buddy joining. We did rounds at Tasek and manage to put in 50mins of walking time. Of course we climbed the stairs there as well, that was the hardest part.

Again the weather was permissible, and that made the walk even more fun!

Battle of the Bands 2010

This afternoon my sister will be among the semi-finalist in the local Battle of the Bands 2010 competition at the International Convention Centre. I’ll not be able to attend coz I hav to work :p

Anyway, to my lil sister and her band, GOOD LUCK!!! I know u will ROCK D’HAUS!!!

DVD Aerobics

My cousin bailed out on me for our brisk walk session this afternoon. But luckily, I have my aerobics DVD for days like this.

After cooking dinner (about 515pm), I did my dance aerobics.. with my kids joining. I think that was the most fun cardio exercise ever. I did about 12mins of warm-up exercise and then followed by another 35mins slightly more intensive dance.

I think my legs slowly tired after about 30mins of the whole process. But I hang on until the last minute, and I felt good after it

That was a fun exercise session ever!

Sunday Morning

I woke myself up at 0830hrs and felt energised to try another dvd workout today. This time it was higher-intensity workout. I only managed to do about 30mins when I finally got lost in the moves. The instructors were so fast and it was impossible for me to follow all the foot steps.

On top of that, I manage to slightly injure my knee. I think it’s because of the squatting exercise. I guess my legs, or knees specifically, are not ready to carry my heavy bod :p

Oh well, 30mins is better than nothing. But I think I have to give it a rest tomorrow just to allow my knee to recover a bit.

Record Book

Finally!!! She finally gave in :p

I think I better start from the very beginning…

Tonight we had a dinner get together, at my parents’ house, with relatives from Sandakan. They were really nice people and my mom managed to whip up some fantastic food spread. I was totally full by the end of the event.

Anyway, that’s not what I wanna talk about. This evening, I complained to my sis-in law about how she’s like not supporting my mission to lose weight. She’s a dietician officer you see and one of her work duties is to look after over-weight people who have registered under the Healthy Body Clinic (Klinik Badan Sihat). I was telling her how I need a lot of help to boost up my weight loss result and how my diet is all over the place, putting a real damper in the whole process.

And just as my sis in law was going home, she came back and gave me a little notebook, and telling me to make sure I record all my diet consumption. I was super happy!!! And she promised she will register me into the clinic.

I’m so pumped now, and I hope the clinic will help me to get the self-discipline that I need.. especially where watching my diet is concerned

Hot Day

Again my training coach is so busy with his real job that I have to make myself do the daily exercise all on my own! But hey, this is as good as any in getting the self-discipline that I’m lacking in the first place.

Since it was such a hot day today, I opted to do my dance aerobics again and it was great!

I managed to clock 50mins again today, and I was sweatin’ all over. That felt really good

I had to really push myself to do my exercise today, simply because I have a family function to attend in the evening. And the usual flow of such functions always end up with eating lots and lots of yummy food. But I hope to control myself. If I can :p

What to eat?

Losing weight is so hard, especially when you don’t exactly know how to organise and select your daily diet consumption. This is my greatest challenge and I just hope that I will eventually find the means to get that sorted, somehow!

So in resolving this issue, probably, I went on a shopping spree today. Not to the supermarket though. I went to the book store at Manggis Mall. I splurged on cooking books! I love cooking, but now I want to make sure I cook dishes that will help me lose weight and gain the necessary nutrients that my body needs.

I just hope $132.40 that I spent on these cooking books is worth it!

Food Journal

Today marks exactly a week since I started writing in my food journal. Looking back at the last week, I notice that I don’t drink enough water :p I know I should drink at least 6-8 glasses per day. And I only manage to put in about 4-5 glasses a day! And with that amount I feel totally bloated :p

Anyhow, my coach has also given me a sample daily diet schedule. I’m still not sure if that menu would really satiate my appetite. But, I’ve been doing a little searching of my own. So hopefully by the end of this week I will have produced my own tailored made menu!

Start of my test..

Today I will be sitting in for my Speaking IELTS test. I’m really freaking out. Although it will only take about 15 minutes, but I’m sure that it will feel like 15years!

I just hope I will Ace the test today. Wish me Luck!

The Moment of Truth..

Today is my IELTS main test. Registration is at 8:30am. And my test commences at 9am until noon. Three hours sitting down in a cramped and super chilled room can be quite a daunting experience. I just hope I answer every single one of the questions right.

IELTS is about avoiding silly mistakes. By avoiding such mistakes, I will be able to escape from being penalised for those mistakes. I know I’m blabbering right now. I’m just so outrageously nervous.

Wish me Luck.. and Miracle!!

End of Jan

Just to recap what exercises I did the week before, chronologically:

Monday – I don’t remember what I did :p

Tuesday – Walked 60mins around the national stadium compound.

Wednesday – 50mins groove aerobics (Shaun T Rockin’ Body).

Thursday – 50mins groove aerobics (Shaun T Rockin’ Body).

Friday – Rest

Saturday – Walking around tasek and went uphill to the reservoir, 90mins

Sunday – 40mins disco-express aerobics (Shaun T Rockin’ Body).

Looks pretty promising. Let’s just hope this will remain a consistent activity!

The story behind Valentine’s Day

To most people, valentine’s day is a day for lovers to declare their love to one another. But not many people know the exact story behind this celebrated day… Well my dearest readers, I came across this article from CelebrateLove.Com and it explains the history behind Valentine’s day. If you’re interested, do have a browse through the article re-posted below.

Have you ever wondered how Valentine’s Day came to be?

The Story behind St. Valentines Day is a fascinating one. Although February 14th is celebrated as a lovers’ holiday today, with the giving of candy, flowers, Valentine’s Day card and other gifts between couples in love, it originated as a tribute to St. Valentine, a Catholic bishop.

As early as the fourth century B.C., the Romans engaged in an annual young man’s rite of passage to the God Lupercus. It’s earliest orgin was the Roman festival Lupercalia, observed on Feb. 15. Lupercalia celebrated the coming of Spring on the Roman calendar. Lupercalia became a celebration intended to ensure the fertility of flocks, fields and people.

The names of the teenage women were placed in a box and drawn at random by adolescent men; thus, a man was assigned a woman companion (a sexual partner) for the duration of the year, after which another lottery was staged. After eight hundred years of this cruel practice, the early church fathers sought to end this practice.

In an effort to do away with the pagan festival, Pope Gelasius ordered a slight change in the lottery. Instead of the names of young women, the box would contain the names of saints. Both men and women were allowed to draw from the box, and the game was to emulate the ways of the saint they drew during the rest of the year. Needless to say, many of the young Roman men were not too pleased with the rule changes.

Instead of the pagan god Lupercus, the Church looked for a suitable patron saint of love to take his place. They found an appropriate choice in Valentine, who, in 270 AD had been beheaded by Emperor Claudius.

According to church tradition, St. Valentine was a priest near Rome. At that time the Roman Emperor, Claudius II, had issued an edict forbidding marriage. Claudius had determined that married men made poor soldiers because they were emotionally attached to their families. So he banned marriage from his empire.

Valentine, a bishop , seeing the trauma of young lovers, met with them in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. When Claudius found out about this “friend of lovers,” Valentine was thrown in jail and condemned to death.

While Valentine was in prison awaiting his fate, he befriended his jailer, Asterius, who had a blind daughter. Asterius’ daughter befriended the kind priest by bringing food and messages to him. Valentine fell in love with the jailer’s daughter. Asterius requested that he heal his daughter. Through his faith he miraculously restored the sight of Asterius’ daughter and converted the two of them to Christianity.

After some time in prison the priest was ordered to appear before the Emperor. The emperor, impressed with the young priest’s dignity and conviction, first tried to convert him to paganism to save him from certain execution. But Valentine reversed the strategy, trying instead to convert Claudius. He failed. Just before his execution, he asked for pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to the jailer’s daughter and signed it, “From Your Valentine.” He was stoned and beheaded on February 24, 270 AD.

Valentine become a Patron Saint, and spiritual overseer of the annual festival. Although the lottery for women had been banned by the church, the mid-February holiday in commemoration of St. Valentine, involved young Romans offering women they admired and wished to court, handwritten greetings of affection on February 14th.

The greetings eventually acquired the St. Valentine’s name. One of the earliest cards was sent in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife. He was imprisoned in the Tower of London at the time. The card is now preserved in the British Museum.

Year of the Tiger 2010

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR 2010!!!

At the turn of every chinese new year, I love browsing the net to find the most interesting prediction for the upcoming year. For 2010, I came across this astrology prediction (from http://www.chinesefortunecalendar.com/2010ChineseHoroscope.htm). Since the article sounded interesting, I re-posted it here for you all to have a read through. Enjoy!

According to Chinese Five Element Astrology Calendar, 2010 is the Year of Metal Tiger Male Metal. Gold is related to Metal and money. People who like to talk about wealth will say that 2010 is a Golden Tiger year. In Five Elements (Metal, Water, Wood, Fire and Earth) theory, the color representing metal is White. Therefore, we also can say that 2010 is the Year of White Tiger. The White Tiger is connected to the symbol of jinx in China history. Some Chinese might consider that 2010 White Tiger is a bad year.

Chinese Astrology is a Balance Theory of Five Elements. Each animal can be converted into Five Elements. Tiger contains Mainly Wood, Fire and little Earth. Wood and Fire together will make Fire stronger. Metal is afraid of Fire and Metal is also against Wood. That means Metal and Tiger together will fight each other, which implies 2010 won’t come quietly and peacefully. We can image that 2010 is a Tiger wearing armor. This Tiger doesn’t like armor on the top its body and keeps jumping around. For safety, we should keep our distance from it. That’s why many Chinese don’t like White Tiger.

Tiger has the potential to become vigorous, ferocious and cruel. So Tiger is a symbol of power and authority. This kind of personality is good for the leadership. With the inflexible and destructive personality, Tiger has very poor people relationship, especially, with family members. In traditional customary, Chinese family don’t invite people born in year of Tiger to involve private wedding ceremony.

From the Chinese Astrology theory, Tiger has Fighting and Hurting Relationships with Snake and Monkey. Therefore, people who were born in year of Snake or Monkey will have unpleasant events happening in 2010. In Fact, as long as your Chinese Astrology Birth Chart contains Snake, Monkey or Tiger, you will have the same issue.

Before predicting your luck in 2010, you have to know what Type of Element you are and what your Lucky Element is from your astrology birth chart. The Lucky Element is the major factor to determine people’s fortune. 2009 is the Year of Brown Earth Cow. Cow contains mainly Earth. Therefore 2009 is a very strong Earth year. If people’s Lucky Element is Earth, then they should be very lucky in 2009. If Earth is the unlucky element, then they might be miserable in 2009.

2010 is the Year of White Tiger, which contains Metal, Wood and Fire. If your Lucky Element is Metal, Wood or Fire, then 2010 will bring you some degree of luck. However, Wood can help Fire to burn, and Metal and Fire are opposite elements. If your Lucky Element is Metal, then Wood and Fire will be unlucky elements. If your Lucky Element is Wood, then Metal should be an unlucky element. This tells us that most people will gain some and lose some in 2010.

For more detail and accurate prediction, therefore, the first step to know you fortune is know what animals are in your birth chart. You can find that information from Chinese Astrology Lucky Element page using your birthday and birth time.

My Pets

Just thought I share with you pics of my pets. They are all so adorable Let me introduce them to you..

This is our pet turtle. We’ve had him since he was the mere size of a fifty cents coin.

He’s more than 8 years old now. My eldest daughter is the owner of this turtle.

This is one of my two siamese fighting fish, or scientifically known as the Betta splendens species.

I’ve only had it since early this year. I call it ‘Fire’ because of its fiery colour.

This is my second fighting fish.

I call it ‘Sky’, of course because of its shiny blue colour.

This is one of the two kittens that I’ve adopted recently. My second daughter is the rightful owner.

She named the kitten Viola.

This is Sebastian. He’s the brother of Viola.

The 3 Things of Life

Three things in life that are never certain…

Dreams

Success

Fortune

Three things in life thatm once gone, never come back…

Time

Words

Opportunity

Three things in life that can destroy a man/ woman…

Alcohol

Pride

Anger

Three things that make a man/ woman…

Hard Work

Sincerity

Commitment

Three things in life that are most valuable…

Love

Self-Confidence

Family & Friends

Three things in life that may never be lost…

Peace

Hope

Honesty

Holiday!!!

HAPPY PUBLIC HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!!!

(Only in Brunei though )

WISHING THE MOST PROSPEROUS AND WONDERFUL

CHINESE NEW YEAR 2010 TO ALL MY CHINESE FRIENDS AND READERS!!

MAY THE YEAR OF THE TIGER BRING YOU JOY AND HAPPINESS

AS WELL AS ENDLESS FORTUNE!!

GONG XI GONG XI FA CAI!

ANG POW LAI LAI

It’s Not Love

If you love someone because he/ she is gorgeous…

that’s not love..

It’s Infatuation.

If you love someone because you think that you shouldn’t leave him/ her because others think you shouldn’t..

that’s not love..

It’s Compromise.

If you love someone because you think you cannot live without his/ her touch..

that’s not love..

It’s Lust.

If you love someone because you’ve been kissed by him/ her..

that’s not love…

It’s Inferiority Complex.

If you love someone because you cannot leave him/ her for fear of hurting his/ her feelings..

that’s not love…

It’s Charity.

If you love someone because you share everything with him/ her..

that’s not love…

It’s Friendship.

But if you feel pain for the other person more than him/ her even when he/she is stable

and you cry for him/ her…

that’s LOVE.

And the verdict is..

After waiting  for almost 2 weeks, today is the day when I will finally find out how well I know my english language. Yes, I took my IELTS early in the month, and today everything will be reveal.

As I wake up this morning, I couldn’t help but feel nervous about what the outcome will be. I’ve been dreading about the test even before I sat for it. But after having sat for it, I didn’t think it was all that bad!

But today, all that feelings of nervousness, uncertainty and fear of failing seem to rush back in full speed all at once!

My legs felt really heavy as I climbed the stairs to the first level of CfBT. I said ‘hi’ to the lady at the reception and told her that I’m there to pick up my IELTS result. It took her a while to find my detail, everything seems to be messy for the lady. But finally she found ‘me’ and I signed off my initial confirming that I’ve taken my result slip.

Said my goodbye to the lady. Result still in hand. As I walked out of the CfBT office, I stripped the envelope open. Eyes searching the document, trying to familiarise my brain with the strange document. The I found the answer.

So is it a good day or bad day for me???

Well…

It’s a super fantastic and wonderful day for me!

My result slip showed an overall band score of 8!! I was lost for words, and merely laughing by myself. I was smiling from ear to ear. Could not contend my relief and excitement, I reached for my mobile phone and convey the good news to my one and only bestfriend, my buddy, my mate – my husband He too was extremely happy at the news!

Oh what a beautiful day it is today

Independence!

Happy Independence Day to all Bruneians!

Today we celebrate in unity the 26th National Day of our beloved country, Brunei Darussalam..

May Allah bless us with continued peace, prosperity and harmony.. Amin Ya RAbbal Ala min..

The Road

One day, with nothing to do, I opted to just laze out and watch the few latest movie dvd I bought the other day. I chose to watch ‘The Road’.

Truthfully, this movie will definitely put a damper on a good day. It was so depressing and sad. You can’t help but have that worried expression across your face throughout the entire movie. The Road is a story about a father and his son who somehow survived a world disaster of some sort. They had to move around like gypsies and go through rubbles\ and wrecked houses to find food. There were very few actors in the movie, and when others do appear, they are not always friends. In this movie, people are either predators or cannibals. Although you don’t really see them eating human beings. But the way everyone reacted in the movie, it was just barbaric and absolutely in the absence of any feelings of humanity.

Despite the grimness and disheartening flow of the movie, I managed to finish it through. Out of a grade of 10, I would give it 6/10. It’s not that bad a movie, but it’s just so depressing! But I must commend the actors on their super actings, they were fantastic!

I am Legend

I was watching HBO the other day, and the movie ‘I Am Legend’ came up. This is the second time I’ve seen this movie and I can never get tired of it.

I can’t help but notice that movie nowadays tend to be based on the backdrop of world catastrophe, natural disaster and even the end of the world! I am Legend is similar to those scenarios. It’s about a man (acted by Will Smith) who seem to be all lone in the wreck and shambles of United States of America.. and the only companion he had was his K9 dog. But in the course of the movie, it was revealed that there were ‘others’ . These creatures of the night, probably previously humans who have turned into cannibal/zombies/vampires, all with one thing in their mind, to eat fresh flesh! The movie storyline is just so beyond the imagination of an ordinary human being. It’s a mixture of horror, thriller, drama and more horror!

Overall, I grade it 8/10. It’s definitely a must see movie.. if you have not yet seen it.

Prophet Anniversary

Today, 26th Feb 2010 corresponding with 12 Rabiulawal 1431 Hijriah..

Marks the anniversary of Prophet Muhammad S.A.W.

Peace be upon him.

Happy Bday!!!

The Happiest of birthdays to my daughter

Saadah!!!

LeGioN

I was watching Legion on the dvd, and I still don’t understand the destination of the movie. The special effects were pretty good, similar to what I’ve seen on Constantine and Drag Me To Hell. But the storyline was unknown, well to me at least.

LEGION is about how God (not sure whose god) has lost faith in human kinds. So God sent all his angels to bring about an apocalypse to the world. Well except for one angel, Micheal angelo. He was the only supposedly good angel who had the sane mind to protect human kind but risking his own life (if angels have lives) to save an unborn baby of a waitress. All the main scenes take place at this deserted diner (have no idea on the actual location). The scenes involve ordinary people being possessed by demons/ angels (not sure which) all focused on killing these people at the diner.. or probably the unborn baby of the waitress at the diner. So these possessed people they became so mutated, like monstors with sharp fangs!

Oh well, to grade it out of 10, I would just give it 5/10. I’m still disappointed with the storyline.

Say ‘NO’ to Infidelity!

Infidelity is an act that is definitely not welcomed in my kind of society. People involved in such scandalous activity will immediately be labeled as ‘sinners’. Although personally I do experience similar shock when someone I know is implicated in such scandals. But I’ve learnt not to stigmatise them so easily. I always believe that people react/ behave towards certain things for a reason. Some may be silly reasons, while others may be very serious reasons. But the outcome is always the same (especially from others’ reaction towards it).

I came across this article titled ‘Dating Tips: How to Affair-Proof Your Relationship’ () by Sharon M. Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T., for Hitchedmag.com. The article highlighted seven things which we need to really concentrate on in upholding an infidelity-free relationship. I agree totally with the 7 items and I do hope you will too. This article especially goes out to those being trapped in this scandalous affair. Please take a breather and have a browse through this article. Who knows, maybe it will shed some light on what you think is missing in your relationship at the moment.

7 ways to make sure your partnership does not fall to infidelity

An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a romantic relationship faster than infidelity. Is it really possible to affair-proof your relationship? The answer is, “Yes, it’s possible.” But in order to make that happen, it’s important to know what causes an affair in the first place.

An affair is an extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time. Affairs do not happen out of the blue and rarely happen because someone is a bad person. Cheating is caused by one single factor: “Lack.” In a relationship, it’s a lack of love, attention, intimacy, recognition, respect, and connection that builds up over time. Eventually, this “lack” can become so painful that the person in the most pain will often act out by cheating. Because communication has broken down, the cheating person doesn’t feel like they can talk to their partner, so that makes them vulnerable to cheating.

So, how do you avoid getting to this point in a relationship? Below are seven ways to avoid the “lack” and prevent a potential affair.

1. Avoid complacency. Don’t ever take your relationship for granted. Partnerships need to be nourished daily by a kind word, appreciation, a loving kiss, a smile. Complacency is a warning signal that you and your partner are out of touch with each other.

2. Keep the lines of communication open. Don’t sweep issues under the rug. They won’t go away! Learn ways to resolve differences so that recurring arguments don’t continue.

3. Pay attention to your gut. If you’re feeling something isn’t quite right in your relationship, 99 percent of the time you’re correct. Find a way to approach your partner to talk about things. Keep your relationship current by checking in on a weekly basis to make sure problems aren’t building up.

4. Find time for each other. Don’t get so busy that you forget to have a date with your partner. Make time away from chores and work to renew your loving feelings. Remember how important your mate is to you. Tell them, by making time for them.

5. Know when it’s a time of stress and pay attention to your partner even more. Some common trigger times for extra stress in a relationship are job changes, health problems, changes in finances, and the death of a family member or friend. During these stressful periods, pay extra attention to your relationship. Let your partner know you’re there, and make even more time to connect with each other.

6. Understand the real issues in your relationship. Learn tools for resolving arguments. Avoid blaming, shaming, and the need to always be right in an argument. Learn what you’re really fighting about so that you can resolve your issues. If you’re fighting about the wrong thing, you’ll never resolve arguments.

7. Always remember what it was that made you fall in love with your partner. Too often we allow our disagreements to cloud our love for our significant other, and we forgot why we even fell in love! Keep your sense of humor. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt and don’t make them your enemy.

Avoid the “lack” and affair-proof your relationship by staying conscious of yourself and your partner. Nurture each other and keep the lines of communication open.

Mr.Wrong

Fairy tales like cinderella, snow white or even sleeping beauty are stories which we can only dream of ever happening to us. We all want to find our dashing, sweet, wonderful prince charming and live happily every after! But those fairy tales don’t exactly tell you how to make sure your prince charming is exactly what he is and not the opposite!

It’s always a challenge trying to decide whether to stick or run away from a relationship,especially when the reason being the person we’re with is fulfilling our Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong list of qualities. But being human, there tend to be a whole lot of flaws than merits. And because of being overwhelmed b the flaws, we find ourselves to be in a state of uncertainty.. all the time!

So how can we know whether the guy we’re dating is the ONE of not the one??

I cam across this article titled ’10 Signs He’s Not ‘the One’ by YourTango.com and it showcased some interesting pointers on how to identify Mr.Wrong.

10 Signs He’s Not ‘the One

Some people say they “just knew” that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you’re not sure if he’s The One? If you’re considering long-term commitment or marriage, it’s time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he’s not for you.

1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you’re fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.

2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something’s wrong. If there’s something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.

3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.

4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort. When you’re a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.

6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he’s probably not the one.

7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn’t. You go to church every week; he’s an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn’t want to move; you can’t imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: “Would I be willing to compromise on this?” If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

8. You don’t respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there’s just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can’t sustain itself.

9. You’re not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t do it for you, he’s probably not your best long-term match.

10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling… Don’t ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he’s not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.

‘I Love You’

To utter ‘I Love You’ is not something that comes easy for every one. Some couple find it easy to be so verbally romantic and passionate. While others prefer actions to do all the ‘love’ talking.

I’m such a sucker for articles from hitched.com and today I’m gonna share with you all one very good article on How to Say “I Love You” Without Uttering a Word. The article basically list out  eight ways you can let your mate know you love them without verbalizing it. The article is written by Stacy D. Phillips www.hitchedmag.com. Thank you to the author for sharing these wonderful tips!

How to Say “I Love You” Without Uttering a Word

It is very easy to take advantage of your mate; we all do it, but when you are in a committed relationship, it is important to make an effort to continue to let your mate know (on a regular basis) that you love them. Sadly, saying “I love you” the same old way eventually loses its meaning or impact.

I know couples who do the same routine every day — dress, shower, pack the briefcase and head out the door — with a “love you” as they give their mate a peck on the cheek. But that gets old and stale. Finding new ways to express that sentiment is key to not only keeping your relationship intact but strengthening your bond in a very deep way. In my book, “Divorce: It’s All About Control — How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars,” I talk about loss of love or intimacy. You need intimacy to keep a committed relationship healthy. Without expressing those feelings continuously, intimacy will dissipate and you and/or your partner will begin to look for it elsewhere.

“A little creativity and going the extra mile in the “I love you” department will pay huge dividends in your relationship”

A little creativity and going the extra mile in the “I love you” department will pay huge dividends in your relationship, so if you are not already saying “I love you” in different ways, start now.

1. Stop off on your way home from work: Pick up your sweetheart’s favorite “thing.” Maybe it’s a special flavor of Haagen-Dazs, the pizza with that wacky assortment of toppings, a new book by his/her favorite author, a CD he/she has mentioned wanting to get, a t-shirt with her/his (or as a couple your) favorite sayings on it. How about the laundry he/she keeps forgetting to pick up. Do not make a big deal of this little “love token” by some grand verbal announcement of it, instead leave it somewhere in the house where he/she will soon find it.

2. Throw that secret look: Send a smile or smirk that only the two of you understand. No words need to accompany it. Maybe it is a wink or nod or other signal the two of you have established that means, “I love you.” Sending it to your lover when it is most unexpected, gesticulates tremendous warmth and affection. In all its silence, this beacon of love can end an argument, set up a soon-to-be intimate encounter or just remind your partner you are thinking special thoughts about them right in the middle of, well, nothing in particular.

3. Slip a supportive note or affirmation in her purse/his jacket pocket: Though it may be days or weeks before he/she finds and sees it. No need to ask, “Did you get my note?” Just let your mate come upon it randomly. When your mate does, the impact will be stupendous!

4. Demonstrate that you are trying to correct that annoying habit: Make an obvious effort to stop doing it. That could include picking up your dirty socks to cleaning the empty coffee cups off the center console of the car to tossing your gum in the trash when you have the urge to smack it. Do not say, “See, I’m working on that.” Your actions will speak for themselves.

5. Send one of those “just because” or “it made me think of you” cards or books: Send one that has a message in it that only the two of you would get — an affectionate or humorous one — that reminds them you would not want to belong to anyone else. Shhh, do not mention it. By sending it, you have said it all.

6. Do a good deed for your partner: One they know you typically avoid taking on and expect them to do instead. This might be taking out the trash, cleaning up after dinner, making the kids’ lunches, running to the grocery store, etc. Knowing that you did the chore or task he/she knows you generally dislike can speak volumes of how you feel about him/her.

7. Post your anniversary date in a place where your mate will see it: Whether it is on the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator door, inside the checkbook or day planner or on their dashboard. Next to it, write, “Best day of my life.” No need to say “I love you,” you just did.

8. Extend a gentle touch at least once a day: Not as a request for intimacy, but as a gesture of warmth and respect. A slight and tender stroke across his/her shoulder or a few soft fingertips across the cheek can speak loudly and clearly.

It’s time for you to make your list. When you can, add to it. Be creative. No matter how spectacular you currently believe your relationship to be, notice how much more rich it becomes.

Happy Bday to Aesyr!

Happy 2nd Birthday to my one and only little boy

Zahryn Aesyr!!

Mommy loves your so much darling *muahz*

Recently Engaged!

Happy Birthday and

The heartiest of congratulations to my sis-in-law Sri Mizan

on her engagement today to Ajim!

Lil Sis Bday!

Happy Birthday to my lil sis (who’s not so little anymore)

Tyama!! I’m waiting for you to treat me to sushi now :p

HAPPY BIRTHDAY OLD GAL

Cheer up!

Need cheering up?!? I’ve got the medicine for you.. These pics cheered me up, and I hope they have the same effect on you too!

Is it smiling or yawning?

So tired…

lost cat signage.. not really lost eh..

26th National Day

TITAH KEBAWAH DULI YANG MAHA MULIA PADUKA SERI BAGINDA SULTAN HAJI HASSANAL BOLKIAH MU’IZZADDIN WADDAULAH, SULTAN DAN YANG DI-PERTUAN NEGARA BRUNEI DARUSSALAM SEMPENA MENYAMBUT ULANG TAHUN HARI KEBANGSAAN NEGARA BRUENID DARUSSALAM YANG KE-26 PADA HARI SELASA 9HB RABIULAWAL, 1431 BERSAMAAN 23HB FEBRUARI, 2010

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim

Alhamdulillahi Rabbil ‘Alameen, Wabihie Nasta’eenu ‘Alaa Umuriddunya Waddeen, Wassalatu Wassalamu ‘Alaa Asyrafil Mursaleen, Sayyidina Muhammadin Wa’alaa Alihie Wasahbihie Ajma’een, Waba’du.

Segala puji dan syukur hanya kepada Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala jua, atas limpah rahmat-Nya mengizinkan kita dapat menyambut Ulang Tahun Hari Kebangsaan ke-26 dalam suasana aman, makmur dan sejahtera.

Kesyukuran kita ini adalah sebagai respon kepada peringatan Allah, ayat 7 surah Ibrahim, tafsirnya:

“Dan (ingatlah), tatkala Tuhanmu memaklumkan: Sesungguhnya jika kamu bersyukur, pasti Kami akan menambah (ni’mat) kepadamu, dan jika kamu mengingkari (ni’mat-Ku), maka sesungguhnya azab-Ku sangatlah pedih.”

Ni’mat ini, semoga berkekalan, sehingga kegenerasi demi generasi. Itulah harapan kita.

Tema Sambutan Ulang Tahun Hari Kebangsaan pada tahun ini berbunyi: “Negaraku Brunei Darussalam.”

Ramai orang beranggapan, tema seperti ini, hanyalah tertentu untuk memupuk semangat patriotisme dan cintakan negara semata-mata. Kalau inilah saja, maka ianya belum lengkap lagi.

Turut lebih penting lagi ialah, apakah sumbangan kita untuk ‘mengekalkan’ ni’mat Allah, yang dikurniakan-Nya selama ini kepada kita dan negara?

Patriotisme dan cintakan negara, sering dilihat orang dari kulitnya saja, berupa ikrar-ikrar dan upacara-upacara kesukaan. Jarang orang melihatnya sampai ke lubuk-lubuk rahsia : bahawa ni’mat itu ditanai dengan syukur dan digilap dengan kerja-kerja takwa kepada Allah. Jika ini ada, maka barulah ada harapan untuk ni’mat itu berkekalan, sebagaimana janji Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala sendiri.

Maka bersukut dengan sa’at bersejarah ini, marilah kita sama-sama menghayati amal syukur dan amal takwa itu.

Selebihnya, kita adalah memerlukan prestasi perlaksanaan yang berterusan. Kita mahu, apa yang dirancang itu dilaksanakan dengan menepati jadual, bukan sekadar rancangan di atas kertas saja. Dan adapun anak kunci kepada semua ini, ialah “cara” kita melaksanakannya.

Diantara cara paling efektif ialah, perundingan yang berkesan diantara agensi-agensi berkaitan, misalnya ada rancangan untuk membangun sekolah atau masjid, kadang-kadang yang dijadikan alasan mengapa ‘lambat’, ialah, kerana ada halangan berkaitan dengan syarat-syarat tanah, atau tanah belum digezit dan seumpamanya.

Jika inilah alasannya, bukankah semua itu dari kerajaan jua? Sepatutnya kalau kerajaan sendiri yang berkehendak, tentu saja masalah itu tidak akan jadi sukar lagi. Tetapi kelambatan tetap juga berlaku, mengapa? Adakah kita betul-betul serius ataupun tidak? Jika lambat diperingkat bawah, adakah peringkat atas mahu turun padang berunding? Inilah masalah kita.

Dan inilah makanya mekanisme penyukat prestasi (key performance indicators) telah dibentuk untuk dipakai sebagai panduan oleh setiap agensi kerajaan.

Satu lagi keperluan dalam usaha kita membangun negara ialah keadaan alam sekitar. Tidak ada maknanya pembangunan pesat jika alam sekitar terjejas teruk. Kerana kita juga terus memerlukan tanah yang subur, udara yang bersih, air minum yang bersih, malah air laut yang bersih yang tidak tercemar. Kerana inilah sumber kesejahteraan yang sebenar-benarnya.

Oleh itu, sudah tiba masanya untuk kita menyegerakan penggubalan undang-undang atau peraturan bagi pembangunan lebih terkawal. Pada misalnya kita perlu menguatkuasakan mekanisme ‘Environmental Impact Assesment’ dan lain-lain seumpamanya bagi projek-projek pembangunan.

Turut penting juga untuk disebut ialah hal ehwal kewangan. Baru-baru ini Kerajaan Beta telah melaksanakan peraturan pengawalan penggunaan kad kredit. Langkah ini menarik perhatian pelbagai pihak dan menjadi satu perkara yang diperkatakan ramai.

Tujuan Kerajaan ialah supaya kita sama-sama memahami, bahawa kemewahan hidup yang disandarkan kepada hutang yang bertumpuk-tumpuk merupakan kemewahan yang rapuh, dan malah, akan banyak mendatangkan kerugian pada jangka panjang.

Walaupun pada peringkat awalnya, perkara ini mungkin sedikit sebanyak mempersulit sebilangan rakyat atau institusi yang mempunyai kepentingan, namun pihak Kerajaan adalah percaya, tindakan ini sungguh tepat, demi menjaga kesejahteraan rakyat dan penduduk negara ini pada jangka waktu yang jauh.

Ini, adalah satu dari strategi kita dalam menjadikan ekonomi sebagai salah satu dari 3 tiang utama Wawasan Brunei 2035.

Negara memerlukan dasar-dasar ekonomi yang lebih teratur, mantap dan menarik, serta juga iklim pelaburan yang kondusif yang berupaya menjadi pemangkin kepada pertumbuhan perekonomian secara keseluruhan.

Demikian juga, usaha-usaha adalah perlu, bagi membolehkan kita mengimbangi kekurangan dalam pasaran domestik, serantau mahupun global, serta menukarkannya kepada situasi yang lebih positif dan menguntungkan.

Pada akhirnya, Beta dengan ikhlas merakamkan ucapan penghargaan dan terima kasih kepada segenap lapisan rakyat serta penduduk negara ini termasuk semua peringkat, ahli Perkhidmatan Awam, Pasukan-Pasukan Keselamatan serta mereka yang berkhidmat di sektor swasta di atas segala bentuk pengorbanan dan sumbangan mereka kepada negara.

Ucapan yang sama juga Beta tujukan kepada ahli-ahli Jawatankuasa Tertinggi dan lain-lain Jawatankuasa Sambutan Perayaan Ulang Tahun ke-26 Hari Kebangsaan, dan semua peserta serta petugas yang turut berusaha untuk menjayakan perayaan ini.

Marilah kita sama-sama menadah tangan dan memohon kehadrat Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala, supaya negara dan kita semua, sentiasa dilimpahkan dengan berkat dan rahmat-Nya, amin.

Sekian, Wabillahit Taufeq Walhidayah, Wassalaamu ‘Alaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaatuh.

New Year 2010

TITAH KEBAWAH DULI YANG MAHA MULIA PADUKA SERI BAGINDA SULTAN HAJI HASSANAL BOLKIAH MU’IZZADDIN WADDAULAH, SULTAN DAN YANG DI-PERTUAN NEGARA BRUNEI DARUSSALAM  SEMPENA MENYAMBUT TAHUN BARU MASIHI 2010

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim

Alhamdulillahi Rabbil’alameen, Wabihee Nasta’eenu ‘Alaa Umuriddunyaa Waddeen, Wassalaatu Wassalaamu ‘Alaa Asyrafil Mursaleen, Sayyidina Muhammadin, Wa’alaa Aalihee Wasahbihee Ajma’een, Waba’du.

Kita memasuki tahun baru Masihi 2010 dengan perasaan gembira dan penuh bersyukur.

Demikian juga, jangan lupa untuk bersyukur, kerana negara berjaya melalui liku-liku tahun 2009 dengan penuh cekal, sekalipun sedikit mengalami kejutan, berupa beberapa kejadian yang jarang-jarang berlaku, seperti banjir dan tanah susur dan kemudian menyusuli pula influenza ‘A’ (H1N1).

Ini semua mempunyai hikmah, selaku isyarat, supaya kita sentiasa bijak dan siap siaga menanganinya.

Di antara cara yang bijak itu ialah menyiapkan diri dengan perancangan-perancangan besar, dan tidak mengapa, kalau perancangan-perancangan itu diasaskan kepada senario kes terburuk (worst-case-scenario), kerana dengan cara itu, persediaan kita akan lebih kemas lagi bagi menghadapi cabaran dan keadaan-keadaan mendatang.

Di sebalik ujian-ujian tadi, kita mungkin menyedari, bahawa beberapa pencapaian telah turut kita raih di sepanjang tahun 2009.

Antaranya kita telah dan sedang mengorak langkah bagi meningkatkan pengeluaran padi tempatan sebagai usaha ke arah jaminan keselamatan makanan atau ‘food security’ di negara ini.

Beta gembira, kerana usaha yang digerakkan oleh kerajaan ini, nampak-nampaknya berjaya menyuntik semangat rakyat untuk sama-sama aktif dalam bidang pertanian. Beta ada mendengar, ramai kini yang suka dipanggil petani, mengusahakan tanah-tanah mereka yang dahulunya hanya terbiar. Ini tidak syak lagi, adalah satu perkembangan yang amat menggalakkan bagi negara.

Di samping itu, sudah terdapat juga dari kalangan anak tempatan yang sedang giat melaksanakan pelbagai usaha dalam industri pemakanan dan malah sudah ada yang mampu tampil menyertai ekspo-ekspo serantau dan antarabangsa untuk mempromosikan barangan keluaran mereka.

Semua ini adalah jalan-jalan kepada kemakmuran dan kesejahteraan.

Mengenai kesejahteraan ini, mulai esok, 1 Januari 2010, kita akan menguatkuasakan Skim Persaraan Caruman Tambahan atau SCP bagi kedua-dua sektor awam dan swasta, khususnya bagi mereka di bawah Skim Tabung Amanah Pekerja atau TAP, yang juga ada kaitannya dengan pertambahan umur persaraan kepada 60 tahun.

Kerajaan beta adalah komited bagi menjalankan sebarang kajian terhadap apa jua dasar, demi kesejahteraan rakyat dan penduduk.

Dalam hubungan ini, beta percaya masih ada ruang untuk meneliti dan memperkenalkan skim-skim penabungan alternatif atau tambahan bagi menampung keperluan-keperluan asas, pada misalnya keperluan perumahan.

Dalam usaha-usaha pembangunan, semua ini adalah turut menjadi perhatian.

Kerana itu beta mengalu-alukan langkah-langkah pembaikan yang telah dan sedang diambil sejauh ini bagi mempercepatkan dan mempermudahkan lagi semua urusan orang ramai, termasuk yang berkaitan dengan urusan-urusan memulakan perniagaan.

Dengan adanya pembaikan-pembaikan seperti ini, tidak mustahil kedudukan negara dalam senarai ‘Ease of Doing Business’ boleh meningkat lagi.

Menurut International Financial Corporation, World Bank, bagi tahun 2010, negara kita berada dalam kedudukan yang ke-96 dari sejumlah 183 negara yang dinilai.

Jika negara memenuhi etika perkhidmatannya yang telus tanpa pilih kasih dan rasuah, maka insya-Allah, apa jua yang dirancang dan diusahakan akan berjalan dengan lancar dan berkat.

Inilah integriti yang perlu ada Perkhidmatan Awam, tanpa integriti ini, sesebuah negara boleh runtuh, atau paling tidak, akan kehilangan daya membangunnya.

Dalam kesempatan ini, beta ingin juga menyebut mengenai perkembangan serantau dan antarabangsa. Di sudut ini, kita juga tidak boleh lari melainkan mesti sama-sama menghadapi pelbagai cabaran atau dugaan.

Yang paling penting bagi kita ialah membina sikap untuk terus berbaik-baik dengan semua negara sahabat di dunia.

Prinsip ini kita pegang, selaras dengan ajaran agama kita sendiri, yang menghendaki umatnya supaya saling berkenalan dengan semua bangsa dan kaum di dunia.

Namun perkenalan itu hendaklah diikat oleh prasyarat ‘hormat-menghormati’. Dalam erti kata, kita menghormati sahabat dan sahabat menghormati kita.

Ini diterjemahkan melalui pelbagai tindak-tanduk, termasuk perkataan, tulisan dan seumpamanya.

Apa-apa jua yang boleh menyinggung perasaan sahabat, semua itu dapat saja dianggap sebagai tidak memenuhi prasyarat tersebut.

Akhir sekali, beta sukacita merakamkan ucapan setinggi-tinggi penghargaan dan terima kasih kepada semua peringkat pegawai dan kakitangan Perkhidmatan Awam, pasukan-pasukan keselamatan dan juga kepada mereka yang berkhidmat di sektor swasta di atas segala usaha mereka melaksanakan tanggungjawab masing-masing.

Di kesempatan ini juga, beta dan keluarga beta tidak lupa mengucapkan Selamat Tahun Baru Masihi 2010 kepada seluruh rakyat dan penduduk, dan mengajak mereka untuk sama-sama berdoa semoga Allah Subhanahu Wataala melimpahkan rahmat dan pemeliharaan-Nya kepada kita dan negara.

Sekian, Wabillahit Taufiq Walhidayah, Wassalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Who’s the Boss?

I was chatting with my friend the other day and she was complaining how her current boss is a back stabber and always seeking to make a name for herself (the boss). I was quite surprised by this sudden outburst and I happen to be close to both persons.

I don’t want to be judgmental or anything like that, but in situation like this I like taking the opportunity to conduct my own personal study about the persons involved. Issues pertaining to being a boss or leader have always intrigued me. And to me, being a boss and being a leader are two completely different things. How I define the two is dependent on my own personal experience with my previous bosses.

I’ve had my own share of good and bad bosses. And both types have given me such valuable lessons in life, especially on defining the most ideal qualities of a leader.

Defining what makes an ideal leader is easier than actually being one.  I’m not saying that I’m a perfect boss either. I do have my flaws, lots of them… that I will admit in a heart beat. And I also admit that I do make mistakes sometimes, like any other human being (like the saying “to err is human”). But when I do make mistakes, I make sure the next time round I don’t repeat the same mistake. I always make sure I do an even better job the next time.

But whether I do a better job or not, I will never know. Because the one set back of being a boss is that your staff will not necessarily be so willing to tell you the truth about how you conduct yourself as the head. This is the most frustrating thing ever. That is why, I keep reminding my own staff to just tell me up front if I ever do  anything wrong. But I do warn them that when they do make those comments, they better be prepared for my own defences :p so I  usually ended up with no one telling me that there’s is anything wrong with my way of being the boss.

In absence of feedback on my leadership abilities, I trained myself not to be complacent or even arrogant about my position. I honestly believe, arrogance and ignorance are the downfall of a great leader. While humility, sincerity and professional are the makers of a true leader. And when we aspire to be a leader, the fame that goes with it will not necessarily be something we should be flaunting or seeking out. We (leaders) do what we do because it is the right thing to do. Not because it will get us noticed, but because it will make a positive change in the lives of those who depend on us (as a leader).

Alice In Wonderland

I’m a die hard fan of Johnny Depp. And I had been eagerly waiting to watch the new movie ‘Alice in Wonderland’ where Johnny plays the Mad Hatter. So I went to watch the movie last weekend.. and this is what I think of it…

To me even as a Mad Hatter, Johnny Depp has fully captivated me with his charisma and talent as an actor. Despite the crazy persona and style of the Mad Hatter, I still find him so dashingly appealing.

Now when talking about the movie itself, in my personal opinion, it was certainly a surprise to me. I had high expectations from this movie, but there were parts of the movie which I thought was quite draggy. But on the positive side, the best part of the movie was the life-life animations of the animal characters.. they looked so real on screen! On my favourite scenes, I love the scenes when the bandesnatch was chasing after alice in the jungle.. and when the Mad Hatter did the fattewacken dance. The rest of the movie was just bearable for me. The part which I hated the most about the movie was the overly-dramatic gestures of the white queen. I thought she was really over doing the character.

Overall,  I would grade the movie 5/10… even that is a tad bit too generous. But hey, since Johnny is part of it, so I can’t grade it any lower. His talent makes up for the movie’s other shortcomings.

The Other Boleyn Girl

I was watching this movie ‘The Other Boleyn Girl’ on astro the other day, and I couldn’t divert myself from it until the end of the movie.

The movie portrayed two sisters, Anne and Mary Boleyn, who as a consequent  of their family’s greed for status, were tasked to win the heart of King Henry VIII.. who happened to be already married at that time. The movie which encompassed romance, betrayal and infidelity was set against the backdrop of a defining moment in European history.

I’m such a sucker for movies like this. And I thought this was a pretty good movie. I would give it 6/10.

If you wanna know more about the movie, here’s the synopsis:

When Catherine of Aragon fails to produce a male heir to the English throne, the Duke of Norfolk and his brother in law Thomas Boleyn scheme to install the latter’s elder daughter Anne in the court of Henry VIII as the king’s mistress and potential mother of his son, thereby furthering their own political ambitions. Their plan backfires when Henry, injured in a hunting accident indirectly precipitated by Anne, is nursed by her sister Mary and becomes smitten with her. With great reluctance, the recently married Mary and her husband William Carey agree to accept positions in the court, knowing full well what will be expected of her. Separated from her spouse, who is sent away on an assignment by the king, Mary finds herself falling in love with Henry.

Rebellious Anne secretly marries betrothed nobleman Henry Percy and confides in her brother George, who tells Mary about the elopement. Concerned that Anne will ruin her reputation by marrying a nobleman without the King’s consent, she alerts her father and uncle of the union. They confront Anne, who argues that the marriage has been consummated and what is done before God cannot be undone, and she is exiled to France in disgrace.

The Boleyn family’s fortunes seem to be secured when Mary becomes pregnant. When she nearly suffers a miscarriage, she is confined to bed for the remainder of her pregnancy, and Norfolk recalls Anne to England to keep Henry’s attention from wandering to another rival, particularly Jane Seymour. Anne successfully embarks on a campaign to seduce Henry, revealing herself to be more sophisticated and accomplished than she was prior to her exile. By withholding her sexual favors, she ensures the king’s continued interest, finally making him promise never to bed his wife or speak to her sister in exchange for her giving him hope of eventually possessing her. Anne exacts this promise just after Mary gives birth to the much-anticipated son, making Mary’s triumph hollow.

The ambitious Anne encourages Henry to break from the Roman Catholic Church when Pope Clement VII refuses to annul his marriage to Catherine. Henry succumbs to Anne’s demands, declares himself the Supreme Governor of the Church of England, and divorces his wife. The scandal of Anne’s brief, secret marriage to Henry Percy threatens her forthcoming marriage to the king until Mary, out of loyalty to her family, returns to court and lies on Anne’s behalf, assuring Henry her union with Percy never was consummated. Anne weds Henry and becomes Queen of England. The sisters reach a reconciliation and Mary stays by Anne’s side at court.

Despite the birth of a healthy daughter, Elizabeth, Henry is unhappy with Anne’s failure to deliver a son and legitimate male heir to the throne. After she miscarries their second child, a now desperate Anne asks her brother George to try to impregnate her. Although he ultimately refuses to grant her request, his neglected wife Jane witnesses enough of their encounter to become suspicious. Her testimony leads to the arrest, trial, and execution of both George and Anne. Mary returns to court to plead for her sister’s life, but Henry refuses to intercede. He warns Mary never to come to court again, because her family’s disgrace could result in danger to her as well. Mary fulfills her last promise to Anne and takes care of her infant daughter.

The closing captions reveal that perhaps the king should not have been concerned about his failure to produce a legitimate male heir, because, ironically, his daughter Elizabeth served her country well for forty-five years.

Cry Baby

The first time I saw Johnny Depp was in the musical movie ‘Cry Baby’. He is so super hot in that movie that I still can’t stop recalling how good he looked in the black leather jacket *sizzle*

So what was this movie about…

The movie focused on a “Drape” (or Greaser) Wade Walker, also known as Cry-Baby for his ability to shed a single tear, falls head over heels for Allison, a “square” good girl who has decided she wants to be bad and falls hard for Cry-Baby. Spoofing Elvis movies and Juvenile Delinquency scare films of the ’50s, this movie follows the adventures of Cry-Baby who, though he is sent to juvie, is determined to cross class (and taste) boundaries to get Allison back.

Overall, the movie is pretty corny especially with the musical and all. I would grade it 5/10. But hey, I still love Johnny in his black leather And he has made a huge impact on me… even now!

Honey and Cinnamon

I was going through my email the other day and I got a lot of forward emails. One of the emails was on the benefits of honey and cinnamon. So as usual, I’ve re-posted that bit of info here in my blog. I hope you will find it as enlightening as I did.

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Honey is the only food on the planet that will not spoil or rot. It will do what some call turning to sugar. In reality honey is always honey. However, when left in a cool dark place for a long time it will do what I rather call “crystallizing”.

When this happens I loosen the lid, boil some water, and sit the honey container in the hot water, off the heat and let it liquefy. It is then as good as it ever was.

Never boil honey or put it in a microwave. To do so will kill the enzymes in the honey.

Cinnamon and Honey

~ Bet the drug companies won’t like this one getting around.~

Facts on Honey and Cinnamon:

It is found that a mixture of honey and Cinnamon cures most diseases.

Honey is produced in most of the countries of the world.. Scientists of today also accept honey as a ‘Ram Ban’ (very effective) medicine for all kinds of diseases.

Honey can be used without any side effects for any kind of diseases.

Today’s science says that even though honey is sweet, if taken in the right dosage as a medicine, it does not harm diabetic patients.

Weekly World News, a magazine in Canada , in its issue dated 17 January,1995 has given the following list of diseases that can be cured by honey and cinnamon as researched by western scientists:

HEART DISEASES:

Make a paste of honey and cinnamon powder, apply on bread, instead of jelly and jam, and eat it regularly for breakfast. It reduces the cholesterol in the arteries and saves the patient from heart attack.

Also, those who have already had an attack, if they do this process daily, they are kept miles away from the next attack. Regular use of the above process relieves loss of breath and strengthens the heart beat.

In America and Canada , various nursing homes have treated patients successfully and have found that as you age, the arteries and veins lose their flexibility and get clogged; honey and cinnamon revitalize the arteries and veins..

ARTHRITIS:

Arthritis patients may take daily, morning and night, one cup of hot water with two spoons of honey and one small teaspoon of cinnamon powder. If taken regularly even chronic arthritis can be cured. In a recent research conducted at the Copenhagen University , it was found that when the doctors treated their patients with a mixture of one tablespoon Honey and half teaspoon Cinnamon powder before breakfast, they found that within a week, out of the 200 people so treated, practically 73 patients were totally relieved of pain, and within a month, mostly all the patients who could not walk or move around because of arthritis started walking without pain.

BLADDER INFECTIONS:

Take two tablespoons of cinnamon powder and one teaspoon of honey in a glass of lukewarm water and drink it. It destroys the germs in the bladder.

CHOLESTEROL:

Two tablespoons of honey and three teaspoons of Cinnamon Powder mixed in 16 ounces of tea water, given to a cholesterol patient, were found to reduce the level of cholesterol in the blood by 10 percent within two hours. As mentioned for arthritic patients, if taken three times a day, any chronic cholesterol is cured. According to information received in the said Journal, pure honey taken with food daily relieves complaints of cholesterol.

COLDS:

Those suffering from common or severe colds should take one tablespoon lukewarm honey with 1/4 spoon cinnamon powder daily for three days. This process will cure most chronic cough, cold, and clear the sinuses.

UPSET STOMACH:

Honey taken with cinnamon powder cures stomach ache and also clears stomach ulcers from the root.

GAS:

According to the studies done in India and Japan , it is revealed that if Honey is taken with cinnamon powder the stomach is relieved of gas.

IMMUNE SYSTEM:

Daily use of honey and cinnamon powder strengthens the immune system and protects the body from bacteria and viral attacks. Scientists have found that honey has various vitamins and iron in large amounts. Constant use of Honey strengthens the white blood corpuscles to fight bacterial and viral diseases.

INDIGESTION:

Cinnamon powder sprinkled on two tablespoons of honey taken before food relieves acidity and digests the heaviest of meals.

INFLUENZA:

A scientist in Spain has proved that honey contains a natural ‘Ingredient’ which kills the influenza germs and saves the patient from flu.

LONGEVITY:

Tea made with honey and cinnamon powder, when taken regularly, arrests the ravages of old age. Take four spoons of honey, one spoon of cinnamon powder, and three cups of boiling water to make a tea. Drink 1/4 cup, three to four times a day. It keeps the skin fresh and soft and arrests old age. Life spans also increase and even a 100 year old, starts performing the chores of a 20-year-old.

PIMPLES:

Three tablespoons of honey and one teaspoon of cinnamon powder paste. Apply this paste on the pimples before sleeping and wash it next morning with warm water. If done daily for two weeks, it removes pimples from the root.

SKIN INFECTIONS:

Applying honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts on the affected parts cures eczema, ringworm and all types of skin infections.

WEIGHT LOSS:

Daily in the morning one half hour before breakfast on an empty stomach, and at night before sleeping, drink honey and cinnamon powder in one cup of boiled water. If taken regularly, it reduces the weight of even the most obese person. Also, drinking this mixture regularly does not allow the fat to accumulate in the body even though the person may eat a high calorie diet.

CANCER :

Recent research in Japan and Australia has revealed that advanced cancer of the stomach and bones have been cured successfully. Patients suffering from these kinds of cancer should daily take one tablespoon of honey with one teaspoon of cinnamon powder for one month three times a day.

FATIGUE:

Recent studies have shown that the sugar content of honey is more helpful rather than being detrimental to the strength of the body. Senior citizens, who take honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts, are more alert and flexible. Dr. Milton, who has done research, says that a half tablespoon of honey taken in a glass of water and sprinkled with cinnamon powder, taken daily after brushing teeth and in the afternoon at about 3:00 P.M. when the vitality of the body starts to decrease, increases the vitality of the body within a week.

BAD BREATH:

People of South America , first thing in the morning, gargle with one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon powder mixed in hot water, so their breath stays fresh throughout the day.

HEARING LOSS:

Daily morning and night honey and cinnamon powder, taken in equal parts restores hearing. Remember when we were kids? We had toast with real butter and cinnamon sprinkled on it!

Happy Birthday Wish!

The happiest of Birthdays to my niece

Wanie Nazri

Hope you enjoy your day today!!

From Wawa and Family!! *muahzzzzz*

How to eat Fruits.. the healthier way!

I came  across this interesting piece of article about there’s actually a ‘better’ way of eating fruits. So you’re interested to know about this, do read on below..

What is the correct way of eating fruits?

The right way is to eat fruits on an empty stomach… meaning eating fruits before your main meals!

If you eat fruit like that, it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.

FRUIT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FOOD. Let’s say you eat two slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. The slice of fruit is ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but it is prevented from doing so.

In the meantime the whole meal rots and ferments and turns to acid. The minute the fruit comes into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil….

So please eat your fruits on an empty stomach or before your meals! You have heard people complaining – every time I eat watermelon I burp, when I eat durian my stomach bloats up, when I eat a banana I feel like running to the toilet etc – actually all this will not arise if you eat the fruit on an empty stomach. The fruit mixes with the putrefying other food and produces gas and hence you will bloat!

Graying hair, balding, nervous outburst, and dark circles under the eyes all these will NOT happen if you take fruits on an empty stomach.

There is no such thing as some fruits, like orange and lemon are acidic, because all fruits become alkaline in our body, according to Dr. Herbert Shelton who did research on this matter. If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits, you have the Secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight.

When you need to drink fruit juice – drink only fresh fruit juice, NOT from the cans. Don’t even drink juice that has been heated up. Don’t eat cooked fruits because you don’t get the nutrients at all. You only get to taste. Cooking destroys all the vitamins.

But eating a whole fruit is better than drinking the juice. If you should drink the juice, drink it mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it. You can go on a 3-day fruit fast to cleanse your body. Just eat fruits and drink fruit juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look!

KIWI: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E & fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.

APPLE: An apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants & flavonoids which enhances the activity of vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke.

STRAWBERRY: Protective Fruit. Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits & protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel-clogging free radicals.

ORANGE : Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent & dissolve kidney stones as well as lessens the risk of colon cancer.

WATERMELON: Coolest thirst quencher.. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione, which helps boost our immune system. They are also a key source of lycopene – the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C & Potassium.

GUAVA & PAPAYA: Top awards for vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber, which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene; this is good for your eyes.

Cold Water Hazards

On a really hot day, my favourite thirst quencher is anything that is absolutely and freezingly cold! Even a mere glass of cold water would seem heavenly on a scorching sunny day.

Unfortunately, cold water can be hazardous to our health.. depending on when we consume it.

Did you know that…

Drinking Cold water after a meal = Cancer!

Can u believe this??

For those who like to drink cold water, this is something you need to take heed. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this ‘sludge’ reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.

So the next time you open the freezer to pop in a few ice cubes into your drink, just remember what effects it has inside of your body.. especially after a hearty meal!

Better be safe than sorry!

90/10 Principles

I received this lovely email from one of colleagues and it was about the “90/10 Principles” by  Stephen Covey. I loved the deduction from this principle.. and when I enjoyed something, I just have to share it with all my blog readers..

Discover the 90/10 Principle.

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? ……….By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let’s use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.

What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you!

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

Enjoy….

Excuses.. Excuses

I adore this article by Jillian Micheals about the numerous excuses that women use for not sticking to their diet or doing their exercises! Heck, I can even relate to some of the excuses.. hehehe..

Let’s see you use the same excuses as these ladies did..

Women’s Top 10 Diet and Exercise Excuses

That reason why you’re eating junk food or skipping your workout? Forget it. Change your ways.

By Jillian Michaels

I’ve been training people since I was 17 years old—and have been coaching contestants on “The Biggest Loser” for six seasons now. Believe me, I’ve heard absolutely every excuse for not being able to work out or lose weight that there is. And I’ve got an answer for every one of ‘em. Here are some of the excuses I hear most often. Get ready for a little tough love, OK?

Excuse: “I don’t have time to work out.” {*This is me too :p}

That is total baloney. Make the time. I am sure you found the time to watch your favorite television show, right?! You’re busy, and I get it, but you have to find a way to make your health a priority. Start scheduling workouts like you do appointments. You can get up a little earlier and do a fitness DVD. You can squeeze it in on the weekends. You can get a piece of cardio equipment and do 30 minutes while unwinding and watching “The Office.” The reality is that you must make the time. You will have more energy, better overall health, and better self-esteem—it’s worth it.

Excuse: “I have to keep junk food around for my kids and/or boyfriend.” {This is soooo me as well.. hahahah}

Trash it! They shouldn’t be eating that stuff either!

Excuse: “I’ve tried to lose weight before, but I just can’t do it.”

Ridiculous. Of course you can. You can do anything when armed with the proper information. Take some time to educate yourself about how to work out properly. Learn about calories—how many are in the foods you are eating and how many your body burns naturally each day. When you are informed you are empowered to make choices that create life changes. The next time you are about to say, “I can’t,” stop and ask yourself, “How can I not?”

Excuse: “I have too many business dinners and social gatherings. I can’t lose weight in that environment!”

Seriously, is anyone really going to notice if you pass up the fatty appetizers? Or the open bar? I go to business dinners all the time and I find they go better when I am not drinking. For dinner parties, offer to bring something. That way you’ll know there is at least one healthy thing to eat. And if you’re worried about offending people, remember you don’t need to be preachy about your eating habits; just say “no thank you” to the unhealthy fare.

Excuse: “I travel a lot and can’t get into a routine.”

Listen, I travel constantly and I can still eat healthy and work out! Yes, fitness is my business, but anyone can do what I do: Bring your own snacks at all times. Stay at with hotels with gyms. Bring fitness DVDs and do them before bed in your hotel room. Be high-maintenance with your ordering when eating out: Get foods grilled or baked, get all dressings and sauces on the side, sub out starchy sides for steamed veggies. If I can do it, so can you.

Excuse: “My friends eat poorly and it makes it hard for me to eat healthy.”

Communication is critical. You must tell your family and friends what your health and wellness goals are and then teach them exactly how to support you. The only way they are going to know what you need and how to give it to you is if you tell them. So ask them to eat healthy with you, and if they can’t do it, then ask them not to push food on you or ask you if you want bites.

Excuse: “My loved ones nag me about my weight and it makes me want to rebel.”

This is sort of similar to the friends who push bad habits on you—communicate your needs and desires. With that said, if your family still nags at you, then you must set boundaries. Tell them that your weight and fitness habits are simply not up for discussion, and don’t discuss events or things in your life that trigger them to start in on you.

Weight Loss Update

It has been ages since I last updated on my weight-loss project.

Honestly, I’ve been missing out on my scheduled exercises lately. My excuse is I’ve been down with flu and migraine. On top of that I’ve also lost my appetite most of the time.

Anyway, I went for a weigh in a few days ago (for the health screening project currently ongoing for our organisation) and surprisingly I weigh at 95.7kg!!

Woooooooooooo!!! That means, since the start of my weight loss regime from late Jan 2010, I’ve lost a total of 5kg!

So let’s hope I will reach my goals of losing 10kg by this May!

Clash of the Titans 2010

Totally awesome!! I went to see it with my family.. and it was fantastic. I especially love the special effects. The actions were continuous. I was kept at the edge of my seat through the entire movie. It’s not much when it comes to the dialogues. But the scenes and creatures in the movie were so cool and out of this world! I must recommend for everyone to watch. You will be quite speechless after it.

Sport Enthusiast or Obssession?

I’m sure it’s common knowledge that everyone has an obsession towards something. Most of my friends are obsessed with football clubs in England. The most supported clubs include Manchester United, Liverpool, Chelsea, Newcastle etc. I’m not a fan on English football, so from my view it’s kind of funny sometimes seeing my friends and colleagues getting so heated up about it.

The “heat” gets hotter when a big game goes on. Supporters of each football club will gather at their own “crib” donning themselves with the jersey colours of their team. In a way it teaches them to be a team. But for some, it can go a bit too far, especially those individuals who are just such sore losers. And when their team happen to lose a match, it may become quite messy.

When I was in England, football is just like a drug. Everyone was addicted to it. It was fun seeing the spirited chanting of team clubs. But it can get pretty ugly. I saw on the news, supporters of certain clubs clashing with other clubs just because one club lost a match and was not happy about it. The English are infamous for this. They’re just so passionate about their football teams that even when they’re abroad, they’re not ashamed to showcase their resentment when their team losses. But it is quite a damaging sight for the country and not a very good image to be stuck with.

So if there’s such sport enthusiast, can you share with me why do you need to behave so badly when your team loses? Is it necessary to be so aggressive? After all, it is only sport.

SunShine In The Rain

I think it was a few months back when as I turn up the volume on the local radio network, Kristal FM, an interesting song went on air. I have quite a boring sense of song preference, so my kids tell me :p but I can’t help liking songs that sound like the ones from the 80s and 70s. My new found favourite song track is from Bodies Without Organ (BWO) – weird group name.. and they’re British by the way – song title ” Sunshine in the Rain”.  And since I like the song so much, I just have to repost the lyrics. Just a reminder for myself actually. But if you guys are into this group, come and song along with me then

SUNSHINE IN THE RAIN

When I’m in Berlin you’re off to London

When I’m in New York you’re doing Rome

All those crazy nights we spend together

As voices on the phone

Wishing we could be more telepathic

Tired of the nights I sleep alone

Wishing we could redirect the traffic

And find ourselves a home

Can you feel the raindrops in the desert

Have you seen the sunrays in the dark

Do you feel my love when I’m not present

Standing by your side while miles apart

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Even if we call the highest power

We can only do one town a time

Words are not enough action speaks louder

Second time around

Can you feel the raindrops in the desert

Have you seen the sunrays in the dark

Do you feel my love when I’m not present

Standing by your side while miles apart

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Oh oh la la la

Oh oh la la la

When I’m in Berlin you’re off to London

When I’m in New York you’re doing Rome

All those crazy nights we spend together

As voices on the phone

Can you feel the raindrops in the desert

Have you seen the sunrays in the dark

Do you feel my love when I’m not present

Standing by your side while miles apart

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Sunshine in the rain

Love is still the same

Sunshine in the rain

Fire

I think it was when I first started work as a Newscaster at the local tv networks when I came across this song and instantly fell in love with it. I like the relaxing music and romantic lyrics of the song. It’s by Babyface and it’s called “Fire”.

“Fire”

You’re riding in my car

I turn on the radio

I’m pulling you closer

But you keep tellin’ me no

You say you don’t like it

But I know you’re a liar

‘Cause when we kiss

Ooh…

Fire

Late at night

You’re taking me home

You say you wanna stay

But I want you to go

Say I don’t love you

But you know I’m a liar

‘Cause when we kiss

Ooh…

Fire

You had a hold on me right from the start

A grip so tight I couldn’t tear it apart

My nerves all jumpin’ actin’ like a fool

Well my kisses might burn

But my heart stays cool

Well Romeo and Juliet

Sampson and Delilah

Baby you can bet

They were burnin’ with desire

If I say split

Then I know that I’d be lying

‘Cause when we kiss

Ooh…

Fire

When we kiss

I’m on fire

Your tenderness

Gives me desire

I can’t resist

Your tender lips

When we kiss

Ooh…

Fire

When we kiss

I’m on fire

Your tenderness

Gives me desire

I can’t resist

Your tender lips

When we kiss

Ooh…

Fire

Fallen

It was during college and at that time of my life I was just starting to get the hang of karaoke-ing. I had a really croaky voice to start off with. But as I got a lot more practice time, my voice improved. And one of the karaoke song I loved and still do love singing is “Fallen” by Lauren Wood. It’s one of the song track from the Pretty Woman movie.

FALLEN

I can’t believe it, you’re a dream comin’ true.

I can’t believe how I have fallen for you.

And I was not looking, was content to remain.

And it’s ironic to be back in the game.

You are the one who’s led me to the sun.

How could I know that I was lost without you…

And I want to tell you, you control my rain..

And you should know that you are life in my veins.

You are the one who’s led me to the sun.

How could I know that I was lost without you…

I can’t believe it, you’re a dream comin’ true.

I can’t believe how I have fallen for you.

And I was not looking, was content to remain.

And it’s erotic to be back in the game.

Way Back Into Love

The movie ‘Music and Lyrics’ is one of my favourite because its hilarious especially with actors like Hugh Grant and Drew Barrymore, they’re just like the bomb of laughter in that movie! Another thing about the movie that I like so much is the song ‘Way Back Into Love’. There’s actually 2 version of it, one sung by Hugh Grant and Haley Bennett and other by Hugh and Drew.

WAY BACK INTO LOVE

[Verse 1]

(Drew Barrymore)

I’ve been living with a shadow overhead,

I’ve been sleeping with a cloud above my bed,

I’ve been lonely for so long,

Trapped in the past,

I just can’t seem to move on!

(Hugh Grant)

I’ve been hiding all my hopes and dreams away,

Just in case I ever need them again someday,

I’ve been setting aside time,

To clear a little space in the corners of my mind!

[Chorus]

(Both)

All I wanna do is find a way back into love.

I can’t make it through without a way back into love.

Oooooh.

[Verse 2]

(Drew Barrymore)

I’ve been watching but the stars refuse to shine,

I’ve been searching but I just don’t see the signs,

I know that it’s out there,

There’s got to be something for my soul somewhere!

(Hugh Grant)

I’ve been looking for someone to she’d some light,

Not somebody just to get me through the night,

I could use some direction,

And I’m open to your suggestions.

[Chorus]

(Both)

All I wanna do is find a way back into love.

I can’t make it through without a way back into love.

And if I open my heart again,

I guess I’m hoping you’ll be there for me in the end!

[Middle-eight]

(Drew Barrymore)

There are moments when I don’t know if it’s real

Or if anybody feels the way I feel

I need inspiration

Not just another negotiation

[Chorus]

(Both)

All I wanna do is find a way back into love,

I can’t make it through without a way back into love,

And if I open my heart to you,

I’m hoping you’ll show me what to do,

And if you help me to start again,

You know that I’ll be there for you in the end!

PR and New Media

The advent of New Media technologies has changed the world for good. Gone are the days when we are kept in the dark about important issues that involve the lives of those we know and the world that we live in. At the click of a button, an abundance of information is accessible. Globalisation has really revealed itself through what New Media is capable of providing for those seeking it.

In the public relations field, the potential of the new media is not left unchecked. The only problem is there are still people in this field who failed to fully understand and optimise its potential.

At my own organisation, the new media, particularly the corporate website plays an important role in reaching out to people nation wide and beyond. It’s an open and accessible source for anything and everything about my organisation. And to ensure people get the right information in a timely manner, my team are working tediously and proactively to update the website.

Of course there are few hurdles we have to confront in the process. Providing information is one part of the process. But getting the relevant information is another totally different process and a very challenging on. The usual excuse that we get when requesting the related information, “oh we’ll try to get it to you as soon as we can, we are so busy at the moment”… “the information is classified, we will have to get clearance from the big bosses”.. “isn’t that your job?”…

But whatever the excuse, all of it only lead to one thing… more delays!

The keys to overcoming all these obstacles and excuses are: we have to be persistent and consistent, cover all channels of communication, consult with the highest authority for endorsement and support, and keep on trying.

So if any of you have other ideas on how to optimise the utilisation of new media, do drop me a comment or two.

What is PR…

There’s actually not one sole definition for PR (Public Relations). It can mean different things to different people. For an organisation, the function of public relations is really dependent on what is required by that organisation itself. But the sad thing is, there is this incorrect assumption that PR equals multi-tasking. This is absolutely wrong and needs to be addressed accordingly.

Personally, I believe PR is about being proficient in one thing, effective communication. Communication has many dimension but the end result is basically the same, to have a connection with someone else. So how do we establish a connection with someone. There are many ways of doing this, such as by having personal contact through physical contact, conversation, sight and others. We can also use a medium to have such contacts, such as using telephones, texting, electronics, correspondences, newspapers and many more. However, we can’t be expected to make use of all of those available means. The means and ways we communicate depends on what we hope to gain back from establishing such connection. I don’t want to dive into that part of communication, it might just invite more debates.

I’m just going to share my own definition of PR. To me, being PR practitioner is about anticipating people’s expectations. To do that, we have to be sensitive and alert on people’s requirements through their feedbacks and reactions. It is also important to take account of all feedbacks and comments made, and there’s no such thing as trivial or insignificant comments. As a PR, we have to view people as part of a bigger puzzle. Nothing can be done in a single-handed manner, everything takes team work and credible leadership. Another essential reminder is that resources will always be limited, therefore expect the unexpected and be ready with a contingency.

I have so much more to share, but I don’t want to confuse people with my complex thoughts. So let’s leave it at this for the moment.

Media Operations

Participating in military operations as a media personnel is indeed a challenging task. Not only do you have to worry about your own safety and survival, in all the shambles and chaos you are burdened with responsibility of gathering stories for the public consumption.

I was recently involved in a military exercise in which my unit played the role of media operators/ facilitator. With only 3 years background on public relations matters, nothing has ever prepared me for this exercise.

In the first few days I was racking my brain trying to find news worthy stories about the “war” to be published in a news bulletin, notionally to be distributed to the entire population. On top of that, my team and I had to get video footage of events and turn it into a brief tv news clip. I felt as if my whole team was converted, overnight, into a News Station and Newspaper agency, as well as a bunch of untrained actors.

Teeth Fillings

Did you know that…

Some people who have two or more different kinds of fillings in their teeth are able to hear high-power AM broadcast stations when located within a few hundred feet of the stations. In such cases, the strong radio waves act upon the teeth fillings in such a way that the electromagnetic oscillations get transformed to mechanical vibrations in the person’s head, and these are heard as sound.

Happy B’day to Pdd!

To My Love.. Pdd

Microwave by accident

Did you know that…

The microwave oven was invented by accident, when Percy Spencer found that his chocolate bar had been melted by an experiment he was running on radar systems. He immediately started experimenting successfully on microwaved popcorn.

Supernova

Did you know that…

A supernova is the most energetic single event known in the Universe. Material is exploded into space at about 10,000 kilometres per second. All the stars in our galaxy (about 100,000,000,000) would have to shine for six months to produce the amount of energy released by just one supernova.

Internet

Did you know that…

“There were 564.7 million internet users worldwide at the end of 2007, and there will be 633.6 million at the end of 2008. This amounts to an increase of 67.9 million per year, or 5.66 million per month (in 2008)

That’s 189,000 per day, 7,875 per hour, 131.25 per minute, 2.2 new internet users every second of the day, worldwide, translating to a new internet user going online every .45 seconds this year.” – emarketer, March 2007

Funny Facts

I’ve been having so much fun browsing for fun funny facts on the net and I came across a few interesting ones from (http://www.funfunnyfacts.com/fun-facts/funny-did-you-know-facts.html) and I just had to report it on my blog.

Did You Know…

Did You Know, Donald Duck comics were banned from Finland because he doesn’t wear pants.

Did You Know, The cigarette lighter was invented before the match.

Did You Know, 40 percent of McDonald’s profits come from the sales of Happy Meals.

Did You Know, TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters only on one row of the keyboard.

Did You Know, Butterflies taste with their feet.

Did You Know, Coca-Cola was originally green.

Did You know, If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days, you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee.

Did You Know, Every day more money is printed for
Monopoly than the US Treasury.

Did You Know, It is impossible to lick your elbow.

Did You Know, Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.

Tricky Brain at Work!

Phobias

Everyone has a fear of something and this is what we define by having a phobia. The actual definition of phobia is “an intense or irrational or inappropriate fear or an object, person, organism or situation, of a degree that interferes with normal life.”

My Phobias are of height (hypsophobic) and small dark spaces (claustrophobic), although it doesn’t really affect me in a traumatic way. Whats your phobia?

If you want to to know the correct term of some of the numerous phobias, check out below:

Miscellaneous

The fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth- Arachibutyrophobia

Certain Names-Onomatophobia

Dirt- Mysophobia

Disorder- Ataxiophobia

Draugts- Anemophobia

Dreams- Oneirophobia

Dust- Amathophobia

Electricity- Electrophobia

Everything- Pantophobia

Failure- Kakorraphiaphobia

Fall of Man-made satellites-Keraunothnetophobia

Fears- Phobophobia

Fire- Pyrophobia

Flashing- Selaphobia

Flogging- Mastigophobia

Ghosts- Phasmophobia

Graves- Taphophobia

Ideas- Ideophobia

Imperfection- Atelophobia

Jealousy- Zelophobia

Justice- Dikephobia

Marriage- Gamophobia

Monsters- Teratophobia

Music- Musicophobia

Names- Nomatophobia

Narrowness- Anginaphobia

Neglect of Duty-Paralipophobia

New Things- Neophobia

Novelty- Cainophobia

Nudity- Gymnophobia

Number 13-Triskaidekaphobia

One Thing- Monophobia

Punishment- Peniaphobia

Responsibility- Hypegiaphobia

Ridicule- Kategelophobia

Ruin- Atephobia

Rust- Iophobia

Shock- Hormephobia

Stealing- Kleptophobia

Void- Kenophobia

Weakness- Asthenophobia

Words- Logophobia

Work- Ergophobia

Writing- Graphophobia

Situations

Being Alone- Monophobia

Being Beaten- Rhabdophobia

Being Bound- Merinthophobia

Being Buried Alive- Taphophobia

Being Looked at- Scopophobia

Crowds- Demophobia, Ochlophobia

Darkness- Nyctophobia

Dawn- Eosophobia

Daylight- Phengophobia

Depth- Bathophobia

Enclosed Spaces- Claustrophobia

Going to Bed- Clinophobia

Gravity- Barophobia

Heights- Acrophobia, Altophobia

High Places- Hypsophobia

Home- Domatophobia Oikophobia

Home Surroundings- Apeirophobia

Night- Achluophobia

Passing High Objects- Batophobia

Poverty- Peniaphobia

Places- Topphobia

Public Places- Agoraphobia

Strong Light- Photophobia

School- Scholiophobia

Shadows- Sciophobia

Sitting Idle- Thaadophobia

Solitude- Eremitophobia, Eremophobia

Standing- Stasophobia

Standing Upright- Stasiphobia

My Day!

BELIEVE IT OR NOT..

I’m 34 today

I’m truly blessed..

And I hope my journey to old age will be paved by

greater wisdom and prosperity..

amin ya rabbal alamin…

Diamond without the Bill

Today was an interesting day for me. Another unexpected incident revealed a valuable lesson about people and accountability. It is common knowledge that as a person assume a much higher position in their career, their level responsibility will also be raise leading to an even heavier burden where accountability is concerned. But that’s only in theory. In practice, the higher you get on the career ladder the lesser accountable you wish to shoulder. And this is done by passing the ‘accountability’ cuff to those below you.

It sounds quite far-fetched. But this is for real. Everyone have had experience where their boss are just the boss when they are in the company of the underlings. But when the boss is in the presence of a bigger boss, then they shed their claws and fangs. And when trouble arises, the finger will always point to those below.

Power and accountability to me is like a diamond and the eye-boggling bill attached to the commodity. Everyone wants to have a diamond or something as precious as that stone. But when it comes to pay up the bill, nobody is interested to do so. So similar ideology applies where power and accountability is concerned. But one of these days, the merchant will eventually find a magnifying glass and scrutinise the diamond, whether it is real diamond or just glass.

Only real ‘men’ or ‘women’ will ever be capable of upholding the diamond throne. Otherwise, it would just be like a common commodity on the window shop for all to see, but of no real use.

Agents of Change

I.. You.. They.. Anyone… and Everyone.. can be agents of change. But to what extent to we even optimise the potential of those around us in the mission towards greater change?

Most of the time, change can be an overwhelming process. Most people know what they want to achieve at the end of the day. But even more people have no idea on how to exactly go about it the right way.

Doing things the right way and effective way can be very tricky. People focus on achieving result base on the physical outcome they get and this is usually attempted at a much shorter time frame. Very little effort or even thoughts are given to invest in areas that promises even greater returns in the long-run.

Personally, ultimate change in anything that we aspire is primarily dependent on how best we optimise the available resources. I honestly believe that people should be the first investment. We need supporters and drivers for the changes to take place. And people are the fundamental resources to be utilised in this pursuit.

Before actual change can take place, we have to create and groom our agents of change. This can be done by focusing initiatives and efforts in shaping the mindset as well as the environment conducive for such change to take place. The effects or outcome of such initiative will neither come easily nor immediately. Convincing and changing people’s perceptions to accept the necessity of change is as hard as catching a fly with chopsticks! But yet not impossible.

All that is needed is for us to pause and make plans on how best to OPTIMISE our people strength and harness on their potentials. This takes a lot of commitment. So are you up for it?

Dealing with People

My chosen quotes….

You must look into other people as well as at them.
Lord Chesterfield

A good deed is never lost: he who sows courtesy reaps friendship; and he who plants kindness gathers love.
Basil

A man’s own good breeding is the best security against other people’s ill manners.
Lord Chesterfield

The secret of many a man’s success in the world resides
in his insight into the moods of men and his tact in dealing with them.
J. G. Holland

To rejoice in another’s prosperity, is to give content to your own lot:
to mitigate another’s grief, is to alleviate or dispel your own.
Thomas Edwards

Hear the meaning within the word.
William Shakespeare

Investing in People

I’m a great believer on people being the driver of all change. But in most great plans for change, people seem to be forgotten and are placed at the seats on the furthest end. And when change is not achieved as planned, too much focus is given toward improving the process rather than on the people that the plan relies on to succeed.

Dealing with people, in whatever context, is a very tricky and challenging undertaking. People  encompasses various individuals with differing views, perspectives, and expectations. The uniqueness of the individuals are further shaped by their upbringings, background, education, culture and experience. So when it comes to trying to bring all these different individuals and to place their confidence and belief into one sole ‘purpose’, they may not always succumb easily to such notion. And if we wish to see any progress, these individuals must be in full understanding on what is at stake.

As a manager in my own unit at work, I’ve come across numerous challenges when dealing with people. But the most visible challenge is in trying to convince people to fully support and remain loyal to the ‘mission’ that you have conjured for the organisation. Ensuring these people continue to be ‘driven’ by what is to come can be quite tedious. And this is the peak of the process in which most managers just let up. They (managers) become overwhelmed by the commitment and dedication required to maintain this spirited mindset among the crew.

Another very crucial factor that some managers tend to be complacent about is the fact that people need to constantly undergo trainings to make sure they have the skill and knowledge to carry out this important transformation plan. If we expect people to bring forth change by merely utilising the old-school and outdated skills they have, then progress will be minimal.

So when it comes to dealing with people, it take a lot of investing in terms of time and dedication as well as understanding. Therefore, when it comes to people I have a personal rule that I abide by:

1. Involve the crew in the planning for change.
2. Be open and accept criticism constructively and professionally.
3. Empower the crew to take responsibility of the plan for change.
4. Equip the crew with the information, knowledge and skill to drive the change.
5. Provide open channels of communication for feed backs and inputs on the execution of change.
6. Be clear with job distribution and milestones to be achieved.
7. Work as a team!

This is my own rules.. do u have your own set of rules on dealing with people?

Happy 49th Anniversary to RBAF!!

The Bestest of all Celebrations to all the soldiers of green, white and blue!!

Today is YOUR day.. Happy 49th Anniversary to RBAF!!

19th May Events in History

On the day that I was born, numerous events had taken place over the years around the world…

1976 – Gold ownership legalized in Australia
1976 – Liverpool wins 5th UEFA Cup at Bridge
1976 – Senate establishes permanent Select Committee on Intelligence
1976 – USSR performs nuclear test at Eastern Kazakh/Semipalitinsk USSR
1977 – “Smokey & the Bandit,” premieres
1979 – “In The Navy” by Village People hits #3
1979 – 105th Preakness: Ron Franklin aboard Spectacular Bid wins in 1:54.2
1979 – Guitarist Eric Clapton marries Patti Boyd
1980 – “Blackstone” opens at Majestic Theater NYC for 104 performances
1980 – Ringo & Barbara Bach are involved in a car crash
1981 – Pirate Jim Bibby gives up a leadoff single to Brave Terry Harper, then retires next 27 batters
1982 – IFK Göteborg wins 11th UEFA Cup at Göteborg
1982 – Sophia Loren jailed in Naples for tax evasion
1983 – NASA launches Intelsat V satellite, no. 506
1983 – Weird Al Yankovic gives live performance at Wax Museum in Wash DC
1984 – “King Of Suede” by Weird Al Yankovic hits #62
1984 – 110th Preakness: Angel Cordero Jr aboard Gate Dancer wins in 1:53.6
1984 – STS 41-D vehicle moves to launch pad
1984 – Stanley Cup: Edmonton Oilers beat NY Islanders, 4 games to 1
1984 – Pat LaFontaine scores 2 goals within 22 sec in an NHL playoff game
1985 – Nancy Lopez wins LPGA Chrysler-Plymouth Golf Classic
1986 – Anti-apartheid activist HClane Pastoors sentenced to 10 yrs in S Afr
1987 – 1st American Comedy Award
1988 – Red Sox retire Bobby Doerr’s #1
1988 – Carlos Lehder Rivas, of Colombia’s Medellin drug cartel, is convicted in Florida for smuggling more than 3 tons of cocaine into US
1989 – Dow Jones Avg passes 2,500 mark for 1st time, closes at 2,501.1
1989 – Sue Ellen (Linda Gray) last appearance on Dallas
1990 – 116th Preakness: Pat Day aboard Summer Squall wins in 1:53.6
1990 – General Elvis, TV Drama last airs on ABC
1991 – “Buddy – The Buddy Holly Story” closes at Shubert NYC after 225 perfs
1991 – Pat Bradley wins LPGA Centel Golf Classic
1991 – Sandra Palmer wins LPGA Centel Senior Golf Challenge
1991 – Willy T Ribbs becomes 1st black driver to make Indianapolis 500
1992 – 27th Amendment ratified, prohibits Congress from raising its salary
1992 – Amy Fisher shoots Mary Jo Buttafuoco in Massapequa LI
1992 – Englishman Dave Gauder, 224 lbs, pulls 196 ton jumbo jet, 3 inches
1992 – Ric Flair wins NWA wrestling title
1992 – VP Dan Quayle sites Murphy Brown as a poor example of family values
1993 – Boeing 727 crashes into mountain at Medellin Colombia, kills 132
1993 – Dow Jones closes above 3,500 for 1st time (3,500.03)
1993 – Juventus wins 22th UEFA Cup at Torino
1994 – Final Episode of LA Law after 8 year run
1994 – Omar Sharif suffers a mild heart attack
1994 – Tennis star Jennifer Capriati (18), checks into a drug rehab center
1995 – Emmy 22nd Daytime Award presentation – Susan Lucci loses for 15th time
1995 – World’s youngest doctor, Balamurali Ambati, 17, graduates Mount Sinai
1996 – STS 77 (Endeavour 11), launches into orbit
2009 – Sri Lanka announces victory in its 27 year war against the terrorist organisation,
Liberation Tigers of Tamil Eelam.
2161 – Syzygy: 8 of 9 planets aligned on same side of sun

Hair and Nails Weird Facts

I was just browsing through the net on weird facts about the human body and one of the  section was on hair and nails. It entailed facts which I think most of us take for granted. I’ve reposted the info (from http://www.wellspringdaily.com/2008/02/100-weird-facts-about-the-human-body/) just to share with you what I learnt.

Hair and Nails

While they’re not a living part of your body, most people spend a good amount of time caring for their hair and nails. The next time you’re heading in for a haircut or manicure, think of these facts.

1. Facial hair grows faster than any other hair on the body. If you’ve ever had a covering of stubble on your face as you’re clocking out at 5 o’clock you’re probably pretty familiar with this. In fact, if the average man never shaved his beard it would grow to over 30 feet during his lifetime, longer than a killer whale.

2. Every day the average person loses 60-100 strands of hair. Unless you’re already bald, chances are good that you’re shedding pretty heavily on a daily basis. Your hair loss will vary in accordance with the season, pregnancy, illness, diet and age.

3. Women’s hair is about half the diameter of men’s hair. While it might sound strange, it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise that men’s hair should be coarser than that of women. Hair diameter also varies on average between races, making hair plugs on some men look especially obvious.

4. One human hair can support 3.5 ounces. That’s about the weight of two full size candy bars, and with hundreds of thousands of hairs on the human head, makes the tale of Rapunzel much more plausible.

5. The fastest growing nail is on the middle finger. And the nail on the middle finger of your dominant hand will grow the fastest of all. Why is not entirely known, but nail growth is related to the length of the finger, with the longest fingers growing nails the fastest and shortest the slowest.

6. There are as many hairs per square inch on your body as a chimpanzee. Humans are not quite the naked apes that we’re made out to be. We have lots of hair, but on most of us it’s not obvious as a majority of the hairs are too fine or light to be seen.

7. Blondes have more hair. They’re said to have more fun, and they definitely have more hair. Hair color determines how dense the hair on your head is. The average human has 100,000 hair follicles, each of which is capable of producing 20 individual hairs during a person’s lifetime. Blondes average 146,000 follicles while people with black hair tend to have about 110,000 follicles. Those with brown hair fit the average with 100,000 follicles and redheads have the least dense hair, with about 86,000 follicles.

8. Fingernails grow nearly 4 times faster than toenails. If you notice that you’re trimming your fingernails much more frequently than your toenails you’re not just imagining it. The nails that get the most exposure and are used most frequently grow the fastest. On average, nails on both the toes and fingers grow about one-tenth of an inch each month.

9. The lifespan of a human hair is 3 to 7 years on average. While you quite a few hairs each day, your hairs actually have a pretty long life providing they aren’t subject to any trauma. Your hairs will likely get to see several different haircuts, styles, and even possibly decades before they fall out on their own.

10. You must lose over 50% of your scalp hairs before it is apparent to anyone. You lose hundreds of hairs a day but you’ll have to lose a lot more before you or anyone else will notice. Half of the hairs on your pretty little head will have to disappear before your impending baldness will become obvious to all those around you.

11. Human hair is virtually indestructible. Aside from it’s flammability, human hair decays at such a slow rate that it is practically non-disintegrative. If you’ve ever wondered how your how clogs up your pipes so quick consider this: hair cannot be destroyed by cold, change of climate, water, or other natural forces and it is resistant to many kinds of acids and corrosive chemicals.

Facts about your senses?

More facts (from http://www.wellspringdaily.com/2008/02/100-weird-facts-about-the-human-body/) which I just have to share with you all! This time on our five senses…

The primary means by which we interact with the world around us is through our senses. Here are some interesting facts about these five sensory abilities.

1. After eating too much, your hearing is less sharp. If you’re heading to a concert or a musical after a big meal you may be doing yourself a disservice. Try eating a smaller meal if you need to keep your hearing pitch perfect.

2. About one third of the human race has 20-20 vision. Glasses and contact wearers are hardly alone in a world where two thirds of the population have less than perfect vision. The amount of people with perfect vision decreases further as they age.

3. If saliva cannot dissolve something, you cannot taste it. In order for foods, or anything else, to have a taste, chemicals from the substance must be dissolved by saliva. If you don’t believe it, try drying off your tongue before tasting something.

4. Women are born better smellers than men and remain better smellers over life. Studies have shown that women are more able to correctly pinpoint just what a smell is. Women were better able to identify citrus, vanilla, cinnamon and coffee smells. While women are overall better smellers, there is an unfortunate 2% of the population with no sense of smell at all.

5. Your nose can remember 50,000 different scents. While a bloodhound’s nose may be a million times more sensitive than a human’s, that doesn’t mean that the human sense of smell is useless. Humans can identify a wide variety of scents and many are strongly tied to memories.

6. Even small noises cause the pupils of the eyes to dilate. It is believed that this is why surgeons, watchmakers and others who perform delicate manual operations are so bothered by uninvited noise. The sound causes their pupils to change focus and blur their vision, making it harder to do their job well.

7. Everyone has a unique smell, except for identical twins. Newborns are able to recognize the smell of their mothers and many of us can pinpoint the smell of our significant others and those we are close to. Part of that smell is determined by genetics, but it’s also largely do to environment, diet and personal hygiene products that create a unique chemistry for each person.

What do you know about your Brain?

I’m really loving this webpage (http://www.wellspringdaily.com/2008/02/100-weird-facts-about-the-human-body/). This time facts about the human brain!

The Brain

The human brain is the most complex and least understood part of the human anatomy. There may be a lot we don’t know, but here are a few interesting facts that we’ve got covered.

1. Nerve impulses to and from the brain travel as fast as 170 miles per hour. Ever wonder how you can react so fast to things around you or why that stubbed toe hurts right away? It’s due to the super-speedy movement of nerve impulses from your brain to the rest of your body and vice versa, bringing reactions at the speed of a high powered luxury sports car.

2. The brain operates on the same amount of power as 10-watt light bulb. The cartoon image of a light bulb over your head when a great thought occurs isn’t too far off the mark. Your brain generates as much energy as a small light bulb even when you’re sleeping.

3. The human brain cell can hold 5 times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica. Or any other encyclopedia for that matter. Scientists have yet to settle on a definitive amount, but the storage capacity of the brain in electronic terms is thought to be between 3 or even 1,000 terabytes. The National Archives of Britain, containing over 900 years of history, only takes up 70 terabytes, making your brain’s memory power pretty darn impressive.

4. Your brain uses 20% of the oxygen that enters your bloodstream. The brain only makes up about 2% of our body mass, yet consumes more oxygen than any other organ in the body, making it extremely susceptible to damage related to oxygen deprivation. So breathe deep to keep your brain happy and swimming in oxygenated cells.

5. The brain is much more active at night than during the day. Logically, you would think that all the moving around, complicated calculations and tasks and general interaction we do on a daily basis during our working hours would take a lot more brain power than, say, lying in bed. Turns out, the opposite is true. When you turn off your brain turns on. Scientists don’t yet know why this is but you can thank the hard work of your brain while you sleep for all those pleasant dreams.

6. Scientists say the higher your I.Q. the more you dream. While this may be true, don’t take it as a sign you’re mentally lacking if you can’t recall your dreams. Most of us don’t remember many of our dreams and the average length of most dreams is only 2-3 seconds–barely long enough to register.

7. Neurons continue to grow throughout human life. For years scientists and doctors thought that brain and neural tissue couldn’t grow or regenerate. While it doesn’t act in the same manner as tissues in many other parts of the body, neurons can and do grow throughout your life, adding a whole new dimension to the study of the brain and the illnesses that affect it.

8. Information travels at different speeds within different types of neurons. Not all neurons are the same. There are a few different types within the body and transmission along these different kinds can be as slow as 0.5 meters/sec or as fast as 120 meters/sec.

9. The brain itself cannot feel pain. While the brain might be the pain center when you cut your finger or burn yourself, the brain itself does not have pain receptors and cannot feel pain. That doesn’t mean your head can’t hurt. The brain is surrounded by loads of tissues, nerves and blood vessels that are plenty receptive to pain and can give you a pounding headache.

10. 80% of the brain is water. Your brain isn’t the firm, gray mass you’ve seen on TV. Living brain tissue is a squishy, pink and jelly-like organ thanks to the loads of blood and high water content of the tissue. So the next time you’re feeling dehydrated get a drink to keep your brain hydrated.

I Wonder..

The mind is a universe of its own kind. That is why it is the only abundance available to human in terms of what to do with it. For me, my mind is the only outlet to gather, structure and deliberate on anything that I focus on.

Today my mind seems to have wandered and I would just like to capture my thoughts in my blog.

Today I wondered:

1. How is it that we find greater confidence to be truthful in a one-on-one setting compared to a group setting? Isn’t being truthful about telling the truth and not about how many people there is to hear it?

2. How some people can be so aggressive with their feelings while others seem so in control the whole time, even when putting these two different individuals in similar environment/ scenario?

3. When people talk about change, and make plans to deliver the change, why do we still see no changes?

4. Why are some people more willing to talk behind others then telling it upfront for the sake of clarity?

If any of my readers care to comment on these question, please do so. I’m eager to know your response.

Personal Finance.. What’s the right way?

Finance is a very challenging task in our daily life. Most people just don’t know how to keep track or even control their personal finances which consequently drive them to banckuptcy.

I was brousing this website (http://personalfinance.tipcentral.net/changinghabits.html) that give tips on how to handle personal finances. If you have time do browse through it. I’m just reposting parts that I found useful.

PERSONAL FINANCE: CHANGING HABITS

Most people fall into three general financial profiles. They either spend above their means, spend just what they have, or they spend less than their means. There have been studies done which show that 90% of the world’s wealth is held by 10% of the population, and that even if this wealth were redistributed equally, it would be back in the hands of the 10% within seven years. This illustrates that most people would find it difficult to change their normal spending habits, but in fact, this is the most important thing to guarantee personal financial health.

What this comes down to is learning what profile you fit in, and then learning how to change those spending, budgeting, and saving habits to meet your goals. Although many of these strategies will require discipline, the long term goals are clear: once you decide on a path, make the commitment to stick to it and you will find within a few months, you will begin adjusting your lifestyle to your new financial habits, which will, in turn, reinforce these new practices. Remember, nothing comes for free – long term financial goals require short term sacrifices, the trick is to find the right compromise that allows you to meet those long term goals while still enjoying life to the fullest in the short term.

If you often spend more than your needs, you best first step is to focus on a budget, looking for areas that are unnecessary and can be trimmed, and be prepared to have the discipline to stick to your new budget. If you often spend to your means, your best starting point is look for opportunities to build up your savings, which helps to reduce the risk and impact of unexpected expenses, and allows you to begin saving for the future. If you often spend below your means, you are in a good position to save to the future and should focus on savings that are structured to provide for better return on retirement, although, don’t forget to still enjoy life in the interim as many people that spend below their needs end up with a full bank account and regrets on missed opportunities and experiences.

TAKING STOCK

The first step to getting your personal finances under control is to clearly understand where you are. Review all of your finances listing your assets and debts, including any loans, credit cards or other liabilities. Many banks will go through a similar process to evaluate your financial health, where they compare your income and assets with your debts and liabilities to come up with a percentage called your debt to equity ratio. It is important to be honest and thorough, as you will need to use this information to help build your financial plan.

Find a method of tracking your personal finances, either with a simple book and paper ledger or with automatic software packages like Quicken or Microsoft Money. This will not only help you track and budget how you spend your money, but the software can integrate with many online banking services which allow you to keep a virtually real-time picture of your spending. The important thing to do is to be consistent and make sure all of your spending and budgeting is tracked for a complete picture.

Once you have an accurate picture of your personal finances, you need to identify your short and long term goals. When do you want to retire? Are there specific purchases you are planning? Are there any time frames to consider? Are you planning for your children’s education or just interested in being debt-free?

Once you understand what’s important to you, you will understand what needs to be done to get there: how much you’ll need to earn, how much you’ll need to save, and over what period of time. Basically, know where you are, and where you want to be.

BUDGETING

Budgeting is a critical process which forces you to look at what you’re spending, where you’re spending it, and thus be able to make informed decision on where changes can be made to meet your financial goals. Using software to track your finances and assets, you will get the added benefit of being able to tie it into budget planning. Chart out all your accounts and determine what online services your bank offers, as this will make it simpler automatically download your regular spending transactions and bill payments, to be integrated with your spending and budget tracking.

Try to switch your purchase habits to not make purchases with cash – cash spending can not be tracked easily with budget software – paying with a bank card or credit card will help keep an accurate record of where your money is going. This one habit will not only allow you to track and trend your purchases, but also provides invaluable visibility to your purchases. For example, you may discover you spend three times as much on groceries, or twice as much eating out at restaurants than you thought.

After you adopt this method, track your finances for several months and then revisit your budget – look at what you are taking in and what you are spending, and compare it to your financial goals. Look for areas where your spending can be reduced and adjust your budget accordingly. At its simplest level, budgeting is easy – you look at what you make, you look at what you’re spending, and you look at how much is left over to be put away for the future – if the numbers don’t match, it gives you a clearer process to shuffle your income accordingly. For example, some savings you may find are spending less on entertaining, reducing the cost of ownership of a car with a bad maintenance record, or shifting your eating habits to home cooking instead of takeout.

SAVINGS

There are different reasons to save, and different approaches depending on what you are trying to achieve. One overall savings goal is to put money away for a rainy day; anything from health related problems, for repairs to a house or car, or an interruption to employment. Most experts say to put three months salary away to cushion life’s little emergencies.

Another common saving strategy is to target a specific purchase or expense, like a new sofa, or a vacation, and plan your savings around that specific amount. In this case, either put away a set amount every month, or even create a second bank account and divert the savings into that account so it can’t be touched, and once you reach the amount, you make the purchase with a clear conscience.

The important longer term strategy is more about saving for the future. Numerous books like the wealthy barber that were written about the huge long term savings benefits by making small changes in how and what you save. One of the easiest ways to approach this kind of savings is with small but regular saving program An often used example is that if two brothers both start saving money, with one starting at twenty and one starting at thirty five, the brother that started saving earlier would have ten times as much. The reason why savings can be so dramatic is that the money that you save increases not only as you save, but is accelerated by the compound interest that continues to grow over time.

The easiest way to put long term savings away is to set up an automatic withdrawal of funds. You may feel the difference in not having that extra money initially, but before long, you will adjust and will get used to it. Your budget will make sure that if it’s not there you don’t miss it. In fact, many companies allow flexible ways of having savings deducted directly from an employee’s pay, making it easier to keep sticking to the plan.

What do you see?

What you see is not always what it seems. This is what you call optical illusions.. or is it?

What do u see here?

To see…

Tell me what do you see…

(Below) Is it a woman?

(Below) Old couples or…?

Car shoes?

These have got to be an eye-opener for everyone!

World Cup Begins!!

The long awaited World Cup 2010 is finally here!!!

South Africa will be the host for this years event.. ole ole ole oleeeeee!!!

At the Duke’s Pleasure

All the Byrons are just as “mad, bad and dangerous to know”
as their famous non-relation…
but now the time has come for the eldest son to marry…

Synopsis:

Edward Byron, Duke of Clybourne, has everything a man in Society needs…except a wife. Duty requires he wed, so he decides that a long-standing arranged marriage will do nicely. He knows his bride is beautiful, biddable and bright enough to run his household and nursery. He expects his betrothed, Lady Claire Marsden, will be thrilled with his decision—unfortunately, she’s not!

Claire has longed for Edward since she was sixteen, but how can he expect her to agree to his proposal when he barely knows her and doesn’t love her? Nothing will convince her to accept a loveless marriage. And so she begins a battle of outrageous resistance, forcing Edward to learn that he must lose his heart in order to win his bride.

My Review:

It’s a story about an arranged marriage between Claire, daughter of Earl of Edgewater, and Edward, Duke of Clybourne. The marriage was arranged by respective fathers, who happened to be closer and dear friends, eager to bring both families even closer together. But the soon-to-be-wed couples are confronted with their own dilemma with the arranged marriage. Although Edward has eventually accepted the necessity of the marriage, Claire on the other hand wanted more than what was anticipated by her father. She wanted love. And she didn’t think she will ever get that from Edward. So she starts scheming her way hoping that the marriage will not materialise. But Edward, on the other hand, wants the marriage to go as planned. And there was no way he’s gonna let her go.

It’s a funny story of the ‘couples’ journey. And this is the first time I have ever read a novel by Tracy Anne Warren. I must say I thoroughly enjoying the book. What I didn’t like about it, was that the character Claire was a bit too naive and shallow. As usually the character in such historical romance novel. I just hoped there are novels that didn’t portray such weak qualities in the woman. It’s so demeaning! I prefer the leading woman to be strong, intelligent and definitely not shallow. That would indeed be an exciting story!

Seducing An Angel

Synopsis:

A historical romance novel by Mary Balogh, it tells of the desperate plot taken by Cassandra, or Lady Paget, to win the ‘protection’ of Stephan, Earl of Merton. Cassandra who lived with her long time friend, companion, and ex-governess, Alice, and Cook-Maid, Mary and her daughter Belinda, and also her faithful dog. She had to do something to get some money to be able to survive, not only for herself but for those living with her.

Cassandra had chosen Stephen to be her protector. Thinking his innocent image would not be too difficult to handle, she thought Stephen would be the ideal choice. But later she found out, the ‘angel’ was probably a  ‘devil’ in disguise, and the scheme turned out to be more than she bargained for.

My Review:

I enjoyed reading this novel. I was so engrossed with it that I managed to finish reading it under 2 days! The story started off as Cassandra having this noble mission to make sure everyone in her care were fed. To do that, she need someone to provide the financial support, by taking a ‘protector’. I like Cassandra’s character because she didn’t display any of those silly airheads qualities. As for the leading man, he was just wonderful, and quite a gentleman!

I love Tomatoes!

I had this dream about planting a garden of my own. And the next morning I googled types of plants that I could consider planting. I found this info on gardening through bbc.com (http://www.bbc.co.uk/gardening/basics/techniques/growfruitandveg_growingtomatoes1.shtml) and came across how to plant tomatoes. I just had to re-post the info here for my reference… and probably for other interested readers as well.

About tomatoes

Tomatoes can be the most rewarding of vegetables. They are easy to grow from seed, and can be grown in any size garden providing they are in a warm, sheltered spot. But it’s important to choose the right variety, suited to the space you have available, and the location.

Greenhouses and polytunnels offer the best conditions in the UK for producing a summerlong feast of tomatoes. But outdoor ripened fruit can be worth waiting for. There are varieties suited to growing indoors and outdoors and some bred especially for containers and hanging baskets. Whichever variety you choose, all need fertile soil, and plenty of regular sun, heat, food and water to produce sweet, juicy fruits.

What to do: How to sow seeds

* Fill a 7.5cm (3in) pot with compost, lightly firm and water.

* Scatter seeds thinly (most germinate so only sow a few more than you need) and cover with a thin layer of vermiculite.

* Label and put on a windowsill to germinate. Seedlings should appear within two weeks and be large enough to move into separate pots in about eight weeks.

* To do this, hold seedlings carefully by their leaves and gently lever up with a dibber. Make a hole in a 7.5cm (3in) pot filled with compost and carefully lower in the seedling.

* Gently firm, making sure roots are covered and water. When roots come through the drainage holes put into a 12.5cm (5in) pot.

Planting in growing bags

* When the first truss or ‘branch’ of flowers has appeared, tomatoes are ready to go into growing bags.

* Prepare the bag by shaking and kneading it to break up clods of compacted compost and form into a hummock shape.

* Puncture the base to make some drainage holes and cut out the pre-marked planting squares. Scoop out compost for the tomatoes to be planted.

* The top of the root ball should be beneath the top of the bag and have a light covering of compost. Firm in and water.

* Put a growing bag frame over the bag and insert a cane next to each plant.

* Secure this to the frame and as it grows, tie the tomato to the cane every 10cm (4in).

Growing tips

* Unless you’re growing a bush tomato, the aim is to create a single-stemmed plant.

* To do this, snap out shoots that grow in leaf joints and when your plant has produced four sets of flowering trusses, pinch out the growing tip.

* This will ensure all its energy goes into producing fruit. Water plants daily and once flowers have started to appear, feed with tomato fertiliser every week to ensure the best fruit.

* If you find yourself with a glut of green tomatoes at the end of the growing season, try putting a few in a kitchen drawer with a banana to encourage them to ripen.

Happy Bday Mom!!

To My Mother, Wishing you the most wonderful birthdays ever!!

Mudah-mudah dilimpahi rahmat, dipanjangkan umur, disehatkan badan dan sentiasa diberkati disamping keluarga yang tersayang.. amin ya rabbal alamin…

When the Duke Returns

Synopsis:

Married by proxy as a child, Lady Isidore has spent years fending off lecherous suitors while longing for her husband, Simeon Jermyn, the Duke of Cosway, to return. But when the prodigal duke finally returns, ready to take on his obligations, he finds the woman they call his wife too ravishing, too headstrong, too sensual to be a proper duchess. But Isidore will not give up her claim to the handsome duke without a fight.

My Review:

It’s quite a hilarious historical romance novel I’ve ever read!! You would have never guessed what Isidore and Simeon have done in the story. They are truly a couple of love birds who are overly stubborn for their own good! I adore the idea of Simeon being quite a unique and eccentric Duke, with his preference for simplicity as opposed to the pompous display of an English Duke. As for Isidore, I just think she is absolutely adorable, with her temper and crazy but yet necessary attics to win over her husband. It’s a romance adventure I would not mind reading about again

Negative Thoughts Do Affect Our Health

Have you ever wonder how our health is affected by any negative thoughts that we incur?! I found this article (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/how_negativity_affects_the_body.html) and it provided an interesting explanation on this matter.

How Negative Thoughts Affect the Body

by Albert Garoli

There is a profound electrical nature within our bodies in which senses, feelings, emotions, and instinctive responses are electrically transmitted instantly along the nerves to the brain. These electrical messages are constantly sent throughout the body, keeping us not only informed of personal and environmental conditions, but they are also the electrical systems that are vital to our physical health. When the energy stops flowing, we die.

Among the electronic messages travelling along the nerves of the brain are emotions, of which the primary emotions are anger, fear, pleasure, sadness and disgust. By analysing the functions of the brain with modern technology using tools such as positron emission tomography (PET) and functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), scientists have discovered that emotions are instantaneous primitive response mechanisms that occur before rational analysis by other part of the brain. Neurotransmitters known as monoamines are active in the brain and in the peripheral sympathetic nervous system. These are responsible for our emotive and physical reactions to stimuli. For instance, stressful events have a profound influence on the neuroendocrine and neurochemical systems, causing chemical changes in many areas of the brain, including several that are strongly involved in emotions.

Such information is not new and has actually been used for millennia already. More than 5,000 years ago, the Chinese discovered a complex system of energy circuits that run throughout the body. These energy circuits (or meridians) are invisible to the eye but have been proven to be highly effective in Eastern medical treatments like acupuncture, acupressure, etc. Just like we are unable to see the energy flow of our television sets, we are aware of the presence of the energy by its effects.

For oriental medicines organs are capable of responsiveness and the cells of which they are composed can be sensitive to specific emotions and therefore all physical symptoms we have (illnesses, organ malfunctions, physical reactions, etc.) are a form of non-verbal communication of the body to express an internal emotional conflict. Here are some examples of how Traditional Chinese Medicines associates emotional conflicts to specific organ functions:

• The Kidneys can be affected by fear or shock
• The Spleen and Pancreas can be affected by worry or pensiveness
• The Liver can be affected by anger or frustration
• The Lungs can be affected by sadness or suppressed grief
• The Heart can be affected by excess excitement

When certain organs cease to work properly because of negative emotions, they release specific chemicals that ultimately render negative emotions, thus perpetuating the cycle. Hence “negative emotions cause disruptions in the body’s energy system and the cause of negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.”

To break away from this cycle, you need to break away from the negativity. Focusing on the organs alone (through the stimulation of the meridians) will be ineffective as long as the negative emotions remain. Similarly, trying to eliminate all negative emotions without cleansing the body will prove to also be fruitless for the organs will continue to release toxicity into the body thus further generating negativity.

So what can you do? Depending on the type and severity of the situation, various approaches can be recommended. They can range from a determined self-development approach, to trying yoga, pilates, or some other relaxing workout, to seeing help from a specialist in naturopathy for both the mind and the body. For anyone with non-severe cases, you can try the following:

1. Take some time for yourself. Relax, engage in a personal hobby, try something new or pamper yourself.
2. Stay healthy. Remember that a healthy body renders a healthy mind.
3. Think positively. Whether it’s an undervaluation, a self-limitation, a fear, a blame, or negative conciliation, become aware of when, where and why you have such negative thoughts. Try to identify the pattern associated with negative thoughts and then change the pattern.
4. Engage yourself. participate in activities that make you feel good; get involved in helping others, accomplish the goals you set out for yourself.

Dark Angel and Lord Carew’s Bride

Synopsis:

It’s a 2-in-1 novel for the price of one!!

Dark Angel

Jennifer Winwood arrives in London with her cousin, Samantha Newman, for their come-out Season. Jennifer is particularly excited because finally the marriage that has been arranged between her and Lionel, Viscount Kersey, will become a reality. It seems to her that she has loved him forever, and she assumes that he loves her. Gabriel, Earl of Thornhill, has just returned to England after a long stay in Europe, where he fled after a scandalous elopement with his father’s pregnant wife. He is not in high favor with the ton, but when he sees that Lionel is also back in town, he is willing to risk further trouble for himself by causing harm to his old enemy in any way that presents itself…and Lionel has a new fiancée.

Lord Carew’s Bride

Samantha Newman is getting older, but though she is beautiful and courted by a large number of gentlemen, she is restless and unhappy. While she is staying in the country with Jennifer and Gabriel, she takes a walk alone and wanders onto the property of the reclusive Marquess of Carew. She meets him far from the house and mistakes him for a landscape designer. He is an ordinary-looking man and is half crippled. He is also friendly and unassuming, and Samantha soon relaxes into a warm friendship with him. It is only much later, back in London, when she is again threatened by the man who broke her heart years ago during her come-out Season, that Samantha discovers who her dear friend really is. And this time she is tempted to settle for the contentment of friendship in order to escape the pain of love.

My Review:

On the ‘Dark Angel’, the plot and flow of the story was impeccably arranged. I enjoyed it very much!

On the ‘Lord Carew’s Bride’ it was a bit boring from beginning to almost the end. But luckily before the end, there was a ‘pow!’. But I’m not going to spoil it for you all. I would grade this book 6/10.

A Courtesan’s Scandal

Synopsis:

Kate Bergeron is the beautiful and mysterious former mistress of a cloth merchant…and the latest beauty to capture the interest of the Prince of Wales. Mired in a disastrous divorce, the Prince attempts to distract attention from his next amorous pursuit by ordering Grayson Christopher, the eligible Duke of Darlington, to pretend to London society that he is having an affair with Kate.

When Grayson reluctantly agrees to his Prince’s demand, he finds the lady no more willing than he is. Kate will grudgingly act the part in public, but her favors are not for sale to any man. As Grayson and Kate mimic ardor for the world to see, they find what started as a deception becoming all too real. And when passion flames into love, their predicament becomes extreme. For while marriage between a duke and a courtesan could never happen, Kate knows in her heart that she is willing to accept nothing less….

My Review:

Truly unexpected!! Very romantic story that showcased the journey of a man of prestige and privilege in acknowledging his love for a lady who originated from the lower class pool; the incidental reunion between brother and sister through the sly intrusion of a rejected mistress; and the outrageous confrontation with a royal figure for a mere lady! I really enjoyed the book. I would grade it 8/10.

Toy Story 3

I totally enjoyed it!! It was a mixture of toon comedy, thriller, sorrow, romance and action!! My favourite part is when Buzz was reset to Spanish mode.. that was so funny! And when Ken modeled his collection of fancy clothes! I would grade the movie 9/10.

Knight and Day

This is so funny!!! Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz in this funny action-packed romance is truly a movie that everyone must see! You’ll be at the edge of your seat till the very end. You won’t even have time to go to the toilet for fear of missing the packed actions. I enjoyed it immensely. I grade it 8/10.

Valentine

Synopsis:

A quirk of fate has made Sylvester Gilbraith the heir of his swornenemy, the earl of Stoneridge. But there’s a catch: to claim hisinheritance he has to marry one of the earl’s four granddaughters. Themagically handsome nobleman has no choice but to comply with the termsof the will, yet when he descends on Stoneridge Manor prepared to charmhis way into a fortune, he finds that the lady who intrigues him mosthas no intention of becoming his bride. Maddeningly beautiful andutterly impossible, Theodora Belmont refuses to admit to the chemistrybetween them, even when she’s passionately locked in his embrace. Yetsoon the day will come when the raven-haired vixen will give anything tobe Slyvester’s bride – and risk everything to defend his honor…and hislife.

My Review:

It’s an absolutely funny and interesting love story between two hot headed couples who took such a long time to fully realise that their stubborness will get them nowhere. I doubt if Sylvester nor Theo will ever realise this, but somehow it still works out for them. The Belmont ladies are quite the fun and down to earth type of family, but most importantly they always stand up for their love ones. Sylvester, on the other hand, is not used to conditions and sentiments such as ‘familyhood’ or even ‘partnership’. But overtime, he has no choice but to just succumb to it, by the attics and outrageous conduct of his wife Lady Theo.

I absolutely enjoyed the book. It was like a ‘cat and mouse’ love story. There’s always bits on war betrayals, act of cowardice and expose. I grade it 8/10. A must read novel!!

Hepatitis

Prior to my scheduled travel abroad this week, I had to undergo numerous medical checks just to ensure that I’m well and fit. Among the medical process that I had to undergo was to get vaccinated. One of the vaccine that I needed is for Hepatitis. Actually I didn’t know what hepatitis is. So I went to WHO website and this is what I found.

“…Hepatitis is an inflammation of the liver, most commonly caused by a viral infection. There are five main hepatitis viruses, referred to as types A, B, C, D and E.

Hepatitis A and E are typically caused by ingestion of contaminated food or water. Hepatitis B, C and D usually occur as a result of parenteral contact with infected body fluids (e.g. from blood transfusions or invasive medical procedures using contaminated equipment). Hepatitis B is also transmitted by sexual contact.

The symptoms of hepatitis include jaundice (yellowing of the skin and eyes), dark urine, extreme fatigue, nausea, vomiting and abdominal pain…”

So to protect myself from hepatitis, I have to get vaccinated to raise my antibodies for this particular virus. There are approximately 4 shots of the vaccine to be taken over specific intervals. But the essential condition prior to being vaccinated is that we have to be health. If we’re sick, down with flu or something, we cannot take the vaccine.

So make sure you’re as healthy as an ox!

New Undertaking

I’m in singapore! Today is the start of ‘school’ for me and I have loads of things to do as a new student. It’s quite unnerving to be doing something so familiar yet so new. It has been such a long time since I last experience something like this. But luckily I’m expecting peers of my own age group and work experience in the same course.

I hope this will indeed be a truly fulfilling and substantive experience!

Settling in..

To put it into one word… everything is so I.T!!! That is exactly my impression of Singapore. I have the pleasure of arriving here last week for my further studies and it has been a roller coaster ride from the moment I set my foot in this land.

What I didn’t enjoy so much was the grueling and tiresome task of looking for my own dwelling. For this I was assisted by a very nice agent, William. He totally went all out to make sure that I got the residence of my choice. Although my first choice had some last minute complication, but that event was probably a blessing in disguise. The replacement place that my agent showed me was even better!! and it was at the same premise. So that worked out to everyone’s expectation.

There are several lessons that I would like to share with my readers on my experience during the first transition of settle in as a student in Singapore. The lessons are:

1. Prior to flying off to Singapore, make sure you have all your medical examination reports and a copy of the In-Principle Approval (IPA) letter issued by Immigration and Custom Authority (ICA).. this is crucial to show during arrival at the Singapore immigration check.
2. Make sure you have also set up an appointment on line with ICA to acquire the Student Pass. You need to got to the Lavender MRT station and the ICA building is just on the left side of the station. Go to the 4th floor. Don’t forget to bring along the IPA letter and other crucial documents on your academic enrollment.
3. When finding a place of your own, be prepared to pay a booking deposit (equivalent to one month’s rental of the premise) and a security deposit (also equivalent to one month’s rental of the premise to be rented) as well as agent’s fee (equivalent to half or one month’s rental of the premise to be rented). That’s a whole lot of money!! This may total to between S$8k – S$10k.
4. Prior to securing the residence, you need to sort out the documents. First, you have to fill in and sign a Letter of Intent enclosed with the booking deposit just to indicate your interest to rent the premise. The letter will then be signed by the landlord if he agrees. Once agreement is reached, a tenancy agreement will be issued and will need to be signed by both the tenant and landlord as well as respective witnesses and attached with the security deposit. The tenancy agreement once duly signed will need to be stamped to make it legally binding (this cost about S$165).
5. Next you have to sort out your utilities. You can ask the agent to sort it out for you. This is what I did
6. When renting a place, make sure you are aware of all the dos and don’ts. Do ask question about maintenance aspect of the residence, especially on what is covered by the tenancy agreement and what the tenant is expected to care for.

I hope this information will come in handy

Outdoor Experience

One of the class module requires the course participants to go to the Outward Bound Singapore (OBS). This time to Pulau Ubin. I’m off to that Island today. I don’t know what to expect but I heard the 2-day event is aimed at polishing up the participants leadership skill.

Honestly, I’m both apprehensive and excited. But I will know how I really feel once I’m at the Island.

I will get back to y’all on the experience.

Wish me luck!!

Education “3RGS”

At the beginning of the week, we had a welcoming session by the Dean of our school. And during that session he remindef of the 3R, 3G and 3S…

3R..

Right Time..

Right Place..

Right School..

The 3R to me is about being in the opportune time to pursue the one luxury that we all want in life.. education.

3G..

Good Governance..

Globalisation..

Geo-Political..

The 3G is basically looking at the world at large and how people/ countries behave in settings that opens up to even greater diversification and complexities.

3S

Study hard..

Socialise hard..

Sentimentalise..

The 3S is about our own personality. How we participate, respond and understand both ourself and other people.